I have one that is a guaranteed uo! I did not change my last name when I married H. A couple reasons explain that. First, my name has been my name my whole life and I can't imagine changing it and identify to that new name. Also, I feel like it would have been strange to leave work one day being Miss whatever and come back the week after and have my students call me a different name. Lastly, I do think it's an outdated practice : like why does the woman have to change her name and not the man.
If I could do it over again, I would have kept my name. I don't see the point of changing it. I just did it because I was like, well, that's what people do.
+1 My maiden name is unpronounceable but I miss it. I would have just used DH's last name socially. But it was important to H.
Is this a FFFC? C is still using stage 1 (0-3 mo) nipples on her bottles. At one point we tried to move her to stage 2 but she way over ate that day. So, we just put the stage 2s on hold and then forgot about them. Maybe BF babies don't need to move to stage 2+?
I have one that is a guaranteed uo! I did not change my last name when I married H. A couple reasons explain that. First, my name has been my name my whole life and I can't imagine changing it and identify to that new name. Also, I feel like it would have been strange to leave work one day being Miss whatever and come back the week after and have my students call me a different name. Lastly, I do think it's an outdated practice : like why does the woman have to change her name and not the man.
Not a UO with me. I am in a field where I publish (sometimes, not as much anymore). I publish with my hyphenated name b/c I feel like I need to give credit to my "old" self.
Is this a FFFC? C is still using stage 1 (0-3 mo) nipples on her bottles. At one point we tried to move her to stage 2 but she way over ate that day. So, we just put the stage 2s on hold and then forgot about them. Maybe BF babies don't need to move to stage 2+?
ETA: can't spell
Jacob is still on stage 1. I recently bought stage 2 since some stage 1s were wearing a bit. He is formula fed.
I wasn't going to change my name but it was really important to Glen. However, I still practice under my maiden name and will not hyphen. I'd been establishing my career for years before we got married and it is important to me to have that part of my identity.
I wish I had put my maiden name on my drivers license as a first name because it gets really confusing and annoying in professional settings that require photo ID. I tried to add it in last year and it was impossible without petitioning the court for a name change.
Is this a FFFC? C is still using stage 1 (0-3 mo) nipples on her bottles. At one point we tried to move her to stage 2 but she way over ate that day. So, we just put the stage 2s on hold and then forgot about them. Maybe BF babies don't need to move to stage 2+?
ETA: can't spell
Jackson still uses stage 0 and 1. He never acts frustrated with them so I haven't bought the 2's.
UO: I hate "going for walks". I don't mind walking somewhere as a means of getting from A to B. But going for a random stroll as an activity? Boring. And people constantly suggest it when you have a baby. "Why don't you take her for a walk?" "Why don't we just sit in the yard and watch grass grow?"
I'm liking this only because I laughed so hard I woke up a sleeping baby. Totally not the same thing in my book but hilarious nonetheless.
I have one that is a guaranteed uo! I did not change my last name when I married H. A couple reasons explain that. First, my name has been my name my whole life and I can't imagine changing it and identify to that new name. Also, I feel like it would have been strange to leave work one day being Miss whatever and come back the week after and have my students call me a different name. Lastly, I do think it's an outdated practice : like why does the woman have to change her name and not the man.
There are 2 reasons I changed mine: 1) I like having a team name. All of our successes are linked to one last name. Sounds weird, but I think it's the mentality of sharing a name. 2) I wanted to have the same last name as my kids. For those who didn't change, did you hype ate your kids names? I hate hyphens.
uclameghan, I also have two last names! Not hyphenated. It is very confusing while calling hotels for business stays and spelling both consonant heavy last names...
crystaleyes138, I use my maiden name for work and publish articles under that name. I published two papers before getting married so why not continue that trend? My dad is also in my field so the last name means something to people that may not have met me. My PhD dissertation has both names, though, because my official name was required. I use MH's name socially.
UO: I hate "going for walks". I don't mind walking somewhere as a means of getting from A to B. But going for a random stroll as an activity? Boring. And people constantly suggest it when you have a baby. "Why don't you take her for a walk?" "Why don't we just sit in the yard and watch grass grow?"
I'm with you. Whenever I see someone just walking I'm like "get a dog, weirdo"
UO: I hate "going for walks". I don't mind walking somewhere as a means of getting from A to B. But going for a random stroll as an activity? Boring. And people constantly suggest it when you have a baby. "Why don't you take her for a walk?" "Why don't we just sit in the yard and watch grass grow?"
I'm with you. Whenever I see someone just walking I'm like "get a dog, weirdo"
I wasn't going to change my name but it was really important to Glen. However, I still practice under my maiden name and will not hyphen. I'd been establishing my career for years before we got married and it is important to me to have that part of my identity.
I wish I had put my maiden name on my drivers license as a first name because it gets really confusing and annoying in professional settings that require photo ID. I tried to add it in last year and it was impossible without petitioning the court for a name change.
In DC, the name on pleadings has to match your drivers license. So I couldn't keep my name professionally and change it personally.
Post by eliza040502 on May 28, 2016 4:22:01 GMT -5
hovenb - didn't hyphenate the kids last name and didn't change mine. I live in a very progressive area so I know I'm not going to be the only mom with a different last name. I'm sure I'll run into some issues in the future and will have to explain to the kid why we have different names.
