unringthebell, yes DS is all about mama. The first week was really hard and he was sad lots. It broke my heart because he would just cry. I had to make sure I spent extra quality time anytime I could with him. After a week he was so much better and now loves holding DD. He just needed to be reassured that he was loved too and mommy still wanted to spend time with him.
cbrandt1LadyNymeria I think those are normal feelings. It is an emotionally loaded day. My college BF lost his Dad in one of the twin towers. His father went into the city ONE time each week for work meetings and that just so happened to be the day. They never found his body.
I share that because it's an emotionally charged day for me, given his experience and our closeness in college. Despite that, the positive spin I am putting on it (should my LO come on 9/11) is to think about what our country lost and what my DH and I gained on one specific day. It truly is the circle of life. Life goes on, wounds reopen and heal and beautiful babies remind us that life trudges on.
I'm not trying to belittle your feelings towards the day by any means so I hope you don't take it that way. Rather, simply trying to share my positive spin in case your squishes enter the world on that day.
cassey910 (and anyone else with 2+) was your DS a complete mamas boy before baby? Mine always wants to be with me and only me. I'm so scared of him being sad when baby comes. I try to get him to spend more time with H, but when he says no he wants me I can't turn him down.
DD1 is a mama's girl and has been amazing since E and A came 2 weeks ago. Way better than I expected. She's only 20 months so maybe she's not old enough to really care, but all she wants to do it help with everything so we give her little jobs - like bring them their blankets and binkies, throwing diapers in the diaper pail, and patting their heads/bums while their nursing. We've had my mom and now MiL here to help these first 2 weeks so that has helped ease everything too. The only bad part so far is that she has tried multiple times to pick them up out of the swing. That will hopefully get better with time and redirecting her.
I'm starting to get very anxious about when this baby will arrive. My due date is the 14th, but I'm so afraid he's going to come on the 11th. I've woken up crying several times because I had a dream he was born on that day. I know it's just a day, but it carries so many memories for so many people and most aren't positive.
I've been trying to avoid talking about this because I don't want to jinx myself, but I've gotta get it out.
Sorry, dear diary over...
I don't blame you at all. H and I have discussed this a couple of times. It's such a somber day, and I don't want to her to feel like her birthday is a sad occasion.
My mom, though, thinks it would be a beautiful celebration of life on a day that's usually very sad.
I'm starting to get very anxious about when this baby will arrive. My due date is the 14th, but I'm so afraid he's going to come on the 11th. I've woken up crying several times because I had a dream he was born on that day. I know it's just a day, but it carries so many memories for so many people and most aren't positive.
I've been trying to avoid talking about this because I don't want to jinx myself, but I've gotta get it out.
Sorry, dear diary over...
If it makes you feel any better, I'm hoping the opposite at this point. September 11th was my dad's birthday and he passed away when I was 12. If we have a boy, he will be named after my dad. Now that we are past my due date, my whole family is hoping the baby comes the 11th because it is a happy day for us. We lost a very close family friend in the 9/11 attacks, but we are choosing to remember the positive of that date instead. Obviously you may not have a positive thing to celebrate from that day, but you are more than welcome to use mine. My dad was a pretty amazing guy so his birthday might as well have been a holiday
Me: 28, all tests normal DH: 34, very low count, motility, morphology DX - MFI 11/14/09 - Married 01/01/14 - TTC #1 01/06/15 - Started working with RE 04/06/15 - Recommendation - straight to IVF w/ICSI 09/04/15 - Started working with new RE Nov/Dec 15 - IVF w/ ICSI #1 - 11R/8F - 1 transferred, 3 frozen
Blood pressure was high again, but went down when they checked again at the end of the appointment. All in all, my OB is very glad we're inducing this weekend.
And the coffee shop made my sugar free coffee with sugar. At least, I'm pretty sure that's why my glucose in my urine sample was so high...
Post by merryrissmas on Sept 7, 2016 20:37:42 GMT -5
Just a quick update, the BPP went great this afternoon, baby boy is head down, practicing breathing, moving around well, etc. He appears to have chubby cheeks and lots of hair
My amniotic fluid is possibly a bit on the high side so I'll talk to the OB about that at my appt tomorrow, but all in all it seems things are well.
Post by singingsea on Sept 7, 2016 21:11:48 GMT -5
Guise I'm having all the pre-induction eve feels :/ Nervous, excited, sad, mom guilt regarding DS. Oy. Plus I'm cramping and passing more MP. I doubt I'll do into labor tonight but I was joking with H that it'd be ironic as we have our plans for tomorrow nailed down.
French braid, bb cream and liquid liner with waterproof mascara.
I need someone to teach me how to wear makeup. And just be an adult in general.
Yas please, me too. I've got the going to work, paying your bills type stuff nailed down. But my signature look is no makeup and a pony tail. Always has been. Save
singingsea I think those are all normal/healthy feelings. And even if you don't go in to labor tonight hopefully your body is making progress and the induction process even easier!
Post by singingsea on Sept 7, 2016 21:36:25 GMT -5
Thanks LadyNymeria and fem. I'm a lot calmer than I was with my first induction. I think at this point the night before I was having panic attacks. Mostly I'm just sitting here worrying that DS will be super sad about the new baby. I'm sure he'll be ok though. I worry too much.
Took a nap this afternoon and had an amusing dream that I overslept and missed my induction appointment It was like that dream from high school where you overslept and missed the test.
Post by serendipity731 on Sept 7, 2016 23:38:25 GMT -5
Good luck singingsea! I hope its uneventful and goes well!
Hugs and labor vibes to those that need them!
rufus426 thank you for sharing that, it was so touching.
unringthebell DS2 isn't here yet, but I've had the same concerns for DS1. He used to be all about mom for bath and bedtime. Lately DH has been doing bath and I've started having him do bedtime here and there. I wanted him to get used to daddy doing it and not associate it with the baby being here. I'm still super nervous about how it's everything is gonna be but it's reassuring to hear that the other moms who have gone through it are doing well.
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Thank you for sharing your experience and outlook on it too kerbear. I think it was very well said.
merryrissmas glad your appt went well and baby looks good!
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