Post by jennaleigh23 on Jun 4, 2016 8:17:09 GMT -5
I seem to have really upset some members from my BMW in an UO thread and while I definitely didn't mean to offend anyone, I do stand by what I said and was wondering if other single mom's could give some thought.
Another member had posted that she enjoyed solo parenting since her H was so busy and she didn't have to clear so many decisions with him.
I, at the time, didn't realize "solo parenting" is a term used by non single parents to describe doing the majority of parenting without their SO. so I made a comment that I didn't think it should be called solo parenting if your H comes home every day.
So it became this huge thing that I'm playing the pain olympics and that I'm minimizing others struggles as sole caregivers for their families while their SO's are away but to me, to use the term solo or single or any other representation of ONE parent, should be used when there is no H or spouse.
Yes my child has a father who sees weekly but he doesn't and hasnt ever provided for him or had any interest at all in any parenting decision. My salary supports us. My decisions affect his future. I don't have a supportive partner to text when he does something amazing or not so amazing. To ME, that's solo parenting. Not taking care of the kids until hubby comes home from work.
I'm not at all trying to say that their lives arent hard or that mines harder I just think that to truly use the word solo, there shouldn't be another person in the picture that they can count on financially, emotionally, physically at the end of the day.
I agreed to disagree and apologized that my opinions hurt others, if they identify as solo parents, that's up to them. It was never my intention to hurt anyone's feelings but it keeps being brought up and wanted some opinions from other single moms.
Another member had posted that she enjoyed solo parenting since her H was so busy and she didn't have to clear so many decisions with him.
I, at the time, didn't realize "solo parenting" is a term used by non single parents to describe doing the majority of parenting without their SO. so I made a comment that I didn't think it should be called solo parenting if your H comes home every day.
So it became this huge thing that I'm playing the pain olympics and that I'm minimizing others struggles as sole caregivers for their families while their SO's are away but to me, to use the term solo or single or any other representation of ONE parent, should be used when there is no H or spouse.
Yes my child has a father who sees weekly but he doesn't and hasnt ever provided for him or had any interest at all in any parenting decision. My salary supports us. My decisions affect his future. I don't have a supportive partner to text when he does something amazing or not so amazing. To ME, that's solo parenting. Not taking care of the kids until hubby comes home from work.
I'm not at all trying to say that their lives arent hard or that mines harder I just think that to truly use the word solo, there shouldn't be another person in the picture that they can count on financially, emotionally, physically at the end of the day.
I agreed to disagree and apologized that my opinions hurt others, if they identify as solo parents, that's up to them. It was never my intention to hurt anyone's feelings but it keeps being brought up and wanted some opinions from other single moms.