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[fish8412]

How old are your babies?
Recent accomplishments?
Recent struggles?

[fish8412]

How old are your babies?
DD1 is 2. DD2 is 6 months.

Recent accomplishments?
Deep freezer is full of pumped breastmilk. I'm going to start donating next week.

Recent struggles?
Finding the time to make baby food for DD1. It's so much work but I feel obligated since I did it for DD1. I'm also paranoid that DD1 is going to try to feed her sister food that she eats. I had DD1 trained to know that DD2 only ate milk but now I'm sure she is confused! Lol

[younglove316]

DD1 is 2 and DD2 is 8.5 months

We are starting potty training and so far she is doing fairly well. DD2 is crawling and getting absolutely everywhere.

Sleep with DD2 but nothing new, someday she will sleep in her crib and will STTN on a consistent basis.

[katka512]

Dd1 is 2. Dd2 is 5 months.
Dd1 is so great with the baby. She loves playing next to her and giving her kisses. And she's almost always gentle! lol
Dd2 is crawling all over the place. I can't believe she's crawling already. I'm not ready for my baby to be growing up so fast.
Dd2 still won't take a bottle and it's been hard having no option of being away from her for more than three or so hours. We went to a wedding last weekend and had to leave immediately after the entree was served because my in laws couldn't settle her and she wouldn't take the bottle.
She started solids but they aren't enough to extend the time between feedings yet.

[fish8412]

katka512 wow crawling at 5 months!! That's crazy. DD2 is 6 months. She can sit up but no crawling. I'm hoping she doesn't crawl for another couple months lol. 2 mobile kids is going to be hard!

[pearlvirus]

How old are your babies? 2 and 9 months next week

Recent accomplishments? We started a weekly date night! Both bebes are doing ok at bedtime, so we decided it was time to catch up on us. One night went out and saw a movie!! Another, we went to a fancy dinner downtown! It sounds silly but we've only done stuff without them a handful of times since DD1s birth and not at all since DD2.

Recent struggles? Nap prison. Right now DD2 naps appx 930-11 and 230-330. DD1s nap is of course right in the middle of that, so there is almost no time when neither is napping or about to need a nap. And DD2 likes to go to bed early like 630 so by the time DH is home from work, it's really too late to get out and back again. I have been feeling really jealous of people whose babies can/will just nap on the go or skip naps NBD. Both mine get so excited about being out and doing things that they will make themselves super super over tired rather than miss out on something. I'm frustrated and stuck and on top, I am a go go go person, not a hang around at home person

[fish8412]

pearlvirus that's not silly at all! I'm impressed you can have weekly date nights! DD2 is 6 months and next week my husband and I are finally going out on our first date since DD2 was born. I'm way too exhausted come 5 or 6 pm to want to make myself look presentable and go out somewhere.

[katka512]

fish8412 DD1 loves that her sister can crawl around. But then she gets mad when she goes for her toys lol. I think it's just going to get harder for awhile before DD2 can walk.

pearlvirus that's great that you're doing regular date nights! I'm scared of nap prison and I know it's coming soon. DD2 seems flexible so far and can definitely nap on the go, so I hope that helps. But I hate being trapped in the house all day.

[pearlvirus]

fish8412 it's only been 3 weeks we've been on dates and she was 8 months by the first one! We still come home by 9 because I can't handle missing anymore sleep than that, lol. Hopefully we can keep it up!

katka512 we were doing pretty good for a while. I think it's the 3 to 2 nap transition that kills outings. Most babies can tolerate 1 bad nap of 3 but when half the naps are bad, no go

[RandomName]

How old are your babies? 2 (DD) and 1 (DS) next week!

Recent accomplishments? We tried the water park yesterday and DS loved it (his first time). They were both so excited and going from on sprinkler to the next. It's amazing watching them play, laugh, and 'chat'. They love each other (most of the time haha).

Recent struggle? DSs rash but it's finally going away. DD has been super whiney and cuddly lately. Turns out she's getting a few new molars. How do I have two kids teething at the same time?!

[RandomName]

Jul 28, 2016 19:03:41 GMT -5 fish8412 said:

How old are your babies?
DD1 is 2. DD2 is 6 months.

Recent accomplishments?
Deep freezer is full of pumped breastmilk. I'm going to start donating next week.

Recent struggles?
Finding the time to make baby food for DD1. It's so much work but I feel obligated since I did it for DD1. I'm also paranoid that DD1 is going to try to feed her sister food that she eats. I had DD1 trained to know that DD2 only ate milk but now I'm sure she is confused! Lol

Solids for #2 was a gong show for us. I made purées like once and then just bought cause it was was easier and less time consuming.. We did a mix of baby led weaning and purées bc we were worried DD would slip DS some food. She did really well and never did. Even now, she only gives him things he has had before. Your DD1 may surprise you.

