Post by twobananas on Aug 24, 2016 10:49:41 GMT -5
What are your plans for child care (Daycare, nanny, SAHM)? We planned to have the babies go to the same daycare as their big sister, but now I'm second guessing that and considering a nanny.
Any questions, concerns? For those that are getting a nanny, how did you find one? I'm totally overwhelmed at the thought of finding a really good nanny.
When does it start? Or if it's already started, how's it going? I start work in Oct, so 2 months away!
Post by frecklesnbrains on Aug 24, 2016 11:54:01 GMT -5
We have daycare starting after Labor Day. I went back to work this week and my mother is visiting and taking care of DS until then.
Our daycare is near my husband's work, which is a 40 minute drive from where we live and even farther from where I work. I have concerns with the location, but it was the only place with availability that was in our price range and was somewhat convenient location-wise. All the centers in our neighborhood are full and/or astronomically expensive. We seemed to get a good vibe when we visited, but now that the start is imminently upon us I am thinking of all the things that could potentially go wrong or be problematic. We'll just have to see how it goes...
Post by greysonsmom on Aug 24, 2016 12:10:26 GMT -5
My husband and I work opposite shifts. He works 5am-4pm and I work 5:45pm-10pm. With traffic I have to leave no later than 4:45 though.
I'm pretty nervous about DH handling the two of them, it's difficult for me at that time. It's hard to get dinner, bath and bedtime done solo. DD is still a bit difficult with a bottle so in pretty stressed about the situation. Also I've been working to get DD to go to sleep earlier, it's getting a tiny bit better each day because DH needs to go to bed early.
Post by woodengirl07 on Aug 24, 2016 13:50:47 GMT -5
My mom is watching her with occasional fill-ins from my husband's parents. This is my 3rd week back to work and it has been pretty good. My 93yo grandmother also lives with my parents so my mom has her hands full. It's nice to leave her with family. If we didn't have them I think we would have to consider DH staying home. I'm main breadwinner, and daycare would cost close to 75% of his current take home pay.
What are your plans for child care (Daycare, nanny, SAHM)? DH is a cook and I'm a teacher, so his restaurant is able to give him all evening shifts during the week and we will trade off. I think it will be a bit tough on us, we won't see much of each other at times, but I'd rather that than paying for daycare. My mom is also around a lot, so she has offered to take on some childcare but it won't be on a regular schedule since she'll be back and forth. (my parents split their time between their vacation house near me and their apartment in the city where my dad works).
Any questions, concerns? DH is comfortable parenting solo at this point, so not really. I just feel like I'm going to be missing my husband a lot if we are two ships passing at least three days a week.
When does it start? Or if it's already started, how's it going? I took the first few weeks of school off, so I'll be going back in mid-October.
Post by sandandsea on Aug 24, 2016 16:16:32 GMT -5
DS will go to daycare when I go back to work in October. It's the same teacher ds1 had and they'll be at the same place for a year before DS starts k. He will be 3.25 months and I really don't have any concerns this time. It's so much easier with #2!
DS starts at an in-home daycare on Tuesday. She is in my neighborhood so I don't have to leave any earlier. Right now I'm nervous about the whole breast milk bottle situation and leaving enough for him.
My mom is going to watch DD when I go into the office 3x per week and as needed on the other 2 days if I need to WFH.
No real concerns - my mom is wonderful with her. I just really don't want to go back and am irrationally worried DD will start liking my mom more than me .
The school that DH is teaching at this year has an infant program and a pre-K program, so both boys will be in the same building. They'll be across the street from DH which makes this whole thing a lot easier, both emotionally and logistically. They both start on Monday and we're meeting their teachers tomorrow!
What are your plans for child care (Daycare, nanny, SAHM)? Ds1 goes to school 1/2 days, everyday then naps at home. Dh drops him off and he think he might be able to help out with pickups some days. Ds2 will stay at home with me. I was planning to get a nanny after the first of the year but you ladies may have talked me into getting one a couple days a week to help with my sanity while I wfh.
Any questions, concerns? Finding a good nanny was hard for ds1 so I'm not looking forward to that process. I'm concerned about cost. After we pay for ds1 school, there isn't much left in the budget for a nanny. I really want to work but at some point it's not worth it financially.
When does it start? Or if it's already started, how's it going? I started wfh August 1. Dh starts his busy season for work on Monday so it's going to get harder without him around as much during the day and traveling all the time. I'm struggling dividing up my time but I know it'll get a little easier when ds2 is on a schedule.
The twins will go to an in-home daycare when I go back to work on September 12. She lives 5 min from us so it's perfect for both my wfh days and it's right on my way to the office. I'm nervous about packing enough of everything for them and the logistics of getting out the door every morning. I haven't been to the office since mid-April! That will be a transition. Our provider has a daughter about 2 mo older than the twins. I'm glad they'll have a friend to eventually play with! And godspeed to her mother for wrangling all 3!
DS goes to pre-school/daycare 5 days a week. DH stays home with DD for now. At some point when DD is 1-2 years old she will start at the same place that DS is at and DH will help me with my work. I'm a big fan of letting early childhood educators do their thing. There's no way that either DH or I could teach DS as much as he's learned at school, but I know some stay at home parents are rock stars at this. We've briefly considered getting a nanny in the past, but I don't think it's right for us.
LO will be going to the same school as our older daughter. The same teachers and all. The school is on my work campus. We have one year of them both in daycare before DD1 starts kindergarten. I have one day off a week and then my sister or mother in law will take them one other day. LO has a half day next week then starts on the 8th.
She'll be going to a daycare center starting in December. Same concerns as Kevinmac about the breast milk situation, as well as just general anxiety about being away from my baby.
It REALLY is. I remember this phase being so stressful with dd1. Planning/organizing and then leaving her felt so overwhelming. This time everything feels so much easier and more natural.
It REALLY is. I remember this phase being so stressful with dd1. Planning/organizing and then leaving her felt so overwhelming. This time everything feels so much easier and more natural.
Hang in there FTMs! It gets better!!
man, I hope this is the case for me as well. You've given me hope, ladies!
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