TTC via TPR 7/28/16

[dukegirlsc]

Hi ladies,

This is a check in for those of us (or our SO) that are TTC via TPR including donor sperm, donor eggs, donor embryos, gestational carrier, surrogacy or any combination of those. Lurkers are welcome to come in and ask questions or become a part of the check in!

If your status changes and/or you want to be removed please let me know!


Donor Eggs:

eroticantibiotic I am so sorry, it is so unfair and cruel, please be kind to yourself
dukegirlsc
hero7 I hope you are feeling a little better on the estrogen
king26 Hope you are doing well!
trytobearunner34 Are you feeling any better?

Donor Sperm:


Donor Embryos:

cateyes
lemonliz FX for you!




Gestational Carrier:

kmitch1

Grads/BFPS: Congratulations!!

dream2be3

[lemonliz]

Hi ladies!

I haven't updated here because **warnings, just in case** we have been doing an IUI cycle with OE. Not quite ready to completely move onto TPR just yet. Only I have no idea how much longer I can keep cycling. Not sure when to pull the plug, so to speak.

dukegirlsc, have you poas yet?! Keep us posted!

[4furrypaws]

Hi ladies. Can I hop in here dukegirlsc ?

So my H is still processing things. I've kind of gone 'blank' in my head again as to help stop the feels. I've gotten good at going blank.

I can get so angry so quickly about our situation. So I tend to just shut it all down.

I do have a a few questions for you ladies today...the different egg banks out there, if you choose one are you able to do the transfer at any clinic? Or do these egg banks only work with certain clinics?

Which egg banks do you feel are 'the best'?

Which clinics do you feel are 'the best' to work with regarding DEggs/DEmbryos?

[dukegirlsc]

lemonliz, FX for your IUI!
4furrypaws, of course I will add you, I can understand being in "shut down" mode. It's just so much to process! I will return later to give my answers to your questions!


AFM:

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{Spoiler} Well ladies I finally have beta results! First beta 7dp5dt was 74 and today at 10dp5dt it was 275, so we are progressing nicely!! Now a very long wait until my first u/s on 8/12! I'm still very very nervous and will be until that u/s!

[eroticantibiotic]

lemonliz, dukegirlsc, good luck, ladies!
4furrypaws, I feel you on the blanking out. Trust that you are working through this on a subconscious level and will be able to move past the anger when you're done processing everything. (((hugs)))

AFM, loss warning..

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I lost both embryos to a massive sch over the weekend. I don't know how to process this because it was a total fluke. It would be easier if there were some thing or one to blame instead of just feeling generally ragey at the world.

We have no remaining embryos so it'll be on to donor #3 as soon as my hcg is back below 5. We'll be doing PGS testing this time for peace of mind.

[eroticantibiotic]

dukegirlsc, congrats!! That is amazing news. Have the most boring and easy 9 months imaginable, you deserve it

[dukegirlsc]

eroticantibiotic, I am so sorry for your loss, these things make no sense! I understand wanting PGS testing, I felt like we had to have it so that I could breathe. I have everything crossed for you hoping for great results out of lucky #3!

[trytobearunner34]

dukegirlsc , Congratulations!!!! I am so happy for you and wish you the most dull pregnancy imaginable:).

lemonliz , Fx for your IUI!

4furrypaws , I was numb about this time last summer, so I get where you are coming from. Numb turned to anger. Anger turned to peace. Peace turned to moving forward with TPR.

To answer some of your questions: Our RE works with several egg banks. We searched for donors with the two largest banks (NW Cryo Bank and Egg Bank in Atl) and went with NW (#1 because our first choice donor was with them #2 They had a guarantee program that we could actually afford!).

eroticantibiotic , I am so sorry for your loss:(. I admire your strength in maintaining forward momentum and making tweaks for future success. Keeping everything crossed for #3!

AFM: Went for monitoring on Friday and all is well. Then I cracked my bottle of Lupron Friday night so Friday into Saturday was a bit stressful trying to secure a new vial, but all's well that ends well.

