Lo is so exhausted at night and wants to pass out around 7. He then sleeps for like 20 min, screams bloody murder, I feed him again and he goes to bed between 8-8:30. I feel like it's too early because he's then waking up at 1 and I'm only getting a couple hours of sleep. It will be good when I start working and need to work at night after kids go to bed, but hopefully lo will start having longer stretches so I can work and sleep. Just curious what time everyone else is going to bed.
It's too light outside since the sun hasn't set yet and she gets distracted by the light coming through the blinds. Yeah, we could get black out curtains, but I like natural light and it's my room
The bigger issue is that if she actually does fall asleep at 7:30 for the night she wakes up for the first time way too early.
This reminds me...has anyone considered doing a dream feed to combat this problem of the first wake up being too early if bedtime is too early? I'm not sure what age a dream feed can be successful. Are they too young still? I tried it a few times with DS and it didn't work as intended, but I know some people swear by this method.
It's when you get the baby up around 10 or 11 to do a quick feed. You're supposed to try to keep them asleep the whole time. Keep the lights off, no diaper changes unless poop, etc. Apparently a lot of babies will keep their eyes closed the whole time.
The idea is that babies are only capable of a certain length of sleep because they'll get hungry. If you feed them at that time when a lot of parents go to bed, you can get their first real wake up several hours later than if you didn't fill their belly at that time. It should have the benefit of the parent getting more sleep because their sleep cycle will coincide better with yours.
My experience with dream feeds is that I could successfully get DS to stay asleep during this feed, but he still woke up whenever he wanted and I didn't get a better stretch of sleep.
greysonsmom, that's what we do too. I usually feed him at around 9 or 10 and then DH gives him a pumped bottle between 12 and 1 while I sleep. He sleeps sometimes but doesn't actually come upstairs for "bedtime" until after midnight most nights.
Of course I go back to work on Monday so I'm sure our schedule is going to change.
She goes to bed when we go to bed--her longest stretch tends to be from 12-1 to about 5-6, so her last feed tends to be 11-12ish after we get ready for bed.
DD usually goes to bed with us between 10 and 11 or else she is up way too soon. We tried to put her to bed earlier and do the the dream feed thing but like you said babyzebra she still woke up like it never happened.
mladerri I find that I have so much trouble going back to sleep after the first feed of the night too
Post by packerfan4life on Jul 29, 2016 22:26:07 GMT -5
We go to bed between 9 and 10. She gets cranky if we're up past 10. We'll start doing an earlier bedtime (probably 7) when she's closer to 4-6 months. Or at least that's what we did with DD1
Post by ArgyleEnigma on Jul 29, 2016 23:01:05 GMT -5
We haven't set a bedtime-- he does it himself. Usually sometime around 7:30 to 8:30.
I too have tried the to introduce a feed to "reset" with the same result as babyzebra. It was like it never happened.
He is up every 3 hours to eat unless he's actively being rocked. Nothing seems to change that, but I'm hopeful that he'll grow into longer stretches on his own.
I prefer when DS falls asleep around 10, then I'll go to bed and he might sleep until 3. Some nights he will fall asleep earlier, and then he is up earlier. Tonight is one of those nights.
We dot really have a bedtime because we all share a bedroom. We put her sister to bed at 9 so we keep the baby in the living room with us as not to disturb the older one and bring her to bed when we go around 11-12. My preference is to get a feed in around 11 because then we can often get her to sleep until close to 3. For some reason 3 is manageable to me but before that makes the night feel so long. She does sleep with us holding her or the mamaroo or floor mat before we take her to bed. We have always had late bedtimes because I worked super late and would have never seen my kid with an earlier one. My job is better now but things are working for us and DD1 sleep in until 730-8 usually so I like the schedule better snyway.
It's different every night, whenever I can get her to settle and fall asleep for the last time of the day-usually around 10. I really forget when to start trying to get them on a sleep schedule. When do naps and regular bedtimes start developing? DS is a great sleeper (12 hours at night, long nap) but I don't remember what I did or when that developed....
For those of you that are sleep training (whatever method you are using), when are you starting that?
It's different every night, whenever I can get her to settle and fall asleep for the last time of the day-usually around 10. I really forget when to start trying to get them on a sleep schedule. When do naps and regular bedtimes start developing? DS is a great sleeper (12 hours at night, long nap) but I don't remember what I did or when that developed....
For those of you that are sleep training (whatever method you are using), when are you starting that?
We did it around 6 months with DD1. they aren't ready before 4 months anyways, and then you have the sleep regression
It's different every night, whenever I can get her to settle and fall asleep for the last time of the day-usually around 10. I really forget when to start trying to get them on a sleep schedule. When do naps and regular bedtimes start developing? DS is a great sleeper (12 hours at night, long nap) but I don't remember what I did or when that developed....
For those of you that are sleep training (whatever method you are using), when are you starting that?
We did it around 6 months with DD1. they aren't ready before 4 months anyways, and then you have the sleep regression
I think that is about what we did with DS also. Oh the 4 month regression, don't remind me!!
I hope we don't need to sleep train, but if we do, it will be any time after 6 months. We will probably use some type of modified CIO with check ins if needed.
We're planning on the kids sharing a room after 6 months, so I'm really crossing my fingers that both kids are sleeping decently by then. I don't want to sleep train with another kid in the room, but I have heard of people doing that with no issues with waking the other kid up.
The baby goes to sleep between 8-9pm. She is tired earlier but like others it doesn't seem to work as well getting her to bed for the night earlier, she wil wake up, it's too light still, she'll be up more during he night etc. I've found trying to get her in for a 20 minute cat nap in her bouncy seat or the bjorn sometime between 6-7:30 helps a lot.
I talked to a sleep consultant lady and she mentioned babies this age tend to fall asleep later, between 8-10pm, typically on the later edge of that. Over the next couple of months that should creep towards earlier like around 7-8pm and they won't need that annoying early evening cat nap anymore.
babyzebra, our kids will also share a room. I've heard a good time to do this is after the baby has established an earlier bedtime, say like 7pm, so baby goes to bed first, the older child gets a bit of alone time with mom and dad and goes to bed 30 min to an hour later.
I'm hoping to get her in with him sometime around 4-5 months but will depend a lot on how sleep is going.
Post by woodengirl07 on Jul 30, 2016 17:43:47 GMT -5
Basically 10 to 10:30 here. I'd like to get her in bed earlier, like 9, but it just isn't working for us right now. She seems to always have gas and then needs to poop about 9 and then wants to eat. I've tried getting her to bed earlier, but she is too fussy with the gas.
My kid seems to have little rhyme or reason to when he decides to get tired. Often he's very, very awake from the 11-2 range, which is fun. But he does tend to sleep until around 6 or 7 after that. Tonight I tried putting him to bed around 9:30 because he was deeply asleep, but he was up and raring to go an hour later. Right now I'm sitting in the dark nursery trying to get him to settle but he seems pretty energetic. I keep promising myself I'm going to establish a pattern soon, but easier said that done. At least he sleeps long stretches most nights, even if they are at weird times, and I am not working yet so I can be flexible.
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