For those of you trying bottles, it sometimes works better if your SO gives the bottle. LO won't always take one from mama because they know the fresh milk is right there and want that instead.
DD2 won't take the bottle from me but is a champ from DH or my mom
LO went back to sleep thankfully but holy breast pain. Geez. I got up at 5am to pump to try to relieve some pain to little avail. I've resorted to ibuprofen now. But it was my first pump for this baby and I got 5 oz! Looks like we can try that bottle now!
Good luck! Let me know how it goes. We're about to try for our second bottle when she wakes up. The first one was a huge failure. Haha
DD refused so many bottles and yesterday she finally took one. Many people recommended the comotomo bottle and it worked. I ordered it from Amazon, it's a bit pricey but I need her to take a bottle so it is what it is.
As for me, it's not so much fear of catastrophic facebuckery (although that's real), as the fact that I've talked about TMI things on here, like when I'm ovulating and such, that I just don't discuss out in the real world. I like having a separate place.
Post by carolinaheart on Jul 17, 2016 12:13:50 GMT -5
That was today's tactic, athn64. I made DH get her up from nap and change her and everything. Still no. How long do I let them argue before giving up? I don't want to give up too easy but I also don't want to torture her.
That was today's tactic, athn64. I made DH get her up from nap and change her and everything. Still no. How long do I let them argue before giving up? I don't want to give up too easy but I also don't want to torture her.
My dd would only take lansinoh mOmma bottles. The nipple is an unusual shape and that's the only thing that worked after buying no less than 20 different bottle options.
Post by carolinaheart on Jul 17, 2016 12:45:23 GMT -5
Y'all, it's a Christmas miracle. More like Murphy's law. But I'll take it.
After we gave up and I put her on my boob, got on Amazon and ordered those suggested bottles. Then I decided what the hell and gave her the bottle myself. I got her to latch somehow and then slipped her to DH and she DRAINED the whole thing!
So I'm getting frustrated with always being the one caring for ds2. I feel like I'm missing out on the fun things with ds1. Today we all went to the pool but I stayed in the shade with baby while dh played with ds in the pool. I tried having dh take the baby when we got home but baby just screamed bloody murder. I'm struggling with letting go of control and it being okay if baby cries with dh. He has to figure out how to calm him, but it's so hard for me to listen to crying when I know if I take him he'll stop instantly. Any suggestions?
Post by carolinaheart on Jul 17, 2016 13:38:39 GMT -5
Solidarity love-tit mladerri! I have this same problem. There have been times when DH would literally just stare at her while she screamed because he is so clueless. Initially I didn't want to insult him by telling him what to do but finally I couldn't take it anymore and started refusing to take her and telling him how to soothe her. No, H, she is *not* hungry every time she cries, you just need to try something else.
So I'm getting frustrated with always being the one caring for ds2. I feel like I'm missing out on the fun things with ds1. Today we all went to the pool but I stayed in the shade with baby while dh played with ds in the pool. I tried having dh take the baby when we got home but baby just screamed bloody murder. I'm struggling with letting go of control and it being okay if baby cries with dh. He has to figure out how to calm him, but it's so hard for me to listen to crying when I know if I take him he'll stop instantly. Any suggestions?
I'm in the same situation, it's so frustrating. DH does trying soothing her but she rarely calms down with him. I feel bad for DS that I don't get to spend as much one on one time with him. I hope this is a stage that she outgrows quickly.
For those of you trying bottles, it sometimes works better if your SO gives the bottle. LO won't always take one from mama because they know the fresh milk is right there and want that instead.
DD2 won't take the bottle from me but is a champ from DH or my mom
Yep! This is what we did with ds1 and he was a bottle champ. Hopefully ds2 is the same!
I'm feeling so cooped up from being trapped in the house. I went out once on Thursday but nothing other than that except for doctors appointments. I am itching for a Target run, but I don't want to take or leave DS. I also really want to walk to my boba tea shop about 2 miles away but I was told to not go on walks until my 6 week appt. that's so far from now!
Any suggestions for staying sane during the first couple weeks at home? Or reassurance that it'll be okay to take my 9 day old out?
Post by woodengirl07 on Jul 17, 2016 15:56:46 GMT -5
GOmamab15 I started taking my LO out in public when she was about a week old. We mainly stay home, but I try to get out of the house at least a few times a week, even if it's just to run to Starbucks drive thru. It makes me feel normal. I know it can be a hassle with the car seat and all, but it's worth it to me.
