Post by ladytiffany24 on Mar 23, 2016 20:04:27 GMT -5
Hugs @iheartmyshiba! I wasn't around much today so I didn't read most of the thread until now.
If it makes you feel any better, things can get pretty snarky over there whenever anyone strays from the typical scientific way of thinking, not just for newbies.
I've found most everyone there to be a great support system for TTC. I'm hoping you'll stick around. I think if you move on and keep posting over there, that's looked upon in a great light.
At the same time, if you don't feel comfortable over there, you have to do what's best for you. Either way, you've got a great support system here!!
Post by ladytiffany24 on Mar 23, 2016 20:08:32 GMT -5
rlb we're crazy and try to hit ED. It's hard and exhausting. If I don't turn a stick this cycle, we may try every other day during fertile window and then every day once I get a positive OPK.
If I were in your shoes, I would just try to hit as much as you guys are comfortable with during the fertile window. All it takes is once! Remind me, are you temping, using OPKs and checking CM? If so, I would def try to hit when you notice EWCM and the day after you turn a positive OPK.
Post by surfmama106 on Mar 24, 2016 5:31:55 GMT -5
Ok, stupid question but here it goes. SIL is a PITA (obviously) but she's all hell bent on "trying for a girl" (since she has 2 boys). She keeps being like "we're going to use the _________ method (can't remember what she called it) since we're trying for the girl"
Is this a thing? I mean like a scientific thing. Something about boys being the faster swimmers and girls taking their time so only sex the few days before O so if you get pregnant it has to be a slow swimmer (girl)?
SIL is a total pill and says crazy shit all the time so I never know what to take seriously, but if in being honest I pray she gets another boy, and that he's a psycho. Yet she prob deserves a girl just as insane as she is to torture her through the preteen/teen years.
Ok, stupid question but here it goes. SIL is a PITA (obviously) but she's all hell bent on "trying for a girl" (since she has 2 boys). She keeps being like "we're going to use the _________ method (can't remember what she called it) since we're trying for the girl"
Is this a thing? I mean like a scientific thing. Something about boys being the faster swimmers and girls taking their time so only sex the few days before O so if you get pregnant it has to be a slow swimmer (girl)?
SIL is a total pill and says crazy shit all the time so I never know what to take seriously, but if in being honest I pray she gets another boy, and that he's a psycho. Yet she prob deserves a girl just as insane as she is to torture her through the preteen/teen years.
The swimming speed is a thing supported by science. Being able to get it to work in your "favor" seems like it would have its challenges. But in theory if you knew your cycle well enough I think you could potentially increase your odds for one sex or the other.
It's called the shettles method. It hasn't been proven, just a theory based on sperm speed, but I'm not sure if the science has actually shown that slower sperm actually = a particular sex. She'll be able to find plenty of people who swear it worked for them because they did actually get pregnant with sex they were hoping for, but it's a skewed sample. Who's going to actually come out and put down where a future kid could find it that they were hoping for a girl and tried this method and got a boy?
The only way to guarantee the sex a person wants is through IVF (a la Chrissy Tiegen and John Legend). As far as I'm concerned, if you've gone through the long journey that leads you to that point to have your family, then choose away.
ETA sorry for all the "actuallys" in that. Need to find another word apparently.
Yeah. My conclusion is that because I don't temp I don't have exact dates and they are very date driven. It's also an unpopular opinion that you can test at 7 DPO. The failure rate is really high but about 15-20% of women who are pregnant can turn a test at 7DPO according to all the pregnant test sites...
I got my BFP with DS1 at 8dpo. I didn't test before then so who knows if it might've turned at 7. And it was with a Wondfo, not even a fancy pee stick.
rlb we're crazy and try to hit ED. It's hard and exhausting. If I don't turn a stick this cycle, we may try every other day during fertile window and then every day once I get a positive OPK.
If I were in your shoes, I would just try to hit as much as you guys are comfortable with during the fertile window. All it takes is once! Remind me, are you temping, using OPKs and checking CM? If so, I would def try to hit when you notice EWCM and the day after you turn a positive OPK.
