I guess I should've been careful what I wished for in terms of how hard it is with my husband here.
He got a second offer from the mines in Nunavit for more money because they really want him, and they're shipping him out Monday for two weeks. He'll make a little more than the wage he made locally, but in two weeks vs one month. So gone for two weeks, home for two weeks. He'll still hunt for something local and in the end we come out ahead because of the severance from his old job, then making a mont's wage in half a month.
But two weeks solo parenting.
Yay for him, and good luck to you! Do you have other adults you can hang out with during the day so you don't go crazy? Mom groups or other SAH friends?
Nope! I'm hoping to hang out with my work friends if they're on their week off while he's gone.
How much non-breast milk/non-formula fluids are your babies drinking in a day? We are offering water and cow's milk. She really loves cow's milk. Should I be limiting how much cow's milk she drinks in a day? Obviously, she is drinking mostly breast milk and formula.
Dani is offered her sippy at dinner (school hasn't started offering at lunch yet), and she maybe drinks 2oz of water during dinner time. If we're out in the sun on weekends I'll offer her water as well, and she'll have a few sips here and there, but it's nothing measurable. She still drinks 24-28oz of formula daily.
London Several times this weekend: Miss G and Master R are in their play yard. G cries and wants to be picked up (as you described), while R is fine. As soon as I pick up G, R cries and wants to be picked up too. If I put down G, she cries and R stops. So far my only solution is to sit in the play yard and let them both crawl all over me as they please. Sometimes that doesn't work and I have to pull them both onto my lap.
Ramona is going to daycare and I will hit the gym and spend some quality time with my pump. The boobs are drying up.
Sleep training is going well at bedtime, but when it's the MOTN and she is 1 foot from my face screaming, I'm not sure how to avoid bringing her in the bed. I mean, I don't really care, but she is sleeping in my bed 100% of the time from 1 am to wakeup at 6:00.
90% of the time this is us. I'm happy for those hours alone though until she's up. I'm too lazy to get out of bed and put her back. So I figure it'll work itself out eventually. If she gets crazy again with 5 wake ups between 1-6 then I may decide to do something. But I just deal with the 1-2 wake ups for now.
So, let me share the story of how I traumatized Dani yesterday...
She has this little board book, and in the center of it is a little finger puppet cow. Well, I was reading her the book and she reached for the cow. Since it's a puppet, I wiggled my finger at her. She jumped backwards completely startled. I showed her the cow again... same thing. It was instant terror. For the rest of the night I had to keep the book out of her sight otherwise she would freeze and scoot backwards away from it while whining.
DD is super into phones and remotes right now. Just holding them, not doing anything with them. If I take one away from her she has a massive melt down. Already! In the grocery store earlier I needed to look at my list and she screamed bloody murder for 10 minutes. I almost abandoned my cart and ran out of there.
We just met with a builder and really like things. I think we're going to keep the process moving on this one.
I'm freaked out. What should I ask? What do I look for? What do I need to know? I have no idea on building a house...
Welcome to the dark side. Are you using a custom home builder or delevoper?
Custom home. Edit for clarification: he does do developments but this is a neighborhood just off of our trail system that will have nine homes total. They will all be different and they have 18 pre-existing plans approved through different builders and another 6-7 plans that are pending in the approval process. Basically they'll all be custom homes - and he flat out said we could mix and match parts and pieces to blend things if we'd like too.
Welcome to the dark side. Are you using a custom home builder or delevoper?
Custom home. Edit for clarification: he does do developments but this is a neighborhood just off of our trail system that will have nine homes total. They will all be different and they have 18 pre-existing plans approved through different builders and another 6-7 plans that are pending in the approval process. Basically they'll all be custom homes - and he flat out said we could mix and match parts and pieces to blend things if we'd like too.
That's great! Best advice I can give is to clarify EVERYTHING and get it in writing. We have lists, and lists, and lists of selections and options. Everything from appliances, to how to lay our tile, to what handles are on our toilets... So get ready to pick every little detail. I got a big binder with lots of folders and just started organizing from there. The builder will guide you on a lot of it.
Post by eliza040502 on Jul 5, 2016 19:44:59 GMT -5
My H got a diagnosis for our latest plague. Viral Myositis. It's evil. I hope it stays far away from you and your children. My H has had to help me get in bed, get up from the couch and out on my pumping stuff so far tonight. Thank god I was able to get off the toilet by myself (#motivation).
