Baby #2..

[ugotstarbucked]

Rhys Cameron is amazing.

What about Emilia or Emmeline instead of the popular Emily?

I really like Cecilia or Celia. Greta is great as a NN for Margaret IMO but not my favorite standalone name.

[seahorse85]

May 18, 2016 12:52:22 GMT -5 ugotstarbucked said:

Rhys Cameron is amazing.

What about Emilia or Emmeline instead of the popular Emily?

I really like Cecilia or Celia. Greta is great as a NN for Margaret IMO but not my favorite standalone name.

He hates Amelia and says Emilia is too similar. I also worry other people would make that same mix up if we did use it. But with him not liking it, I guess it doesn't matter.

Love love love Emmeline but we're friends with an Emmalene so that would be a bit weird.

At least if we have a boy we're sorted. If it's a girl, she'll likely be nameless for days.

[jollywife]

May 16, 2016 23:36:14 GMT -5 seahorse85 said:

May 16, 2016 22:25:52 GMT -5 jollywife said:

I like your list, but you're right- if he doesn't like the name it is pretty much off the table. You've gotten some good suggestions here, but I'll add Mila. It's popular enough without being *too* popular (although it has risen quite a bit in the last few years and may continue to do so).

I don't care for Chelsea. I like Rhys and definitely think you should use it for a boy since you have both loved it for so long.

Mila is definitely too popular where I am unfortunately. I think it's a very pretty name but I'm in a due in June IVF group with only 26 members and so far, two sets of twins have been born. Each twin set has a Mila!

Wow! I knew it was gaining speed but didn't realize it was gaining that fast! I find this name's jump fascinating and am already wondering what it will rank next year!

[harlowjune1984]

Go with Rhys, and use that spelling. Don't base what you like, on what others may/may not like, otherwise you will never make everyone happy. I don't regret using a name for my DD that wasn't everyone else's cup of tea. Especially since I look at my friends/family's kids names, and none of them are my taste...so there is no reason I should have had to bend to match their taste when it came to my own child.

Chelsea seems dated to me. I agree with the previous poster that mentioned having him write down ten names, and go from there. You can even have him put stars next to his Top Five names out of the ten. I had to do that with my husband with DD, because we had completely different naming styles and he disliked everything that I liked, and he was offering up so many suggestions (most of them completely odd names that I knew he would never use in the first place), that we were both getting frustrated. We still walked into the hospital with almost 20 names, but once we saw her....she was named quickly (in 10min!) and painlessly. For this baby, my husband pretty much just checked off the ones that he didn't like on my list, circled the ones that he did, and left it at that. That was in my 1st trimester. A week or so ago, he said "Well, I haven't made my list yet..." Ummm...we are about 8-9 weeks out, and he has still yet to make a list. So I am not even bringing it up. I don't know if he is pulling my leg to make me squirm (since we are currently down to three girl names and three boy names - with an obvious frontrunner for a boy), or what he is doing.

[seahorse85]

May 19, 2016 22:21:52 GMT -5 jollywife said:

May 16, 2016 23:36:14 GMT -5 seahorse85 said:

Mila is definitely too popular where I am unfortunately. I think it's a very pretty name but I'm in a due in June IVF group with only 26 members and so far, two sets of twins have been born. Each twin set has a Mila!

Wow! I knew it was gaining speed but didn't realize it was gaining that fast! I find this name's jump fascinating and am already wondering what it will rank next year!

I'm in Australia so our ranking is slightly different to America but I've noticed a lot of the trends are similar.

[seahorse85]

May 20, 2016 14:55:42 GMT -5 harlowjune1984 said:

Go with Rhys, and use that spelling. Don't base what you like, on what others may/may not like, otherwise you will never make everyone happy. I don't regret using a name for my DD that wasn't everyone else's cup of tea. Especially since I look at my friends/family's kids names, and none of them are my taste...so there is no reason I should have had to bend to match their taste when it came to my own child.

Chelsea seems dated to me. I agree with the previous poster that mentioned having him write down ten names, and go from there. You can even have him put stars next to his Top Five names out of the ten. I had to do that with my husband with DD, because we had completely different naming styles and he disliked everything that I liked, and he was offering up so many suggestions (most of them completely odd names that I knew he would never use in the first place), that we were both getting frustrated. We still walked into the hospital with almost 20 names, but once we saw her....she was named quickly (in 10min!) and painlessly. For this baby, my husband pretty much just checked off the ones that he didn't like on my list, circled the ones that he did, and left it at that. That was in my 1st trimester. A week or so ago, he said "Well, I haven't made my list yet..." Ummm...we are about 8-9 weeks out, and he has still yet to make a list. So I am not even bringing it up. I don't know if he is pulling my leg to make me squirm (since we are currently down to three girl names and three boy names - with an obvious frontrunner for a boy), or what he is doing.

