WWYD question- There are no signs that labor is imminent for me any time soon. I *might* get induced on Friday, but more likely probably next Monday or Tuesday. My really good friend is having a baby shower on Sunday that I would love to attend, but is about 1 hour away. DH and DS would also be going if we went. I feel fine other than the vomiting, which is managed pretty well with zofran. Are there any circumstances that you would consider attending? Every day that passes without an outside baby obviously makes it much less reasonable to attend, and I think maybe I'm crazy for considering going with an inside baby because of the distance. Crazy or reasonable?
WWYD question- There are no signs that labor is imminent for me any time soon. I *might* get induced on Friday, but more likely probably next Monday or Tuesday. My really good friend is having a baby shower on Sunday that I would love to attend, but is about 1 hour away. DH and DS would also be going if we went. I feel fine other than the vomiting, which is managed pretty well with zofran. Are there any circumstances that you would consider attending? Every day that passes without an outside baby obviously makes it much less reasonable to attend, and I think maybe I'm crazy for considering going with an inside baby because of the distance. Crazy or reasonable?
I would play it by ear. For me before it all started I was fine the night before no indication of labor , no discharge nothing. Then the next morning I had my bloody show and started having contractions on and off. So I would say wait til you are closer to Sunday before deciding
Post by Outofhiding on Jun 21, 2016 7:01:58 GMT -5
babyzebra if it were me I probably would not go in either case. Things can happen so quickly with labor, I would want to be as close to home as possible knowing I am close to my due date. Traveling an hour away with a baby that's a few days old/recently discharged from the hospital probably wouldn't be ideal for me either. Both mother and baby are in full on recovery mode from delivery, trying to figure out baby's temperament etc. I am sure your friend would appreciate your desire to attend but understand why you can't. If she doesn't understand, she probably will once she gives birth :-)
ETA My apologies for reading too fast so my response does not make total sense but you get the gist.
babyzebra I wouldn't go because of the distance. If it was closer, sure I'd go if I felt up for it. Unless you want to bring your hospital bag and everything. Either way, I'd wait until the morning of to see how you are feeling. But I usually like to play it safe.
babyzebra I probably wouldn't go either but my sister lives an hour away from their hospital and made it with all 4 kids so I don't know. Everyone's labor is different though and I would be afraid I wouldn't make it if I went into labor while there.
Was up at 2:00 this morning with contractions. They were 6-8 minutes apart for a while and I had the I have to use the bathroom constantly feeling which I did with DD the night I went into labor. I thought it was really happening. I haven't had contractions in the middle of the night yet but unfortunately they stopped and I went back to bed ?I am probably getting close but really what is close? Just ready to meet our girl! I did get the ok to move my induction date to Friday instead of Monday so I'm waiting to hear back about what time we need to be there. It's exciting to know that we will be holding her some time this week!
Thanks guys for your input. I've already told my friend that I am almost certainly not going to go, but then DH and I discussed yesterday if there were any circumstances where we could go. I think with an outside baby at this point would be a definite no-go and would be really risky with an inside baby. We will have to face time instead.
Flair Underwood mine has gotten more fussy in the last few days. She is four weeks old today and has cried more in the last four days then she had her entire existence.
Post by carolinaheart on Jun 21, 2016 8:10:21 GMT -5
Flair Underwood we had a very stimulating day yesterday so I'm not sure if it was that or changing temperament but we had a much fussier than usual day yesterday.
Post by carolinaheart on Jun 21, 2016 8:24:56 GMT -5
It's 9:15. I'm very sleepy as I do the waking up with LO. H just reached over while the baby was crying (!!!) to set an alarm to make sure he was up to be somewhere around 12.
It's 9:15. I'm very sleepy as I do the waking up with LO. H just reached over while the baby was crying (!!!) to set an alarm to make sure he was up to be somewhere around 12.
It's 9:15. I'm very sleepy as I do the waking up with LO. H just reached over while the baby was crying (!!!) to set an alarm to make sure he was up to be somewhere around 12.
I'd really like to punch him.
Oh hell no.
Mhmm. Needless to say he is up with baby now while I lay back down.
Flair Underwood mine has gotten more fussy in the last few days. She is four weeks old today and has cried more in the last four days then she had her entire existence.
I really like the wonder weeks app. If I remember correctly DD was a lot more fussy around 4 weeks and had a growth spurt. She wanted to eat all the time then one day she just slept most of the day and was over it. The app really helped to show when "cranky" moments might happen and why.
My mom just texted me that her hair stylist said that nipple stimulation can help to bring on labor. She just wanted to make sure I had all the information....Lol thanks, Mom.
My mom just texted me that her hair stylist said that nipple stimulation can help to bring on labor. She just wanted to make sure I had all the information....Lol thanks, Mom.
A friend is an ob nurse and she pumped to help stimulate labor.