[RandomName]

pearlvirus not silly. I'm jealous of your date nights. We really need to make time for us. We have only been out once or twice in the almost year since DS was born. And then before that I don't remember anything after DD was born. I feel like the couple from sex tape - before they made the tape.

[pearlvirus]

RandomName want to know the worst part of date night? So usually I'm asleep before 9. On date night we are home at 9, so I'm already tired and beyond ready to sleep (DD2 likes to get up at 5). But in DHs mind date night = sex. Uuuuuugh my drive is minimal as it is and when we're already past "bedtime" I don't GAF. I've been trying to make sure it happens the night before so he'll just let me sleep after our date, lol

[lakecountrygal]

How old are your babies?

DS is 2 DD is 2.5 months

Recent accomplishments?

DS can pedal his trike and smaller bikes now which is awesome because he rides them on walks and tires himself out. DD has great head control now and loves to look around. I've made it 2.5 months BFing and have started to build a decent stash for when I go back to work.

Recent struggles?

DS is general, he's so defiant and violent. He will walk up to DD and just start hitting her or sit on her and laugh. He also is constantly hitting or kicking me or pull my hair and laugh. It's extremely exhausting and frustrating because DH is working a ton so we have extra money to pay for daycare but he is no help when it comes to appropriately disciplining DS.

[RandomName]

lakecountrygal bike riding is amazing. I love being able to push DS in the stroller and DD rides her tricycle beside me. How does YS do on a bike? I'm debating if DD is ready - she's can go slow/fast, up hill and down and steers well, but I have no idea when kids can go on a petal bike (with training wheels).

[lakecountrygal]

RandomName he does alright on a smaller bike (with training wheels) but can only really pedal on flat surfaces or going downhill and it's much slower than his trike. He almost prefers to still use his feet sometimes to push himself because it's faster in his eyes. Plus he gets confused because he rides a balance bike at daycare and we don't have one at home.

[fish8412]

Jul 31, 2016 13:34:13 GMT -5 lakecountrygal said:

How old are your babies?

DS is 2 DD is 2.5 months

Recent accomplishments?

DS can pedal his trike and smaller bikes now which is awesome because he rides them on walks and tires himself out. DD has great head control now and loves to look around. I've made it 2.5 months BFing and have started to build a decent stash for when I go back to work.

Recent struggles?

DS is general, he's so defiant and violent. He will walk up to DD and just start hitting her or sit on her and laugh. He also is constantly hitting or kicking me or pull my hair and laugh. It's extremely exhausting and frustrating because DH is working a ton so we have extra money to pay for daycare but he is no help when it comes to appropriately disciplining DS.

That's awesome about your freezer stash! How does DS behave at daycare?

[Deleted]

DS1 is 14, DD is 2, and DS2 is 8.5 months.

Getting L to go to sleep on his own is my recent accomplishment.

I'm mostly struggling right now with my oldest. He is hitting his teenage hormonal stage and is driving me bonkers. He has got an attitude about everything. His attitude is rubbing off on E. She is picking up his comments and using them herself. She kept telling people at the zoo to "go away!" The other day. It was very embarrassing.

[lakecountrygal]

fish8412 they say he's great and they don't have any issues. I couldn't believe it because of how bad his behavior is at home. I give him a ton of attention as long as I'm not nursing or pumping so I don't wonder if he's doing it because DH isn't home as much.

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Aug 6, 2016 7:55:46 GMT -5 lakecountrygal said:

fish8412 they say he's great and they don't have any issues. I couldn't believe it because of how bad his behavior is at home. I give him a ton of attention as long as I'm not nursing or pumping so I don't wonder if he's doing it because DH isn't home as much.

E acts different when her dad isn't around as much. We went to CO a few weeks back and her behavior was so off and I think it's bc she was away from him for a week.

[RandomName]

DD is regressing on potty training really badly. We've gone since April without pee accidents, and May since poo or night accidents.

The past little while she will pee by her door every morning. Won't yell out for us until she's done. Then a few days ago she peed herself 3 times. Right after she was on the potty. Today was the worst. She pooped her pants and then peed on the floor instead of sitting on the potty. She stopped telling us she has to go too.

We put her in pull ups at night tonight. She gets up out of bed (won't pee in the bed) but stands by her door and pees at 5:30-6:00 daily. So frustrating.
What should I do? I'm totally lost. Do I return to diapers? Start potty training again from scratch?