Sorry about your experience on GKU, @iheartmyshiba . I know I am way not consistent enough with anything to even venture over there, so I'm comfy riiight here with youse guys.
Tiff, I am using FF, checking CM & position, and OPKs, but having a hard time getting nailed after I turn an OPK, and frankly, not 100% confident in my CM/position checking abilities. Consistency is the key in those (and temping) and I have a hard time with that. But, I turned a test today, and DH knows it needs to be done at least again today. No ifs, ands or butts.
Edit: should I wait until tomorrow if the test turned today?
Post by ladytiffany24 on Mar 24, 2016 14:23:10 GMT -5
rlb, If I were you, I'd try to hit today and tomorrow. But, if you can only hit 1, I think tonight would be safe. Some women O on the same day they turn a test. I have before. But if I turn 2, FF usually doesn't give me my crosshairs until the 2nd day. Of course, that is based on other stuff too, temps, cm. Hit tonight. But you may still turn a test tomorrow, depending on your actual LH surge.
rlb , If I were you, I'd try to hit today and tomorrow. But, if you can only hit 1, I think tonight would be safe. Some women O on the same day they turn a test. I have before. But if I turn 2, FF usually doesn't give me my crosshairs until the 2nd day. Of course, that is based on other stuff too, temps, cm. Hit tonight. But you may still turn a test tomorrow, depending on your actual LH surge.
Roger that. He's aware tonight's the night since we didn't do it yesterday. I'll do another OPK tomorrow too, just because.
rlb we're crazy and try to hit ED. It's hard and exhausting. If I don't turn a stick this cycle, we may try every other day during fertile window and then every day once I get a positive OPK.
If I were in your shoes, I would just try to hit as much as you guys are comfortable with during the fertile window. All it takes is once! Remind me, are you temping, using OPKs and checking CM? If so, I would def try to hit when you notice EWCM and the day after you turn a positive OPK.
Sorry about your experience on GKU, @iheartmyshiba . I know I am way not consistent enough with anything to even venture over there, so I'm comfy riiight here with youse guys.
Tiff, I am using FF, checking CM & position, and OPKs, but having a hard time getting nailed after I turn an OPK, and frankly, not 100% confident in my CM/position checking abilities. Consistency is the key in those (and temping) and I have a hard time with that. But, I turned a test today, and DH knows it needs to be done at least again today. No ifs, ands or butts.
Edit: should I wait until tomorrow if the test turned today?
Definitely no butts. You won't get pregnant that way.
Sorry about your experience on GKU, @iheartmyshiba . I know I am way not consistent enough with anything to even venture over there, so I'm comfy riiight here with youse guys.
Tiff, I am using FF, checking CM & position, and OPKs, but having a hard time getting nailed after I turn an OPK, and frankly, not 100% confident in my CM/position checking abilities. Consistency is the key in those (and temping) and I have a hard time with that. But, I turned a test today, and DH knows it needs to be done at least again today. No ifs, ands or butts.
Edit: should I wait until tomorrow if the test turned today?
Definitely no butts. You won't get pregnant that way.
rlb , If I were you, I'd try to hit today and tomorrow. But, if you can only hit 1, I think tonight would be safe. Some women O on the same day they turn a test. I have before. But if I turn 2, FF usually doesn't give me my crosshairs until the 2nd day. Of course, that is based on other stuff too, temps, cm. Hit tonight. But you may still turn a test tomorrow, depending on your actual LH surge.
Roger that. He's aware tonight's the night since we didn't do it yesterday. I'll do another OPK tomorrow too, just because.
Sorry about your experience on GKU, @iheartmyshiba . I know I am way not consistent enough with anything to even venture over there, so I'm comfy riiight here with youse guys.
Tiff, I am using FF, checking CM & position, and OPKs, but having a hard time getting nailed after I turn an OPK, and frankly, not 100% confident in my CM/position checking abilities. Consistency is the key in those (and temping) and I have a hard time with that. But, I turned a test today, and DH knows it needs to be done at least again today. No ifs, ands or butts.
Edit: should I wait until tomorrow if the test turned today?
Definitely no butts. You won't get pregnant that way.
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