EmMilAlly +1 to Ovia! Once you hit 8 weeks, they give you the real size of what your baby's handprint is, and that was my favorite part of that app the last time around!
This would make me cry on my more emotional days!!
Post by flyinghorses6 on Jun 21, 2016 12:31:34 GMT -5
She didn't know we were trying, only because no one really did. It was the first month. I told her with my first really early because she knew we were trying for some time before I actually got pregnant.
I do feel like I definitely need to be the one to tell her (not her mom or whoever) I just am truly scared. It is true that I want her to be able to have her own celebration when she does become pregnant because God does she deserve it.
I just wish I could see her in person. She's like a 16 hour drive from me and there's just no way I could swing it.
I wish I just had the perfect words to say it. I'm afraid it's going to come out all wrong. And also because she doesn't know we were trying I feel like it's worse because "it happened so easily".
I feel like it warrants a call- but I also don't want to put her on the spot. At least through text--she has a chance to think and react. Idk...I'm definitely stressing over it.
Post by wildflower810 on Jun 21, 2016 12:31:44 GMT -5
ls2012, yay! Glad you found someone! Hmm, I don't know about testing and such. I know that my midwife does 12 week blood work, and I'm assuming she sends me to someone for a 20 week a/s. Last pregnancy I lived in Texas until 3rd tri so I only have experience with how my current midwife does things from 33 weeks on. I would for sure e-mail the provider you found and ask questions. What testing can they do? What options do they have for referrals? Would it at all be possible to work with *both* a MW and an OB? OB for some testing along the way, but routine prenatals with MW and deliver with her? Out of the ordinary, but a possibility to consider.
flyinghorses6, I agree that I would tell her now. Maybe send her a fb message so she can read and respond in her own time? Acknowledge that she is dealing with IF, but be honest that you are KU.
Post by PepperPottsJ on Jun 21, 2016 12:54:35 GMT -5
flyinghorses6, definitely text of fb message her. I just did this with my sister (who thank goodness ended up picking up the phone and calling me). This way if she is emotional about it, she doesn't have to worry about hiding her feelings from you, and you don't have to be hurt if she is hurt (if this makes sense). You are a great friend for having such concern!
EmMilAlly +1 to Ovia! Once you hit 8 weeks, they give you the real size of what your baby's handprint is, and that was my favorite part of that app the last time around!
This would make me cry on my more emotional days!!
flyinghorses6 if you would tell her early, then tell her now. That's what I would do regardless because telling her later runs a risk of it being harder to share the good news. Be gentle with it and turn it back with a hope that the two babies can grow up together and be best friends or something?
EmMilAlly I've been using Baby Bump so far. I think I used it last pregnancy too
littleredfish Hopefully this phase passes soon! DD did the same thing around that age for about 2-3 weeks before she realized she needed to calm down if she was going to get any milk.
PepperPottsJ I told my work supervisor this morning. Most awkward thing ever. Hopefully if he did he won't say anything or will keep it quiet!
Post by oldbaylover1024 on Jun 21, 2016 13:58:57 GMT -5
allisong87 - T&Ps that your brother has nothing but an enflamed node. Chances are it's nothing. Think positive!
flyinghorses6 - Definitely tell her via text/email so she can respond in her own way and in her own time. Earlier is better than later. My SIL and I were KU at the same time with our first pregnancies, due only a few weeks apart. She brought home a DD and I had two consecutive MMCs. Also, if things (heaven forbid) don't work out for her, do not be offended if she doesn't participate in baby showers, Facebook announcement celebrations, sex reveals, etc. It may be hard for her. Obviously, you guys have a strong bond, but sometimes even a best friend can struggle to offer support. FX her procedure ends up in a healthy pregnancy and you guys can weather this journey together
I told my boss today. Since we're looking at a mid-February baby and my work is very seasonal (tax accountant), I had to tell him sooner than I like so we can plan accordingly. He was very supportive and happy for us, but also stressed that I'll need to be semi-available from post-delivery through April 15th, which I'm 100% on board with. I'm a manager at my firm and solely prepare a TON of our clients' returns (read: the BIG, IMPORTANT clients are in my court). I knew this was coming. The good news is MH gets 16 weeks paid paternity leave and it can be broken up 3x, and I got the okay to take the entire summer of 2017 off (May-August)(or semi-off and work from home PT for extra income). Overall, a good outcome. Of course now my PgAL brain is attacking hardcore since I have a plan... No bueno.
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Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Thoughts and prayers for your brother allisong87 I woke up with a massive headache. I reallyyyy hope this isn't the start of pregnancy migraines. So much for going to the gym this morning...
I had migraines during the first trimester of my last pregnancy. I figured out it was from not getting enough sleep, my body wanted 12 hours of sleep! (10 at night plus a 2 hour nap). So that was great and totally doable with 3 little kids lol. Hope your migraine goes away!
