I also had so many feels going back and looking at my charts from July-December 2014. We're not planning to TFAS just yet, but I want to start tracking my cycles so that come September-ish I'll have a better idea where I'm at. We figured out our timeline that I'm going to write the MCAT summer 2017 and apply for med school start September 2018. We also decided to have baby #2 before I start university otherwise it would be about 6 years between babies.
Hoping for #2 to be born sometime between June-September 2017 so they'll be 1 by the time I start med school (if I get accepted). This is so scary and exciting!
We have similar timelines, though I am refusing to admit that out loud. I am back to work in spring 2019, so if we have a second I would like it to be a year, if not 18 months, at that time for day care reasons.
Yay Maybe we'll be BMB buddies again!!
I'm super excited but also really scared. I was so sick and pregnancy was so hard on my body and I can't imagine going through it again with a 1 year old. I feel like I will miss out on making memories with her because I'll be too exhausted or nauseous. I know those are totally irrational thoughts, and next pregnancy could be night and day different. But it's still scary to think about shaking up our little world. SaveSave
I also had so many feels going back and looking at my charts from July-December 2014. We're not planning to TFAS just yet, but I want to start tracking my cycles so that come September-ish I'll have a better idea where I'm at. We figured out our timeline that I'm going to write the MCAT summer 2017 and apply for med school start September 2018. We also decided to have baby #2 before I start university otherwise it would be about 6 years between babies.
Hoping for #2 to be born sometime between June-September 2017 so they'll be 1 by the time I start med school (if I get accepted). This is so scary and exciting!
Having a second born between June and September 2017 would be my ideal scenario as well but not for med school reasons obviously.. You really can do it all eh??
Like London I don't even want to admit it out loud. I know I will have to wean her soon if I want to have a chance at that timing but I'm feeling major guilt since she seems like she really enjoys breastfeeding still...
Just got back from the pedi. Got a referral to an allergist. Soonest appt is late August. But we did get a script for an epi to have just in case.
He definitely grew a lot since his 6 month visit.
I had a nice brunch with my friend this morning. We left Z home with H and the ILs. It was nice to have adult conversation. Even if we talked work drama stuff for most of the time.
We have similar timelines, though I am refusing to admit that out loud. I am back to work in spring 2019, so if we have a second I would like it to be a year, if not 18 months, at that time for day care reasons.
Yay Maybe we'll be BMB buddies again!!
I'm super excited but also really scared. I was so sick and pregnancy was so hard on my body and I can't imagine going through it again with a 1 year old. I feel like I will miss out on making memories with her because I'll be too exhausted or nauseous. I know those are totally irrational thoughts, and next pregnancy could be night and day different. But it's still scary to think about shaking up our little world. SaveSave
I think those fears are super rational. As are my fears of having two babies refusing to nap at the same time.
House update: Tomorrow's inspection will be just the inspector. The buyers have no desire to be there for 4 hours on a Saturday, and their agent has no desire to be there either. Hopefully their inspector isn't ridiculously unreasonable with what he sees as "issues." I'm still dreading getting the report.
Also, we learned that since this is an FHA loan, our house absolutely has to appraise for a certain value otherwise they won't provide the loan to the buyers. Holy shit. I wish they were using a conventional mortgage company, but they don't want to put any money down so...
What usually happens if it doesn't appraise for the agreed upon price is that they'll renegotiate for the appraised value. It shouldn't be a huge deal but I'm hoping that it all goes through smoothly.
I just got an email where someone used the word "fatarnity." It was in reference to the "Fatarnal Order of Classey Gentalmen." I wish they were just random typos, but the words were mispelled the same way more than once. I'm judging so hard.
Thanks emejay. Maybe we should revisit sleep training. When we did it before she would cry so much during MOTN wake ups that she would end up being awake for hours sometimes beause she would get so worked up and be hard to settle. So, we stopped because the thought of getting even less sleep than we were already getting was too much to handle. Then, she started teething. But, maybe we need to try again. Thanks.
This won't be what you want to hear- but that doesn't sound abnormal to me. Just as some babies are standing and some are potted plants at this age, some babies sleep well, some don't!
My second baby had never slept a 5 hour stretch until he was 15 months old. Then it clicked and by 18 months he was mostly STTN.
