Post by heybulldog56 on May 17, 2016 8:33:50 GMT -5
I POAS last night. Everyone else was doing so I joined the club. Still pregnant. My first appointment is this Friday and I am not going to lie, I am starting to feel anxious. I just want to know that everything is ok. I hate waiting.
This morning is a slow one at work so I'm researching new OB/GYNs. My current one is a little too crunchy/hippy dippy for my tastes (nothing wrong with the lifestyle I was just starting to feel judged).
I have some recommendations but it is so stressful, what if I make the wrong decision and end up hating the doctor I choose? I'm not even sure what questions I should be asking.
I wasn't too picky with my doctor when I was just going in every year for an annual, but to be seeing her on a regular basis for the next 9 months isn't something I want to do. I'm debating just staying with the practice and going to a different doctor (who delivered my sister's twins and my neighbor's son) or going to a new practice that is just down the street. I would be okay with current doctor doing the actual delivery if she is on call, but I can't put up with lectures about going organic/chemical/free/whatever for the next 9 months.
Old office is about a 20 minute drive (each way), the new office would be about 10 if the traffic is bad.
What would you guys do? I thought I would have more time to make this decision, but I'm probably only a few weeks from being released from my RE.
What would you guys do? I thought I would have more time to make this decision, but I'm probably only a few weeks from being released from my RE.
I would read reviews and talk to the people that gave you recommendations. What I have found is I need to be comfortable with the doctor but also with their office staff. Maybe just even calling the other office to talk about an appt and feel them out. My OB with my first pregnancy that ended in loss, his office was so unorganized. After my loss they called to remind me of appts that were no longer needed and about a month after my loss they sent me a printout of all the charges I would incur throughout my pregnancy. It was devastating. That being said, I moved to a smaller office with just 2 doctors and never looked back. They have been amazing and I'm so glad I moved.
Post by heybulldog56 on May 17, 2016 8:51:31 GMT -5
aprilz81, I actually made an OBGY change about 5 months into my last pregnancy. I just didnt feel "right" about the practice. I am glad I made the change (although I have since switched again for TLDR reasons).
If you stay in the same practice, are you able to make appointments and be seen by a specific doctor of your choice every time? If you are able to see a doctor you like and do not mind the chance that he/she may not be on call for delivery, then stay and just switch doctors.
Definitely ask if that is a possibility. At both my initial and 2nd OB, they actually had patients see ALL the doctors in the practice at least one time. If the idea of having to be seen by a crunchy DR at any point in your pregnancy isn't ok with you, I would make the switch to a new practice.
Post by heybulldog56 on May 17, 2016 8:58:29 GMT -5
meeggaannww,that is so horrible. I am so glad you switched. I wish I could find a practice with only two doctors. Everything I came across in my area is a giant ass practice. I would love something small and intimate like that.
Post by peaseblossom55 on May 17, 2016 8:59:15 GMT -5
aprilz81, I like everyone's suggestion of seeing if you can meet with the new doctor or have a call with them to get a feel. Otherwise I may just stay with the same OB group and switch doctors.
What would you guys do? I thought I would have more time to make this decision, but I'm probably only a few weeks from being released from my RE.
I would read reviews and talk to the people that gave you recommendations. What I have found is I need to be comfortable with the doctor but also with their office staff. Maybe just even calling the other office to talk about an appt and feel them out. My OB with my first pregnancy that ended in loss, his office was so unorganized. After my loss they called to remind me of appts that were no longer needed and about a month after my loss they sent me a printout of all the charges I would incur throughout my pregnancy. It was devastating. That being said, I moved to a smaller office with just 2 doctors and never looked back. They have been amazing and I'm so glad I moved.
I just got off the phone with someone at the front desk. I would see the same doctor throughout the pregnancy unless the Dr was on vacation and it was an emergency visit. The doctors all try to deliver their own patients but if I would go into labor on a weekend, holiday or during a doctor's vacation then I would get whoever is on call. The only real downside is they deliver at two local hospitals so while I could prefer one I could be directed to the other (both are good and about the same distance from our house) depending on if the doctor had another patient in labor at one of the two hospitals. I'm not sure I like that so much.
As much as I like the idea of a doctor just down the street it might be easier to just stay with the current practice and go to a new doctor.
And that is HORRIBLE about what happened to you after your loss. I wish practices would be more careful about stuff like that.
In our little small town in Canada we have an OB clinic- so there are 5 Drs that rotate weeks. You see each of them at least once and then whoever is on when you deliver is your dr. Lol.
But I'll be getting induced at 37weeks again like I did with Liam, so I won't even be in this town lol. I'll be in the city.
Post by meeggaannww on May 17, 2016 9:16:27 GMT -5
Ack sorry guys didn't mean to bring down the thread! aprilz81 just make sure you are happy and comfortable with whoever you choose, it is a long 9 months!
Post by LovesMeSomeCake on May 17, 2016 10:00:41 GMT -5
I left my phone at home and feel naked. am also irrationally pissed about it with no one to blame it on.
dogs keep bringing in ticks. am convinced baby will have Lyme.