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Two MM/C 1/09/12 & MM/C 4/26/12 BFP#3 - Rainbow #1 born 5/11/13 via unplanned C-section Two CP 11/23/15 & 5/13/16 BFP#6 - Rainbow #2 born 2/10/17 via planned C-section
Can I ask what state? I can't say I've looked into other state laws since I have no plans of having kids elsewhere or becoming a midwife. It's definitely not for everyone, but it worked for me.
Can I ask what state? I can't say I've looked into other state laws since I have no plans of having kids elsewhere or becoming a midwife. It's definitely not for everyone, but it worked for me.
Illinois. I'm not interested in a home birth, but a former classmate researched it. A lot of women go to neighboring states to give birth.
Question... So i threw up this morning almost immediately after eating a nice piece of leftover birthday cake. I so far haven't had any of what I assume is usual morning sickness... But the two times I've thrown up, it was an immediate OMG I need to vomit right now and I had to RUN to the bathroom. I haven't felt any ongoing nausea (yet) or real food aversions... Just ate some trader joes canned peaches and then VOM! And then this piece of cake... VOM!
Thoughts? Just my stomach being an asshole or a weird version of morning sickness?
flyinghorses6, hope telling your friend goes well. You're so thoughtful. Some people are so insensitive / unaware of others' struggles..
EmMilAlly I use Ovia! I love the different themes you can pick from for your baby's size and the little daily updates it sends you about the baby's development. I use the "weird but cute animals" theme. First, baby was a Water Bear, this week it's a Dot Snail! My friend that's 27 weeks is a something fox....
Home births- I could never, but mainly bc all I'd do is run through worst case scenarios and real life examples I've seen that have gone wrong in my mind. Before I started working in NICU, when I was in th middle of nursing school and my OB rotation, I was all about a midwife / non hospital birth, but now I'm like NOPE!!! Just can't do it...
My boobs don't hurt very much today, it's making me panic. Seems silly but it's the only real, obvious pregnancy symptom I've had - gas/tummy troubles can easily be explained by my IBS, so the drop in pain/soreness just is kinda freaking out my worrywart brain.
Beta #2 today was 2379, so almost the exact same doubling time as with the twins (just a bit higher).
Progesterone was a bit lower than they like, so I get 1.8mL instead of 1.5mL from here on out. That's better than the 2mL the RE had me on last time. It makes me a little nervous that he's increasing it by only 0.3mL when the progesterone level is the same as the last time when he increased it by 0.5mL.
I have one more beta in a week, but that's mostly to check that my progesterone is high enough.
Post by wildflower810 on Jun 21, 2016 16:49:22 GMT -5
addymac, normal MS. When I puked with DS I was usually eating a meal and all of a sudden my stomach was like NEWP and up it came right there. That or I was starving and dry heaving.
And... I found out my MW has hired a biller and they have good luck with my insurance!!! I'll still be paying her in cash up front (well, by 20 weeks), but then *next* year's deductible should be met when they bill in Feb after the baby is born, and I'll probably be getting money back. So I'm excited!! And kinda wish I'd known about that before I spent an hour on the phone with people asking questions. Oh well.
Post by wildflower810 on Jun 21, 2016 16:50:55 GMT -5
Also, I'm ask me home birth questions if y'all have any! I had a fantastic experience with three midwives in two states, and reached for my phone to call the midwife that delivered DS within minutes of getting my BFP this time.
flyinghorses6, I think you should tell her sooner, before the potential of failure of her IVF procedure. And also, if you do it in person, make sure it is one-on-one, and not in a group setting. If she has an emotional reaction, she won't want an audience for that.
PP mentioned sending it in a text or email, and I think that is a good idea. That way, if it triggers her, it will give her a time to collect her thoughts. Don't take it personally if it takes her some time to respond back. She may just have to grieve her own circumstances before she can respond. But regardless, I'm sure she will be happy for you.
Can I ask what state? I can't say I've looked into other state laws since I have no plans of having kids elsewhere or becoming a midwife. It's definitely not for everyone, but it worked for me.
Illinois. I'm not interested in a home birth, but a former classmate researched it. A lot of women go to neighboring states to give birth.
It's illegal in Nebraska too, which is where I live.
Post by CoffeeOnIce on Jun 21, 2016 19:44:33 GMT -5
addymac I feel the same about the symptoms, only I haven't really had any except peeing a lot. It's crazy to wish for sore boobs and nausea haha but it's the only way it feels real this early on! I know I won't stop worrying completely after it, but can't wait for that first u/s
So my H was working late tonight and I had to do my PIO shot myself. I hesitated and totally f-d it up, so I'm sitting on a heating pad. Guess who just called and is not working late after all?! Thankfully he is bringing me panera.
addymac and coffeeonice I also have zero symptoms and am anxiously awaiting my US next Tuesday.
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