Post by heybulldog56 on May 20, 2016 11:04:02 GMT -5
I am unbelievable anxious and nervous about my OB appointment. It doesn't help that I am just sitting in this god forsaken car shop waiting room with nothing to do.
Well, I can see we are definitely going to have to have some wrapping threads around here! I've got a little wiggle worm who makes back wrapping tough too!
Oooh, count me in to the wrapping threads!!
Teach me your ways! I liked my Moby when my LO was still squishy. And then I jsut used my Ergo 360 for a while, but never learned how to put her on my back and she got too heavy to front carry. I don't think I've worn her since like, January :'-(
I want to have the pretty, fancy and functional wraps, and I want to be able to get the little baby (or maybe even the toddler) onto my body without soaking myself in sweat.
Teach me your ways! I liked my Moby when my LO was still squishy. And then I jsut used my Ergo 360 for a while, but never learned how to put her on my back and she got too heavy to front carry. I don't think I've worn her since like, January :'-(
I want to have the pretty, fancy and functional wraps, and I want to be able to get the little baby (or maybe even the toddler) onto my body without soaking myself in sweat.
I love my Ergo and I use it all the time! Getting LO on your back in the Ergo is actually super simple. Go to YouTube and look up "Ergo hip scoot." That's how I learned.
Teach me your ways! I liked my Moby when my LO was still squishy. And then I jsut used my Ergo 360 for a while, but never learned how to put her on my back and she got too heavy to front carry. I don't think I've worn her since like, January :'-(
I want to have the pretty, fancy and functional wraps, and I want to be able to get the little baby (or maybe even the toddler) onto my body without soaking myself in sweat.
I love my Ergo and I use it all the time! Getting LO on your back in the Ergo is actually super simple. Go to YouTube and look up "Ergo hip scoot." That's how I learned.
+1 I used the ka'tan for when DS was tiny and then moved to my Ergo when he was around 6 months. I love both and probably used hip carry with DS more than the others when he got big.
Post by summerrain on May 20, 2016 22:25:11 GMT -5
Waffles big hugs. My fingers are crossed for a good outcome. I had spotting with my daughter and it was right after my loss and it was truly terrifying. I just had to keep reminding myself that today I am pregnant.
Post by vlagroupie on May 21, 2016 12:16:33 GMT -5
Waffles fx it is nothing. I actually was having spotting and then bleeding early on in this pregnancy. Turns out my cervix was bleeding, but I was a wreck for a while about it. After an exam, my doc confirmed it and helped ease my mind. So don't hesitate to contact your doc.
Post by silvermelody on May 21, 2016 21:50:19 GMT -5
ashtog thank you for sharing Sawyer's story. I'm so sorry for your loss but I appreciate so much you sharing it to hopefully prevent the same thing happening to someone else.
Post by silvermelody on May 21, 2016 22:02:22 GMT -5
I'm worried that this pregnancy is ectopic. I don't have any reason to think that, other than catastrophizing. I've only been pregnant once and the result is my son. But I think that adds to my fear, because MCs and complications are so common I feel like I'm due to have one eventually.
I'm also having weird upper right quadrant pains which is either gas, gallstones (which I've never had before) or random pregnancy weirdness. It's too high to be RLP.
Post by summerrain on May 21, 2016 22:33:08 GMT -5
I need some hair pats or t's and p's if you've got them. I just started bleeding for the second time and now I'm worried this may be a chemical. I know I bled with my DD but it was more spotting and this is more than that. I'm just going to have to wait until Monday and call my doctor. Waiting sucks.
silvermelody I had weird pain my last pregnancy and made them do an u/s to make sure it wasn't ectopic. The pain was so bad all I could do was lay on the floor in the fetal position. The pregnancy wasn't ectopic, but they never figured out what the pain was. Sorry you are feeling pain, but hopefully it's nothing.
summerrain I'm so sorry you are having to wait until Monday to figure things out-of-order . Big hugs! That's the worst!
