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Jun 29, 2016 14:38:05 GMT -5 buttercup said:

Jun 29, 2016 14:17:35 GMT -5 None said:

I do. I've even made List. He will "get to it". Drives me nuts.he will do a thing or two that takes five minutes. He has admitted the transition to being a parent has been more challenging than he excepted. He is experiencing what can be beat described as mild depression.
I've been a stay home wife for three years. He is used to me doing everything for him. Right now I can't. I try sometimes even though I shouldn't.

Since you mentioned mild depression and challenging transition, have you thought about joint counseling to help adjust?

I have mentioned it more than once. He went alone during my pregnancy to deal with anxiety. He does take a med for it as well.  Ive sugested adjusting that too. 
I try to just let him talk about his felings without judgement. Something he has mentioned his he feels helpless when he doesnt know how to soothe S. It makes him feel guilty.  Any ideas on how to help him with that?   
Eta things have been slowly improving. He has always been one to slowly adjust to change. 

[rubykitten]

Jun 29, 2016 14:56:34 GMT -5 None said:

Jun 29, 2016 14:38:05 GMT -5 buttercup said:

Since you mentioned mild depression and challenging transition, have you thought about joint counseling to help adjust?

I have mentioned it more than once. He went alone during my pregnancy to deal with anxiety. He does take a med for it as well.  Ive sugested adjusting that too. 
I try to just let him talk about his felings without judgement. Something he has mentioned his he feels helpless when he doesnt know how to soothe S. It makes him feel guilty.  Any ideas on how to help him with that?   
Eta things have been slowly improving. He has always been one to slowly adjust to change. 

My H is on anxiety meds too. It's obviously been really stressful around here, and he's taking it out on everyone around him. I can't remember the last time we had a nice moment between us that didn't involve baby girl. We just take shifts with her, and when H doesn't have her, he's on his computer (his form of escape). All we do is snap and bicker at each other. I definitely feel you...

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Jun 29, 2016 15:41:42 GMT -5 rubykitten said:

Jun 29, 2016 14:56:34 GMT -5 None said:

I have mentioned it more than once. He went alone during my pregnancy to deal with anxiety. He does take a med for it as well.  Ive sugested adjusting that too. 
I try to just let him talk about his felings without judgement. Something he has mentioned his he feels helpless when he doesnt know how to soothe S. It makes him feel guilty.  Any ideas on how to help him with that?   
Eta things have been slowly improving. He has always been one to slowly adjust to change. 

My H is on anxiety meds too. It's obviously been really stressful around here, and he's taking it out on everyone around him. I can't remember the last time we had a nice moment between us that didn't involve baby girl. We just take shifts with her, and when H doesn't have her, he's on his computer (his form of escape). All we do is snap and bicker at each other. I definitely feel you...

I can relate to the computer. It is also his form of escape. Drives me nuts. I told him I needed him to be present more and he has.  Does your H struggle when he is not a work? It likes mine has a time limit before he gets cranky. He needs a project to work on when he is off. 

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Jun 29, 2016 15:36:53 GMT -5 abbeyd said:

Jun 29, 2016 14:56:34 GMT -5 None said:

I have mentioned it more than once. He went alone during my pregnancy to deal with anxiety. He does take a med for it as well.  Ive sugested adjusting that too. 
I try to just let him talk about his felings without judgement. Something he has mentioned his he feels helpless when he doesnt know how to soothe S. It makes him feel guilty.  Any ideas on how to help him with that?   
Eta things have been slowly improving. He has always been one to slowly adjust to change. 

My husband and I did joint therapy when our oldest was about four months. It helped SO much. The counselor was able to teach both of us ways to communicate our needs and desires. Apparently I didn't speak his language! He thought he was doing things to help only to find out those weren't things I needed. And I wasn't telling him or asking in a way that he understood the urgency.

Look into help. Babies are a huge transition and it needs to be a partnership. Good luck! I really hope it gets better!

 Its something to think about. Ill bring it up again. We have previously been good communicators. Ive been told date nights are the answer. Is there any truth to this? 

