Going to the beer festival with baby yesterday like we do every year - I used to juge parents with babies saying snide comments like "Not appropriate for a kid", " they don't even seem to have fun", "Blabla giant strollers".
Going to the beer festival with baby yesterday like we do every year - I used to juge parents with babies saying snide comments like "Not appropriate for a kid", " they don't even seem to have fun", "Blabla giant strollers".
Now you know, all those parents are just trying to get their drink on and feel a little bit like a human for a few hours!
I have not been to my office a single day this week. Monday and Tuesday Master R was sick. Yesterday I had my FET, which is a full day of travel and doctor. Last night Miss G had a fever, so she is home today despite seeming fine. Master R is also sleeping in his crib since he threw up phlegm a couple of times this morning (got both parents) and just wanted to go back to bed. I may take him to daycare later if he seems to be doing better.
I've been working from home as much as possible. I'm on my laptop with a sleeping baby in a ring sling right now, for instance, and I was on remote desktop on my cell phone on our drive back yesterday when we stopped for gas. Technically telecommuting is not allowed. I'm going to keep doing what I need to to care for my kids until I get in trouble for it. If I don't miss deadlines, I don't see the problem. Better to ask for forgiveness than permission, right?
I have also not been to class this week. I'm glad they record the lectures.
Maybe I'll go to work tomorrow. Or even be ambitious and go to class today. If MH can get away from work. He's on a tight deadline for a high-profile project.
While shopping for cute French clothes for Cal I also bought a cute tiny little newborn onesie. H side eyed me. I almost side eyed myself, I don't want a newborn right now!
nomnom, how did the FET go? Is that even an appropriate question? I'm so rooting for you!
AFM, I'm stuck in first trimester hell. So nauseous and tired all.the.time. And C has decided to start her 9 month regression. I think I've finally made with starting to wean. Even though this ain't how I envisioned breastfeeding ending I'm more okay with it than I was.
nomnom , how did the FET go? Is that even an appropriate question? I'm so rooting for you!
AFM, I'm stuck in first trimester hell. So nauseous and tired all.the.time. And C has decided to start her 9 month regression. I think I've finally made with starting to wean. Even though this ain't how I envisioned breastfeeding ending I'm more okay with it than I was.
sandj918 Not much to say about an FET right afterwards. The doctor was abrasive as usual and ran about 50 minutes late. Then they put back two embryos. Now I wait. So far it's going well :-). How are you doing? Maybe we can compare notes soon.
Going to the beer festival with baby yesterday like we do every year - I used to juge parents with babies saying snide comments like "Not appropriate for a kid", " they don't even seem to have fun", "Blabla giant strollers".
I'm the judgiest person I know :/ (my sister might be a tie)
I am actively trying not to, but it's hard, really hard.
Then I get anxiety because I feel like everyone is judging me.
It's terrible, I wish I could stop caring about it all.
Post by jessiespano on Jun 9, 2016 11:56:08 GMT -5
I can say that my participation has dropped here due to living with others and the kids getting older, plus I'm busy working on life goals. I check in all day- but don't post much because I feel like I have a limited mental capacity. This is usually a hard "age" for BMBs, as the babies are into everything and working parents are back in full swing. Most boards go through ebbs and flows.
I can say that my participation has dropped here due to living with others and the kids getting older, plus I'm busy working on life goals. I check in all day- but don't post much because I feel like I have a limited mental capacity. This is usually a hard "age" for BMBs, as the babies are into everything and working parents are back in full swing. Most boards go through ebbs and flows.
I totally get that I just don't want to see this place die.
After my bump bmb moved to FB the board became a ghost town.
+2 but weirdly I'm more comfortable sharing pictures of my kids on FB.
Absolutely this. I like having more control on FB even though pictures can still be saved and/or shared. I wish they would add a feature where this can be restricted.
I'm the judgiest person I know :/ (my sister might be a tie)
I am actively trying not to, but it's hard, really hard.
Then I get anxiety because I feel like everyone is judging me.
It's terrible, I wish I could stop caring about it all.
I have a friend that has a completely different parenting style than me, and I can never decide if I feel judgey, jealous or some combination. Her son has spent one to two nights a week, every week, since he was one month old at her in-laws place. He just turned one, and her and her husband took off to the Dominican for a week and left the baby with her mom. I feel glued by the boob to my baby. Her kid seems happy, so I know I shouldn't judge. It is good she has that kid of family network available to help.
I'm pissed at my inlaws for doing nothing for A's birthday. My SIL, BIL and their kids each get a "party" with balloons and streamers and party plates and hats at the grandparents house. This is in addition to whatever traditional party SIL/BIL throw for the kids themselves.
Glen, A and M went there on Wednesday (which they do every single week). There were balloons on the mail box so Glen commented to A when they pulled in "looks like mom mom has a party for you!" A was so excited. Nope, balloons were to celebrate end of school for my nephews. Needless to say, Glen A and I were individually upset. The disparity among the grandchildren is appalling and hurtful.
Nevermind that M has yet to actually get a gift from my inlaws of any kind, whatsoever. Unless you count the 4T coat at Christmas that was clearly meant for A and passed off to M.
I realize this sounds petty and greedy but I'm still bitter.
I'm the judgiest person I know :/ (my sister might be a tie)
I am actively trying not to, but it's hard, really hard.
Then I get anxiety because I feel like everyone is judging me.
It's terrible, I wish I could stop caring about it all.
