Party dilemma...

[trixi282]

First, let me start by saying I can't believe I only have one month (a little less than actually) until E turns one!!

But I have a little bit of a dilemma... Her 1st birthday is May 26th. We haven't had her formally baptized yet, and when H went to schedule it the one date in May didn't work, so we're doing that on June 19th (the day after her due date actually).

So basically I really want to have a party for her birthday... J didn't have a party for her 1st (since we were in VA and BIL got married in MN the week after). But given the ridiculousness of her life, I want to really celebrate that she's 1. But her baptism is 3.5 weeks later.

So do I do a big party for her birthday and then have the baptism and just a simple lunch for that... But we'd likely have extended family invited for that too. Or do I do something simple at her birthday (just grandparents, aunts/uncles) for her birthday and then celebrate with extended family 3 weeks later at her baptism with a party?

It seems silly to do two parties so close together.... But it also is weird to celebrate her birthday with her baptism 3 weeks later.

Then J's birthday is 3 weeks after the baptism! So I'm sure we won't do anything big this year for J... I think we'll wait and have a big party for her 5th birthday. But she's been talking about having a birthday party constantly, and I think she's expecting to invite friends too.

What do you all think?

Also, if you read all that, you deserve a cookie!

[somethingcleverer]

I think if it were me I would do a party for everyone on June 19th and just celebrate E's actual birthday with a small get together. I'm all about simplifying and having one party should make everyone happy.

[mightybee]

I agree with somethingcleverer and just doing 1 party for the baptism.

And, woah, how is she turning 1 already??!!

[barefoot84]

I like parties. I'd do three... I would do a small party for E's first birthday. At that age, they're more intimated by large crowds than excited by them. So grand-parents, aunts and uncles if you want, cake and balloons.

I'm not familiar with baptisms, but I think it's expected to be a big party/gathering thing, so you can go all out on this one.

And I would give J a birthday party, but without family, and just her friends. You can do a small gathering at McDonald's or an inexpensive indoor play place. Even if it's just ordering a pizza and having a "picnic" at the playground with a few of her young friends.

[mrsrek10]

See, I'm the opposite. I would do big for her bday and smaller for the baptism. I have only had lunches after baptisms, not really parties. Plus, I think what you are wanting is to celebrate her life after all she has gone through and that would be her bday. I think she deserves a huge party! Sweet girl has been through it. I think you deserve a big party. Sweet momma has been through it.

As for J, the good thing is that our kids are still little. Invite her fav friends, eat cake and play = great party to her!

[xanthepants]

I'm more in line with mrsrek10,. Big bday for E, smaller baptism. Then a smaller friend centric party with grandparents for Joey. Next year a bigger one for each girl if you want. But I've been more used to smaller brunch, lunch baptism things.

[cbear]

Apr 30, 2016 21:27:23 GMT -5 mrsrek10 said:

See, I'm the opposite. I would do big for her bday and smaller for the baptism. I have only had lunches after baptisms, not really parties. Plus, I think what you are wanting is to celebrate her life after all she has gone through and that would be her bday. I think she deserves a huge party! Sweet girl has been through it. I think you deserve a big party. Sweet momma has been through it.

As for J, the good thing is that our kids are still little. Invite her fav friends, eat cake and play = great party to her!

This exactly!

[trixi282]

Yeah, I felt like a bigger deal for the birthday felt right... Then a simple lunch for baptism. And something simple for Joey... But she might want to invite friends, and IF we do, is not her whole class, it will be a select few I think.

[vanessalc]

I would do big for her bday. And small for her baptism. BUT if you really want the extended family and friends for her baptism, I would do a small party on her bday with the people who were key in her first year. I can't believe she's a year old! She's the most amazing little girl!
As for J wanting a party, I'd just do her classmates at somewhere I didn't have to clean.

[cookiesandwine]

Small party on E's bday and J's bday. Then huge, massive double birthday baptism party in June.

[trixi282]

May 3, 2016 13:01:16 GMT -5 cookiesandwine said:

Small party on E's bday and J's bday. Then huge, massive double birthday baptism party in June.

That's an idea too... I kind of thought about that since it's about 1/2 way between their birthdays.... I'm going to discuss it with H tonight/this week so we can plan!