[minae01]

Hugs None. A baby is a huge transition and can put strain on a marriage. I hope that you can get something figured out so everyone is happy.

[minae01]

Our family has been ravaged by this stupid virus and baby girl has been sick for a few days now. It is so sad to see her miserable! I took her to the pedi today just to make sure everything is ok and it turns out she has her first ear infection. Now I have to decide whether or not to put her on antibiotics or wait and see if it heals on its own. I don't want to give such a tiny baby meds if I don't have to but I don't want her to suffer...

[renbee]

Jun 29, 2016 13:14:39 GMT -5 moleymole said:

I've started a list of who wants in, I'll make a thread tomorrow and tag people daily once the challenge starts

I'm in! I was eating healthier, but kind of fell off the wagon. I need to break my addiction to ice cream.

[renbee]

Jun 29, 2016 11:18:51 GMT -5 heartbot said:

Jun 29, 2016 11:15:12 GMT -5 @pennygirl2013 said:

I need to buy some new work clothes too but I've been avoiding it. Buying a size larger jeans the other day made me so depressed.

I'm up 4 pants sizes. Shopping is totally demoralizing, but at the same time, I'm not going to lose all the weight in the next couple of weeks and I can't wait 6 months to buy clothes.

Love tit for commiseration. I'm up two sizes and it sucks. And some of my shirts that would fit my waist now no longer my boobs. My body feels so foreign to me!

[rubykitten]

Jun 29, 2016 16:03:17 GMT -5 None said:

Jun 29, 2016 15:41:42 GMT -5 rubykitten said:

My H is on anxiety meds too. It's obviously been really stressful around here, and he's taking it out on everyone around him. I can't remember the last time we had a nice moment between us that didn't involve baby girl. We just take shifts with her, and when H doesn't have her, he's on his computer (his form of escape). All we do is snap and bicker at each other. I definitely feel you...

I can relate to the computer. It is also his form of escape. Drives me nuts. I told him I needed him to be present more and he has.  Does your H struggle when he is not a work? It likes mine has a time limit before he gets cranky. He needs a project to work on when he is off. 

It's more like when he's off work we see too much of each other. We've always enjoyed our alone time (both introverts) and now we can't get away from each other in this very stressful situation. Right now we're having a major fight about whether we should keep the dog (he's been growling at H for a while which is obviously not safe for the baby), and it looks like he's gonna win. I'm so upset and don't have any fight left, and of course it's all my fault. The past few days I've been thinking how much easier this whole thing would be without him.

Sorry for the rant, just feeling at the end of my rope. And I have to go back to work next week! Great... lol

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@ismellbooks, love the picture this happens to us couple time a week. Usually in public.

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Jun 29, 2016 17:03:38 GMT -5 rubykitten said:

Jun 29, 2016 16:03:17 GMT -5 None said:

I can relate to the computer. It is also his form of escape. Drives me nuts. I told him I needed him to be present more and he has.  Does your H struggle when he is not a work? It likes mine has a time limit before he gets cranky. He needs a project to work on when he is off. 

It's more like when he's off work we see too much of each other. We've always enjoyed our alone time (both introverts) and now we can't get away from each other in this very stressful situation. Right now we're having a major fight about whether we should keep the dog (he's been growling at H for a while which is obviously not safe for the baby), and it looks like he's gonna win. I'm so upset and don't have any fight left, and of course it's all my fault. The past few days I've been thinking how much easier this whole thing would be without him.

Sorry for the rant, just feeling at the end of my rope. And I have to go back to work next week! Great... lol

Ranting is good for you you goung back to work must add to the stress. Could you send him on some errands? We are both introverts and that seems to help H. Have you taken the dog the vet? sometimes something medical is going on. 
I hope things improve. 

[okiemama]

moleymole count me in too! I started a post baby fitness plan a few weeks ago but it is very walk-heavy and with no treadmill, extreme heat outside, and three kids (double stroller + ergo) it hasn't been something I can feasibly do every day. Something like that sounds perfect!

[jags8]

Jun 29, 2016 20:30:59 GMT -5 buttercup said:

Um. My daughter just told me her boobies hurt because S has been crying. Um.

