I think I understand where you're coming from ldubhawksfan. I'm not as challenged as I have been in previous jobs but I also don't think this is a good time for me to look for something else. I've got a lot of flexibility here and an easy commute- things I value while my littles are so young. But of course the flip side is like you mentioned, wondering about your worth.
I do value the flexibility, but I wonder now how long I've been letting my unsatisfaction with the content of my workload continue because of that flexibility. Frankly, I don't think it's just been since having DD or even pregnancy. I think it goes all the way back to my loss and IF. It changed me. I honestly don't know what I want, and that scares me because I've always been driven. Sorry, now I'm just babbling.
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
I need to get this off my chest....I'm worried about MH. He's had flu like symptoms for about 3weeks now. He went to UC 1.5weeks ago (the same one that gave C a clean bill of health). They did a strep test and flu test and both came back neg. He went to his dr today bc he's still not well. They're going to do some blood tests which we'll know the results to in a few days. Just guessing, the dr says it sounds like Lyme disease so she put him on abx just in case. Of course, I'm spiraling and going crazy.
Oh gosh! Fx it's not that but I would be scared too!
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
I think I understand where you're coming from ldubhawksfan . I'm not as challenged as I have been in previous jobs but I also don't think this is a good time for me to look for something else. I've got a lot of flexibility here and an easy commute- things I value while my littles are so young. But of course the flip side is like you mentioned, wondering about your worth.
I do value the flexibility, but I wonder now how long I've been letting my unsatisfaction with the content of my workload continue because of that flexibility. Frankly, I don't think it's just been since having DD or even pregnancy. I think it goes all the way back to my loss and IF. It changed me. I honestly don't know what I want, and that scares me because I've always been driven. Sorry, now I'm just babbling.
I felt like this all throughout pregnancy. I wasn't being challenged and my workload was slim to none. I know my supervisor was cognizant of my pregnancy and what not, but it felt like such a waste of time to come into work. I'm so much happier being busy and challenged. Thankfully I haven't had to sacrifice much flexibility, but I do have a crap commute (but, that's just par for the course around here). There is something to be said about being a happier person when you're content at work. If I have to be here, I want to be doing a the job and doing it well.
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
TTC #1: March 2014 Dx: MFI Medicated IUI #1: March 2015-BFP Baby Girl born 11/5/2015! TTC #2: August 2016 Medicated IUI #1: Feb 2017-BFN Medicated IUI #2: March 2017-BFP Baby Boy expected Dec. 1
I think I understand where you're coming from ldubhawksfan. I'm not as challenged as I have been in previous jobs but I also don't think this is a good time for me to look for something else. I've got a lot of flexibility here and an easy commute- things I value while my littles are so young. But of course the flip side is like you mentioned, wondering about your worth.
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
Post by younglove316 on Jun 16, 2016 14:40:55 GMT -5
The rain we have had today is definitely making up for the lack of any the last week or so. It goes from completely sunny to a monsoon in about 5 minutes, it's crazy!
We are having some yard renovations done and it's slow going and stressful. My husband is super stressed about time fixing stuff and work and it's relaying into the family life. We are arguing and I'm just annoyed.
We are painting our whole house, trim included, replacing all doors and laying new floors. I'm exhausted. Physically and mentally. And we leave tomorrow for a weekend at sesame place with my family. Fun! But also exhausting. I just want to send the kids away and sleep.
Post by sunfrogger88 on Jun 16, 2016 17:45:14 GMT -5
I had such a fun afternoon with E !!
My phone rang about an hour into her second nap so I was really worried she'd be grouchy. She wasn't! After my day was over we went to BRU for her first time in the cart and got our kiddie pool (and one for grandmom!), a few new purees to try in the pouch (she loves the pouches), a new toy and diapers. Then we went to Chick Fil A where she had chicken and applesauce, which she went totally ham over. Home, nursed, hopped in the tub, did not even give me a hard time about lotion and dressing her, and even gave me kisses goodnight. I'm such a happy momma right now.
