I'm trying to recover from my night of both kids all on my own. I need a new game plan for tonight. I think I need to wait to put DS to bed until I can get DD to bed. It's not ideal since he needs sleep and already doesn't nap and wakes up super early, but it did not work trying to read stories and put him to bed with DD in his room. Do any of you ladies do bedtime with 2 or more kids on your own? Any tips?
Post by frecklesnbrains on Jul 7, 2016 8:35:21 GMT -5
I took a chance this morning and jumped in the shower because the LO appeared to be asleep. 10 minutes later I finish and he is screaming hysterically. It took me a good 15 minutes to calm him down. I feel terrible. Please tell me I'm not alone...
Upside? I have shaved armpits, which is good because it's tank top weather and I was going all jungle-like.
I took a chance this morning and jumped in the shower because the LO appeared to be asleep. 10 minutes later I finish and he is screaming hysterically. It took me a good 15 minutes to calm him down. I feel terrible. Please tell me I'm not alone...
Upside? I have shaved armpits, which is good because it's tank top weather and I was going all jungle-like.
You're not alone. It feels terrible to hear a little baby cry and have them be inconsolable. But, lots of babies have been in that situation and are ok. Anyone with multiples, or another kid, or who has a baby who hates car rides, or has to take a shower, etc. have all been there. Baby will be ok and so will you!
I took a chance this morning and jumped in the shower because the LO appeared to be asleep. 10 minutes later I finish and he is screaming hysterically. It took me a good 15 minutes to calm him down. I feel terrible. Please tell me I'm not alone...
Upside? I have shaved armpits, which is good because it's tank top weather and I was going all jungle-like.
I took a chance this morning and jumped in the shower because the LO appeared to be asleep. 10 minutes later I finish and he is screaming hysterically. It took me a good 15 minutes to calm him down. I feel terrible. Please tell me I'm not alone...
Upside? I have shaved armpits, which is good because it's tank top weather and I was going all jungle-like.
babyzebra I bring the baby into the room with DD when I put her down. She is almost 4. And as long as we read some books and she gets a hug she does ok. It took a few times to get a good system. And some nights it is quicker because of LO crying.
We are going on our longest car ride with both kids. It's about six hours to Yellowstone. We are leaving this afternoon. I know we are going to have to stop and nurse a few times. But, I am nervous if the baby cries and this taking forever.
DS has his newborn photos this afternoon. I'm looking forward to getting out of the house for a bit. I think I'm ready to start venturing out for a bit each day. I'm usually so busy, so this is a huge change for me.
Post by carolinaheart on Jul 7, 2016 10:03:49 GMT -5
DH didn't get home until so late last night it threw off our whole evening and I am so freaking tired this morning. Soon I have to get us both ready to get out of the house while the pest people are here.
I need coffee. Whyyyy does the machine have to be downstairs?
I'm having such a difficult time with balancing other people's opinions and my own parenting choices. I'm a FTM and my mom, MIL, sister and aunties all want to tell me how to care for LO. A huge area of contention are her feedings. I exclusively pump (latch problems) and don't need to supplement, so she's getting breastmilk from the bottle. I feed her about 3oz every 2-3 hours. She's gained weight and the doctor said she's maintained her spot in the 50% from her first visit at a few days old, to her most recent one month visit. My mom keeps encouraging me to feed her more, but I don't want to overfeed the baby. She says the baby won't over eat, but I keep trying to explain that bottle fed babies are more likely to over eat than breastfed babies. LO doesn't have to work as hard to get the milk from a bottle as she would from a breast and will drink as much as I give her whether its 3, 4 or 5 oz. LO never turns down food, and always seems content after feedings, not hungry. I agreed to increase each bottle by a half oz per feeding (to 3.5 oz) but my mom wants me to increase by a full oz. Its just frustrating. If I was nursing the traditional way I wouldn't have to hear this, since she wouldn't know how much the baby was eating.
Also, my MIL and aunts keep encouraging me to put cereal in the baby's formula to get her to sleep. Ive told them the pedi doesn't recommend that. They all point out that they did this for years when raising their children, who are all fine. Every time I start a sentence with "I read..." or "the doctor said..." they roll their eyes. I'm the one who has to stay up with her at night, not them; so why are they so concerned about her sleeping habits. I'm just over all of the opinions about how I should parent my baby.
Post by Flair Underwood on Jul 7, 2016 10:06:34 GMT -5
Today's plan is to sleep. LO fell asleep at like 7:30 last night. Figuring he's wake up in an hour and a half, nurse and go down for his long stretch (4 hours!) I stayed up late (10 pm! Gasp!) to watch an episode of OINTB with DH. When Lo was still out at 9;30, DH Gave him a 4 oz bottle at 9:30 with the hope he'd sleep again for another long stretch.