I really don't think this is something I talk about.

That is HILARIOUS!! The 4-year-old I nanny PT sees me nurse DS. His mom texted me the other day to tell me about the convo they had (boy is F, his mom is "me")

F "I wish I was a girl"
me: "why"
F: "so i could have boobs".
Me "why do you want boobs?"
F: "so I could feed a baby milk"

How darling is that? He is such a sweet and nurturing boy; he will make a wonderful dad someday.

[jags8]

Jun 29, 2016 20:51:57 GMT -5 @unicornofthesea said:

The dog woke up both boys.

All done with today.

It's so strange how my pets were my world. Now that I have DS, they make me so so angry when they bark/meow loudly. And I think about how much easier it would be without the animals. Not that we are getting rid of them, they just annoy me more now.

[jags8]

For those of you frustrated by the slow/stalled weight loss- I am now one pound less than before I got pregnant, and my clothes STILL don't fit properly. It's like my whole anatomy has been altered. Only my "period jeans" fit. None of my shirts are very flattering (my belly muscles/skin are still loose from growing so large to accommodate DS). So the number on the scale doesn't mean much.

[renbee]

Jun 29, 2016 21:02:28 GMT -5 jags8 said:

Jun 29, 2016 20:51:57 GMT -5 @unicornofthesea said:

The dog woke up both boys.

All done with today.

It's so strange how my pets were my world. Now that I have DS, they make me so so angry when they bark/meow loudly. And I think about how much easier it would be without the animals. Not that we are getting rid of them, they just annoy me more now.

Omg yes. My dog drives me crazy now. He is shedding like crazy and I hate that it gets on DS and all his stuff - especially paci's. Ick.

Then today the dog had some weird fit where he threw up, then was running around barking and howling like a maniac, and then he took a huge poop on our deck (he has NEVER done something like that!). It was so bizarre.

[jags8]

DS just slept from 8:45-5:00, and his diaper was dry. Is that normal?

[creepyeyeball]

There's something wrong with me. Posted in the MOTN thread about how the baby has slept from 8:30-2:30 and then given me another two hour stretch from 3-5 for the last two nights. That's awesome! But last night I couldn't falk asleep after I put him down at three. I just laid there missing him and wanting to cuddle. I jumped up at 5 at the first sound he made so I could grab him to cuddle until breakfast.

I love that he is sleeping, but forget sometimes that nighttime is my only true one-on-one time with him. I need my cuddles.

[okiemama]

Jun 29, 2016 21:00:42 GMT -5 jags8 said:

Jun 29, 2016 20:30:59 GMT -5 buttercup said:

Um. My daughter just told me her boobies hurt because S has been crying. Um.

I really don't think this is something I talk about.

That is HILARIOUS!! The 4-year-old I nanny PT sees me nurse DS. His mom texted me the other day to tell me about the convo they had (boy is F, his mom is "me")

F "I wish I was a girl"
me: "why"
F: "so i could have boobs".
Me "why do you want boobs?"
F: "so I could feed a baby milk"

How darling is that? He is such a sweet and nurturing boy; he will make a wonderful dad someday.

My almost-2yo has started "nursing" her baby dolls (all her idea). She got so mad & frustrated the other day because I had dressed her in a romper and she couldn't pull it up to feed her baby.

[jags8]

Jun 30, 2016 8:46:24 GMT -5 okiemama said:

Jun 29, 2016 21:00:42 GMT -5 jags8 said:

That is HILARIOUS!! The 4-year-old I nanny PT sees me nurse DS. His mom texted me the other day to tell me about the convo they had (boy is F, his mom is "me")

F "I wish I was a girl"
me: "why"
F: "so i could have boobs".
Me "why do you want boobs?"
F: "so I could feed a baby milk"

How darling is that? He is such a sweet and nurturing boy; he will make a wonderful dad someday.

My almost-2yo has started "nursing" her baby dolls (all her idea). She got so mad & frustrated the other day because I had dressed her in a romper and she couldn't pull it up to feed her baby.

Cute! I see that a lot with older siblings who see their baby sibling being nursed. It's so interesting what they pick up!