I have one that is a guaranteed uo! I did not change my last name when I married H. A couple reasons explain that. First, my name has been my name my whole life and I can't imagine changing it and identify to that new name. Also, I feel like it would have been strange to leave work one day being Miss whatever and come back the week after and have my students call me a different name. Lastly, I do think it's an outdated practice : like why does the woman have to change her name and not the man.
+1.
Plus I'm lazy and didn't want to deal with the hassle of changing my name with the government and the state board of bar examiners in multiple states.
I just changed mine almost 2 years later mostly because my wallet was stolen and I needed to go and get new ideas anyways so I figured why not. I haven't changed it with the bar association yet I should probably get on that.
Post by charliefox on May 29, 2016 13:47:15 GMT -5
Re: Name Changes
I changed mine for the reasons hovenb listed. I like being "The LastNames". It wasn't super important to H but I know he appreciates that I changed it; I tried to talk him into changing but his first name with my maiden name is pretty boring and also the name of a big politician and in history so he wasn't having it.
My one big issue with changing my name was that I'm not the biggest fans of H's family and, 5 years later, it still grinds on me that I'm lumped in as one of them now. I really wish Cal had my maiden name, it was supposed to be his middle name but that got nixed. Now H wants to used my maiden name as a first name if we have another boy. It's so not a first name, although one celebrity thinks it is. Super weird.
When we got engaged, MH and I both planned to change our name to a new one, something that had meaning to us. But then MIL got upset and I wanted to keep the peace so I gave in and took MH's last name (i disliked my maiden name and couldn't wait to get rid of it). I still regret it six years later.
charliefox all of what you said. My family is so much better haha, I wish F could have that last name.
junewife if you choose a new one, you have to go to court right? When we got married, Mh tried to un-hyphenate his name at the same time and they told us only one of us could change our name.
I do wish I hadn't changed my name professionally though. We work together so it is always weird in client meetings having the same name. (And it's a unique last name)
charliefox all of what you said. My family is so much better haha, I wish F could have that last name.
junewife if you choose a new one, you have to go to court right? When we got married, Mh tried to un-hyphenate his name at the same time and they told us only one of us could change our name.
I do wish I hadn't changed my name professionally though. We work together so it is always weird in client meetings having the same name. (And it's a unique last name)
Yeah it's a different process for a full name change than just changing to a married name, but we were willing to go through the hassle.
hovenb - didn't hyphenate the kids last name and didn't change mine. I live in a very progressive area so I know I'm not going to be the only mom with a different last name. I'm sure I'll run into some issues in the future and will have to explain to the kid why we have different names.
That sounds crazy to me!
In QC - women haven't had the rights to take their husbands last name since 1981. So most of my generation and under don't have the same last name as their mom and it's the most normal thing ever!
hovenb - didn't hyphenate the kids last name and didn't change mine. I live in a very progressive area so I know I'm not going to be the only mom with a different last name. I'm sure I'll run into some issues in the future and will have to explain to the kid why we have different names.
That sounds crazy to me!
In QC - women haven't had the rights to take their husbands last name since 1981. So most of my generation and under don't have the same last name as their mom and it's the most normal thing ever!
This is so interesting! Do you know the reason behind the law emejay?
In QC - women haven't had the rights to take their husbands last name since 1981. So most of my generation and under don't have the same last name as their mom and it's the most normal thing ever!
This is so interesting! Do you know the reason behind the law emejay?
Yes - it was actually an exam questions in one of my law classes haha
Ad you might not know, Quebec is a civil law province (contrary to the rest of Canada).
The civil law requires that everyone follow the law using the name that was assigned at birth. To get your name changed, you have to have serious reasons that are revised by a committee and then you need to publish it in a newspaper.
Here's a quote explaining how it came to fruitition:
"Why? It’s even more surprising to find out where this comes from. Decades ago men had way more rights than women did, higher salaries, higher positions. The women emancipation led to the equality of rights, which meant a lot for women.
This law that came in force in 1981 had only one goal: to release the woman, to set her free and never oblige her to change her name, to give her one more right. The purpose was a good one, and I thank those who fought for that, however the big problem is that instead of granting them a right, a right was taken."
Women can now socially take their husband's name if they want to (ahem Sophie Grégoire Trudeau) but not legally.
After last weeks consignment loot, I am returning a dress from Carter's that we bought for a couple of events. I have decided to use the money for "treat yo self" Monday. It's only like $22 but I am going to buy some cheap sunglasses (I have a nice Marc Jacobs pair but they are prescription, so I want a pair of cheap aviators for when I wear contact lenses), a small version of my favourite Bath and Body Works candles, and McDonalds lunch.
After last weeks consignment loot, I am returning a dress from Carter's that we bought for a couple of events. I have decided to use the money for "treat yo self" Monday. It's only like $22 but I am going to buy some cheap sunglasses (I have a nice Marc Jacobs pair but they are prescription, so I want a pair of cheap aviators for when I wear contact lenses), a small version of my favourite Bath and Body Works candles, and McDonalds lunch.
I'm living large, guys.
Quoting myself because I meant to put this in today's randoms. Remember when I said my kid was up early today? Yeah...
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