Post by goldenlove3 on May 13, 2016 7:01:34 GMT -5
Yay Friday! I'm ready for work to be done but I'm going to be going home and cleaning tonight. I'm going to a bachelorette party tomorrow and H is going to the Garth Brooks concert so my sister and her boyfriend are going to stay at our house and watch my doggy. I need to make my house presentable.
Morning! I am so glad the weekend is finally here.
No big plans today, but we are going out to the Players Championship (huge golf tournament) tomorrow. It is so much fun. We are taking DS this year and he's so excited, he loves golf.
Sunday I am driving DS down to my grandmother's. She has been in the hospital but is coming home today to be under hospice care My dad has been down quite a bit over the last couple weeks and he and my mom are going back Sunday, as well. So that part of the weekend will be tough.
goldenlove3 Oh, I'm sorry to hear about your grandpa, as well. I'm glad you are close enough to visit.
This is our last living grandparent and probably the one I was least close to, but I know it's hard for my dad. I think I've also always felt like as long as we have grandparents alive, there is a 'buffer' between that stage of life and my parents, if that makes any sense at all. I don't like thinking of my parents as being 'next in line', kwim?
goldenlove3 Oh, I'm sorry to hear about your grandpa, as well. I'm glad you are close enough to visit.
This is our last living grandparent and probably the one I was least close to, but I know it's hard for my dad. I think I've also always felt like as long as we have grandparents alive, there is a 'buffer' between that stage of life and my parents, if that makes any sense at all. I don't like thinking of my parents as being 'next in line', kwim?
Yea I know what you mean. It's so hard. Making getting older scary.
LizInFL and goldenlove3 Sorry to hear about your respective grandparents. I just have one grandparent left, my grandmother who lives in FL. I saw her last year for the first time in 12 years. We are definitely not close and have had a rocky relationship. But I know my mom is close to her and it's hard for her because my grandma is 87 and has a bunch of major health issues. We are going to Nebraska this summer to see DH's paternal grandmother because she's been sick as well and he's worried about her.
I've never had that feeling of a buffer with grandparents since I've just had the one for the last 20 years. Both of my grandfathers died before I was born and my dad's mother died when I was 10. I wasn't very close to her either. I've more wanted my children to have loving grandparents since I didn't. I'm lucky that my parents and DH's parents are healthy and very loving. My inlaws might drive me crazy sometimes, but they are really wonderful people.
LizInFL, LT for your DS loving golf--mine does too! I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother. That's never an easy situation. goldenlove3, sorry to hear your grandfather is unwell too
Welp, today is going to be very anti-climatic. Neither of my supervising partners is in the office today so I got to tell HR about my pregnancy but that's it. I was so pumped to finally be "out" but it's going to have to wait a little longer because I would die if they found out from anyone in this office other than me.
ClassyMrsA I'm glad your parents and ILs are the kind of grandparents you want for your kids. My parents are super close with DS and I love it. My ILs live 6 hours away so we don't see them as often, but they are good people and love DS.
We were super close to my mom's parents and unfortunately they were the first we lost. My dad's dad was great but his mother has always been difficult, and naturally she is the one remaining; I will give her credit for mellowing in the last few years, though. She is the warm-fuzzy grandma to her GREAT grandkids that she never was to her children/grandchildren. I try to be a good granddaughter, but it's mostly out of love/loyalty to my dad.
All of this would be a lot easier to deal with if I could have a glass of vino.
eta: my dad has been sending out email updates to the extended family about her condition, what's going on, etc. We got an email back from a distant cousin who said she was praying for us, etc., and said something about "sweet (Grandma's first name)." I was like, "uhhh, are we talking about the same person?"
LizInFL I understand. My grandma has been the same way. Not exactly a pleasant person to be around. She's way better now, but I can't quite get over the past. I try to be friendly out of a sense of duty. I also agree with the wine. Family stuff often makes me need a drink. Good luck with it. I know it's hard stuff.
LizInFL and goldenlove3 end of life is so hard. I just read Being Mortal and it spoke so highly of hospice and the services it provides. Thinking of your families.
We told j last night about the baby. He was mostly ambivalent, but then said he wanted to be the baby and I lost it. He likes to look at my belly and said good morning to the baby this morning. Hopefully it's less hard to tell everyone else tomorrow.
We told j last night about the baby. He was mostly ambivalent, but then said he wanted to be the baby and I lost it. He likes to look at my belly and said good morning to the baby this morning. Hopefully it's less hard to tell everyone else tomorrow.
Aw, that's sweet! I'm sure he'll come around. Who else are you telling tomorrow?
We told j last night about the baby. He was mostly ambivalent, but then said he wanted to be the baby and I lost it. He likes to look at my belly and said good morning to the baby this morning. Hopefully it's less hard to tell everyone else tomorrow.
Aw, that's sweet! I'm sure he'll come around. Who else are you telling tomorrow?
Hopefully most of our families...we will go to my mom's first, hoping to have lunch with my dad/SM/brother, then dinner with MIL and SIL. Then need to facetime with my sis and SIL that live out of state. Then maybe go out and tell a few friends if we are still standing after that gauntlet of a day. I'm tired already.
amberlie Congratulations! Hope y'all have a wonderful day
tallblonde yes, hospice was *amazing* with my mom's mom. I really think people that work in that field are angels on earth. I will have to check out that book, I saw where you recommended it on the N13 thread, as well.
