That's so fun starfishy! I'm glad you guys had a good day! How did your husband's test go today? I hope he gets the job.
Thanks for asking. He thought he did okay. He said it was difficult but nothing he couldn't handle. Basically they gave him data bases to analyze. He said six people were there, but one came late. He also thinks he was the oldest there- so hopefully experience comes into play. They might have more people taking the test today, so he's waiting to hear from them about the next step. Fingers crossed!
@ starfishy I try to do that occasionally with P too. I pick a time where it doesn't really matter what we do and let him pick. I promise myself not to say no unless it's dangerous or something. I also let him decide when he wants to be done. It definitely helps with attitude. We are on a schedule so much that I forget it might not be so much fun for him. Sometimes it just helps for him to be in charge and feel like he is t getting bossed around by me so much.
Post by junkytrunk on Jul 29, 2016 20:41:01 GMT -5
Feeling lonely tonight. My H has only been home 1 night this week thanks to work and he went to a baseball game on one of his days off. He probably won't have another day off until Tuesday. I'm just so tired of doing nighttime by myself. Just a couple more weeks and hopefully he'll have some more days off.
I took a recording of this morning and how v treats me and the names she calls me. It probably wasn't the best thing to do but I'm frustrated. It's almost 3 minutes and I'm sure H won't listen to it all anyway. She was putting up a stink about a conversation H and I had which was about her. She wanted to know what it was about and I wasn't telling her. I explained that some things we/parents talk about might be about you but it doesn't always mean you need to know what it is. It happened to be about her mom upset that I let her use a tampon and questioning whether we were doing the hpv shot or not. All stuff that she really doesn't need to be concerned with. She actually called me a meanie, liar, and other words in front of hanna and eliza. That's what upsets me most.
Sorry bliz1712, that must suck. It's hard enough having a teenager, I'm guessing, but to have that be your step daughter must just be really hard.
I hope your H has a talk with her. I know she trusts you (more than some others) so maybe she's just frustrated you won't talk to her about it personally. Even though it's something she doesn't need to be involved with. Maybe just sitting her down and letting her know that there are just sometimes things that parents talk about and when things have been discussed with her dad (and possibly subsequently her mom too) then she'll be aware when the time is right.
I have no idea, but maybe she feels like you're hiding things from her, when really it's just not something she needs to be involved with.
bliz1712, I'm sorry she's disrespecting you, especially in front of the girls. Your H should absolutely put his foot down and tell her that kind of stuff won't be tolerated without some type of repercussions. Teenagers suck.
jennmm, That's part of the problem. Most of the time when she's like that he's not around, because I think she knows he would get down on her. Or she's just not that bad when he's around, so it's hard to get him to understand without making him pick sides.
trixi282, those are my feelings as well and I tried to explain to her that some things we don't need to discuss with her. She's a anxious or worrywart to begin with so some things just aren't worth it.
I finally broke and asked her to talk to her dad. And asked her how she thought her Dad would react if he saw or heard what she was doing this morning? She is more than welcome to talk to him or Her Mom and they can tell her. He was part of the the conversation too, go talk to him. But no instead you always come after me and yell and treat me bad, never him just me. It was probably a little harsh but I was at my breaking point.
I was sitting in the car getting ready to leave and she came out and apologized and we did end up hugging it out, but I'm sure it will only last a bit with a teenager
Post by xanthepants on Aug 1, 2016 16:28:32 GMT -5
bliz1712, I was a terror to my mom and she's the person I love most on earth. It didn't take me that long to figure it out. By the time I was 19 it was over completely. I hope you don't have to wait that long. She still sounds like a good kid, she just worries. She probably worries because she's been thru a split/(maybe divorce) already. She has the worries some kids don't. I'm just offering a different perspective here so you can tell me to butt out. Absolutely going thru teenage stuff - no doubt, and it would annoy me too. I think sending her to her Dad was a good thing to do.
Post by bantyrooster on Aug 5, 2016 8:00:35 GMT -5
bliz1712 I totally agree with xanthepants. I was a product of a bad divorce and a pretty messed up childhood. I was hardest on the people I knew would love me no matter what. She more than likely goes to you because she trusts you more. Honestly I would talk to her about the tampon and HPV issue, with dad there. She is old enough to talk about using or not using tampons since she had her period. HPV wait until the decision has been made. As a step child I would be hurt if I overheard people talking about me and didn't know if it was bad or not, and then they wouldn't tell me anything. It doesn't give her the right to speak to you like that though.
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