Just an fyi I may have to poas this month too. Anniversary weekend was too much fun haha. Things haven't returned to absolute normal so there is a slight chance. I'll keep you posted
No baby. I'm relieved and sad all at the same time. Appointment for IUD is scheduled for Friday but I need to be on my period to get it. This cycle was our last questionable one. As of potentially Friday I'll be back on long term BC.
Paraguard. No hormones and it lasts twice as long as the Mirena. It's what I had for about 5 yrs prior to DD.
Oh ok, just checking My sister had a Mirena put in and it blew apart and destroyed her insides. She can't have kids now because of it. Apparently there is a huge lawsuit against Mirena.
@iheartmyshiba, it is awful! Ironically, when I was in having Spencer, she was in the same hospital having her cervix dilated so they could take out the pieces. Stupid Mirena!
Oh ok, just checking My sister had a Mirena put in and it blew apart and destroyed her insides. She can't have kids now because of it. Apparently there is a huge lawsuit against Mirena.
That is so, so fucked up. I'm sorry that happened to her.
I'd sue the shit out of them, too. That's so horrible!
@iheartmyshiba, it is awful! Ironically, when I was in having Spencer, she was in the same hospital having her cervix dilated so they could take out the pieces. Stupid Mirena!
Your poor sister! I cant imagine the pain she must have gone through. I'm mad for her.
Well I was a week late from when I expected my period.. Thought to myself I should poas just in case, even though DH and I haven't done it that much recently. And it is positive. I'm in shock. We weren't even going to try until December. I guess we weren't careful enough. I need moral support, I'm freaking out!
No baby. I'm relieved and sad all at the same time. Appointment for IUD is scheduled for Friday but I need to be on my period to get it. This cycle was our last questionable one. As of potentially Friday I'll be back on long term BC.
Sorry for the mixed emotions :/ I imagine that's how we will be starting this fall as well. Not sure if financially we should try for #2 then even though I want to start trying.
Sorry for the mixed emotions :/ I imagine that's how we will be starting this fall as well. Not sure if financially we should try for #2 then even though I want to start trying.
Yup. Hugs. It's rough. And then my mom is like "have all the babies" and I don't know how to/if I should tell her. I'm not ready for the backlash... I joined the OAD group so there's that.
I've told my mom a couple of times that I doubt we will have another and she keeps saying how dd needs a sibling, don't make the decision now, etc, etc.
She doesn't understand - she didn't work full time (if at all) when she had me and my brother. Plus her mother didn't work full time either.
But I work full time, DH helps but not enough and its like pulling teeth to get my mom to come over to help. Before DH left for his 5 week long deployment I basically had to beg her to get her to come over to watch dd so we could have a date night before he left. Since he has been gone (4 weeks) she has been over once to help me out so I could get some stuff done.
mary1217, that's really rotten of her to be the way. I personally hate when parents think they have some "say" in family planning for their own kids. That sucks she's not there for you more.
I had a dream last night that I got a BFP then woke up really sad because it was obviously a dream. This cycle is so hard with all the BFPs popping up around me and H being away and then us moving right before AF is due. It's too much to deal with at once and it's making me miserable.
H and I have discussed adoption a few times already and with the potential for issues (from past experience), I'm thinking about calling it a day on biological children and looking at adopting 2 siblings instead. That way, we can give 2 kids a home and use the time we're in DK to get to where we need to be to make adoption happen. I was looking into it and even though H wanted an international child, adopting within the US seems like a much better choice. I know that if we have a third, we won't end up adopting but it's something I'd always wanted to do even since before I had DD1.
I think that's really cool. I hope that your passion to love more children leads you to something wonderful for your family.
I've told my mom a couple of times that I doubt we will have another and she keeps saying how dd needs a sibling, don't make the decision now, etc, etc.
She doesn't understand - she didn't work full time (if at all) when she had me and my brother. Plus her mother didn't work full time either.
But I work full time, DH helps but not enough and its like pulling teeth to get my mom to come over to help. Before DH left for his 5 week long deployment I basically had to beg her to get her to come over to watch dd so we could have a date night before he left. Since he has been gone (4 weeks) she has been over once to help me out so I could get some stuff done.
