****loss and living child discussed***** We're queer. I'm 34, have severe stage 4 endo, and both fallopian tubes are gone. My love ("Manada" 33) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tav.in and Ca.sey at 21 weeks gestation.
My brother was visiting for the last few days and I was on the road for work yesterday and Friday so I haven't read much on the board since Thursday. It's so easy to fall way, way behind.
My friends' baby shower is this weekend and I'm one of the co-planners. I hope they enjoy it!
****loss and living child discussed***** We're queer. I'm 34, have severe stage 4 endo, and both fallopian tubes are gone. My love ("Manada" 33) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tav.in and Ca.sey at 21 weeks gestation.
So for the past 2 weeks we've been doing CIO during Freyas 10:30/11:00 wake up. She goes to bed awake and falls asleep on her own but is still waking 3 times. I figured the first one would be easiest to cut out because my H goes to bed later than I do so he just keeps the monitor and comes to bed after her first wake up. It's been 2 weeks since she was fed at this wake up and she still wakes and cries! She'll cry anywhere from 5 minutes to 30 minutes and some nights are a harder cry than others. I'm at a loss. I feel like she shouldn't still be waking up? Is she just super stubborn?
So for the past 2 weeks we've been doing CIO during Freyas 10:30/11:00 wake up. She goes to bed awake and falls asleep on her own but is still waking 3 times. I figured the first one would be easiest to cut out because my H goes to bed later than I do so he just keeps the monitor and comes to bed after her first wake up. It's been 2 weeks since she was fed at this wake up and she still wakes and cries! She'll cry anywhere from 5 minutes to 30 minutes and some nights are a harder cry than others. I'm at a loss. I feel like she shouldn't still be waking up? Is she just super stubborn?
Would it be worth a shot to gradually reduce the time spent feeding at each wake up, rather than trying to cut one all together? This is the Sleepeasy approach and while we modified this part for us, it might be something to try. Getting results at some wake ups and not others could be the reason she's still putting up a fight at the first wake up.
Post by southernpeach89 on Jun 1, 2016 7:08:41 GMT -5
Ugh I'm still so sore today, I tried to work out last night to loosen up a bit and it did not help at all lol. I'm definitely taking a break tonight.
Last night at small group, everyone in our group has young children...all probably under the age of 2 and so we all chip in for a babysitter while we have our discussions. So when we get there, I put Callie down on the carpet with the other kids and she crawls over to a book laying on the floor and immediately starts ripping out the pages Now the pages had already been kind of torn up but they were still intact and Callie finished off the job. Luckily she only did it to that one book.
Add me to the sore group. We spent the last 2 days working in our backyard, removing grass to make my gardens, carrying dirt around, and redoing the flower beds and on top of that I went to 2 advances hot yoga class where the room went up over 40 degrees because of the heat outside.
I woke up in he middle of the night because my arms were burning.
We're going in the city today to have a picnic at the Olympic park with my SIL and a friend.
I have to share this for all the champagne lovers of this board... I will be turning the big 3-0 verrry sooon and my birth mom turned 50 in early May. She's is flying here tomorrow and to celebrate our big milestone birthdays we are buying ourselves a bottle of legit CRISTAL champagne. I cannot contain the excitement. She's a sommelier and usually is all about finding a great bottle for a small price but she says that Cristal really is in a league of it's own. I'll be sipping sloooooowly lol.
Well I'm just going to break open the emergency wine I keep in my glove box. DS had an epic 3 year old melt down while walking into daycare. Full on laying on the wet cement kicking and screaming and acting like I was trying to murder him. Of course it was down pouring and all these other parents were just walking past glaring at me. Why was he melting down you might ask.... Because I'm a bad mom and can't carry him and his sister and all their stuff at the same time. I finally had to walk away from him because DD was getting wet and threaten to leave him in the parking lot alone for him to get up and temper tantrum into the building where he proceeded to throw himself on the floor again. Thank God for one of the teachers who took DD from me so I could pick up my dignity and child. He then proceeded to throw another fit when I left. 3s are hard yo.
