WW N'15 Do?

[kensie5226]

Soooo.....I've been avoiding work travel since E was born with one exception. But, I feel like I need to jump into it again since it's bad for my career if I don't start taking some trips. The next one came up and is overseas in Belgium. It's a great opportunity and I want to do it. The downside.....I would miss E's 1st B-day. MH is encouraging me and pointing out, she won't know the difference. We can celebrate the weekend before or after and she won't care. I'm afraid I would regret missing her b-day, but I know MH is right. She won't know. He pointed out there will always be a reason not to go, and this is a good trip. Thoughts?

[littleredfish]

I understand your hesitation, but I would go. You would regret missing her birthday PARTY, the big celebration where you get to pat yourselves on the back for keeping this tiny person alive for a whole year. Not really the anniversary of the exact day she was born. I would do like YH said, have the party before or after, enjoy yourselves, take pictures to remember the moment and in years to come when she looks at this pictures she's not gonna think "well it wasn't my REAL birthday".

It's just the mom guilt talking. It eats us all alive at one point. Go enjoy yourself in Belgium. I'm excited I have no kids today so I can wash my floors. I'd die to have a chance to be going to Belgium.

[schmella]

Oh god, GO! What an amazing opportunity! Talk to daycare or YH about skype or FaceTime on her actual birthday and celebrate before or after. Would 30yr old E be mad you were in Belgium for her birthday? Or mad you skipped out on a good career move over an event she doesn't remember? My guess is the latter.

[kensie5226]

schmella, that's pretty great way of looking at it.

[schmella]

Just don't ever take into consideration what 15yr old E would think. 15yr olds are evil.

[proceedwithcaution]

Omg I'm scared of 15 year old kids. And all middle schoolers for that matter.

[proceedwithcaution]

I also agree- GO! I'll I'm jealous of at this point is all the great sleep you will get. Hotel sleep is the best.

[ldubhawksfan]

My initial reaction was absolutely not. But the party is what you are probably going to remember most. If it was like a 3rd bday or one she would know the day of, I would have a hard time leaving for that, but this first she won't know. You can FaceTime the day of and have a great party when you are home.

Final verdict: go

[kensie5226]

ldubhawksfan, that was my thought process too. It was NO WAY.....but then, I was thinking of how she wouldn't know and there will always be a reason not to. So, I'm leaning toward go.

[ldubhawksfan]

Yay!! So we can live vicariously through you!!

[kensie5226]

Sept 15, 2016 11:20:15 GMT -5 ldubhawksfan said:

Yay!! So we can live vicariously through you!!

Maaayyybeee.....after all that, I may not even get the opportunity.

[ldubhawksfan]

Sept 15, 2016 11:44:57 GMT -5 kensie5226 said:

Sept 15, 2016 11:20:15 GMT -5 ldubhawksfan said:

Yay!! So we can live vicariously through you!!

Maaayyybeee.....after all that, I may not even get the opportunity.

[sassypantzz]

Sept 15, 2016 11:44:57 GMT -5 kensie5226 said:

Sept 15, 2016 11:20:15 GMT -5 ldubhawksfan said:

Yay!! So we can live vicariously through you!!

Maaayyybeee.....after all that, I may not even get the opportunity.

Well I will cross all the things that you go.  I would just look at this as a win win.  If you got then fabulous, and if you don't it was the universe saying "woohoo first bday!".  Either way, I would try!

[run4fun]

I say go too. Its a fantastic opportunity! My H is missing Z's first birthday as well. We celebrated it already, extra early so he could be part of a party. But Z knows no different, it was more for us.

[yummeecookee]

Another vote for go. I understand though, I really do. I had a shit ton of mom guilt just for putting my DD in daycare on her 1st bday (it was the day before Thanksgiving and DC was a ghost town because most people were off that week). You've already said you've managed to avoid travel this entire first year. You've done good, mama.

[kensie5226]

Booo, I don't get to go to Belgium, but I do have to go to Detroit. Oh well, at least I have a ton of friends there.

[ldubhawksfan]

Sept 16, 2016 9:56:30 GMT -5 kensie5226 said:

Booo, I don't get to go to Belgium, but I do have to go to Detroit. Oh well, at least I have a ton of friends there.

Womp womp. Not the same, but I hope you still get to enjoy yourself. Have dinner with friends, sleep a full night alone in a bed!!!!

[kensie5226]

ldubhawksfan, yeah it's fine and that trip is nowhere near her bday. It's just the way it was presented. Yeah sorry no Belgium, but you went to Tampa and you get to go to Detroit. Yeah no, not comparable.