Sounds like she really doesn't get how hard working full time AND being a mom is
She doesn't and she complains about how busy she is all the time but she only works Mon-Thur and not 8 hour days.
mary1217, that's really rotten of her to be the way. I personally hate when parents think they have some "say" in family planning for their own kids. That sucks she's not there for you more.
My mom loves to tell me what the perfect age gap is all the time. DH and I are heavily considering doing two around two. My mom likes to say all the time how my sister and I's spacing was just perfect (2.9yrs) and how she didn't even consider having another one until my sister was 2. blah blah blah...and then I tell her how we might want more than two. She goes into how everything is set up for a family of four these days. And that my dad and her only wanted two because coming from big families (6&7) they wanted to be able to travel blah blah blah.
mary1217, that's really rotten of her to be the way. I personally hate when parents think they have some "say" in family planning for their own kids. That sucks she's not there for you more.
My mom loves to tell me what the perfect age gap is all the time. DH and I are heavily considering doing two around two. My mom likes to say all the time how my sister and I's spacing was just perfect (2.9yrs) and how she didn't even consider having another one until my sister was 2. blah blah blah...and then I tell her how we might want more than two. She goes into how everything is set up for a family of four these days. And that my dad and her only wanted two because coming from big families (6&7) they wanted to be able to travel blah blah blah.
Thanks mom- we are different people FYI!
STUCK IN THE QUOTE BOX
My mom was kind of the same way. She was flabbergasted when we had #3 because she only had 2 kids and 3 was "uncharted territory" (her exact words). WTF.
soon2bmrsn omg. Talk about a dramatic use of the term "uncharted territory". Lol.
Yep, that's my mom. The funny thing was that she said it to/in front of MIL, who also has "only" two kids, as if MIL was going to agree with her or something. Haha.
Post by hurricanerek on May 31, 2015 13:44:37 GMT -5
I'm waiting until December to start. Hoping that you are KU or moving forward with adoption plans well before that point though. Even though I'm not trying I still like to read the board and root for you!
I'm waiting until December to start. Hoping that you are KU or moving forward with adoption plans well before that point though. Even though I'm not trying I still like to read the board and root for you!
At this point, waiting until I get lasik which should be August. We were possibly only waiting for her birthday, but the hubs said he'd like a little more spacing between the next one and I'd really like to get my eyes fixed.
Just me left of the ones actively trying by the look of it then
The more I think about it, the more I want to stop trying and move on to adoption. Late July will be another year of not preventing and (so far) not getting pregnant and I don't know how long I can do it for without it causing another meltdown or where we can even go with it since there's not really any lifestyle changes left for me or H to make. H is ever optimistic but it might be that we have to go to the doctor once he gets back from his dig in August and see what's going on. There's only so long a person can go on hoping to be that long shot chance of everything going perfectly this time and I'm a life-long pessimist.
I am so sorry. I hope that whatever you decide, you will feel confident and happy with it. All the love!
We're going to talk about it next week so we can bat ideas around but I think if we do get to July when he leaves and still aren't KU, it might be time to go get things investigated when he's back in August. I think he's afraid that it'll come back there's a problem with him and he gets weird about anything that he perceives as making him less 'manly'.
My sister and BIL both had to be checked out when they were having issues ttc. My BIL was really weird about getting his men checked too.
I hope that whichever route you go down brings you happiness
We're going to talk about it next week so we can bat ideas around but I think if we do get to July when he leaves and still aren't KU, it might be time to go get things investigated when he's back in August. I think he's afraid that it'll come back there's a problem with him and he gets weird about anything that he perceives as making him less 'manly'.
My sister and her husband tried for 2 years with no luck. When they went to get checked, it turned out that it was him. It was definitely a blow to his "manliness" but once they found out they could go through IVF (and there was some sort of way around his problem) he felt better. I think the initial shock of it was tough, but once they talked through it, it was a lot better.
Then Comes Family, LLC is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising
program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Amazon.com.