I asked for a list of 10 names, after a few days, he text me THREE names. Emily, Chelsea and Claire. Argh! I've asked him for more many times since but apparently that's all he's got. I asked him since when did Claire make it to his list and he said he's heard it enough. This is exactly what happened with our daughter. She was in named for a day though because I felt bad using a name he'd been telling me he didn't like but then said it grew on him because I'd mentioned it so many times. I was really hoping to not push another name on him this time but when he's only offering 3 or 4 of the same names over and over and knows how I feel about them, it's very hard. I've given him atleast 50 names that I'd consider using if he likes any but he just keeps saying no to all of them.

[seamonster]

If he's now on board with Claire and it's a top pick for you, I'd go with Claire. It's a beautiful name.

[mc13]

May 21, 2016 4:44:06 GMT -5 seamonster said:

If he's now on board with Claire and it's a top pick for you, I'd go with Claire. It's a beautiful name.

Agreed!

[Stormtroopooper]

I love Claire. What would the MN options be?

Also suggesting a name like Millicent nn Millie (similar sound to Emily) and Amy or Aimee (the French pronunciation).

Millie Claire or Amy Claire sound sweet.

[seahorse85]

May 21, 2016 4:44:06 GMT -5 seamonster said:

If he's now on board with Claire and it's a top pick for you, I'd go with Claire. It's a beautiful name.

I do feel a bit like a name bully as this same thing happened with our daughter, I kept suggesting the name and by the end, he said it'd grown on him as he heard it enough. But I much prefer Claire to Chelsea. I just wish there was a name we both liked equally.

[seahorse85]

May 22, 2016 0:28:18 GMT -5 Stormtroopooper said:

I love Claire. What would the MN options be?

Also suggesting a name like Millicent nn Millie (similar sound to Emily) and Amy or Aimee (the French pronunciation).

Millie Claire or Amy Claire sound sweet.

I think Millie is a cute nn but I'm not a fan of it as a standalone and also not keen on Millicent. We know an Amy so that's out.
As for MN, All depends what the first name is. If we go with Claire for the first name, Emily will most likely be the middle name. I'm not fussed on popularity for a middle name.

[Stormtroopooper]

May 22, 2016 0:52:11 GMT -5 seahorse85 said:

May 22, 2016 0:28:18 GMT -5 Stormtroopooper said:

I love Claire. What would the MN options be?

Also suggesting a name like Millicent nn Millie (similar sound to Emily) and Amy or Aimee (the French pronunciation).

Millie Claire or Amy Claire sound sweet.

I think Millie is a cute nn but I'm not a fan of it as a standalone and also not keen on Millicent. We know an Amy so that's out.
As for MN, All depends what the first name is. If we go with Claire for the first name, Emily will most likely be the middle name. I'm not fussed on popularity for a middle name.

What about Camilla, Melisande,or Milena? Or Emmy, Esme, Emmanuelle, Malina?

[seahorse85]

May 22, 2016 1:04:21 GMT -5 Stormtroopooper said:

May 22, 2016 0:52:11 GMT -5 seahorse85 said:

I think Millie is a cute nn but I'm not a fan of it as a standalone and also not keen on Millicent. We know an Amy so that's out.
As for MN, All depends what the first name is. If we go with Claire for the first name, Emily will most likely be the middle name. I'm not fussed on popularity for a middle name.

What about Camilla, Melisande,or Milena? Or Emmy, Esme, Emmanuelle, Malina?

Have suggested a couple of those which I like and he's said no. Thanks anyway though.

[bromios]

Claire is infinitely better than Chelsea. Abandon guilt and go with that.

[Stormtroopooper]

Claire Emily sounds fine, but something longer like Claire Elisabeth sounds better, IMO.

Sorry you're having a rough time with your H. Just want to say that mine is the same way. He vetoes just about everything I throw his way.

[hangry]

I think Claire Emily sounds nice, but I prefer Clara in general. But probably with a different mn.
Maybe by suggested Clara it wouldn't feel like it was a name you've been pushing the whole time but still one that is very similar. (I can't remember if this was a name you already mentioned).

[lormor]

May 22, 2016 0:49:11 GMT -5 seahorse85 said:

May 21, 2016 4:44:06 GMT -5 seamonster said:

If he's now on board with Claire and it's a top pick for you, I'd go with Claire. It's a beautiful name.

I do feel a bit like a name bully as this same thing happened with our daughter, I kept suggesting the name and by the end, he said it'd grown on him as he heard it enough. But I much prefer Claire to Chelsea. I just wish there was a name we both liked equally.