I have a friend that has a completely different parenting style than me, and I can never decide if I feel judgey, jealous or some combination. Her son has spent one to two nights a week, every week, since he was one month old at her in-laws place. He just turned one, and her and her husband took off to the Dominican for a week and left the baby with her mom. I feel glued by the boob to my baby. Her kid seems happy, so I know I shouldn't judge. It is good she has that kid of family network available to help.
I have a lot of pent up jealousy and resentment to friends and family that have a lot of support and help. I try to just accept things and be happy for our independence and all that. But it's hard seeing my cousin go on fun dates with her husband every week and see my SIL go to concerts.
I'm pissed at my inlaws for doing nothing for A's birthday. My SIL, BIL and their kids each get a "party" with balloons and streamers and party plates and hats at the grandparents house. This is in addition to whatever traditional party SIL/BIL throw for the kids themselves.
Glen, A and M went there on Wednesday (which they do every single week). There were balloons on the mail box so Glen commented to A when they pulled in "looks like mom mom has a party for you!" A was so excited. Nope, balloons were to celebrate end of school for my nephews. Needless to say, Glen A and I were individually upset. The disparity among the grandchildren is appalling and hurtful.
Nevermind that M has yet to actually get a gift from my inlaws of any kind, whatsoever. Unless you count the 4T coat at Christmas that was clearly meant for A and passed off to M.
I realize this sounds petty and greedy but I'm still bitter.
It doesn't sound petty or greedy. That is so hurtful I want to smack your inlaws. Your husband should read them the riot act.
cocopuff I don't think it is petty. My ILs, especially MIL, favour our nephew.
On the one hand, I get it. My BIL and SIL have a very complicated situation, and as a result my in-laws are extremely close to my nephew and care for him a lot more directly. They need help, so get more attention.
On the other hand, it would be nice to be able to talk to MIL about A and not have the conversation turn to my nephew. It would be nice if they asked about her upfront instead of having me add on an update after a mile-long text about our nephew.
I'm the judgiest person I know :/ (my sister might be a tie)
I am actively trying not to, but it's hard, really hard.
Then I get anxiety because I feel like everyone is judging me.
It's terrible, I wish I could stop caring about it all.
I have a friend that has a completely different parenting style than me, and I can never decide if I feel judgey, jealous or some combination. Her son has spent one to two nights a week, every week, since he was one month old at her in-laws place. He just turned one, and her and her husband took off to the Dominican for a week and left the baby with her mom. I feel glued by the boob to my baby. Her kid seems happy, so I know I shouldn't judge. It is good she has that kid of family network available to help.
I'm pissed at my inlaws for doing nothing for A's birthday. My SIL, BIL and their kids each get a "party" with balloons and streamers and party plates and hats at the grandparents house. This is in addition to whatever traditional party SIL/BIL throw for the kids themselves.
Glen, A and M went there on Wednesday (which they do every single week). There were balloons on the mail box so Glen commented to A when they pulled in "looks like mom mom has a party for you!" A was so excited. Nope, balloons were to celebrate end of school for my nephews. Needless to say, Glen A and I were individually upset. The disparity among the grandchildren is appalling and hurtful.
Nevermind that M has yet to actually get a gift from my inlaws of any kind, whatsoever. Unless you count the 4T coat at Christmas that was clearly meant for A and passed off to M.
I realize this sounds petty and greedy but I'm still bitter.
Wow, your ILs are assholes. I would be pissed too!
I have a friend that has a completely different parenting style than me, and I can never decide if I feel judgey, jealous or some combination. Her son has spent one to two nights a week, every week, since he was one month old at her in-laws place. He just turned one, and her and her husband took off to the Dominican for a week and left the baby with her mom. I feel glued by the boob to my baby. Her kid seems happy, so I know I shouldn't judge. It is good she has that kid of family network available to help.
I would definitely judge and be jealous of that.
We get very little help from family or friends.
Same
I'm jealous of my cousin. My aunt takes their kid every weekend. I wish my mom would take my kids more, but she probably won't till they are older.
Also my SIL just had her baby and she is all out and about making hair appointments, going to get her nails done. I'll never get anytime away from the kids during the day unless H takes time off for me to do so.
cocopuff I don't think it is petty. My ILs, especially MIL, favour our nephew.
On the one hand, I get it. My BIL and SIL have a very complicated situation, and as a result my in-laws are extremely close to my nephew and care for him a lot more directly. They need help, so get more attention.
On the other hand, it would be nice to be able to talk to MIL about A and not have the conversation turn to my nephew. It would be nice if they asked about her upfront instead of having me add on an update after a mile-long text about our nephew.
It just stings sometimes.
Same here. They watch my 3 nephews 3 days per week, so I get that they are very close. But Glen makes a point of taking the girls to their house once a week to foster a relationship and A ADORES her pop-pop.
It's just ridiculous that we are there every month celebrating someone's birthday and my MIL makes a huge stink about the colors and napkins and all that and how much thought she put into it for whomever we are celebrating.
They've been dubbing their house "camp in-laws" for the summer since the older nephews are out of school and thus there all day. So that was the balloons, apparently. Poor A came running in yelling "you got me balloons!!" FIL actually said "no A, they are for the boys."
my SIL does not acknowledge and vehemently denies that her parents do more for her family than ours. it's been an ongoing issue for YEARS. Even not speaking for several months didn't change it. I just get more upset now because of how it affects my kids.
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