Post by littleredfish on Jun 10, 2016 15:46:48 GMT -5
I'm watching Harry Potter with DD1 and loving it DH is getting promoted next week. It's just him so it will last like 15 mins. I have no idea what to wear. He's always been promoted while he's been away on some sort of training.
I have comments for everyone, so I better just consolidate-
littleredfish : I feel you. C has been the same way lately. He really just wants to hang off me all the time. Its getting old. I perpetuate it by letting him co-sleep. Path of least resistance. Sigh. pearlvirus : Personally, I probably wouldnt let my DH and DD go for a week. I don't think I could handle not seeing her for that long. younglove316 : what is a Jew restaurant?
Ugh! That would be my phone changing it, was supposed to say new.
Post by littleredfish on Jun 10, 2016 22:37:12 GMT -5
So DH just asked me about my plans with the kids tomorrow because he plans to go watch soccer with his buddies tomorrow after lunch. I was aware of his plan and basically fine with it but I had a pang of hope that he was actually interested in going to the pool with us in the morning to see how DD1 is progressing and how DD2 loves the water because he's never seen her in the pool; then he could go to his thing after. Nope, he was just hoping for a ride so he can drink. It actually hurt, like in my chest. I don't know how to get him interested in doing things with us. It's not that I wish I was going drinking with friends, I actually love going swimming with the kids. I'm just tired of feeling like I have to twist his arm to get him to do anything with us. So disappointed right now.
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I'm sorry littleredfish I can only imagine how hurtful that must be. Have you talked to him about it? My BIL is the same way and no matter what my SIL says, it doesn't change things. I feel for you. Lots of hugs!
We've talked about it a lot. He's not very social so he doesn't like getting out in social settings or places with big crowds. I try to accommodate for that but I feel like he has to try for us too and even when I do make low key plans he's not into that either. I just get to the point where I'm tired of feeling like I'm nagging him or forcing him to spend time with us.
Post by sunfrogger88 on Jun 11, 2016 17:53:18 GMT -5
littleredfish I'm so sorry. I would take those opportunities to tell him exactly what you're up to and invite him along, the girls would love Daddy there, etc. Hugs.
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We've talked about it a lot. He's not very social so he doesn't like getting out in social settings or places with big crowds. I try to accommodate for that but I feel like he has to try for us too and even when I do make low key plans he's not into that either. I just get to the point where I'm tired of feeling like I'm nagging him or forcing him to spend time with us.
It sounds like he's just making excuses to be able to go do his own thing or get out of doing things he thinks he might not enjoy. I hope that's okay to say. I don't want to be hurtful. Its sad that he doesn't want to spend time with his own family. I'm sorry that you're in that position. He's definitely missing out on special moments and memories. I hope somehow his eyes are opened to that in the future. Lots of hugs!
Not hurtful, it's totally true. Over the weekend we were going to go swimming then at the last minute he says he has a headache and goes downstairs to play video games. When he does do things with us I make a big deal about how great it is and he says things like he wants to do more but every time I ask he makes it seem like a burden that he has to even think about it.
Then he comes home tonight after being gone all day and gives DD1 ice cream and strawberries before supper. So he gets to be gone all day and still the hero.
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