My mom just texted me that her hair stylist said that nipple stimulation can help to bring on labor. She just wanted to make sure I had all the information....Lol thanks, Mom.
A friend is an ob nurse and she pumped to help stimulate labor.
Yeah I've actually considered getting mine out for that reason, but then it would break my pact to myself to never pump again. I just think it's hilarious that my mom is collecting pointers from random people (hair stylist, lady at the gym, etc.) to send to me. Like why are you talking to random people about nipple stimulation, mom? At least it's better than the suggestion of castor oil that my MIL gave to DH.
Mhmm. Needless to say he is up with baby now while I lay back down.
Good for you, mama.
I had an awful night last night (cluster feeding every 1-2 hours again... *sigh*) and my DH was awake at 6:30am when the baby started crying (again...). I asked him to take the baby and he was like "Um, I have to shower to get ready for work". He had 1.5 hours before he needed to leave!!! I gave him such an earful. These men are sooooooo clueless!
I just had my weekly appointment- first time on the NST monitor. I'm maybe 50% effaced and my cervix is closed up- not even a centimeter. I know anything could happen, but I feel like I'm definitely going to have a July baby.
Mhmm. Needless to say he is up with baby now while I lay back down.
Good for you, mama.
I had an awful night last night (cluster feeding every 1-2 hours again... *sigh*) and my DH was awake at 6:30am when the baby started crying (again...). I asked him to take the baby and he was like "Um, I have to shower to get ready for work". He had 1.5 hours before he needed to leave!!! I gave him such an earful. These men are sooooooo clueless!
Glad to hear they were both clued in! Seriously. The oh hell no above from bighair12 is very appropriate.
Mhmm. Needless to say he is up with baby now while I lay back down.
Good for you, mama.
I had an awful night last night (cluster feeding every 1-2 hours again... *sigh*) and my DH was awake at 6:30am when the baby started crying (again...). I asked him to take the baby and he was like "Um, I have to shower to get ready for work". He had 1.5 hours before he needed to leave!!! I gave him such an earful. These men are sooooooo clueless!
I see my husband is not the only one operating on a STEEP learning curve.
Sorry ladies for the H's who need a kick in the butt. Question for STMs- are you finding that your SO is more helpful this time? MH definitely pulled some of this with DS, but I kinda have a hard time imagining him doing that now. Maybe wishful thinking on my part or maybe they do grow up after having a kid for a little while?
Sorry ladies for the H's who need a kick in the butt. Question for STMs- are you finding that your SO is more helpful this time? MH definitely pulled some of this with DS, but I kinda have a hard time imagining him doing that now. Maybe wishful thinking on my part or maybe they do grow up after having a kid for a little while?
DH has so much more helpful this time. He does seem more afraid to handle the newborn this time around, like afraid to change her. He has mostly been on toddler duty so I guess the tiny diapers and clothes are intimidating to him. If he hears her crying MOTN he will ask if I need him to take her, he would never wake up with DS.
Sorry ladies for the H's who need a kick in the butt. Question for STMs- are you finding that your SO is more helpful this time? MH definitely pulled some of this with DS, but I kinda have a hard time imagining him doing that now. Maybe wishful thinking on my part or maybe they do grow up after having a kid for a little while?
Mine had to be more helpful at the beginning of this baby. But he in general is a super involved dad and has told me to get out of the house without the kiddos which is nice. He is struggling more with motn wake ups so I might move to the baby room just because he doesn't need to get up anymore.
Sorry ladies for the H's who need a kick in the butt. Question for STMs- are you finding that your SO is more helpful this time? MH definitely pulled some of this with DS, but I kinda have a hard time imagining him doing that now. Maybe wishful thinking on my part or maybe they do grow up after having a kid for a little while?
DH has so much more helpful this time. He does seem more afraid to handle the newborn this time around, like afraid to change her. He has mostly been on toddler duty so I guess the tiny diapers and clothes are intimidating to him. If he hears her crying MOTN he will ask if I need him to take her, he would never wake up with DS.
That's good to hear. That's a good point about being used to toddler things. I approach every diaper change with the toddler like I am a warrior going into battle and I will not let this little human defeat me. I might need to tone it down a bit with a newborn. Different ages, different struggles.
I just had my weekly appointment- first time on the NST monitor. I'm maybe 50% effaced and my cervix is closed up- not even a centimeter. I know anything could happen, but I feel like I'm definitely going to have a July baby.
Haha babyzebra! What a hilarious hair salon conversation!
As for baby fussiness, I get a weekly baby email and it definitely said that around 4 weeks or so they start to get fussier due to the fact that they are more awake and more stimulated and that the fussy times continue and peak around 6 weeks and then start to get better. DD is always the worst right when DH gets home from work... It's like she knows there are now two of us so she can start being a handful!
Sorry for the clueless husbands... After DH's alone time with on Saturday he has been so much better at helping. I think he finally gets it.
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