Post by smalltownmoon on Feb 11, 2015 9:03:08 GMT -5
WTF boss...I'm sorry I forgot to make ONE phone call on top of the 826462 other things I did for you yesterday. I don't think that warrants a fatherly lecture about how you are disappointed in me. This one particular client got under his skin years ago and now he bends over backwards for them despite the fact they are a PITA and give us very little work. I'm all about keeping relationships open and making the client happy but if it's a choice between them and the multi-million dollar client needing something, the latter is getting my attention. Sorry not sorry.
Post by smalltownmoon on Feb 11, 2015 9:07:57 GMT -5
WTF "friend"... we have plans to take the kids to the park later if the weather is a little warmer. Your husband saw my husband at work last night and said your 10m old has RSV? When were you planning to let me in on this little factoid? Now I've texted you and you tell me she's feeling "much better" and we should still hang out. Ummmmm...no. Sorry, I may be a crazy FTM but I'm definitely not exposing my kid to RSV at 5 months old. This is the same friend who had us over for dinner and didn't tell us until we were eating that the baby had been sick for a week and no one knew what she had. She doesn't think and it's starting to piss me off royally.
Post by TheEleventhHour on Feb 11, 2015 9:13:19 GMT -5
smalltownmoon Um, yeah, you are not being a crazy FTM. RSV can be VERY dangerous to infants. I do not blame you for not going to the playdate. Some people are really so dense when it comes to how illnesses are transmitted and how dangerous certain sickness can be for people like babies, elderly, or immunocompromised!!!
smalltownmoon Um, yeah, you are not being a crazy FTM. RSV can be VERY dangerous to infants. I do not blame you for not going to the playdate. Some people are really so dense when it comes to how illnesses are transmitted and how dangerous certain sickness can be for people like babies, elderly, or immunocompromised!!!
Well and not to get on my soapbox but she is one of 5 people IRL besides family who knows M has cystic fibrosis so she knows how important it is to me to keep her from getting sick. Obviously kids can't live in a bubble and M will contract something someday but to purposely (or absent-mindedly) not tell me really just makes me reconsider how much time I want to spend with this friend in the future.
Post by helenahhandbasket on Feb 11, 2015 9:19:43 GMT -5
OK.
I am WTFing a co-worker. She was put on bed rest by her OB 2 weeks ago (she's due mid March) bc of a slightly shortened cervix. She's going to be WFH until she delivers, which is cool, but HELLO!! You are obviously not on bedrest because you keep checking in places on FB (restaurants, babies r us, etc). It's dangerous to go against your OB's orders and not to mention sort of shady.
Signed, lady who was also put on bedrest and not given the opportunity to WFH and who actually stayed on bedrest.
smalltownmoon Um, yeah, you are not being a crazy FTM. RSV can be VERY dangerous to infants. I do not blame you for not going to the playdate. Some people are really so dense when it comes to how illnesses are transmitted and how dangerous certain sickness can be for people like babies, elderly, or immunocompromised!!!
Well and not to get on my soapbox but she is one of 5 people IRL besides family who knows M has cystic fibrosis so she knows how important it is to me to keep her from getting sick. Obviously kids can't live in a bubble and M will contract something someday but to purposely (or absent-mindedly) not tell me really just makes me reconsider how much time I want to spend with this friend in the future.
OMG I am such an idiot. I totally forgot that M has CF! Yes, obviously we cannot keep our children in bubbles but at only 5 months and with CF it is totally fair for you to want to protect your LO as much as possible. Does she maybe not understand CF? Would giving her more information help? Obviously any baby getting RSV could be bad but, I am no CF expert, I would imagine it could have even more dire outcomes in a child with CF. Hugs! I am sorry your friend doesn't see the problem with keeping these things from you!
smalltownmoon Um, yeah, you are not being a crazy FTM. RSV can be VERY dangerous to infants. I do not blame you for not going to the playdate. Some people are really so dense when it comes to how illnesses are transmitted and how dangerous certain sickness can be for people like babies, elderly, or immunocompromised!!!
Well and not to get on my soapbox but she is one of 5 people IRL besides family who knows M has cystic fibrosis so she knows how important it is to me to keep her from getting sick. Obviously kids can't live in a bubble and M will contract something someday but to purposely (or absent-mindedly) not tell me really just makes me reconsider how much time I want to spend with this friend in the future.