DH takes his sample in on Thursday morning at which time they will thaw our eggs and we will just keep our Fx for great fert reports Friday and Monday! The plan as of now is a D5 transfer next Tuesday.

I am still tired and dreading starting PIO shots on Thursday (so is DH), but I am happy that everything so far has gone (relatively) smoothly and just hope the forward momentum continues.

[4furrypaws]

dukegirlsc wonderful numbers!! I hope 8/12 comes super quick!!!

eroticantibiotic I'm so so sorry. Sending love and hugs. Please be kind to yourself.

trytobearunner34 May I ask what the cost was of the guarantee program was? I will be keeping you in my thoughts for wonderful fert reports!

[trytobearunner34]

4furrypaws, Our guarantee was through the egg bank and cost $5,000. It guarantees a positive pg test or two blastocysts. If either of those are met, we will be refunded $2500. If neither of those occur, they will provide another 6 eggs (from either the same or a new donor-our choice) at no cost.

[king26]

Hey ladies,
I'm here and doing well. Started BCP's this week and will start Lupron and estrogen the second week of August. DH and I decided we are signing up for new airline credit cards so we can start getting miles in case we need to go to the Czech Republic next year for an egg donor cycle

((( 4furrypaws,))) As for egg banks, I've done a lot of research but haven't used one. One of my problems is that some of the egg banks only work with certain clinics and mine is a small clinic so I didn't have many options. If you are set on your clinic I'd ask them which banks they work with. I think for Embryo Donation it's a little different and more clinics will do that.
dukegirlsc, YAY! Congrats!
((( eroticantibiotic,)) I am so sorry for your loss. Having it be a total fluke only makes it worse. Be kind to yourself.
FX for a great fert report tomorrow trytobearunner34,

[4furrypaws]

Jul 28, 2016 14:37:51 GMT -5 trytobearunner34 said:

4furrypaws, Our guarantee was through the egg bank and cost $5,000. It guarantees a positive pg test or two blastocysts. If either of those are met, we will be refunded $2500. If neither of those occur, they will provide another 6 eggs (from either the same or a new donor-our choice) at no cost.

Was the $5k on top of other costs?

Because another board member sent me some pricing and the packages listed were $17k, $18k and $28k. This was for My Egg Bank in Atlanta.

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[trytobearunner34]

Jul 29, 2016 8:07:48 GMT -5 4furrypaws said:

Jul 28, 2016 14:37:51 GMT -5 trytobearunner34 said:

4furrypaws , Our guarantee was through the egg bank and cost $5,000. It guarantees a positive pg test or two blastocysts. If either of those are met, we will be refunded $2500. If neither of those occur, they will provide another 6 eggs (from either the same or a new donor-our choice) at no cost.

Was the $5k on top of other costs?

Yes, the cost was $11K and we paid $16K total.

[trytobearunner34]

We got our first fert report. Of the six eggs we had frozen, 4 survived thaw. They attempted to fertilize all 4 via ICSI. Of those 4 one immediately disintegrated:( So we are one day in and are already at 50%. I suspect this is par for the course (and tbh anything less than all 6 eggs being successfully fertilized was going to bum me out to some degree), so we are just crossing everything we've got and are praying fervently that these three are fighters and all of them are growing as expected when we get our day three report on Sunday!

[4furrypaws]

trytobearunner34 I'll keep sending all the good growing vibes for your three!!!!

[trytobearunner34]

4furrypaws, Thank you-they seem to be working so please keep it up!

Update: Got the day 3 call this morning. All three embies are still growing! We have a 6 cell and an 8 cell each with 10% fragmentation. Then we have a slow poke 4 cell with 5% fragmentation. Hopefully these little embies will keep up the good work!

[4furrypaws]

Jul 31, 2016 10:06:45 GMT -5 trytobearunner34 said:

4furrypaws, Thank you-they seem to be working so please keep it up!

Update: Got the day 3 call this morning. All three embies are still growing! We have a 6 cell and an 8 cell each with 10% fragmentation. Then we have a slow poke 4 cell with 5% fragmentation. Hopefully these little embies will keep up the good work!

I'll keep the vibes flowin!!!!!!!!
Xo!!