I don't know if this will reassure anyone, but I had two episodes of very heavy, bright red bleeding when I was pregnant with my daughter (like soaking through multiple pads). I was sure I had lost the baby, but thankfully, all was fine. I had a subchorionic hematoma, which is not uncommon- my ob said that without cramping, all is usually fine. But hugs to all who are nervous- I've been there!
So I know I'm late to the party, but I've been having a lot of anxiety so I thought I would vent. My last pregnancy was perfect up until my anatomy scan. At the anatomy scan they found that DD had some anomalies including cleft lip and palate, pelvic kidney, and echogenic focus on the heart. Getting that phone call was the worst day of my life, I felt like my world was crashing down. We did a bunch of genetic testing in utero and they couldn't find anything abnormal. After she was born more and more things kept popping up. She had 60 doctors appointments in her first year so averaging more than one a week plus two surgeries and a million tests, bloods draws, etc. It was exhausting and horrible seeing her go through all of that. I put my career on hold to stay at home with her because she couldn't go to a daycare with all of her medical issues.
I knew something wasn't quite right. I know you are supposed to think your kid is perfect, but I could tell something was just off and all of these medical problems weren't a coincidence. I did a bunch of research and found this syndrome called Kabuki Syndrome that I was sure she had. I told my H and he was furious with me because he thought I was making up problems where there weren't any. I finally convinced him and the geneticist to test her for the syndrome and the results came back that she has a mutation in one of the genes that causes Kabuki syndrome. The 4 months between realizing she had KS and getting the results were horrible for our marriage and we were on the verge of divorce. Luckily things got better once he started accepting the diagnosis. So all of that back story to tell you my fears:
1) We have decided to do a CVS test, I'm worried there will be complications like limb or jaw damage to the fetus and I will never forgive myself for getting the test done.
2) I'm worried the test results will come back that this baby has KS too and we will have a horrible decision to make. The chance is 1:32,000, so not likely. I just don't think we are equipped to care for two people with special needs for the rest of our life, but at the same time my daughter is amazing and she makes the world a better place, so I can't imagine not having the baby just because of KS. Anyway, lots more thoughts running through my mind on that, but I'll leave it at that.
3) I'm worried I won't be able to give DD the attention she needs. She has therapy 4x per week plus we have speech and PT exercises we do everyday. Continuing with that plus having a newborn will be stressful. I know it. I just hope DD doesn't suffer in how much time we are able to work with her and that the benefits of having a sibling outweigh the costs.
4) I'm worried that having another baby will be a strain on my marriage. Last time it almost broke us, and I blame it on all of the extenuating circumstances, but what if it wasn't the circumstances and it was just us. Things are so good now that I'm scared we are going to mess it up.
Ok....well that was a novel. I really just needed to let that all out and it was very cathartic to write it all out. If you made it through the, whole thing, you're a trooper, thanks!
Big hugs spano41. You are an incredibly strong woman. That is a lot to endure for a family. Your fears are all very justifiable. I hope all is well with this baby and your family.
Oh spano41 I'm so sorry, what a lot to take on and to have on your heart all at once. You are incredibly strong and you will mother your new baby and your DD with an incredible strength you didn't even know you had, though we all know already the strength you have. Fx that this new little is happy and healthy and that you have a boring pregnancy.
summerrain (((((hugs))))) sending you T&P's and head pats. With three of my pregnancies I had bright red bleeding. One was an SH, one was from having a terrible cold every time I coughed so hard I would cause my uterus to bleed? And the other was just a little spotting. They all turned out fine. Praying that's the case for you and your baby. Please keep us updated
silvermelody hugs sweetie. I am crossing everything for you too. Fears are fears, and are totally legit especially when you know the odds. ((Hugs))
As for me, I had a dream that I miscarried, which freaked me out because I was having lots of cramps as I fell asleep. But I poas' and it said 3+ which means I'm somewhere over 2000 which makes me happy
As for me, I had a dream that I miscarried, which freaked me out because I was having lots of cramps as I fell asleep. But I poas' and it said 3+ which means I'm somewhere over 2000 which makes me happy
Oh, that's a good idea! Is there a chart somewhere that tells you what the threshold is for each number on those tests? I might do that.