POAS. again. still pregnant, but somewhat comforted, 14 days until US.
family and DH want to go to Vegas in September for a convention vacation. feel very uncomfortable with spending money, not knowing what to expect and all.
Post by summergirl1211 on May 17, 2016 10:06:39 GMT -5
aprilz81, good luck with whatever you decide! I agree, just make sure you're comfortable with whoever you choose!
I'm also switching doctors after my last pregnancy. I liked my previous OB and I've been seeing her for years, but she missed a uterine infection after my c-section and then missed a hypothyroidism diagnosis last winter. She's a little more conservative than I like too. I'm pretty sure I'm going to see my family practice doctor even though she's not an OB. She wouldn't be able to do my c-section if I need another one (I'm hoping for a VBAC) but she would be in the operating room. She also has an awesome bedside manner and I think she does everything she can to be there for delivery. I hope I'm making the right decision!
aprilz81 , good luck with whatever you decide! I agree, just make sure you're comfortable with whoever you choose!
I'm also switching doctors after my last pregnancy. I liked my previous OB and I've been seeing her for years, but she missed a uterine infection after my c-section and then missed a hypothyroidism diagnosis last winter. She's a little more conservative than I like too. I'm pretty sure I'm going to see my family practice doctor even though she's not an OB. She wouldn't be able to do my c-section if I need another one (I'm hoping for a VBAC) but she would be in the operating room. She also has an awesome bedside manner and I think she does everything she can to be there for delivery. I hope I'm making the right decision!
Post by LovesMeSomeCake on May 17, 2016 10:18:14 GMT -5
I met my MFM once, she seemed flighty, but I know they rotate you around the other Drs, so hopefully I find one I like? Switching seems like such a hassle I'd rather avoid. (but would do in a heartbeat)
Post by idreamofbacon on May 17, 2016 10:27:11 GMT -5
Well, I just had a full blown panic attack. I'm glad that I was off work today- I spent 40 minutes laying in my undies on the tile floor in my foyer trying to breathe.
I still feel like hell. I really hope the rest of pregnancy isnt like this
Post by heybulldog56 on May 17, 2016 10:32:25 GMT -5
idreamofbacon, I some sorry. That's fucking awful. Anything we can help with? I am letting my students have "quiet free time" because they just finished state testing. Feel free to PM me if you want. I am literally just sitting here adding recipes to Pinterest.
Well, I just had a full blown panic attack. I'm glad that I was off work today- I spent 40 minutes laying in my undies on the tile floor in my foyer trying to breathe.
I still feel like hell. I really hope the rest of pregnancy isnt like this
I'm so sorry. Is it the unknown about the baby that brought it on? Have you dealt with panic attacks before? I hope things calm down for you.
Well, I just had a full blown panic attack. I'm glad that I was off work today- I spent 40 minutes laying in my undies on the tile floor in my foyer trying to breathe.
I still feel like hell. I really hope the rest of pregnancy isnt like this
I'm so sorry. Is it the unknown about the baby that brought it on? Have you dealt with panic attacks before? I hope things calm down for you.
I've dealt with anxiety in the past, but it's been over 6 months since i've had a full-on panic attack. I think it was just a combination of everything- PgAL brain, work stress (even on my day off) and trying to figure out how in the heck we're supposed to make this whole parenting thing work.
Brains are stupid. I'm feeling much better. Less panicky, more like I just ran a marathon.
Guyyyyssss my midwives that I love so much are going to be out of network now that we've switched insurance carriers. Like, it'll still be covered, but it's going to be more like a couple grand than a couple hundred dollars. Sigh foreverrrr. (Also, I'm still waiting to hear back from the MFM about what they actually want me to do with them vs. with the midwives - I'm not sure if they want me to go to them through 1st tri, and then release me, or if they want me to do regular prenatal visits with my midwives and come to them for more frequent U/S. I don't really care either way, I just don't like being in limbo, and I'll feel better when I actually have an appt...)
Guyyyyssss my midwives that I love so much are going to be out of network now that we've switched insurance carriers. Like, it'll still be covered, but it's going to be more like a couple grand than a couple hundred dollars. Sigh foreverrrr. (Also, I'm still waiting to hear back from the MFM about what they actually want me to do with them vs. with the midwives - I'm not sure if they want me to go to them through 1st tri, and then release me, or if they want me to do regular prenatal visits with my midwives and come to them for more frequent U/S. I don't really care either way, I just don't like being in limbo, and I'll feel better when I actually have an appt...)
aprilz81, you're in Central Ohio, right? I can definitely recommend my OB, but he delivers at Grant, and that might be a little farther away from you. The practice is basically right next to Grant - Midtown OBGYN. My doc's name is Mark Brown. He's great, and you stick with him the whole time. I had one appointment with the other doctor in the practice (a woman, Dr. Thompson) just so that I could meet her in case she was on call when I went into labor.
Post by peaseblossom55 on May 17, 2016 11:34:21 GMT -5
idreamofbacon, I'm so sorry panic attacks are no fun. I get them every once in awhile, my therapist has been great about helping me know how to get myself through one. I hope a nap helped.
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