Am I the only one who has started their registry (if you're doing one)? I'm thinking about starting a thread to get registry advice from the BTDT moms.
H and I have put off researching because of nerves but after Thursday's appt we are going to make a date night out of researching and starting. I'd LOVE a thread on "need it", "loved it", pass", "can wait till later" suggestions.
Am I the only one who has started their registry (if you're doing one)? I'm thinking about starting a thread to get registry advice from the BTDT moms.
I haven't officially started the registry yet but I have done a lot of research and I planned to start it this weekend. I agree a thread would be helpful.
Am I the only one who has started their registry (if you're doing one)? I'm thinking about starting a thread to get registry advice from the BTDT moms.
H and I have put off researching because of nerves but after Thursday's appt we are going to make a date night out of researching and starting. I'd LOVE a thread on "need it", "loved it", pass", "can wait till later" suggestions.
We won't need much this go-round but I am always up for discussing baby gear. There are a couple things I'd like to add to our collection.
My very first trip to BuyBuyBaby when I was pregnant with DS, I almost had a panic attack. SO overwhelming. I didn't go back for several months! SaveSave
My very first trip to BuyBuyBaby when I was pregnant with DS, I almost had a panic attack. SO overwhelming. I didn't go back for several months! SaveSave
This. I went to BRU at 25 weeks with DS and the only thing that saved me was realizing I could go back and change it online afterwards. Which is exactly what I did. If you keep that in mind you can just have fun with the gun and then refine your choices later.
DH and I have been researching what we want/need. We'll go through Babies R Us and Target together. (DH is good at managing my anxiety) DH wants to add stuff we don't need for baby just to get them and get the % back (i.e. Xbox One, Lego sets, etc) I just want the basics, bare necessities! Is anyone curtailing their registry with the holidays being around the corner? I don't know if we should or shouldn't. I figure most of the stuff on the registry will be bought for Christmas and my birthday (do birthday's stop being mine fore a year or two?)
Post by sweetmelissa5 on Jun 7, 2016 17:02:23 GMT -5
cheshie6, if the not-baby related items are things you'd probably get anyway (and if they are included in the discount), then I see no harm in adding them, but I'd wait until after any showers you're going to have before putting them on the registry. I've made private registries for all my kids for the discount, and I add things like car seats for the older kids and any other stuff I need for them, but since no one else is looking at/buying from those registries, I can pretty much do whatever I want without judgement.
sweetmelissa5, that is what's also hard! We don't want a baby shower at all! We were only registering because of the discounts/money back and to keep track of what we want/need most that should be bought new. I have been informed by my mom that a baby shower isn't up to me. My sister basically thinks she'll convince me later in my pregnancy!?! I feel like it's a lot to do 2 different registries for a shower I don't want. But yes, those are things we planned on getting anyway.
cheshie6 I would definitely make a registry, even if you don't plan on having a shower. I did a small-ish registry at BuyBuyBaby (40 or so items--which sounds like a lot until you see registries with literally hundreds of things) and one at PBK to get the discount for the furniture and bedding we picked out. As it turned out, we received all but a couple small items from our BBB registry, and even some of the PBK stuff.
I wasn't able to fly back to my hometown for a shower due to issues with my pregnancy, but all our friends and family still wanted to send baby gifts. People would ask my mom or just google it and presents started showing up. And of course our close family wanted to send 'big' gifts, like carseats, strollers, swing, etc.
I did have a tiny shower with 4 or 5 friends in KC--we had just moved there and knew next to no one--and I received quite a few gifts from those lovely ladies, as well. People just like picking out baby gifts, I've decided
So LSS, you could definitely ask for any baby gear you haven't yet received or purchased if ppl want bday or Christmas ideas, and refer people to the registry if they ask for specifics. DS was born Dec. 4 and my bday is 11/29 and none of my gifts were baby-related SaveSave
cheshie6 I have a December bday and Christmas and I think we got zero baby related items. A lot of things on registry you will want before the baby comes. If nothing else, add every baby thing you want to your registry so that people know what to shop for.
I'd only add non-baby stuff like the day before using the discount. I'd side eye a baby registry that had an xbox on it.
