GTKY: Tell Me About Your Best Friend

[London]

Who is that person, or those people, who got your back and make you laugh and have known you forever (whether literally or it just feels that way).

[London]

Inspiration for this thread comes from the following text message one of my best friends sent me last night.



I have two best friends. One is my university roommate. We lived together for four years and bonded over a shared love of movies and junk food and Joe Cocker. She is tattooed and funny and sarcastic and loves animals. Our mutual favourite movie is Wayne's World. In her speech at my wedding, she said "you are the Garth to my Wayne". Little did she know, in my wedding speech, I said "you are the Wayne to my Garth." Problematic when your soulmate is supposed to be the person you just married

My other best friend, sender of the Leslie Knoppe quote, I met at my first real job in 2007. We started talking about America's Next Top Model and have not stopped talking since. She is the prettiest girl in the world, insanely smart, and my biggest cheerleader. She married DH's best friend, and in a couple weeks I get to be godmother to her second little boy. She loves A like her own. They are really more family than friends. I miss living a 7 minute drive from her.

[emejay]

I am very lucky that I have a very tight-knit group of friends who would all move the earth to help each other. They are all kind, generous, brilliant and funny. I don't know how we got so lucky to form a big gang like that without any drama. People outside of us always comment on our little group.

One of my best friends, aka the mom to the twins, I've met 10 years ago while we worked together at a video rental store. I'm the godmother to her son and we have what I'd call a "chill relaionship". We love each other dearly and even if we don't call each other for weeks sometime (even though we live 15 minutes apart), we always pick it up exactly where we left it.

But to be honest and completely corny, my best friend is absolutely SO. There's no one else who gets me quite like him and even if we didn't have love feelings for each others, I'd absolutely want him as my friend.

[mowkey]

I have two BFF;s. One is my cousin closest in age and we have grown up together very close. She lives in Brooklyn, is child free, and is involved in the TV/Music scene. Even in Philly she would get me in every concert, every back stage and we drank everywhere in the city for almost free. She is a really fun person to be around, and I live through her vicariously a bit since she is free to do whatever she feels like at any time.

My other BFF is someone I met when I moved to a new town at 14. We've been pretty much inseparable since then. We are the same astrological sign and the same personality type. Have the same humor, and just always get along. We talk on the phone every single day but don't see each other as much as we used to before kids. She married a guy that's kind of a jerk, so that keeps us apart in some ways. They have separate money, and he pretty much leaves her with nothing except to cover the bills and her kid. And she won't take money from me. Not that I've said here's some money. She just doesn't like it when I pay for dinner or drinks or whatever. It's understandable, I don't want her to feel bad about it. Just want to see her more.

[canadiansciencegeek]

I've been friends with my best friend since we were 11. Our parents set us up, lol. There were times we were inseparable, times we travelled together and times we weren't so close (because teenagers go through weird shit). Now we live across the continent from each other, but even if it's been a year or two since we've seen each other we can pick up right where we left off. She's the closest thing I have to a sister, and I really think of her as one. We essentially grew up together, and nobody else really gets where I come from the way she does.

[tsmith312]

I honestly consider DH my BFF , that's probably the saddest cheesiest thing ever ! But he's my #1 fan , supporter and cheerleader . We literally talk about everything !

I have a handful of really great close friends. It's a group of 5 women , we all live on the same street and our toddlers are the same age and 2 of them also have recently had little girls . We constantly support each other , help each other out when needed .We have play dates weekly and do just mommy outings a few times a month . While I love each one of them I don't consider one of them my BFF . I guess I've been burned by " best friends " in the past !

[mschanandelerbong]

Same here, DH is the one I'm closest to. I'd consider my girl friends to be very good friends, but not besties the way we used to be. We don't see each other as often as I'd like.

I met B in college and we've had so many crazy fun times together. DH loves her too, he was there for many of those fun times. She has a daughter 9 months older than mine. She got divorced and is now engaged.

I am also close with my college roommate, we lived together all 4 years. She is single and childless and lives in the city.

I've been friends with A since high school when she was a closet wild girl. Now she's a mom with a corporate job. Her fam is moving very close to us in June and I'm so excited we'll get to hang out more.

E has been my friend since middle school. She gets me because she really knows my family. She moved to Florida and I really want to visit her once I'm done nursing!

[cocopuff]

Other than Glen, who is my best friends in every way, I have two BFF's.

1. My cousin, two years younger. Her brother is 3 months older than my brother and I. The four of us grew up like siblings and are extremely close. I've lived with each of them at various points in my adult life. She is my person and we talk or text almost daily. She has two boys (2 and 3 months) so we hope our kids are as close as we are. She gets my kids if anything should happen to Glen and I. Knowing each other our entire lives, there is no one in this world that knows me and my history like she does. I love her to death and cannot imagine life without her.

