5/16 Check In

[aves0708]

Welcome to the weekly Secular Families check in! If you would like to be added or removed from this check in please tag me.



. , serenla , randomosity , @dutchkatie , cavewmn , @saveourship , sewfie2 , namastebiotches , 4paws , beardpapa , CharlieB , @wallflwr926 , draedenne , estrellas , ovenrack





Age of LO(s) if you have any:



AW/Vents/ Encounters this week:



QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion?

[namastebiotches]

Age of LO(s) if you have any: 4.75yo boy

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: I started writing out a really long example about what my mom is posting on FB about my brother's newest LO. Long story short, he was born at 25 weeks last month. It's god this, lord's miracle that, prayers here & there. It's annoying because DS was born at 34 weeks & had/has his own issues & although I could care less about the shenanigans I don't remember all this commentary for him. So because he was born weighing more, he wasn't worth prayers?? How nice.

QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion? Yes, thank jeebus.

[cavewmn]

namastebiotches, I'm sorry your family didn't think to do that for you. I hate how everything is praise God this and that. But you hear nothing about the doctors and nurses who have studied for years and takes care of the babies in NICU.

Age of LO(s) if you have any: Due in July

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: Just a weird thought that popped in my head. First of all I don't care who I use the bathroom with as long as the don't try to talk to me. lol
With how ridiculous this whole bathroom thing is I was wondering what bathroom I should be using. I am female and carrying a male. Does this make my son already a predator because he is forced to use the woman's bathroom with me. rofl

QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion? Yes. I am more willing to deal with church stuff though. Example: allowing our son to attend church with his grandparents.
I also do love the old hymns and singing. lol

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Age of LO(s) if you have any: Not yet.

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: Nothing really.

QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion? He is an atheist.
I tow the line as an agnostic. I don't agree with the majority of the Catholic church's teachings, but I feel like my irish heritage keeps me connected to certain traditions related to the faith.
For example, I keep a St. Bridig's Cross on my wall. It belonged to my grandparents and always reminds me of them. MH has agreed to have our future LO baptized because I would like the child to have the opportunity to wear the christening gown that was worn by my mom and her siblings, myself and my siblings, and my cousins and their kids. It comes down my need to have that connection more than anything.
That probably sounds silly.

[sewfie2]

Age of LO(s) if you have any:
Dd is 7m


AW/Vents/ Encounters this week:
Nothing yet, haha.


QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion?
For the most part. Although, he has suggested taking dd to church, for the community aspect of it. It really gets to him that we don't have any family nearby. I think we have plenty of friends that make up our community though, and see no reason to give her any weird hang ups.

[cavewmn]

@wallflwr926, I don't think that is silly at all. I keep two religious plaques that hang in the cats bathroom because they were my dads. I am also a sentimental person.

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May 16, 2016 9:44:10 GMT -5 cavewmn said:

@wallflwr926, I don't think that is silly at all. I keep two religious plaques that hang in the cats bathroom because they were my dads. I am also a sentimental person.

I'm jealous that your cats have their own bathroom. We downsized and the litterbox is now located right next to my toilet.

[cavewmn]

May 16, 2016 10:13:55 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

May 16, 2016 9:44:10 GMT -5 cavewmn said:

@wallflwr926 , I don't think that is silly at all. I keep two religious plaques that hang in the cats bathroom because they were my dads. I am also a sentimental person.

I'm jealous that your cats have their own bathroom. We downsized and the litterbox is now located right next to my toilet.

We have 3 bathrooms. It is a luxury to only have to share a bathroom if we want to use the downstairs bathroom. 

We do have a cat box in our room sadly because 2 of our cats don't get along. 

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May 16, 2016 10:20:10 GMT -5 cavewmn said:

May 16, 2016 10:13:55 GMT -5 @wallflwr926 said:

I'm jealous that your cats have their own bathroom. We downsized and the litterbox is now located right next to my toilet.

We have 3 bathrooms. It is a luxury to only have to share a bathroom if we want to use the downstairs bathroom. 

We do have a cat box in our room sadly because 2 of our cats don't get along. 

We just have the one cat. MH won't agree to another cat right now.

[cavewmn]

@wallflwr926, We have a zoo. 4 cats and 2 dogs. lol

[aves0708]

Age of LO(s) if you have any: DD is almost 7 months

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: Nothing really last week.

QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion?
I am completely atheist. DH doesn't believe in organized religion, but I'm pretty sure he does still believe in a God. This is going to sound terrible but we don't really talk about it. He grew up in a very very religious family and moved away from the church during college years but when I met him he still believed. He knows how ridiculous of a notion the idea of a God is to me and how much I don't like organized religion, basically he understands how passionate of a topic it is to me so we just don't really talk about it much. It's going to come up more now that we have a daughter and I have a feeling we are going to butt heads about some things.

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Age of LO: 3year old DD

AW/Vents/Encounters: nothing much this week.

QOTW: DH seems a bit less tolerant of religious bs than I am. I tend to think more like, 'if you're happy to live and think like that, you do you', whereas for him he would have trouble taking a religious person serious in any way.

[cavewmn]

., That is awesome about Paris. It always makes me wonder what people are doing in the bathroom for so long to start worrying about this now...

Also I am glad I'm not the only one who has random/odd thoughts throughout the day. lol

[cavewmn]

May 17, 2016 8:46:49 GMT -5 @saveourship said:

May 17, 2016 7:53:56 GMT -5 . said:

We grew up "saying grace" before dinner (when my dad was home, anyway), but newp to doing that in public or especially at a party. It makes me so uncomfortable! A coworker of mine (the same one that says "praise the lord" anytime I give him good news/anecdotes about DS) prays before lunch, so here's how it goes down: A group of us sitting around a table, talking, laughing, swearing and being crass. Then all of a sudden John* closes his eyes and drops his head to pray. And we all wonder whether we should also be quiet? Or ignore it? It's subtle and most people prob don't mind but it makes me wonder if I started mumbling invocations of Baphomet, would I be shown the same awkward respect? Sorry for the novel. (also, newwwwwp on DD's age. Does not compute!)

*Name has been changed, as if it matters

Right?! It felt so weird to see people bowing their heads over a plate of snacks while people were milling around and talking everywhere else.

ugh any time with go out with DH's parents they like to pray over food. We get so embarrassed but put up with it. 

[beardpapa]

cavewmn such a bummer--talking from stall to stall is my favorite way to make and ruin friendships.

@wallflwr926 randomosity we just moved so nothing is on the walls yet, but at my mother's house she's got _so_ much Judaica up (that she doesn't even really understand) that I get nervous about finding a happy medium.

Age of LO(s) if you have any: oh my gosh 1yo on June 1st

AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: There's a picnic potluck being put on by the local cultural Jewish group in two Sundays and all the anticipation of whether this will be our first event to join or not is fluttering around. It's the day after we're celebrating LO's 1st bday, my mom will be in town, it's hard to get my LO and SO out of the house on weekends when we all do want to be home restoring and relaxing. But also this could be fun and good and all that jazz. But the carseat is hard and yadda yadda yadda. We probably won't go and we'll wait for the next cultural celebration of a Jewish holiday. Aw shit, there's a membership fee!?

QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion? yes thank god in heaven

[sewfie2]

I can't really go into detail, but ermahgerd! A lady in my office decided that she can't order one type of bc for somebody in a lab because it's against her Catholic beliefs (and would hurt her family's health or something?), but she personally uses a different type of bc!



Eta b/c my gif keeps disappearing!

[4paws]

You should prob remove me from the check in. I don't think I can reliably be here. Boo to me! I do enjoy lurking though!

LO is 6 mo
No current issues
I am atheist and DH is agnostic but sort of pretends around his family. That bugs me! I think he sees it as being respectful to their beliefs but I see it as being a bit cowardice (eek! can't believe I admitted that).

I worry about the day when my LO is at grandma's and they make him pray before dinner. Mama is not cool with that! (She is cool with a respectful moment of silence while they pray if they like)

[namastebiotches]

May 18, 2016 12:35:33 GMT -5 randomosity said:

Has anyone seen this?

www.scarymommy.com/mom-sees-divine-message-in-diaper/?utm_source=FB

That's some holy shit

some holy shit indeed!

[serenla]

This will be a P&R but I will be back to play later!


Age of LO(s) if you have any: 2 losses, 1 two year old, due in Aug.



AW/Vents/ Encounters this week: Mostly just pro-lifer religious crap from my extended family. I am able to deflect it but I hate the argument "GOD SAID SO" sorry guys that shit does not apply to meeeeeeee!



QOTW: Do you and your SO have the same views on religion?
I am more open minded and relaxed about religion, as in just because I am an Atheist does not mean I am an anti-theist. He is a bit more harsh with his views and words.