Post by jennyinheaven on Feb 8, 2015 5:57:53 GMT -5
I work part time evenings mostly for our fun money. We are one an done for medical, age and financial reasons. If we did have another I would have to up my working hours and I wanted this one for so long I just want to be able SAH as much as possible.
Work full time. Finances in general effect our being OAD.... My job is more secure than DHs and gives us all the benefits, but we could not afford two in daycare...or at least with our current daycare. I would basically be working to pay for child care. But I also don't know that I could handle being SAHM.
3 years TTC, 15 cycles w/ RE(med & med/IUI), one angel 2/2012, and a cycle break rainbow 8/2013 born at 32w2d.
Severe Pre-E, HFpEF, PE, AMA & IF= OAD not by choice
Our little rainbow is finally walking at 20 months! w/ hypotonia, developmental dyspraxia, and SPD
I work full time. This does contribute to oad. Though I work for a company that tops up mat leave to 90% of salary, so it would actually be a great place to have a kid. But my industry isn't the type I can take another long break
Post by helenahhandbasket on Feb 9, 2015 9:38:05 GMT -5
I work FT. My hours are long--I'm out of the house 7-7. Ideally, I'd love more balance, so I am working on finding something closer to home (but that's hard with my industry).
Anyway-- the working itself has nothing really to do with my decision. I could never SAH (though I bow down to the ladies that do because that is HARD) I am OaD largely by circumstance. I'm soon to be divorced, almost 35 and live in a HCOL area.
Post by BostonKisses on Feb 9, 2015 10:23:49 GMT -5
I consider myself a FT SAHM, but technically I'm more like 7/8 time SAHM, and 1/8 time PT WM. I sub teach here and there for some extra cash.
DC isn't an issue as much for us, because we had to keep her out for so long to try and keep her as healthy as possible, so one of my parents (mainly my dad) stays with her when I pick up work days. If we had to do in-home or facility DC, I'd have to be a FT SAHM because any money I made subbing would be wiped out instantly.
Post by RiseAndWine on Feb 9, 2015 10:49:03 GMT -5
I work full-time by choice. I never really wanted to do the SAHM thing. If we do end up having more children it's possible DH would SAH. He's way more into it than I am and we make pretty much the same amount of money. ETA it's not affecting our OAD decision, necessarily, but a benefit to being OAD is that we both get to keep our careers.
Post by graysweater on Feb 9, 2015 11:43:03 GMT -5
I work full time. That doesn't really factor into our decision. I would work even if we had a 2nd one. The cost of childcare and lifestyle choices is what makes the decision for me.
Both DH and I work full time. It is definitely part of my decision to be OAD; DH's job is shift work so I am on my own with DD a lot. He worked graveyard shift for the first 9 months of DD's life and is now working a 3pm-11pm shift so we see him for maybe an hour in the morning each day during the week. It sucks!
I work. I went back to work when DD was 7 weeks I love my job, but even when my ex-H and I were together, we couldn't have afforded the cost of daycare for two. Now as a single parent, I definitely can't.
Post by gallumbits on Feb 11, 2015 14:08:54 GMT -5
I work full time, NBC because DH is unemployed. But I'd probably work even if that wasn't the case. And the whole situation is why we're OAD, so it is a factor.
I work half-time; DH works full-time. Our work schedules don't overlap, so one of us is always with LO - no daycare costs.
We can afford to do this for a few years, but for longer than that, it will start to negatively impact our ability to afford things like travel and college for LO. I'm hoping to go back to full time when she's 3. It's a factor in our O&D, but not the deciding factor.
Do you work? Full time, part time, SAHM? Does that have any weight considering your decision to be OAD?
I stayed at home until LO was about 6 months old, then H needed help running his business after we discovered that his office manager was embezzling money, so I stepped in and started bringing LO to the office with me every day. Our current arrangement makes the most sense for our family, especially if we are O&D. But if another BFP showed up, we'd adjust as necessary and it would work out, I'm sure, even though the thought of 2 small children in this office with me makes me twitch! Here, let me do 3 jobs all at one time. Grrreeeeaat.
Both DH and I work full-time. My career definitely plays into our decision to be OAD--I love my DD more than anything, but I love being a working mom too. I put a lot of time and energy into my education and career, and I don't want either my home or work life to suffer by expanding our family further.
I am a WAHM mom, I think it does affect OAD though maybe not the biggest factor. We have a babysitter at home with our LO while I work in our home office, and I don't think I could pull this off with two. I would want to quit my job instead if I had two.
Post by homebrewgirl on Feb 13, 2015 15:52:34 GMT -5
I SAH. I was a teacher and I loved it. I thought I would hate SAH, but it made practical sense for me to be home. I actually like being home more than I though I would, but will return to work eventually- I miss it too much. I'd like to find something part time, but am not sure how to make childcare work.
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