I am impressed with all these toddlers who seem to grasp the concept of a baby. DS seems ambivalent and doesn't really strike me as 'getting it'. When we point out babies in public and ask if he would like a baby, he always says yes. So I guess that's a start? haha
Happy wedding day amberlie !!!!!! OMG how exciting!!!! I don't know about where you are, but it's a gorgeous day here !
LizInFL and goldenlove3 I am so sorry about your grandparents. I do know what you mean about the "buffer zone", it's scary but I hope you find peace along the way. My father passed when I was 19 (in hospice but I was young enough to believe that he was going to make it and get out of there, so to me it felt unexpected) and that flipped my world upside down. By the time my grandparents were in that position (dads parents passed before him so I'm referring to moms parents) I was in a totally different place. I was with both of them when they passed, grandpa in the hospital and grandma in her home a year later (home hospice) and it was the most beautiful and peaceful experience I've had in my life, walking them to that bridge so to speak. After not speaking for weeks, my grandma batted her eyes and said "I love you. I have to go, I have to go now" and that was her last breath, it was beautiful.
I am impressed with all these toddlers who seem to grasp the concept of a baby. DS seems ambivalent and doesn't really strike me as 'getting it'. When we point out babies in public and ask if he would like a baby, he always says yes. So I guess that's a start? haha
My little guy is only 16 months old and I definitely don't think he gets it either. He also isn't really talking much at all yet so that limits how much we can communicate with him about the topic. But he loves little babies (when we see them at daycare, at the playground, etc.) so I think that is why he at least recognized the form of the baby in my U/S pic.
Generally right now we just keep telling him that he's a big boy and that he's going to be a good big brother and a good helper. And also how much we love him and that nothing will ever change that, etc. In a few months we are going to get him a baby doll so he can practice with "his" baby.
That's super-cute that your DS says he would like a baby
tallblonde I started showing a couple weeks ago but this week Mara finally noticed. She patted my belly and said, "baby"? I told her yes. Then she patted MH's belly & said, "baby"? Ummm, no honey. That's just a beer baby.
HAHA! This exact situation could totally take place in my house. And I kinda hope it does.
We haven't really started to talking to DS about the baby yet. We should probably start doing that.
I'm so ready for this day to be over! Only 6 more hours left...
I'm looking forward to the weekend. Tomorrow H and I are going to a concert, so that should be fun. And then Sunday is my mom's birthday and we're also doing her Mother's Day as well.
I just had a cheese sandwich because I think our microwave might be dying so I couldn't heat up my bbq chicken. I had to share my food with L and she threw a chip in my iced tea. Oh and now there's pineapple on the rug. I'm so glad our sink will be usable again today so I can wash her highchair tray. Our other sinks are way too small.
Pretty sure I felt some strong flutters while making lunch. It was a bit higher than I was expecting, but I also don't have a good feel for where everything is right now. It was a maybe 3 or 4 inches below my belly button.
We are making our announcement video tonight. I'm glad I won't have to stay quite anymore. 3 months of saying nothing was hard!! L has no idea what's going on. She loves to read so maybe read her stories about having a baby sibling?
Today is a rough day for me. But I realized that last week I made it to about Wed before my body said "enough!" so making it all the way to Friday is a step in the right direction, I suppose. I still feel pretty lousy, though. Headaches, nausea, and fatigue (all probably pregnancy related) plus still having a ton of incision related pain and now terrible back pain from the inability to use my core. I have chronic back issues, but right now can't do ANY of the things I would normally do to help it -- core exercises, ibuprofen, back brace, nothing. Alternating ice and heat and taking Tylenol are what I am doing, but the help they are providing is minimal. I seriously thought I might need to go to the hospital this morning because of my lack of mobility. I hate using the phrase "I threw my back out" because it's so nondescript, but when you can't move...at all... it is really disheartening.
ClassyMrsA, I like the book idea! I might get one of those for DS too. peanutmuse, I'm sorry you're feeling so rotten. That sounds awful I hope you get a chance to rest this weekend and that it'll help you feel better asap.
Post by cookswithwine9 on May 13, 2016 14:18:30 GMT -5
ClassyMrsA I didn't have grandparents growing up either. I always wanted that for my future kids so I'm glad my family and my H family are all in the same city.
Post by cookswithwine9 on May 13, 2016 14:19:59 GMT -5
dashook I'm sorry you couldn't tell who you wanted to at work! I know the feeling! If my new boss doesn't schedule a 1:1 with me by next week, I'm going to schedule one for Friday.
Post by ClassyMrsA on May 13, 2016 14:22:34 GMT -5
cookswithwine9 That is very lucky! DH's family lives in CO and his extended family is in NE. His parents visit 2-3 times a year and we go up there twice a year. My parents live near us so that's nice. My brother and SIL live in CO too but never seem to have time to visit. We see them twice a year which sucks. DH's sister and her husband can't really afford to visit so we only see them twice a year, too, but I'm ok with that because I'm not crazy about her.
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