So I know I'm late to the party, but I've been having a lot of anxiety so I thought I would vent. My last pregnancy was perfect up until my anatomy scan. At the anatomy scan they found that DD had some anomalies including cleft lip and palate, pelvic kidney, and echogenic focus on the heart. Getting that phone call was the worst day of my life, I felt like my world was crashing down. We did a bunch of genetic testing in utero and they couldn't find anything abnormal. After she was born more and more things kept popping up. She had 60 doctors appointments in her first year so averaging more than one a week plus two surgeries and a million tests, bloods draws, etc. It was exhausting and horrible seeing her go through all of that. I put my career on hold to stay at home with her because she couldn't go to a daycare with all of her medical issues.
I knew something wasn't quite right. I know you are supposed to think your kid is perfect, but I could tell something was just off and all of these medical problems weren't a coincidence. I did a bunch of research and found this syndrome called Kabuki Syndrome that I was sure she had. I told my H and he was furious with me because he thought I was making up problems where there weren't any. I finally convinced him and the geneticist to test her for the syndrome and the results came back that she has a mutation in one of the genes that causes Kabuki syndrome. The 4 months between realizing she had KS and getting the results were horrible for our marriage and we were on the verge of divorce. Luckily things got better once he started accepting the diagnosis. So all of that back story to tell you my fears:
1) We have decided to do a CVS test, I'm worried there will be complications like limb or jaw damage to the fetus and I will never forgive myself for getting the test done.
2) I'm worried the test results will come back that this baby has KS too and we will have a horrible decision to make. The chance is 1:32,000, so not likely. I just don't think we are equipped to care for two people with special needs for the rest of our life, but at the same time my daughter is amazing and she makes the world a better place, so I can't imagine not having the baby just because of KS. Anyway, lots more thoughts running through my mind on that, but I'll leave it at that.
3) I'm worried I won't be able to give DD the attention she needs. She has therapy 4x per week plus we have speech and PT exercises we do everyday. Continuing with that plus having a newborn will be stressful. I know it. I just hope DD doesn't suffer in how much time we are able to work with her and that the benefits of having a sibling outweigh the costs.
4) I'm worried that having another baby will be a strain on my marriage. Last time it almost broke us, and I blame it on all of the extenuating circumstances, but what if it wasn't the circumstances and it was just us. Things are so good now that I'm scared we are going to mess it up.
Ok....well that was a novel. I really just needed to let that all out and it was very cathartic to write it all out. If you made it through the, whole thing, you're a trooper, thanks!
First off, I want to high-five you for the massively awesome job advocating you did on behalf of your child, doing the research and demanding the test. Are they better able to treat her now that she has a diagnosis?
Second, those are some hefty fears. I wish there was something that could be said to alleviate them. All I have is one day at a time. And as far as your marriage goes, being aware of what happened before and why may go a long way in navigating the roads ahead. So many hugs
Post by peaseblossom55 on May 22, 2016 11:47:29 GMT -5
spano41 so many hugs to you. That is a lot to go through. I hope this pregnancy is less stressful for you and your marriage. I am also getting a CVS done. We had several u/s's and NIPT and nothing revealed my daughters problems until the 20 week scan with confirmation of an amnio. I've been doing research on CVS and it seems the limb issue has only happened if the CVS is done very early, like earlier than 10 weeks. I worry about a miscarriage from having it done, but like you I would feel better knowing all is well or not well with a CVS being done. We are talking with our RE about it at our appointment tomorrow. I am trying to just take this pregnancy one day at a time and try not to get too overwhelmed by what may lie ahead.
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