Same. I want to be able to say that I absolutely love breastfeeding and aside from the beginning when DS and I were first learning, it's been really easy, convenient, and I love all of the benefits. But then I worry people's feelings will be hurt or they will sarcastically be like "wow good for you." I mean, it has already happened here. So I feel like I shouldn't say anything.
So much this. Even in the beginning, when there was a learning curve it wasn't that steep. Are there days when I feel totally touched out and just want to give him to someone else to feed? Yes. But for the most part breastfeeding that boy is one of my favorite things, and one of the most natural things I've ever done - and I sometimes feel like I shouldn't dare say that because other people have had less successful experiences.
I try not to talk about it IRL, especially not that I BFd Dd1 to 18 months, because it's a mixed bag of "oh, you're lucky it worked out" or "omg wow, that's amazing" which I honestly feel neither way towards. It wasn't (isn't) alway easy but at the same time my body was good at making milk and just did without too much of a struggle. I basically hate talking about feeding kids at any age. There are so many opinions. Feed your kid, I'll feed my kids and everyone will do just freaking fine.
Post by creepyeyeball on Aug 15, 2016 11:43:30 GMT -5
I hate talking about parenting decisions in general IRL. I used to be an open book and would offer up so much information about my parenting style to other moms at the park. I'd be pregnant and someone would ask who mt doctor is and I'd answer that I'm using a midwife and eventually it would come out that I have homebirths, which would then lead to judgmental conversations about how that mom "wants her baby to be safe" so she prefers the hospital (because I don't want mine safe, of course). Or after the hundredth conversation where I'm asked about where my kids go to school and I then find myself having to answer a million questions about "how will my kids learn social skills?" or "what makes me qualified to do that?" If it's not that it's what you're feeding the kids, what TV shows you do or don't allow, did you have an epidural, blah blah blah blah. Maybe I'm too self-centered, but I don't give any cares about other people's answers to these questions, so I've stopped talking about it. If I see a conversation headed in that direction, my kid suddenly needs pushed on the swing.
I thought since I bf 18 months last time that this time would be easier, but it seems so much harder. I think I may be dealing with PPD. I'm frustrated with bf even though I loved it last time (after the first couple weeks).
It's an extremely emotional issue. I loved breastfeeding and do really miss it sometimes. But after a traumatic birth, jaundiced baby, and with my hormonal issues my body just wouldn't cooperate. I won't lie and say I'm not jealous when I hear others talk about it being relatively easy for them. But I don't want anyone here to feel like they can't talk about their experience - ff, bf, ep, combination feeding, whatever!
heartbot I feel like FF is the more common approved choice here on TCF and normally feel like I shouldn't say that I find BF incredibly easy/ no big deal/ nice.
But I think a lot of this stuff is in our own heads and most people really don't care. I know I don't.
That's so funny because I feel like the odd one out as a ff mom. It feels like everyone on TCF is breastfeeding! Maybe just because there's more to talk about with bf?
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