I would be pretty pissed at her! So you think she's just stupid or really inconsiderate? Or maybe a combo?
WTF boss? Why are you such a diva? Who cares what kind of coffee we have and whether or not we have filtered water to make it. Our office has WAY bigger issues to deal with.
Post by smalltownmoon on Feb 11, 2015 9:45:53 GMT -5
gallumbits Kind of an ignorance thing...she's the sweetest but not very educated (I feel like an asshole saying that, but it's true.) I just don't think she "gets" what CF is. But honestly, even without the CF, why would you ever bring your sick kid around another child? Or even other adults?
lildis I think I might take TheEleventhHour 's advice and send her some literature on CF before cutting her off. She helped us find our home, our husbands are coworkers and she really is a great person. Just doesn't think sometimes.
WTF "friend"... we have plans to take the kids to the park later if the weather is a little warmer. Your husband saw my husband at work last night and said your 10m old has RSV? When were you planning to let me in on this little factoid? Now I've texted you and you tell me she's feeling "much better" and we should still hang out. Ummmmm...no. Sorry, I may be a crazy FTM but I'm definitely not exposing my kid to RSV at 5 months old. This is the same friend who had us over for dinner and didn't tell us until we were eating that the baby had been sick for a week and no one knew what she had. She doesn't think and it's starting to piss me off royally.
OMG, time to start whipping out some facts to that "friend" to see if she'll get it that for our kids, RSV is really bad news bears! For an infant under the age of 1, and especially under the age of 6 months, it can be severe enough without something underlying making it worse.
I totally get your panic, and trust me 4 years later, I'm still that way with certain things. You eventually learn to not be quite as crazy with colds (not intentionally exposing them of course) and exposure to things that can't be helped but yeah. Sometimes the crazy needs to come out!
And you have every right to be pissed. I would be too. Even for a perfectly healthy kid, a head's up is courteous so the parent(s) can make a decision from there.
Post by BostonKisses on Feb 11, 2015 9:50:40 GMT -5
WTF self, why did you decide to cave on your Vera Bradley obsession again?! I thought I wanted to move on, but apparently I really don't. Let's just say a new bag in a new pattern was ordered this morning, and will be on it's way soon. ::sigh::
I am WTFing a co-worker. She was put on bed rest by her OB 2 weeks ago (she's due mid March) bc of a slightly shortened cervix. She's going to be WFH until she delivers, which is cool, but HELLO!! You are obviously not on bedrest because you keep checking in places on FB (restaurants, babies r us, etc). It's dangerous to go against your OB's orders and not to mention sort of shady.
Signed, lady who was also put on bedrest and not given the opportunity to WFH and who actually stayed on bedrest.
I just can't with the stupid like this. It drives me BSC when people stick their head in the sand and don't listen to the dangers of going AMA to protect their baby as much as possible. I want to smack them across the face with reality, and make them read stories from the NICU to put things in perspective, and give them a jolt into doing everything they can to avoid that hell.
WTF DH's knee. Why are you infected again? I have never heard of anyone having so many complications from ACL surgery.
Oh no! Do they know what's infecting it? Is it possible he may have picked up MRSA in the hospital? I hate superbugs so much, and it's to a point where MRSA is so prevalent in the community, let alone in hospitals and other medical facilities, that it's almost ridiculously hard to avoid it.
I hope this infection clears up quickly, and it's the last complication he has from his surgery. He needs a break! Poor guy.
Post by helenahhandbasket on Feb 11, 2015 9:59:41 GMT -5
BostonKisses-- same for me. I went into labor @ 33 weeks-- fortunately, my labor was medically stopped after a short hospital stay and bedrest and I carried to almost 39w.
WTF "friend"... we have plans to take the kids to the park later if the weather is a little warmer. Your husband saw my husband at work last night and said your 10m old has RSV? When were you planning to let me in on this little factoid? Now I've texted you and you tell me she's feeling "much better" and we should still hang out. Ummmmm...no. Sorry, I may be a crazy FTM but I'm definitely not exposing my kid to RSV at 5 months old. This is the same friend who had us over for dinner and didn't tell us until we were eating that the baby had been sick for a week and no one knew what she had. She doesn't think and it's starting to piss me off royally.
Post by BostonKisses on Feb 11, 2015 10:02:17 GMT -5
helenahhandbasket, that is so awesome they were able to stop labor, and you were able to make it to term!