It's a lovely idea to wish for a name you both love equally and know to be The One, but not always realistic. You're not a name bully if he has changed his mind. I know I did that with a few names my H liked that I didn't. If he really didn't like it, he wouldn't be "giving in".
FWIW, I think Claire is lovely.
And naming children was hard for us. I'm glad we're done!

[seamonster]

You aren't a name bully if he came around to it and suggested it himself. In fact, give him credit for suggesting it and go with one of his names for middle so that it sounds like it's an all-him name. Claire Emily is lovely.

[seahorse85]

May 22, 2016 9:29:15 GMT -5 seamonster said:

You aren't a name bully if he came around to it and suggested it himself. In fact, give him credit for suggesting it and go with one of his names for middle so that it sounds like it's an all-him name. Claire Emily is lovely.

I would definitely go with one of his choices as a middle if we use one I'd suggested first as the first name. I think he likes Chelsea better than Claire but then again, I prefer Esther over Claire but he's really not keen on that so I guess Claire is kind of a compromise anyway. If we go with Claire, Emily will definitely be the middle name.

He was a little more open to discussing names over the weekend and said he didn't hate a few names I read out from lists two of which were Bridget and Lydia. I love both of those. Something to work with atleast

[seahorse85]

May 22, 2016 1:20:37 GMT -5 Stormtroopooper said:

Claire Emily sounds fine, but something longer like Claire Elisabeth sounds better, IMO.

Sorry you're having a rough time with your H. Just want to say that mine is the same way. He vetoes just about everything I throw his way.

Thanks. I just feel that if we use one of my preferred names as a first, we should use one of his preferences as middle. Emily is my favourite over Chelsea and Chloe.

[Widget123]

Claire, Bridget, and Lydia sound promising! Save Emily or Chelsea as a MN.

And I agree with PP not to feel bad. There is nothing wrote with your H coming around with names. My H pretty much went with the names I wanted for both of my kids and I feel zero guilt about it.

[emmuffy]

Claire is lovely. Suggesting Julie or Amy

[cabbagecabbage]

You aren't a bully. You're giving your child the gift of the much better name. Be glad!

[harlowjune1984]

I don't see it as being a "name bully". You are both going to run into names that you don't like, and both going to have to compromise. And maybe that is just it, that Claire has finally grown on him. Or maybe he is just deciding that as a compromise, he is willing to go with Claire out of your list of names, because it is the one that he hates the least. There are some people that really don't care about popularity, or only have a few names they don't really like and will veto, and there are some couples that have zero issues picking out a name together. But then there are some (like myself and MH), who have a really hard time with it. We like names in different ends of the spectrum. He cannot stand all of my front runners, and I cannot stand any of his. As I mentioned before, we are down to three girl names, and three boy names.....but we don't love any one of the girl names over the others. We like them all the same. So narrowing it down from here, has been REALLY hard. One of the girl names that we are left with, is a name that I have kind of always side-eyed, and then one day MH mentioned it (about 6 months before I got pregnant), and it has grown on me...and now it has made its way to the top three.

I like Bridget and Lydia too.....so at least he is giving you a little more to work with!

[seahorse85]

May 23, 2016 16:32:00 GMT -5 emmuffy said:

Claire is lovely. Suggesting Julie or Amy

We have a Julie and an Amy in our family/very close friends group.

[seahorse85]

May 23, 2016 17:48:35 GMT -5 harlowjune1984 said:

I don't see it as being a "name bully". You are both going to run into names that you don't like, and both going to have to compromise. And maybe that is just it, that Claire has finally grown on him. Or maybe he is just deciding that as a compromise, he is willing to go with Claire out of your list of names, because it is the one that he hates the least. There are some people that really don't care about popularity, or only have a few names they don't really like and will veto, and there are some couples that have zero issues picking out a name together. But then there are some (like myself and MH), who have a really hard time with it. We like names in different ends of the spectrum. He cannot stand all of my front runners, and I cannot stand any of his. As I mentioned before, we are down to three girl names, and three boy names.....but we don't love any one of the girl names over the others. We like them all the same. So narrowing it down from here, has been REALLY hard. One of the girl names that we are left with, is a name that I have kind of always side-eyed, and then one day MH mentioned it (about 6 months before I got pregnant), and it has grown on me...and now it has made its way to the top three.

I like Bridget and Lydia too.....so at least he is giving you a little more to work with!

That's sort of what I'm trying to do - have a list of names we each don't dislike and would potentially use. Even if they're not a favourite for either one of us, it'd be good to have some names on middle ground. I've made a list of the ones he said over the weekend were okay and will see how he feels about them over the next couple of weeks.