I'd also consider letting family throw you a shower. It doesn't have to be big or formal, but it's a tangible way for people to show how excited they are and when feeling blah, it's nice to get to see family and friends and be spoiled. People are going to send gifts regardless, and a lot of people like to give them in person to see your reaction.
I am not going to turn down a sprinkle if anyone offers, I love an excuse to see friends. I'm not expecting one by any means, but I think it'd be great to go to lunch with some friends and catch up before the craziness begins.
My very first trip to BuyBuyBaby when I was pregnant with DS, I almost had a panic attack. SO overwhelming. I didn't go back for several months! SaveSave
This. I went to BRU at 25 weeks with DS and the only thing that saved me was realizing I could go back and change it online afterwards. Which is exactly what I did. If you keep that in mind you can just have fun with the gun and then refine your choices later.
We went to BBB last week to walk around and try to get over the initial shock. We ended up signing up for a registry but we weren't really ready to actually register. We left with like 6things that I ended up deleting most off the next day anyway. I really like looking at things online instead. I also signed up for Amazon and have been trying to complete the checklist to get my welcome box.
I have no idea what we'll register for. We don't know if it's boy or girl and haven't done inventory on our baby stuff. We have the basics and safety gear so our greatest need will be newborn diapers.
htk1113, I have a mason jar that is 28 oz and I try to drink 4 of them a day. But my doctor told me that most drinks and juices have a lot of water in them and they count. I don't usually count them. When I'm at work I have a 48 oz Nalgene bottle and just try to drink 8oz an hour while there. I try to make a game out of it.
So I'm definitely adding black out blinds to the nursery list. I need to get new blinds and curtains anyway. That room is facing the back of the house which gets the first sun of the day, bright and early in the summer months.
cheshie6 I have a December bday and Christmas and I think we got zero baby related items. A lot of things on registry you will want before the baby comes. If nothing else, add every baby thing you want to your registry so that people know what to shop for.
I'd only add non-baby stuff like the day before using the discount. I'd side eye a baby registry that had an xbox on it.
H thought it was funny to add an Xbox and a pair of baby booties to our wedding registry years ago. I had NO idea until we went back to pick up some things that weren't bought by others and they gave us the printout of what was left. It was hilarious but at the same time I was like you better hope these people knew that was a joke.
aggiebug, There's a lot of reasons I don't want a shower! The biggest one for me, is my friends are spread out throughout the country (and world) because most are sailors and we lived on the west coast for 8 years. Even my family and IL's are spread throughout most the Eastern seaboard (Maine to Georgia). I feel like logistically , it's asking a lot of people to mostly fly/drive from all over for a party where the biggest element to the party is the present opening. If someone from Seattle were to buy tickets today for an October baby shower, it would cost over $800 round trip, who knows how much for a hotel, and potentially a car. Then lets throw a present on top of that because that's usually one of the biggest elements to a baby shower? Where will these parties be? (Here in NH or in NJ, 3 different locations) How many parties will there be? (3-4 small ones!?! 1-2 big ones) Will enough people be able to come to make it worth while? (Even for a few baby showers)
I don't like some of the games and I definitely don't like being the center of attention. Another big reason is I don't think my sister would ask me what I'd like! I like parties but I'd prefer a BBQ or Lobster Bake like party, a jack-n-jill type party with people getting together to celebrate the growth of a family. (I know even in that situation, I'll still be the center of attention mostly, but it's not as obvious) The "cheesy games" are garden games like lawn croquet, horseshoes, a table set up for dominoes or hearts, etc. A place where the gifts aren't the center of attention but the relationships are. A place where both families can discuss their excitement, ask questions, get to know each other better as future grandmas and grandpas. Maybe even discuss really important family traditions they hope we carry on.
cheshie6 I totally get all of that. All of it. Showers are a strange beast and and a lot of it that isn't all fun imo. Would you be able to say something like I don't want a shower but a family bbq this summer celebrating the baby would be OK? I know some families just don't listen and that wouldn't work, but it also sounds like they already aren't listening so maybe giving in a teensy bit and giving them a defined plan might make it easier for you? I am sorry they are making it hard.
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