sophiegrace That's the worst.. Is she internet savvy? If not, I'd just tell her there are so many reports and recalls and issues these days that everything has to be checked in to and could possible result in its return to her, not to be offended.
I'm so over the general "myyy grandkids" sentiment. MIL is this way but somehow I've managed to keep her at bay for the past couple months. Maybe it's the FTM selfishness in me lol.
I'm trying to come up with a very nice way to tell my mother to not waste her money on "buying whatever I (she) wants because I'm the nana". No. I'm the mom. And I'm strangely into researching all things before they come into my house. I have a registry for a reason and that sucker took weeks to put together. If I wanted something else, it would already be on there. To say this in such a way that won't offend her for the next month is the challenge. I never quite know what it is that'll make her mad on any given day.
Not entirely on point, but I had somewhat related issues come up with my mom when I was pregnant with my son.
One day she posted on FB a picture of a cradle that she got second hand from a friend of hers, and was gloating about the baby having a place to sleep when he comes to visit his grandparents in NJ. Apparently the thing used to belong to the friend's niece, who was born in the early 90's. I was like you've got to be kidding me because first of all you didn't even ask me and second of all, no, my baby will not be sleeping in that.
Also she was one of the ones who wouldn't stfu about giving DS rice cereal "to help him sleep." This started when he was only 6 weeks old and no matter how many times I told her that I was not going to give him any food for at *least* 4 months but closer to 6, that the pediatrician didn't recommend it, that he was EBF (and it's natural that he'll be hungry more often), she kept on and on about it. It was to the point where she offered to babysit one night so DH and I could go out to dinner and we weren't sure if we should go because we were afraid she might sneak him some cereal while we were out.
Written down in my notes to self for when I (hopefully) am a grandparent one day: you had your chance. Now sit back and let them have their turn to be parents. Also, butt out.
sophiegrace, I'm sorry you going through that! I second kleigh's sentiments. Why do grandparents have the "well I'm grandma/pa so..." like that means they can do whatever they want?
My parents are fine and my ILs aren't too bad, although my MIL did want to buy an ancient crib from a friend of hers to use when we visit. I was prepared for a mess but she backed down once I talked to her about the drop-down sides, etc. They have plenty of money, she could easily go down to Walmart or Target and buy something decent--I don't get the allure of the old hand-me-downs!
Not entirely on point, but I had somewhat related issues come up with my mom when I was pregnant with my son.
One day she posted on FB a picture of a cradle that she got second hand from a friend of hers, and was gloating about the baby having a place to sleep when he comes to visit his grandparents in NJ. Apparently the thing used to belong to the friend's niece, who was born in the early 90's. I was like you've got to be kidding me because first of all you didn't even ask me and second of all, no, my baby will not be sleeping in that.
Also she was one of the ones who wouldn't stfu about giving DS rice cereal "to help him sleep." This started when he was only 6 weeks old and no matter how many times I told her that I was not going to give him any food for at *least* 4 months but closer to 6, that the pediatrician didn't recommend it, that he was EBF (and it's natural that he'll be hungry more often), she kept on and on about it. It was to the point where she offered to babysit one night so DH and I could go out to dinner and we weren't sure if we should go because we were afraid she might sneak him some cereal while we were out.
Written down in my notes to self for when I (hopefully) am a grandparent one day: you had your chance. Now sit back and let them have their turn to be parents. Also, butt out.
We also had a fight with MIL over rice cereal. We did BLW and she just *knew* he'd choke and be seriously injured by it. We told her flat out no, we didn't want it. Next thing we know she returns from the grocery store with a box of it "just in case we wanted to try it."
Thankfully for the most part our parents are pretty good at letting us parent. Although I do hear the 'we never baby proofed our house I just redirected' type comments. I just laugh to myself and know they are remembering toddlerhood through rose colored glasses. Especially when it's followed by 'gosh she is just so busy and so quick' umm yup and honestly I know she could be worse!
Thankfully for the most part our parents are pretty good at letting us parent. Although I do hear the 'we never baby proofed our house I just redirected' type comments. I just laugh to myself and know they are remembering toddlerhood through rose colored glasses. Especially when it's followed by 'gosh she is just so busy and so quick' umm yup and honestly I know she could be worse!
This! I think we all do this though, and by the time our parents become grandparents, they've been so far removed from the baby stuff they only remember highlights! My mom has been good about not making suggestions to my sister so I hope she's the same with me.
I also wonder, I don't remember my mom house proofing out apartment, how old are these protections? My mom was the redirecting parent! What did they use to baby proof back in the day!?! LOL
Post by shedreamsincolor on Jun 15, 2016 21:09:32 GMT -5
We have some pretty hilarious/terrible grandparents stories. My parents gave us this "bath ring" for DS when he was like 6 months that was from when I was an infant. Googled it before using and found out they had been discontinued in the late 80s after a bunch of kids drowned. Soooooo yeah. That went in the trash. My MIL didn't breastfeed any of her kids (no judgement, just trying to explain why it bugs me so much) and both she and FIL would go on and on about how often DS would eat and was I sure he was getting enough? It about killed me (I had oversupply, the poor kid was like drowning in my milk.....I probably should have told them that to get them to STFU lol).
Thankfully for the most part our parents are pretty good at letting us parent. Although I do hear the 'we never baby proofed our house I just redirected' type comments. I just laugh to myself and know they are remembering toddlerhood through rose colored glasses. Especially when it's followed by 'gosh she is just so busy and so quick' umm yup and honestly I know she could be worse!
Haha. I baby-proofed (within reason) and still did/do plenty of redirecting. I don't think it's an either/or
shedreamsincolor, going back another generation, my grandmother's mind was completely boggled by breastfeeding. She couldn't understand how I could do that since there's no way to know how much he was getting in each feeding. I tried to explain that he eats when he's hungry and stops when he's full and as long as he's gaining weight he's getting enough, but she was having none of that haha!
I guess in the area she lived when she was having babies (from the late 40's to late 50's), the nurses used to come around the maternity wards and tape down the new moms' boobs so that their milk wouldn't come in. At that time the attitude was that breastfeeding was what poor women did. And we all know the majority of them drank and smoked through their pregnancies too!
Really it's pretty amazing how things have changed over the past few generations with regard to all things child-related.
Thankfully for the most part our parents are pretty good at letting us parent. Although I do hear the 'we never baby proofed our house I just redirected' type comments. I just laugh to myself and know they are remembering toddlerhood through rose colored glasses. Especially when it's followed by 'gosh she is just so busy and so quick' umm yup and honestly I know she could be worse!
Haha. I baby-proofed (within reason) and still did/do plenty of redirecting. I don't think it's an either/or
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Me too. I have the under the sink locked because chemicals and our spice cabinet which is low locked. Dd can get into Tupperware and pots and pans. I redirect a lot!
cheshie6 lol yeah I think they probably baby proofed but it was different. Maybe they had some basic locks but things were moved. Toxic stuff when up, door shut you off from rooms that had more hazzards and glass wasn't left out on the coffee table kinda thing. That's still baby proofing. You can't tell me a parent would leave a glass vase within reach of toddler fingers and just redirect all day long forever. I mean come on then they get old enough to rough house/ throw stuff it's just silly.
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