Wednesday Whines / Wins

[tribute17]

May 5, 2016 20:44:10 GMT -5 starfishy said:

May 5, 2016 19:41:39 GMT -5 tribute17 said:

I know it is hard but I formula fed both because it wasn't working but I still had enormous guilt for not trying harder. Don't let it get you.

Thanks! I'm feeling very overwhelmed right now (like most parents of newborns). I just get overwhelmed easily and then stress about it. Today was a good day so I try again tomorrow, but in the back of head is just how much easier it would be on ME to just switch it up.

I got cut off earlier but I will say that once I stopped pumping the hormones went away faster and so did the guilt. It is overwhelming and it was easier for me to stop pumping. I had to give him formula anyway so I gave it a week and then quit. I still have guilt but I disc what was best for my sanity and his

[origamimommy]

starfishy, but isn't parenthood how to make it easiest on you in order to survive raising children? You have to do what's best for you. Right now in my counseling sessions, we are talking about how I would be okay formula feeding if BFing is really hard again. I tortured myself for months being attached to that stupid pump and then when I dried up, I have a nervous breakdown and felt like a failure as a mom. Now Tyler finds and eats old twizzlers out of his carseat, so like, whatever.

Honestly, I have been there, and it was awful. I just think you should be kind to yourself. You are a phenomenal mother, truly, a great mother, and breast feeding or not that doesn't change. I know you know this, but the emotional guilt is hard. Hugs, babies are hard!!

[starfishy]

You girls are so sweet. I am going to speak with the pedi today about supplementing. I'm so truly grateful for this little girl and I'm going to enjoy her so much. I refuse to let my hate of breastfeeding get in the way. If it has to go it goes.

[starfishy]

Update: the pedi was super supportive. She's already back up to birthweight so he told me how great I was doing but understood that it wasnt for me long term. Sent me home with a case of formula. Now fingers crossed she's not allergic like T
I think today H will give her a bottle while I go pick T up from daycare- he'll absolutely love to see me pick him up.

[mightybee]

That's great starfishy! You are doing a great job. I bet T will have the biggest smile when he sees you at pick up :-)