Post by swbrigadoon on May 6, 2016 17:29:35 GMT -5
I might get kicked out of this thread because H actually has cut off communication with his parents.
So in some ways I escape a lot of the In-law shenanigans. But in other ways it creates complications. For example, DS1 has never even comprehended that more than one grandpa and grandpa could exist. I'm not sure how to explain it to him when the time comes.
Also, now that we are moving back home I am terrified of running into them. H tells me I should just walk away but I honestly don't think I have it in me to keep walking while they are calling out to me desperate to get a glimpse of their grandchildren (they have never met either one).
Post by jessiespano on May 6, 2016 17:54:39 GMT -5
Aside from what I've already posted- my mom was shocked I didn't give my 8 month old dimetapp for the flight, and thinks my oldest is weird for wanting to go to bed at 8 instead of 9 because he's tired. And don't get me started on all the comments about his picky eating. It's going to be an interesting 8 weeks.
My MIL is generally a saint when it comes to being a grandma, other than needing reminding to let A nap. Wish she'd set her son straight on a few things. Her bewildering stories are not baby related. So I'll just watch and drink wine here
My ILs also live in NJ so I don't have anything to add but I love a bit a schadenfreude. So sorry ladies but I will happily enjoy reading about the drama you must endure.
SO's step-dad is the worst of the worst. A couple of years ago, we went on a holiday to Mexico with them and I was stuck on a balcony alone with him where he spent an hour telling me all the details from a bowling championship her daughter went to when she was 10 years old. Not enough Tequila in the world
My MIL loves to use hyperbole. She is like THEMOST hyperbolic in the world. Every story starts with telling how great it smart or good-looking so-and-so is (eg "He was the most beautiful baby. People would literally stop her on the street all the time to comment on what a beautiful baby he was. Just gorgeous.") We (me, DH, and SIL) openly mock her for it. She's also a hyperchondriac and a klutz. But I don't have any specific crazy stories.
H's parents have both passed away. His mom was BSC so if she still were alive I'd have stories. H cut ties with her 8 months before she passed so they never spoke before she died. The woman had no filter and would say the most horrifying things and didn't not give a single fuck about it. Needless to say life is so much better with her gone.
1. Since we don't have that kind of negativity in our lives.
2. We don't have to explain to the kids why we don't see her.
We stopped contact because she told us DS was "retarded" and he is delayed because we are horrible parents and that me going back to work after my leave was up is mostly to blame.
Also there is nothing wrong with DS this was just said because he wasn't walking yet, and that very day after she said the shit DS took his first steps without assistance. He was 16 months and be literally just started running everywhere! He is a super cautious kid and won't do something unless he is totally sure he can.
But I will read this thread. I always feel a bit jealous of the ladies on here who have great relationships with their MIL.
I was a lot more uptight before I had kids and when Ben was younger. Now, I just let H handle all communication with them and the relationship with them, and let the chips fall where they may. My MIL has, on occasion, kept an alligator at her house. She lives in the suburbs of a northern city, so...
H's parents have both passed away. His mom was BSC so if she still were alive I'd have stories. H cut ties with her 8 months before she passed so they never spoke before she died. The woman had no filter and would say the most horrifying things and didn't not give a single fuck about it. Needless to say life is so much better with her gone.
1. Since we don't have that kind of negativity in our lives.
2. We don't have to explain to the kids why we don't see her.
We stopped contact because she told us DS was "retarded" and he is delayed because we are horrible parents and that me going back to work after my leave was up is mostly to blame.
Also there is nothing wrong with DS this was just said because he wasn't walking yet, and that very day after she said the shit DS took his first steps without assistance. He was 16 months and be literally just started running everywhere! He is a super cautious kid and won't do something unless he is totally sure he can.
But I will read this thread. I always feel a bit jealous of the ladies on here who have great relationships with their MIL.
How horrible for her to say that! I'm sorry you had to go through that!
knowing her the past 10 years was no picnic. She was nasty to me right from the moment she met me. H warned me about her ahead of time so I knew about it, but it still sucked to deal with. I felt bad for H when she passed since they never had nice words to each other before passing, but he told me he was relieved & felt like a weight had been lifted off of him. We never even told her we were pregnant with Val.
It tough now cause his sister is pregnant with her second child that she has been wanting for over 10yrs! She misses her and calls H and says she wishes she was here. He always reptiles why so she could torment you. I'm so grateful for my relationship with my mother, I could never in a million years wrap my head around how they coped with that woman for so long.
For starters, my SIL is bat shit crazy and was uninvited to our wedding after calling me a prostitute/bitch/whore etc. DH hasn't spoken to her for years after she told him she wished he would die (I think she said something similar to MIL when she was sick).
Then there's BIL & his wife but no one has time to read their bullshit and how they've managed to ruin every important event in or marriage (engagement, wedding, announcement of pregnancy) - we don't have much to do with them now.
I really like FIL&SMIL, and when she was alive, I had a good relationship with MIL.
Post by crystaleyes138 on May 7, 2016 8:54:11 GMT -5
My ILs are great and love Jacob to pieces, but they can be frustrating b/c they take things WAY too seriously. My MIL is a germaphobe so she washes her hands about 1000 times a day when interacting with Jacob. While this is fine, I think it is just way too much. She'll even wash her hands after petting our dog. Hate to tell you, lady, the dog licks Jacob on the mouth, lol.