My opinion is if your baby is waking up & wanting to nurse (and isn't easily responding to sleep training) she probably needs you even if she doesn't need actual food. BUT you know what's right for your baby girl. I have never sleep trained any of my kids because it's just not my jam, so take my opinion with that in mind! :-)
Best of luck! Any way you slice it, no sleep is tough!!! (But it really is temporary even though it doesn't feel like it!) :-)
Thanks emejay. Maybe we should revisit sleep training. When we did it before she would cry so much during MOTN wake ups that she would end up being awake for hours sometimes beause she would get so worked up and be hard to settle. So, we stopped because the thought of getting even less sleep than we were already getting was too much to handle. Then, she started teething. But, maybe we need to try again. Thanks.
Have you noticed her trying to self-soothe when she is tired? Rocking her head back and forth, trying to suck her thumb, making deep guttural sounds (like aaaarrrrrgghhh). For us, these were big signs that A very much wanted to fall asleep, and sleep "training" was an opportunity for us to let her practice these things. Basically, they were cues that helped us know she was ready.
Getting her to fall asleep was easier than getting her to go back to sleep MOTN, but eventually she learned what techniques helped her fall back to sleep.
estakis my big is a terrible sleeper. He has sttn maybe 6 times ever, and most of those were fory parents. I consider sttn bedtime to at least 4/5 am.
I nursed him to 16 months at bed and every wake up. It was a choice I made and it was great sometimes awful other times. I will say even after he stopped nursing to sleep he needs someone to help get to sleep and he wakes up multiple times a night at 2.5. This all works OK for my family, but I just share to see if that looks like it would work for your family. If not, I'd try sleep training again.
Also, some kids will just start sttn on their own. So you never know.
Also this is rambling but I'm in teething hell. Hugs!
This is exactly my experience with A. He is turning 3 in a few days and still needs help (cuddles) going to sleep. He often wakes up MOTN. It sucks sometimes, especially when I am tired or stressed and just want some alone time before I go to bed and instead I have to spend that time putting him to bed, but overall it works for us. At some point I will be wishing I had that cuddle time back.
My regional boss asked me to call about the position I went for and had talked about money and timelines. I was supposed to get an offer letter when I returned but he informed me that the positions have been put on hold for now because of freezes. We are going through a major merger, you may have seen it in the news. And I'm not even allowed to put any charges on my p card. I don't care, I'm off the month of June, but this is a punch to the gut. He thinks it may just be until this quarter is done June 24th but can't give me any certainties. This is partly why I dislike working for a huge corporate company.
Also before we left my future SIL asked me and my sister to be bridesmaids in her wedding. I wasn't expecting it, but knew my son and daughter were going to be ring bearer/flower girl. So I said yes of course. Now it's been unending messenger convos with the other 5 BM's. The shower is going to cost a lot because there are like 150 guests. She has millions of friends and is literally the nicest most outgoing person I know, so I'm not meaning to totally bitch. My brother has actually had to tell her to decline wedding invites because they can't afford to go to all the weddings she's invited to. I think she has a ridiculous amount of God children. I don't know how she does it. But now I will have certain outfits for my kids and me to purchase. A bachelorette getaway to the finger lakes or something, the shower is in September. Which is also going to be DD's big 1st birthday! And it's just feeling overwhelming. I keep wishing she hadn't asked, and not sure why she waited so long to do so. They got engaged last Christmas.
And somehow on top of all of this we are doing renovations and still on the lookout for a bigger house with a yard in our town. And not sleeping.
hovenb - she does like to be held when she sleeps. I'll keep the Dockatot in mind!
eliza040502 - she does fall asleep while nursing. I do think this is a big part of the problem. She won't take a paci so we don't have that problem, but nursing is definitely a sleep crutch.
ntaylor989 - I hope C will just start STTN on her own. I've begun to accept that she's just a terrible sleeper
greatkate76 - thanks. I think this is why I struggle with sleep training a bit. On one hand I know she needs to learn how to fall asleep. On the other hand I think she must need/want me for something, comfort, etc. I think I just get overwhelmed in my sleep deprivation sometimes and wish there was a clear cut solution.
London - she does self soothe sometimes in the car. She'll suck on her fingers. She can put herself to sleep in the car. So that makes me believe she should be able to elsewhere.