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
We are painting our whole house, trim included, replacing all doors and laying new floors. I'm exhausted. Physically and mentally. And we leave tomorrow for a weekend at sesame place with my family. Fun! But also exhausting. I just want to send the kids away and sleep.
Don't be scared if you hear me in the bushes. I don't bite. That's up in my hood!!
Married DH 09/21/13 BCP 08/08-02/12, 01/13-08/14 Paragard 02/16-? TTC#1 August '14 1st BFP 3/9/15! EDD: 11/17/15 Emma Rose born 11/26/15 (Thanksgiving!)
I've been unusually grumpy that last week or so and I think it's because I feel unsatisified with work and confused about what I should do. I switched to a small company 3 years ago and while I like it well enough, I don't think my design ability is being challenged as much as my previous job and because of that, I have started questioning my worth. It's also got a commute I don't love. So I've started to look at city jobs close to home, but it makes me nervous to change jobs because I'm starting to question myself. I also feel like I'm at that hard experience level of 10 yrs which makes me expensive and not as easily trainable as a newbie, but not an expert. I don't know if I should go to the public side because then I probably will never design, but I don't know about trying to find a better gig at a private firm that allows flexibility with family life. I wish I was as motivated as I was out of college, but my priorities have changed with DD. I don't know what that perfect balance looks like for me and it makes me kind of depressed.
5 losses (2003, 2008, 03/12, 11/12, & 10/16) All RPL testing by several REs = all normal
All IF testing by several REs = all normal 5 IUIs (2014) = BFN
IVF#1 Feb '15= BFP! U/S 04/01 = 6w5d, HR 125!, SCH measuring 2cm U/S 04/06 = 7w5d, HR 165!, SCH measuring 4cm NT scan = 13w2d, SCH no longer visible Anatomy scan = Team green . All looks great! Rainbow born on 11/22/15, team pink!
I think I understand where you're coming from ldubhawksfan . I'm not as challenged as I have been in previous jobs but I also don't think this is a good time for me to look for something else. I've got a lot of flexibility here and an easy commute- things I value while my littles are so young. But of course the flip side is like you mentioned, wondering about your worth.
I do value the flexibility, but I wonder now how long I've been letting my unsatisfaction with the content of my workload continue because of that flexibility. Frankly, I don't think it's just been since having DD or even pregnancy. I think it goes all the way back to my loss and IF. It changed me. I honestly don't know what I want, and that scares me because I've always been driven. Sorry, now I'm just babbling.
I feel like I'm here too. My job is really flexible, pay is decent, benefits are great, company is super stable so there is no risk there. Commute isn't horrible for me. But, I don't really feel challenged at work and don't always love what I'm doing (i think a lot is due to my direct boss). I took this position because it is a stepping stone to higher leadership and now I'm left wondering (all the time) if that is what I really want. I mean, I went back and got a second degree while working full time to pursue my current career and now I'm like "eh, maybe I'll want to do something different". Although it could just be the "ascent" into management that I don't like - I don't feel like I contribute all that much - I help others do stuff but don't create myself.
Post by ldubhawksfan on Jun 17, 2016 10:29:27 GMT -5
winogirl I'm sorry you are feeling the same way about work. I hope we find a way to rejuvenate ourselves in our careers since that is a huge part of our lives. ((Hugs))
TTC #1 starting July 2013, RE last 2014 First Angel baby lost July 11, 2014 IUI #1 with injections successful: EDD 11/24/15 Rainbow baby DD born 11/14/15 TTC#2 October 2016 Second Angel baby lost Jan 5, 2017
This weekend is my sister's bridal shower and it is a joint one with her soon to be in laws. My mom volunteered us to show up 2 hours early to help set everything up. Plus she volunteered us to go do a costco run before that. Ugh, I was not planning on this shower to take my entire day. And I'll have F with me the whole time which sounds like a recipe for disaster.
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