Custom home. Edit for clarification: he does do developments but this is a neighborhood just off of our trail system that will have nine homes total. They will all be different and they have 18 pre-existing plans approved through different builders and another 6-7 plans that are pending in the approval process. Basically they'll all be custom homes - and he flat out said we could mix and match parts and pieces to blend things if we'd like too.
H said to have a home inspection at framing and the end. Like Tex said write everything down.
Good point! Our city requires something like 15 separate inspections for each step of the build (foundation, framing, plumbing, etc). If no city inspections are performed, I would inquire about bringing in your own inspector at both of those times. Also, and we haven't reached this point yet, go over every inch of the house during your pre-sale walk through. That will be your final time to mark off any errors (improper wall texturing, gaps in caulking, scuffs, scratches, etc). Don't let the builder rush you. You and your DH should start in different ends of the house, and then go over the rooms that the other one already walked through. Be as picky as possible because if you find an aesthetic flaw after the walk through, a lot of the time you're going to wind up fixing it yourself.
During the build, if possible, be on site as much as possible. I work 10 min from the house so I'm there (and they see that I'm there) multiple times each week. DH and I will also go together on Sunday's to walk though while no one is working. We'll take pictures of things we think are off, or incorrect, and email them to the contractor asking for a written response.
Picked up Z from my dad today and he felt warm. But he had just been napping on him, so I assumed body heat. He was acting normal. Got home and halfway through dinner he has a meltdown after he put a piece of mum mum in his mouth. Almost as if it hurt. H got home a few min later and when he took him he thought he felt warm too. Took his temp at bedtime and he had a slight fever(100.5). Poor guy. Gave him some Motrin and he luckily went down well. But woke up 45 min later. Luckily felt much cooler so Motrin at least brought the fever down. Finally just got him back down. Hopefully he sleeps well tonight.
I didn't sleep well last night because my stomach wasn't feeling good. Thought it might be the junk I ate yesterday. Hopefully he doesn't have a bad bug. My mom is able to watch him tomorrow morning since it's H's half day.
Add us to the sick of fireworks. We got home around 8:30 and they were already going in the neighborhood. By 9 we retreated to the bedroom so the AC unit would help block the sounds for the dog. It worked pretty well. Z woke up at 12:30 and I could still hear people shooting them off not too far away.
And we're on wake up 2 and it's only 10. I hate that I can't tell if he's sick or this is just teething. He was so drooly over the past few days. And exceptionally today from what my dad said. But the fever this evening threw me off.
Custom home. Edit for clarification: he does do developments but this is a neighborhood just off of our trail system that will have nine homes total. They will all be different and they have 18 pre-existing plans approved through different builders and another 6-7 plans that are pending in the approval process. Basically they'll all be custom homes - and he flat out said we could mix and match parts and pieces to blend things if we'd like too.
That's great! Best advice I can give is to clarify EVERYTHING and get it in writing. We have lists, and lists, and lists of selections and options. Everything from appliances, to how to lay our tile, to what handles are on our toilets... So get ready to pick every little detail. I got a big binder with lots of folders and just started organizing from there. The builder will guide you on a lot of it.
+1 to getting everything in writing. We had them include a 220 volt for a hot tub on the back of the house. This was worked into our deal as a freebie. Fast forward to last week and they're telling us we owe $1400 because there's a separate breaker needed for a hot tub, and the paperwork never specified it's for a hot tub. And conveniently no one remembers is saying that the wanted it for a hot tub. So we're fighting with that.
Also see how much you can get included. Worked in to our deal at no cost were getting a 2 foot extension to length and width of garage, floor drain and hot and cold taps in the garage, bench and cubbies in a mud room, granite upstairs, framing/electrical/drywall in basement, 200 square feet added to floor plan, and I think there was more but I don't remember!
So A is dealing with what I can only describe as reverse separation anxiety.
When I am not around, she is chill and playing and happy. When I walk into the room, she is whiny and clingy and weepy and miserable.
Is this a real thing? Has anyone else experienced this? Or is it just my child who goes from independent lady to bottomless pit of need the moment she sees me?
What the heck do you do when your kid won't stop sitting up and then crying in the middle of the night? It's been a shit show the past 3 days because he keeps sitting up then crying.
What the heck do you do when your kid won't stop sitting up and then crying in the middle of the night? It's been a shit show the past 3 days because he keeps sitting up then crying.
If C does this several times within a 1-2 hour period I'll go check her diaper and try a bottle. If neither of those help I'll leave her for 20-25 minutes. If she's still crying, which rarely happens, I'll rock her. Good luck. I hate it when that happens.
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