2. I met her in 6th grade when she "dated" my brother for the first time. We've been best friends since 8th grade (23 years). Even if we don't talk to see each other, we pick right up. I was MOH in her wedding and she was in mine. She got married and had kids waaaaay before I did (her oldest is 8) so we were at very different points in our 20's but still remained close. She still lives in my hometown so we try to get together every couple months. Kids make it exponentially more difficult, but we always make the effort.

[crystaleyes138]

DH is my best friend by default. He knows me better than anyone else and I get to see him every day. Other than him, I have "3".

1. My sister. We didn't always get along growing up, but she's the first in line to have my back no matter what. She's also good friends with my DH, but when he and I are arguing, she always takes my side. She was really there for me when I was struggling with PPD/PPA.

2. My longest friend. We were always friends, but we didn't get close until she called me when her Dad was in an awful accident. She reached out to me to talk, and we've been friends ever since. When we went off to different colleges we got even closer. When I went to grad school and we didn't see each other for a while, when we were able to get together, we could always pick up where we left off.

3. My labmates from grad school. There are 4 of them. Together we make a whole. I never would have made it through grad school without them. We all got together 2 years ago to celebrate the last of us getting his PhD. I miss them so much sometimes it hurts.

And now I'm a weepy mess reading all of these and typing my own. GTG send some I miss you emails and text messages.

[rcdizzle]

H, definitely. He saw me through really dark times when we were both young and he could've had anyone he wanted-instead of putting up with my drama, and we're still each other's biggest supporters.

Outside of that I've picked up one or two really close friends in each place I've lived and I still keep in touch with them all. They're all very different and amazing, and they complete me

[obie1680]

I would say H & my mom are my best friends. If my dad were still alive he would also be on my list! These are the people that are always there for me & I have the most fun with. It's corny yes but I wouldn't have it any other way. I have outside of family friends but none that I could confidently say "best" about.

[mrsb1008]

I'll also be corny and say my H. There is no one else I can open up as much to or be as silly with. He knows everything about me. But beyond that I have a few.

1. My cousin. We are the same age and grew up doing everything together. We still talk frequently and our boys are only 4 months apart. But he lives in NYC so I don't see her often. I've gotten close with her older sister as well (6yrs older so we weren't close growing up) since she lives locally.

2. A girl I met on TK planning our weddings. She moved here about 3 years after we got married and we got really close. I haven't seen her as much since Z was born, but we do talk frequently. When she first moved here her H was still working 8hrs away in their old town, so he was gone all week. Since we didn't have kids, I went to help her with her girls once a week. We got pretty close during that time.

3. A girl I met at work. We got close about 4 years ago. I can talk to her about everything. She also struggles with anxiety so when I'm having a rough day at work I can talk to her about it. She was a teen mom, so her son has now moved out. But she loves Z like a nephew. She spoils him more than his grandparents.

[junewife]

I have a few really close friends but I met my absolute best friend in college. We just "get" each other on pretty much every level. We have very similar personalities, values, and outlook on life, but our lives are totally different.

She's in a creative field and is unmarried/no kids, works odd hours. She is often just going to bed when I'm about to get up for the day. But she loves me and my kids so much and she is always always there for me, no matter what. She loves my DH too, and she is literally the only person I will complain about my DH to bc I know she will love him and support our marriage no matter what I say (short of him becoming a serial killer or something).

i consider her family and would do pretty much anything for her. I feel so lucky bc she's way better than my real extended family.

[southernpeach89]

I would have to say my best friend is my H followed by my Mom and my older sister. They are always the first people I go to when something is wrong and they have always been there for me no matter the situation.

I had closer non family friends in high school and in college but over the years our lives have changed and different things have taken us in different directions so it has been hard to stay close. I could think of a couple off the top of my head that would go out of their way for me and I would do the same for them but I wouldn't say I think of them like I think of my H, sister, and my mom.

[MrsEmuTavi]

My current BFF is hilarious. We work together and I love her like family. She's 10 years older than me but we act the same age, like we are 12 She is childless not by choice and I don't necessarily like her H or understand their relationship but we are there for each other through thick and thin. When we lost Caleb she was the first person I told outside of family. She was there for me through the mess that I was through my pregnancy with C. Even though she hates baby showers (because she's CLNBC) she threw me one. She has unofficially taken on C as her nephew and says that he is her beneficiary side she is closer to him than her own niece & nephews. We don't get to hang out a lot but when we do we have a blast. We are still trying to find our new groove since C arrived but she's patient which is great.

My first best friend is no longer my best friend and reading all of these stories breaks my heart a little. We knew each other since 1st grade. Grew up together, then I moved. I had stuff going on but whenever she contacted me I made time to chat. She had a kid and we drifted a little further. When I got in touch with her when I was pregnant with my 1st (my angel) she was weird about getting together. I was finally done with grad school and actually had time. When we lost Caleb she never reached out. No card, no FB message, nada. She had her 2nd kid (announced on Christmas Eve & broke my heart) and didn't go to my baby shower for C. Never got a card, FB message, nada. She has not liked any photos, left comments, emailed, nothing. It sucks that 25 years went down the tube and I don't even know why.