It's definitely a petrifying feeling when you're staring it in the face, which is why I never understand how people can be so blase over a shortening cervix and continue to go about their day like normal when they're supposed to be on bed rest.
WTF "friend"... we have plans to take the kids to the park later if the weather is a little warmer. Your husband saw my husband at work last night and said your 10m old has RSV? When were you planning to let me in on this little factoid? Now I've texted you and you tell me she's feeling "much better" and we should still hang out. Ummmmm...no. Sorry, I may be a crazy FTM but I'm definitely not exposing my kid to RSV at 5 months old. This is the same friend who had us over for dinner and didn't tell us until we were eating that the baby had been sick for a week and no one knew what she had. She doesn't think and it's starting to piss me off royally.
OMG, time to start whipping out some facts to that "friend" to see if she'll get it that for our kids, RSV is really bad news bears! For an infant under the age of 1, and especially under the age of 6 months, it can be severe enough without something underlying making it worse.
I totally get your panic, and trust me 4 years later, I'm still that way with certain things. You eventually learn to not be quite as crazy with colds (not intentionally exposing them of course) and exposure to things that can't be helped but yeah. Sometimes the crazy needs to come out!
And you have every right to be pissed. I would be too. Even for a perfectly healthy kid, a head's up is courteous so the parent(s) can make a decision from there.
Yeah when I told her, I could tell she didn't get it really. Like she was asking if it was asthma, etc... And I'm sure I didn't explain it the best as I'm still navigating everything myself. I'm gathering some lit for her to read, so she understands a little better. She's a good friend and I don't want to cut her off but I will if she keeps being a dummy.
Post by namastebiotches on Feb 11, 2015 10:21:14 GMT -5
Wtf weather? A high of 1 Sunday?!?!?! DH & I are trying to get out that night! There goes my idea of strolling around town. Grrrrrrr mother nature has the worst timing!
Oh no! Do they know what's infecting it? Is it possible he may have picked up MRSA in the hospital? I hate superbugs so much, and it's to a point where MRSA is so prevalent in the community, let alone in hospitals and other medical facilities, that it's almost ridiculously hard to avoid it.
I hope this infection clears up quickly, and it's the last complication he has from his surgery. He needs a break! Poor guy.
The surgeon thinks that there is still bacteria in the screws that is causing the problem. Why after 4 weeks of picc line antibiotics there would still be bacteria is beyond me... You'd think that would have killed everything. They tested for MRSA when he had the infection the first time in November but it was negative. He just had regular old Staph. They did blood work last night so I imagine they will check for that again. But the site has been healed up pretty much since the 2nd week in December.
Whoa, he's been on a PICC getting IV abx for 4 weeks and it's still not clearing up? I didn't realize he was on IVs at this point. :/ Hopefully he can still avoid another surgery.
OMG, time to start whipping out some facts to that "friend" to see if she'll get it that for our kids, RSV is really bad news bears! For an infant under the age of 1, and especially under the age of 6 months, it can be severe enough without something underlying making it worse.
I totally get your panic, and trust me 4 years later, I'm still that way with certain things. You eventually learn to not be quite as crazy with colds (not intentionally exposing them of course) and exposure to things that can't be helped but yeah. Sometimes the crazy needs to come out!
And you have every right to be pissed. I would be too. Even for a perfectly healthy kid, a head's up is courteous so the parent(s) can make a decision from there.
Yeah when I told her, I could tell she didn't get it really. Like she was asking if it was asthma, etc... And I'm sure I didn't explain it the best as I'm still navigating everything myself. I'm gathering some lit for her to read, so she understands a little better. She's a good friend and I don't want to cut her off but I will if she keeps being a dummy.
Oh Mylanta, she already pulled out the comparison to asthma? That drives me BSC when people do that! I'm not surprised, though, based off what you posted upthread, and that comparison is so common with people who don't really get it (and most don't because of it being rare and all).
Best thing I can recommend is send her the link to the CFF site (www.cff.org) and tell her to navigate through stuff so she can learn about it and realize how big of a deal it really is that you need to keep your LO healthy at all ages. Or you can link directly to the pages laying out the basics so she doesn't have to navigate through the others.
I get it, though. It's so hard, and you don't want to cut out friends. Unfortunately, with a disease like this, you find out who your true friends are in a hurry. :/ If she still doesn't get it, it might be best to part ways so you can spare yourself the stress of dealing with her stupidity.
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