Tl;dr DD is regressing with toilet training and I don't know how to help the problem.

[Deleted]

RandomName, don't put her back in diapers. That will only make it harder for you to PT her next time. I would keep her naked for a few days and take her to the potty at regular intervals. Make it nonnegotiable that she has to sit and try. I would watch her like a hawk and make sure she gets to the potty every half hour until you feel like she has it under control. As for the morning pee.... Can you get up at 5:15 and make sure you catch her before she pees on the floor?

[RandomName]

Aug 8, 2016 21:51:35 GMT -5 @babylentilbean said:

RandomName, don't put her back in diapers. That will only make it harder for you to PT her next time. I would keep her naked for a few days and take her to the potty at regular intervals. Make it nonnegotiable that she has to sit and try. I would watch her like a hawk and make sure she gets to the potty every half hour until you feel like she has it under control. As for the morning pee.... Can you get up at 5:15 and make sure you catch her before she pees on the floor?

I could get up and sit outside her door. She's such a ninja and is so quiet. Could this be a constipation thing - she's not fully letting out her bladder? Or is this textbook regression? I knew it was too easy the first time.

[RandomName]

I'll set my alarm now and sit by her door. Should I take her pull up off and use underwear for the rest of her sleep in the morning?

[Deleted]

Aug 8, 2016 21:57:24 GMT -5 RandomName said:

I'll set my alarm now and sit by her door. Should I take her pull up off and use underwear for the rest of her sleep in the morning?

I would, especially if she has been sleeping in underwear.

I think we all have had some regression with our LOs in PT. E has had several accidents lately and sometimes she just won't tell me she needs to go or she won't stop what she is doing. She got mad bc I was busy with L and told her to go by herself the other day and she just peed on the floor instead. I think it's normal for them to have regressions you just need to buckle down and stay super consistent. Whatever you do, don't take steps backwards. Just keep pushing forwards.

[pearlvirus]

Maybe it's not about potty training at all? When my DD does not agree that it is nap/bedtime she likes to get out of bed, take everything off and pee by the door. She has a potty chair in her room and is otherwise really good about letting us know what she needs. I am 99% sure this is a tactic to get attention, not confusion on what she should do. I just go in and clean up the mess and put her back in bed. I think she is going to drop her last nap. We've tried it a couple times and she goes to bed so, SO much easier.

[RandomName]

Aug 9, 2016 6:26:09 GMT -5 pearlvirus said:

Maybe it's not about potty training at all? When my DD does not agree that it is nap/bedtime she likes to get out of bed, take everything off and pee by the door. She has a potty chair in her room and is otherwise really good about letting us know what she needs. I am 99% sure this is a tactic to get attention, not confusion on what she should do. I just go in and clean up the mess and put her back in bed. I think she is going to drop her last nap. We've tried it a couple times and she goes to bed so, SO much easier.

Now that you say this, it's very possible it isn't related to potty training at all. She hasn't been in daycare for over 2 weeks (daycare went on vacation) and we have been really busy planning DSs first birthday. Today was the first 'normal' routine day in weeks. I waited by her door this morning starting at 5:15. She tossed around a bit but didn't get up until 6:25! Then she saw me and said peepee. She peed in the potty - and her pull up was dry - and she has been back to herself. No accidents today. I'll put her back in underwear tonight and get up again tomorrow morning and wait by her door just in case. Maybe something else was going on?

[RandomName]

Thanks for your replies @babylentilbean and pearlvirus

It helped a lot just to say out loud what was going on and to get some advice. So this whole thing. I'm not convinced it's back to normal completely yet but today is getting there

[babycaps]

How old are your babies? M14 baby is almost 2.5!! and DS2 is just shy of 3months!
Recent accomplishments? It was hairy, but I was able to get them both to sleep by 7:30pm yesterday. It did involved a bit of yelling at DS1 and a lot of tears from both kids.
Recent struggles? See above!! When I'm home alone to put them both to bed it's doable but it's also a fucking disaster. Both kids purple crying on my lap. DS1 fell off MY BED while I was putting DS2 to sleep. He's NOT trustworthy enough nor does he want to be away to be left alone in another room when I'm putting DS2 to bed. So I told DH that anytime he's not home in the evenings I will have our nanny stay and help and we will just have to pay for those extra hours.
RandomName, sorry for the potty issues. We haven't PTd yet but he's starting to show interest!!

[pearlvirus]

babycaps my 2.0 is 9 months I still won't do bedtime alone. DD1 is such a beast lately and really wouldn't be safe left to her own devices for as long as it takes to help DD2.