[jags8]

Jun 30, 2016 13:01:24 GMT -5 @ismellbooks said:

Jun 30, 2016 12:32:28 GMT -5 adelbert said:

Mine has been able to cry since like week 2.Overachieving in the worst possible way. Like he legit acts like he is dying of sadness multiple times a day. The dried tears leave what I think are salt marks next to his eyes.

But I have to admit that when his bottom lip pouts and he starts to cry I normally think it is pretty cute.

The pouty face kills me. God help me when he's a toddler because I'm not going to be able to say no to that pout.

DS started producing tears a couple months ago. It's so sad seeing tears roll down his cheeks when he is upset! But I agree, when that bottom lips juts out...so freaking cute!!

[jags8]

Does anyone intro on Parenting, or should I just jump in?

[jags8]

Jun 30, 2016 14:46:21 GMT -5 @ismellbooks said:

Jun 30, 2016 14:44:23 GMT -5 jags8 said:

Does anyone intro on Parenting, or should I just jump in?

Just jump in! They're not so scary. I don't participate over there as much as I'd like, because gahd they talk a lot. You'll see some familiar faces from GKU, too.

Ha ya their UOs get crazy long, I would never keep up. I will just participate in some of the smaller threads.

[creepyeyeball]

I reorganized my closet today and hid away everything that is too small. I found stuff that fits right now that I had forgotten about. It feels good to open my closet now and only see things that fit. I feel like I might be more likely to actually get dressed now and feel good about myself instead of living in pjs and sweats. DH has got to be sick of looking at his disheveled wife.

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Jun 30, 2016 16:34:51 GMT -5 creepyeyeball said:

I reorganized my closet today and hid away everything that is too small. I found stuff that fits right now that I had forgotten about. It feels good to open my closet now and only see things that fit. I feel like I might be more likely to actually get dressed now and feel good about myself instead of living in pjs and sweats. DH has got to be sick of looking at his disheveled wife.

I did this too. It really helps

[jags8]

I think I'm gonna go shopping this weekend for new clothes. I need new pants, shorts, shirts, and a one-piece swimsuit (no more bikinis for this momma). I received money back from the government that was misplaced or something. It was tax money they owed me from a job I had in college! So that will fund my shopping trip!

[jags8]

Jun 30, 2016 17:51:30 GMT -5 @ismellbooks said:

Jun 30, 2016 17:42:03 GMT -5 jags8 said:

I think I'm gonna go shopping this weekend for new clothes. I need new pants, shorts, shirts, and a one-piece swimsuit (no more bikinis for this momma). I received money back from the government that was misplaced or something. It was tax money thybowed me from a job I had in college! So that will fund my shopping trip!

I'm glad I've been content in one piece swimsuits for years, because it's sure all I'll be wearing now. Ignore the extra weight and the stretch marks, I don't think there's a bikini or tankini available anywhere to support these ginormous nursing boobs.

I've never really liked one-pieces because I hate how they stick to my belly when they're wet. But oh well. And ya, none of my bikini tops fit my ginormous boobies.

[jags8]

Jun 30, 2016 18:27:48 GMT -5 moleymole said:

Parenting has felt extra hard these last few days. I miss my husband being home for bedtime, and the sleepy newborn who can be set down easily. Ugh, I just can't get a routine down.

I'm sorry. Remember, everything is just a phase.

[renbee]

Jun 30, 2016 14:50:18 GMT -5 lovemyk said:

Is anyone else irrationally angry that they have a "big brother" tv show thread in the announcements section? Why don't they just set up a separate board?

No!! Thanks to that thread a couple years ago I was introduced to the majesty that is big brother. It's highly entertaining! You should join in 😀

[renbee]

creepyeyeball i keep thinking about doing this. I have such a ridiculous range of sizes and I need to purge the smallest ones that I realistically will never fit into, and stash away the stuff that doesn't fit me temporarily.


@ismellbooks oooh that is so exciting!! I have always thought that did not deserve to be convicted. I can't confidently say he definitely didn't have something to do with it, but there wasn't enough evidence to convict beyond a reasonable doubt.