So, all that to say - I feel scattered. I'm going to talk to DH about maybe trying some sleep training at bedtime and seeing how she responds. Thanks again for the support. When I talk to friends about it I feel like our situation is abnormal since all my friends seem to have unicorn babies that STTN at a super young age. Babies are hard. Sleep deprivation sucks!
hovenb - she does like to be held when she sleeps. I'll keep the Dockatot in mind!
eliza040502 - she does fall asleep while nursing. I do think this is a big part of the problem. She won't take a paci so we don't have that problem, but nursing is definitely a sleep crutch.
ntaylor989 - I hope C will just start STTN on her own. I've begun to accept that she's just a terrible sleeper
greatkate76 - thanks. I think this is why I struggle with sleep training a bit. On one hand I know she needs to learn how to fall asleep. On the other hand I think she must need/want me for something, comfort, etc. I think I just get overwhelmed in my sleep deprivation sometimes and wish there was a clear cut solution.
London - she does self soothe sometimes in the car. She'll suck on her fingers. She can put herself to sleep in the car. So that makes me believe she should be able to elsewhere.
So, all that to say - I feel scattered. I'm going to talk to DH about maybe trying some sleep training at bedtime and seeing how she responds. Thanks again for the support. When I talk to friends about it I feel like our situation is abnormal since all my friends seem to have unicorn babies that STTN at a super young age. Babies are hard. Sleep deprivation sucks!
So DD1 didn't sleep through the night until I weaned at 13 months. But by this she she was down to 1 wake up. I've weaned DD2 down to 2 wake ups and I'm hoping she drops to 1 on her own bc the idea of sleep training at 2 am doesn't sound fun.
With that being said - how long do you let her cry before going up? I let DD2 go 10 minutes before going up. Sometimes she falls back asleep and if she doesn't I go up and nurse. DD2 sucks on her blankie and honestly her crying is sometimes a way to self soothe.
britbratjf - well, after we strayed from sleep training, we really don't let her cry long at all. When she wakes up she immediately sits up and then doesn't know how (or doesn't want to?) lay back down. So she just becomes hysterical if we let her be. If we don't come in quickly, she tries to stand up.
Today was teething hell (he's currently at 0 teeth but about to be 2 or 3 based on what I see/feel) and I'm solo parenting thru tomorrow night.
Send margaritas.
Hugs! I'm right there with you. Z's working on 4 top teeth, 2 are through, but still have a long way to go. He but me so much today. Throw a shot in there as well and I'm guessing sleep will not be fun tonight.
I'm going to whine about my son's hemangioma. I know there are so many worse things to have, but I just got back from a company party and literally every person is first like, "oh my god what happened to his head?" And then "oh he's cute." I just wish people could see him the way I see him and not see his big red bump on his head first. pic for reference :
hovenb People are the worst sometimes. Though not the same, I had a lot of annoying, pedestrian comments when A had her legs braced in her hip harness for 12 weeks. Ranging from "omg what's the matter with her?" to "I'm sure she will grow up and be normal."
Your son is adorable and people are dumb. In that order.
hovenb People are the worst sometimes. Though not the same, I had a lot of annoying, pedestrian comments when A had her legs braced in her hip harness for 12 weeks. Ranging from "omg what's the matter with her?" to "I'm sure she will grow up and be normal."
Your son is adorable and people are dumb. In that order.
Thank you. I can imagine that legs being braced or babies wearing helmets feel similarly. I try to just accept it, but it still makes me sad.
Eta; actually, those two things are more difficult because they actually need medical attention...so I shouldn't group them in the same category.
I'm super excited but also really scared. I was so sick and pregnancy was so hard on my body and I can't imagine going through it again with a 1 year old. I feel like I will miss out on making memories with her because I'll be too exhausted or nauseous. I know those are totally irrational thoughts, and next pregnancy could be night and day different. But it's still scary to think about shaking up our little world. SaveSave
I think those fears are super rational. As are my fears of having two babies refusing to nap at the same time.
hovenb People are the worst sometimes. Though not the same, I had a lot of annoying, pedestrian comments when A had her legs braced in her hip harness for 12 weeks. Ranging from "omg what's the matter with her?" to "I'm sure she will grow up and be normal."
Your son is adorable and people are dumb. In that order.
Thank you. I can imagine that legs being braced or babies wearing helmets feel similarly. I try to just accept it, but it still makes me sad.
Eta; actually, those two things are more difficult because they actually need medical attention...so I shouldn't group them in the same category.
Yes they are a medical thing, but they're also temporary. Which, in some ways, so is the especial obviousness of the hemangioma. Soon your LO is going to have a ton of hair (and, from he looks of it, it will be luscious blonde tresses!) and the bump won't be so obvious.
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