So after some back and forth with our Airbnb host I finally, indirectly, asked for a refund for the rest of our stay so that we could find other accommodations. I didn't feel comfortable saying that I want a refund in return for not giving her a bad review but I will keep that in my pocket just in case. Although, at this rate, I may never hear back from her.
After our first few days here C got right back on the putting himself to sleep train...until today. Last night was a little rough too. He's been awake for 4 hours now (he's only ever done that long of a stretch before bedtime) and he's fussing/playing in his crib. Go to sleep!
Today is meh, H has a school function until like 10 tonight, the weather is still yucky, and I'm so over this apartment. I did, however, find a cheap dress at h&m to wear to this dinner for the American society tomorrow night that H signed us up for. I didn't pack anything besides jeans and shorts because baby.
So my nephew passed his car seat test & drinks a bottle with a premie nipple so he gets to go home today!!! 10am they will leave the hospital. SIL is over the moon happy. Since he came so early his room never got done so she is super happy I stopped by her house with clean NB size clothes, blankets & bouncy seat. I told DS she was going home today and he replied so we are going over aunties today! I told him not today maybe tomorrow.
Val is so cute, a little short cartoon came on Disney and she was clapping her hands to the intro music!
It's soo much cooler and comfortable today. I think I might try a trip to the park.
I have to share this for all the champagne lovers of this board... I will be turning the big 3-0 verrry sooon and my birth mom turned 50 in early May. She's is flying here tomorrow and to celebrate our big milestone birthdays we are buying ourselves a bottle of legit CRISTAL champagne. I cannot contain the excitement. She's a sommelier and usually is all about finding a great bottle for a small price but she says that Cristal really is in a league of it's own. I'll be sipping sloooooowly lol.
Colour me jealous!!
Next time you come to Montreal, we should have an adult date at "La Chanpagnerie" in old Montréal. That's where we celebrated part of my 30th and it's awesome. You can "sabre" the bottles you buy
I have to share this for all the champagne lovers of this board... I will be turning the big 3-0 verrry sooon and my birth mom turned 50 in early May. She's is flying here tomorrow and to celebrate our big milestone birthdays we are buying ourselves a bottle of legit CRISTAL champagne. I cannot contain the excitement. She's a sommelier and usually is all about finding a great bottle for a small price but she says that Cristal really is in a league of it's own. I'll be sipping sloooooowly lol.
Colour me jealous!!
Next time you come to Montreal, we should have an adult date at "La Chanpagnerie" in old Montréal. That's where we celebrated part of my 30th and it's awesome. You can "sabre" the bottles you buy
Hum YES! MH and I actually have plans to go for a weekend in Mtl sans bébé in late July to celebrate his 30th. That would be the perfect meet up
So for the past 2 weeks we've been doing CIO during Freyas 10:30/11:00 wake up. She goes to bed awake and falls asleep on her own but is still waking 3 times. I figured the first one would be easiest to cut out because my H goes to bed later than I do so he just keeps the monitor and comes to bed after her first wake up. It's been 2 weeks since she was fed at this wake up and she still wakes and cries! She'll cry anywhere from 5 minutes to 30 minutes and some nights are a harder cry than others. I'm at a loss. I feel like she shouldn't still be waking up? Is she just super stubborn?
Would it be worth a shot to gradually reduce the time spent feeding at each wake up, rather than trying to cut one all together? This is the Sleepeasy approach and while we modified this part for us, it might be something to try. Getting results at some wake ups and not others could be the reason she's still putting up a fight at the first wake up.
The photographer taking our listing photos is supposed to come to the house around 1:00 today. Fingers crossed it'll be sunny when he's there because if not, it's supposed to rain until next week, and they don't like to take pictures when it's cloudy... So that would delay listing our house another week. I'm so stressed and this isn't even the stressful part. We still have that whole no where to live situation to deal with after our house sells.