Since Jacob started crawling, we have asked everyone to take their shoes off before coming into the living room (we have an entry way, so it's easy for everyone to throw their shoes there). MIL is taking this to the next level where she will take her shoes off even before entering the house. So she stands outside and takes her shoes off. It is completely unnecessary. I don't have the heart to tell her not to do it.
J had a meltdown at the pizza place last night. According to my parents- I coddle him too much. Reality- we were there at 8 pm. He is jet lagged. He doesn't like pizza. I don't force food on him but my family was openly mocking him. He had way too much sugar. (Lemonade isn't sugar! It's healthy! My family needs nutrition lessons). I finally just said he is not allowed any sugar today, aside from the cake he is getting for his birthday party today. I am going to have to borrow a car to go to the grocery store Monday to get healthy options for him, and I cannot wait until DH gets here to be back up. He doesn't give two shits about being the bad guy and telling my family to stop feeding him crap, so it'll help a lot.
Yesterday I was feeding Cal some prunes (it's one of the only things he gets by spoon) and she was appalled that I handed him the spoon and didn't sit there working on getting him to open his mouth and eat for me.
She goes: "I guess that's one way to do it" (her favorite phrase to use around me and C) "back in the day we used to hold the kid's arms down and make them open their mouths for food. That's how H was fed and he turned out fine!"
Uh, except H has major issues with food...hmmmm...
My MIL is generally very nice and we get along well, albeit on a superficial level. But she's also BSC. At dinner M was getting tired of playing pass the baby and fussed in anyone else arms but mine. MIL says it must be because I work so much so M is trying to spend as much with me as possible on the weekend and that's why she fusses with everyone but me.
My MIL is generally very nice and we get along well, albeit on a superficial level. But she's also BSC. At dinner M was getting tired of playing pass the baby and fussed in anyone else arms but mine. MIL says it must be because I work so much so M is trying to spend as much with me as possible on the weekend and that's why she fusses with everyone but me.
My IL are interesting...I could write a novel. MIL has untreated/undiagnosed Bipolar. FIL is an enabler. MIL is anti western medicine and is sure to let me know what she thinks about every little thing I do. We started supplementing with formula and she's very upset, has repeatedly told me that we shouldn't be supplementing. Mmmkay, I can't keep up with pumping, so apparently she'd rather I starve C than feed her formula. She thinks I should be a SAHM even though I've explained to her that we can't afford it. On more than one occasion, she's said she was going to feed C something - peanuts, cake w/frosting. Seriously lady, get away from my baby. It's a wonder DH survived childhood.
My MIL is generally very nice and we get along well, albeit on a superficial level. But she's also BSC. At dinner M was getting tired of playing pass the baby and fussed in anyone else arms but mine. MIL says it must be because I work so much so M is trying to spend as much with me as possible on the weekend and that's why she fusses with everyone but me.
My MIL is generally very nice and we get along well, albeit on a superficial level. But she's also BSC. At dinner M was getting tired of playing pass the baby and fussed in anyone else arms but mine. MIL says it must be because I work so much so M is trying to spend as much with me as possible on the weekend and that's why she fusses with everyone but me.
Fuck that. I'm sorry she said that you, that's so incredibly rude.
My MIL is generally very nice and we get along well, albeit on a superficial level. But she's also BSC. At dinner M was getting tired of playing pass the baby and fussed in anyone else arms but mine. MIL says it must be because I work so much so M is trying to spend as much with me as possible on the weekend and that's why she fusses with everyone but me.
My MIL is generally very nice and we get along well, albeit on a superficial level. But she's also BSC. At dinner M was getting tired of playing pass the baby and fussed in anyone else arms but mine. MIL says it must be because I work so much so M is trying to spend as much with me as possible on the weekend and that's why she fusses with everyone but me.
I wish you could see the daggers flying out of my eyes right now.
I might get kicked out of this thread because H actually has cut off communication with his parents.
So in some ways I escape a lot of the In-law shenanigans. But in other ways it creates complications. For example, DS1 has never even comprehended that more than one grandpa and grandpa could exist. I'm not sure how to explain it to him when the time comes.
Also, now that we are moving back home I am terrified of running into them. H tells me I should just walk away but I honestly don't think I have it in me to keep walking while they are calling out to me desperate to get a glimpse of their grandchildren (they have never met either one).
If it helps, my dad had to cut off contact with his parents after my brothers and I were born. They were violently abusive. He just told us that he was protecting us by not letting us see them and we never asked. It wasn't traumatic for us to not get to see them. And, as we got older we really appreciated him doing that for us.
Yeah, my MIL is a prize. She calls the grandchildren lover. "Come here lover." SO weird!
A has a severe dairy allergy. MIL is gluten-free because the Internet told her she was allergic. She is constantly trying to feed A gluten-free food. Yesterday was a glazed cinnamon bun, which clearly was not dairy free. She then says it doesn't have milk in it. But it does have butter. Because butter isn't dairy.
She sets the table with place cards every single time we go there for a meal or dessert (at least once a month). We have to sit in our assign seats, because toddlers are really great at sitting where they're told.
cocopuff, my grandma calls people "lover" too. Her late husband, her kids, her grandkids... Is your MIL on the older side? Maybe it's generational.
Still creepy and weird even if it is generational. My granny is 90 and has never called anyone lover. Also all I can think of is Saturday Night Live when I hear that word.
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