That plan backfired... He was up at 12, 1-2:30, 4 and 5. Oi.
I have a call in for an LC so that I can get some help with his latch. I can't take another night completely full of gassy screaming.
Post by Flair Underwood on Jul 7, 2016 10:08:40 GMT -5
bgkc4... Screw them. You and your pediatrician are the ink ones whose opinions counts. Let every word everyone else says go in one ear and right out the other.
bgkc4 ... Screw them. You and your pediatrician are the ink ones whose opinions counts. Let every word everyone else says go in one ear and right out the other.
Thanks. I know they mean well, and I don't think feeding the LO more milk, or giving her cereal at night would be detrimental, but I hate that they want to pressure me into doing things their way, instead of encouraging and supporting the decisions I make. SaveSave
babyzebra alone with two sounds so stressful! How many more nights of solo do you have??
I have tonight and then 4 days next week and then it's done. There was so much screaming last night (baby, toddler, and me yelling at toddler) that my dog was shaking. Working the night shift is a terrible idea if anyone is considering that for their SO. I truly do not know how single parents and military parents do it. I am in awe of their super powers.
bgkc4 that is very frustrating. It's your baby, you make the decisions. One thing my mom taught me with ds1 was to learn to politely ignore people. "That's a great idea, I'll think about it." "I haven't heard of doing that, thanks." Once you acknowledge their dumb ideas, maybe they'll move on. Everyone loves giving advice but take what you want and ignore all the rest. I agree, if she is growing there's no need for cereal in her milk especially so young.
babyzebra tonight is my first night with two at bedtime by myself. Ds1 gets a bath every night so I can't forgo bath. If I can't get ds2 asleep for bedtime hour, my plan is to put him in the ergo. Ds1 has been enjoying "reading" (he can't read but looks at the pictures) by himself lately so if ds2 is screaming I'll have ds1 read to himself till I can come back in and tuck him in. I will survive till Monday, I will survive till Monday.
Sorry bgkc4 that you have to deal with that. I know it's easier said than done to just ignore them, but that's really what needs to happen if they keep trying to push their advice onto you. I think now is a good time to set up clear boundaries because this unsolicited advice is just starting. Let them know you appreciate their advice, but that you're going to do it this way instead. It's hard, sorry.
frecklesnbrains you're not alone. That's such a horrible feeling but he'll survive. Next shower, can you put him in an rnp and move the rnp into the bathroom? Only problem with that is then you'll hear him and you won't finish your shower. Hooray for shaved armpits! I got in a shower this morning before dh left for a few days. Might be my only shower until he gets home.
frecklesnbrains you're not alone. That's such a horrible feeling but he'll survive. Next shower, can you put him in an rnp and move the rnp into the bathroom? Only problem with that is then you'll hear him and you won't finish your shower. Hooray for shaved armpits! I got in a shower this morning before dh left for a few days. Might be my only shower until he gets home.
I agree with this and also feel like putting the baby in the bathroom helps to sooth them. The water running is like white noise and it gets all hot and comfy in there. That doesn't mean crying will never happen, but I really think it helps.
bgkc4, ugh I hate comments like that. My advice to you would be to start saying 'We're doing it this way' or 'This works best for us' and leaving it at that. Change the conversation or completely leave the room if they continue (I've had to do that before, it's incredibly effective!).
bighair12, good luck on your drive. We had a very short 45 minute drive a couple of weeks ago. The baby screamed for the first 10 minutes, really screamed but then fell asleep for the next 4-5 hours. It was heartbreaking to hear but there wasn't anything we could do and at least she slept after that.
babyzebra, I've been hit or miss with putting the baby in the bjorn (her preferred carrier at the moment) during DS's bedtime routine. I put her in there about 15 min beforehand and if she is also a little drowsy she might take a cat nap. Otherwise I'd have to put her to bed afterwards, it takes too long at the moment.
Anyone else have a lot of baby acne going on? She's had it for about 2 weeks now, spread across her face but now also on her neck and chest. I'm starting to think the neck chest might actually be a rash (like an irritant from detergent or something).
frecklesnbrains you're not alone. That's such a horrible feeling but he'll survive. Next shower, can you put him in an rnp and move the rnp into the bathroom? Only problem with that is then you'll hear him and you won't finish your shower. Hooray for shaved armpits! I got in a shower this morning before dh left for a few days. Might be my only shower until he gets home.
I agree with this and also feel like putting the baby in the bathroom helps to sooth them. The water running is like white noise and it gets all hot and comfy in there. That doesn't mean crying will never happen, but I really think it helps.
Yes this, I put the baby in the bouncy chair in the bathroom next to the shower. It usually gives me around 10-15 minutes. Should also add that she dislikes this chair normally but I think the sound of the shower makes it tolerable for her, at least for a little bit.
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