Week of 8/8 Randoms!

[txmommy14]

Aug 11, 2016 14:42:01 GMT -5 vivela said:

txmommy14 I'm so sorry DD is struggling so much. It must be beyond stressful. Forgive me for asking, but would you consider not going to PA? If DD is that uncomfortable in a car seat (and generally having a difficult time), hopefully your family would understand. I get it if you really feel you have to go, however.

It's my grandfathers funeral, so I need/want to be there. Great question though!

[titania]

vivela the kicking! DD is also in constant motion! She even will kick her legs straight up in the air in her sleep.

[csat]

txmommy14, I'm sorry about all of the stress you've been dealing with, I really hope the new medicine is the answer for helping your DD feel better. I wish I had some helpful advice, I know you know but try not to worry about your DS, he's safe, fed and occupied, you have enough on your plate.

I hope the new car seat works better for her. I will give a big middle finger to whoever invented the infant bucket seat, both of mine hate/hated them and I can't really blame them that position looks pretty uncomfortable.

[titania]

csat seriously! That thing looks so uncomfortable! Not to mention hot. You would think something better would have been invented by now.

[vivela]

Aug 12, 2016 6:46:55 GMT -5 titania said:

vivela the kicking! DD is also in constant motion! She even will kick her legs straight up in the air in her sleep.

At this point, no swaddle stands a chance. He has also started digging his toes into whatever is nearby and curling them, which basically translates to a painful toe pinch. When he gets a little bigger and stronger I'm picturing arms and stomach covered in tiny toe pinch bruises.

[manybellsdown]

Baby keeps waking himself up by pooping. Ready for an actual nap.

[titania]

Aug 12, 2016 12:36:57 GMT -5 vivela said:

Aug 12, 2016 6:46:55 GMT -5 titania said:

vivela the kicking! DD is also in constant motion! She even will kick her legs straight up in the air in her sleep.

At this point, no swaddle stands a chance. He has also started digging his toes into whatever is nearby and curling them, which basically translates to a painful toe pinch. When he gets a little bigger and stronger I'm picturing arms and stomach covered in tiny toe pinch bruises.

Haha she starts off the night in a swaddle and is out of it by her first wake up. Oh no! That sounds painful. DD loves to kick up against my stomach. One day I feel like I will get the wind knocked out of me!

[titania]

Aug 12, 2016 14:57:00 GMT -5 manybellsdown said:

Baby keeps waking himself up by pooping. Ready for an actual nap.

DD learned that "trick" this week :/ not cool. I'm sorry.

[csat]

In the waiting room for DD's 2 month appt (we are a couple of weeks behind) and there was a brand new baby in front of us for their 1 week appt and all I could think about the parents was 'oh my god I'm so thankful I'm not you!' Do not want at the beginning again.

[sandandsea]

Aug 12, 2016 16:54:19 GMT -5 csat said:

In the waiting room for DD's 2 month appt (we are a couple of weeks behind) and there was a brand new baby in front of us for their 1 week appt and all I could think about the parents was 'oh my god I'm so thankful I'm not you!' Do not want at the beginning again.

Yes! I'm so happy LO is getting bigger and older. Everyone keeps saying "enjoy it time flies" and all I can think is how much better it gets as time goes on. Ds1 is 4.5 and it's only gotten better as he gets older. I keep saying in about three years we will be golden.

[pbandj714]

TMI ahead:
You guys what is wrong with me? DH and I tried to DTD today for the 2nd time since my c section and I again had to stop him bc it hurt so bad and he wasn't even all the way in. I'm 7.5 weeks PP. When does it get better? I mean good lord I didn't even have a vaginal birth! I did dilate fully and push for 3 hours though. This is just really frustrating and I feel bad for him!

[titania]

pbandj714 so we didn't even attempt until I was 8 weeks postpartum - I was so dreading it. Even with what I feel like was a gallon of lube it was super uncomfortable and painful and I was in no rush to try again. I feel like around the 4th time things started to feel normal again, but honestly still not the best. My advice would be to give yourself some time.

Also Lucie's List has a hilarious post about postpartum relations that I don't know if you have seen. Here is a quote that hopefully will make you feel better.

"I asked 550 women 2-6 months postpartum: "When was the first time you successfully (comfortably) had sex after your baby was born?"

The median answer? 11.8 weeks

YAH. You heard me."

[frecklesnbrains]

Yes, I LOVE that Lucie's list post about PP sex! I showed it to my DH so he'd stop pestering me and worrying that something was wrong. We had three failed attempts before ultimately being successful (sort of) at about 10 weeks. pbandj714 a big part of it is hormonal so it's just as common after c-section births as vaginal births, and definitely don't discount that dilation and pushing - you were more or less 90% of the way there!

[vivela]

That's comforting to hear! We haven't even tried yet because I feel like my tear is a bit sensitive still. The timing also hasn't really worked out with the baby. I'll be sure to warn DH that it might take a few tries so it will be less stressful if it doesn't work out. There are always other activities if the old fashioned way isn't comfortable for awhile

[bgkc4]

Aug 12, 2016 19:47:11 GMT -5 pbandj714 said:

TMI ahead:
You guys what is wrong with me? DH and I tried to DTD today for the 2nd time since my c section and I again had to stop him bc it hurt so bad and he wasn't even all the way in. I'm 7.5 weeks PP. When does it get better? I mean good lord I didn't even have a vaginal birth! I did dilate fully and push for 3 hours though. This is just really frustrating and I feel bad for him!

11w post-partum was the first time we DTD that it didn't hurt (and it was still slightly uncomfortable). We've been trying since week 6. Like you I pushed for two hours and had a c-section, so I was surprised at home painful it was the first few times. The first time I actually couldn't even go through with it because of the pain. But it was better each time, and it finally feels like it's going back to normal. Hang in there.

[ArgyleEnigma]

Aug 12, 2016 19:47:11 GMT -5 pbandj714 said:

TMI ahead:
You guys what is wrong with me? DH and I tried to DTD today for the 2nd time since my c section and I again had to stop him bc it hurt so bad and he wasn't even all the way in. I'm 7.5 weeks PP. When does it get better? I mean good lord I didn't even have a vaginal birth! I did dilate fully and push for 3 hours though. This is just really frustrating and I feel bad for him!

I'm so glad you asked this. I am definitely in this boat. Nobody told me it would hurt so long after the fact.

[titania]

ArgyleEnigma I was surprised too. Until I read that Lucie's list post I was thinking something may be wrong with me.