****loss and living child discussed***** We're queer. I'm 34, have severe stage 4 endo, and both fallopian tubes are gone. My love ("Manada" 33) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tav.in and Ca.sey at 21 weeks gestation.
The subway is closed for a 6 station stretch due to a fire this morning. My commute has been ridiculous as a result. It's going to take at least twice as long as normal and probably longer. Ugh!
****loss and living child discussed***** We're queer. I'm 34, have severe stage 4 endo, and both fallopian tubes are gone. My love ("Manada" 33) was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. We did Partner IVF (my eggs, her uterus). We lost our twins Tav.in and Ca.sey at 21 weeks gestation.
The subway is closed for a 6 station stretch due to a fire this morning. My commute has been ridiculous as a result. It's going to take at least twice as long as normal and probably longer. Ugh!
evanda, sympathetic love tit! WTF to the parents glaring at you. Come on, parents, we've all been or will be in that situation - help one another out!
Eeek, sandj918! Any chance there's a store nearby where you can grab a manual? Or send someone to grab one for you?
txshep, when we first listed, we were stuck with a rainy/snowy week. However, there's a lot you can do with photos to help counter the overcast sky. Once it was sunny, the realtor sent an assistant out to get a new, sunny exterior shot for the front. The rest of our exterior shots were still overcast but looked fine. Maybe yours could do something similar?
Next time you come to Montreal, we should have an adult date at "La Chanpagnerie" in old Montréal. That's where we celebrated part of my 30th and it's awesome. You can "sabre" the bottles you buy
Hum YES! MH and I actually have plans to go for a weekend in Mtl sans bébé in late July to celebrate his 30th. That would be the perfect meet up
The photographer taking our listing photos is supposed to come to the house around 1:00 today. Fingers crossed it'll be sunny when he's there because if not, it's supposed to rain until next week, and they don't like to take pictures when it's cloudy... So that would delay listing our house another week. I'm so stressed and this isn't even the stressful part. We still have that whole no where to live situation to deal with after our house sells.
Actually, the best house pictures are when the sky is grey
The subway is closed for a 6 station stretch due to a fire this morning. My commute has been ridiculous as a result. It's going to take at least twice as long as normal and probably longer. Ugh!
I'm so not looking forward to resuming commuting to work Hang in there
AFM, another crappy night of sleep, but better than the previous night. A woke up pretty much every hour and would be up on all fours. Back rubs didn't help, but as soon as I'd scoop her up, she'd collapse in my arms. Do about 15-20 minutes of rocking, put her back down, then start it back up 30-40 minutes later. On the bright side, we didn't need to go for a bottle and she stayed in one (cow) diaper. Of course, that diaper SMELLED and was soaked by morning. I wanted to change her, but she was so snuggled in against me, I just didn't have the heart to upset her (she does not sleep through changes, she becomes an angry beast). She just isn't getting into and staying in a deep sleep.
We hope to continue this no bottle through the night (second night in a row) and are starting to incorporate a lovey with her bottle at bedtime to hopefully shift her sleep association. She loves her stuffed animals as toys (and wrestles with them), but she hasn't really engaged with anything at night, other than her pacifier and smashing her face against the crib rails. Books continue to be an energizer rather than soother. My gut tells me CIO isn't the way to go with her, but we need to do something for our own sanity. So right now I'm focusing on finding sleep cues for her and also making the nursery a happy but sleepy place. She goes spastic when we bring her into the darkened nursery and only calms down with a bottle. She KNOWS this is where sleep happens.
Also, I'd love some night light recommendations. The one we have is too bright, so we have to cover it up so we have just enough light to see by. Otherwise, A spends the whole time trying to bust out of the crib to get to light like a damn bug.
cowplanet what ice read about lovies is to give it to them for sleeping consistently for 2 weeks and hope that they form an attachment, but it doesn't always work.
Practicing new skills always messes up sleep in our house. Hopefully she figures it out soon!
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