Holy shit babyzebra. That is ridiculous. I'm sorry
greysonsmom Yes to the comotomo bottles! Those were the first ones she took!
mladerri I was so frustrated too cause it was so hard not to do soothing myself. I read somewhere that I have to let my partner learn or all the childcare will fall to me so I really try to remind myself of that when I want to grab her right away. Now that we have the exercise ball and she really calms down being bounced, his go to move is sitting on the ball bouncing her. I also think he now has a little checklist in his head of moves - bounce on ball, deep squats, soothing noise and repeat.
GOmamab15 I started to take DD out in her first week at home. Nothing big or to anywhere super crowded, but I needed to leave the house for a hour. She was covered in her car seat the whole time. If you need to get out for a little bit for your sanity I think that would be fine.
mladerri, I've been feeling the same way. I've been trying to take a couple hours on the weekend for just DS and myself while DH stays with the baby but it's been hard in general feeling like I'm missing out on him. Keep telling myself that in a few months things will be different and the baby won't need quite as much constant attention giving me some more room for DS.
I'm feeling so cooped up from being trapped in the house. I went out once on Thursday but nothing other than that except for doctors appointments. I am itching for a Target run, but I don't want to take or leave DS. I also really want to walk to my boba tea shop about 2 miles away but I was told to not go on walks until my 6 week appt. that's so far from now!
Any suggestions for staying sane during the first couple weeks at home? Or reassurance that it'll be okay to take my 9 day old out?
Idk. Maybe I'm not careful enough but we stopped for lunch on our way home from the hospital. And I definitely wasn't walking miles at a time but DH and I went on short walks around the neighborhood during his leave.
I'm feeling so cooped up from being trapped in the house. I went out once on Thursday but nothing other than that except for doctors appointments. I am itching for a Target run, but I don't want to take or leave DS. I also really want to walk to my boba tea shop about 2 miles away but I was told to not go on walks until my 6 week appt. that's so far from now!
Any suggestions for staying sane during the first couple weeks at home? Or reassurance that it'll be okay to take my 9 day old out?
Go!! We've been taking lo out since his one week appt. Today we are at his second amusement park and he's not even a month old! So far so good. He's actually easier than the 4 year old now.
Post by mymilkshake on Jul 17, 2016 18:09:23 GMT -5
GOmamab15 we also took DS out around 1 week....to target! We had him covered up in the carrier too. He will be 4 weeks tmrw and has been out a few times a week....id go crazy being cooped up all day! Also at my two week incision check my doctor said I was okay to walk an easy mike or two. I started around 2.5 weeks and just went slow.
I went for it. Target was kind of a fail. We did succeed at getting diapers but he started screaming and I was panicking because I'm a 1 trick pony when it comes to comforting him-but I didn't want to whip out my boob so I struggled with getting him calm. I think he could tell I was panicking and only calmed down once we gave up and beelined for the check out. By the time we put him back in the car he was fast asleep. "Do we go back in?" Next time I'll work on my deep breathing. And maybe he'll be more into his pacifier.
I went for it. Target was kind of a fail. We did succeed at getting diapers but he started screaming and I was panicking because I'm a 1 trick pony when it comes to comforting him-but I didn't want to whip out my boob so I struggled with getting him calm. I think he could tell I was panicking and only calmed down once we gave up and beelined for the check out. By the time we put him back in the car he was fast asleep. "Do we go back in?" Next time I'll work on my deep breathing. And maybe he'll be more into his pacifier.
Good job getting out! I agree when others said just to go, totally worth it! We were out within days of getting home both times. Sometimes getting out can be hard, but being stuck at home is really hard also!
nymama917 the same thing happened to us last night... We did not take proper advantage of her long sleep cause she went down earlier then usual! We were watching Stranger Things on Netflix which was addicting!
We started stranger things during toddler nap time today, I can't wait to watch more!
nymama917 the same thing happened to us last night... We did not take proper advantage of her long sleep cause she went down earlier then usual! We were watching Stranger Things on Netflix which was addicting!
We started stranger things during toddler nap time today, I can't wait to watch more!
I started watching it tonight, but it was freaking me out so I decided to turn it off and watch it when DH is home
Bachelorette weekend accomplished! He was so good in the car, 6 hours up and 4 hours back and he was asleep or at least not crying for pretty much all of it. He was great all weekend actually. The other ladies were all excited to have him, so I got a lot of breaks. We were just hanging out in a gorgeous house all weekend, so I could be flexible with him most of the time. There were some not so fun parts. It was hard being on other people's schedule for meals and activities, for feeding him especially. My boobs were so painful all weekend because I never had enough time to pump properly! It also can wear a little thin to hang out with drunk people when you have to be sober. Not that I didn't enjoy a few glasses of wine, but I didn't keep up with those who were drinking margaritas in the hot tub all day. I'm glad I went, though. It was nice to get out of our routine and it is good to know LO is pretty resilient when it comes to travel.
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