Friday Randoms & confessions

[katelou]

Here's mine: I do not like either of my children these days.

[ellebelle]

I don't understand sleep. Everyone says you have to promote a sleep environment and all that jazz. I've been just letting DD2 nap whenever/wherever so far. But she's a cat napper so I figured well maybe if I do the whole wind down routine, swaddle, and put in crib with white noise she'd take a decent nap. Nope. 10 minutes. I give up.

[comicSans]

Sept 16, 2016 9:44:26 GMT -5 ellebelle said:

I don't understand sleep. Everyone says you have to promote a sleep environment and all that jazz. I've been just letting DD2 nap whenever/wherever so far. But she's a cat napper so I figured well maybe if I do the whole wind down routine, swaddle, and put in crib with white noise she'd take a decent nap. Nope. 10 minutes. I give up.

I think it's a great myth that there's an optimal way to get babies to sleep. It's a total crap shoot and you get what you get with infants.

If I wrote a book on sleep it would simply say, if you have a good sleeper, you're lucky. If you have a crap sleeper, it has pretty much nothing to do with your parenting. Do what you need to do to survive and tell everyone to shut up with their advice. Send you kids away to college so you can finally get some sleep.

Too bad I'm not an expert and no one would pay me for that.

[sarcaztic10]

S won't let me put him down for a nap right now so I ate lunch with him in my arms. I dropped food on him 3 times. It was pasta salad so it's not like it's hot.

I would like to put him down... I do have things to do that would be easier without having to hold a baby.

[melody330]

I'll confess I have a love hate relationship with the pacifier. I love it and it saved my sanity with B. I wish we did it sooner.

Confession part....I feel like it's a parenting fail. In no way,shape, or form have I ever judged parents for giving their kids pacifiers. Ever. But for some reason, I feel like my boobs have failed B and he needs comfort from something other than me and it kills a tiny part of me.

[madamewaffles]

Sept 16, 2016 11:34:44 GMT -5 melody330 said:

I'll confess I have a love hate relationship with the pacifier. I love it and it saved my sanity with B. I wish we did it sooner.

Confession part....I feel like it's a parenting fail. In no way,shape, or form have I ever judged parents for giving their kids pacifiers. Ever. But for some reason, I feel like my boobs have failed B and he needs comfort from something other than me and it kills a tiny part of me.

Your boobs didn't fail!! I think it's a grass is always greener thing. I wish A would take a pacifier so bad!

[melody330]

And I just got a call from my friend. Play date anti vax mom said it's HFM. Greeeeat.

[comicSans]

Sept 16, 2016 12:12:18 GMT -5 melody330 said:

And I just got a call from my friend. Play date anti vax mom said it's HFM. Greeeeat.

Ugh no good. Fx the baby doesn't get it. Watch for a fever in the next couple of days. DD was exposed by her cousin over a weekend and the fever didn't show up until Thursday. I thought we'd dodged it.

[comicSans]

We finally got the baby a crib. I got it all put together and I'm trying to put him in if for a nap. I realize the insanity in this, but I want to take a shower.

[littlesthobo]

Sept 16, 2016 10:14:33 GMT -5 comicSans said:

Sept 16, 2016 9:44:26 GMT -5 ellebelle said:

I don't understand sleep. Everyone says you have to promote a sleep environment and all that jazz. I've been just letting DD2 nap whenever/wherever so far. But she's a cat napper so I figured well maybe if I do the whole wind down routine, swaddle, and put in crib with white noise she'd take a decent nap. Nope. 10 minutes. I give up.

I think it's a great myth that there's an optimal way to get babies to sleep. It's a total crap shoot and you get what you get with infants.

If I wrote a book on sleep it would simply say, if you have a good sleeper, you're lucky. If you have a crap sleeper, it has pretty much nothing to do with your parenting. Do what you need to do to survive and tell everyone to shut up with their advice. Send you kids away to college so you can finally get some sleep.

Too bad I'm not an expert and no one would pay me for that.

Lol Is this why parents are pushing their kids to be geniuses these days? He's so smart! He got into college at 14! He's out of the house and now I can sleep!

[katelou]

Sept 16, 2016 12:03:39 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Sept 16, 2016 11:34:44 GMT -5 melody330 said:

I'll confess I have a love hate relationship with the pacifier. I love it and it saved my sanity with B. I wish we did it sooner.

Confession part....I feel like it's a parenting fail. In no way,shape, or form have I ever judged parents for giving their kids pacifiers. Ever. But for some reason, I feel like my boobs have failed B and he needs comfort from something other than me and it kills a tiny part of me.

Your boobs didn't fail!! I think it's a grass is always greener thing. I wish A would take a pacifier so bad!

I would pay money to get Baby R to take one... especially if it reduced the epic 35 minute scream fest s in the car

[comicSans]

If it were acceptable to tie an elastic string to the pacifier and put it around my baby's head like a party hat, I would do it.

[madamewaffles]

Sept 16, 2016 13:05:54 GMT -5 comicSans said:

If it were acceptable to tie an elastic string to the pacifier and put it around my baby's head like a party hat, I would do it.

OMG the imagery. I have a roll of medical tape that I've thought way too many times about using to adhere it to his face.

[katelou]

Sept 16, 2016 13:23:37 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Sept 16, 2016 13:05:54 GMT -5 comicSans said:

If it were acceptable to tie an elastic string to the pacifier and put it around my baby's head like a party hat, I would do it.

OMG the imagery. I have a roll of medical tape that I've thought way too many times about using to adhere it to his face.

Another confession:
DD1 was an heavy crier as a newborn. In desperation, I read all the "how to get your baby to take a paci" advice I could find. One of them ended with "do not coat the pacifier in sugar or honey."

Guess what I did? Sadly she sucked the sugar off in 2 seconds, spit it out and resumed crying. It totally would have been worth it if it worked.

[melody330]

Sept 16, 2016 13:05:54 GMT -5 comicSans said:

If it were acceptable to tie an elastic string to the pacifier and put it around my baby's head like a party hat, I would do it.

Would buy!

[sarcaztic10]

I so wish there were some way to affix the pacifier to S's face. I stopped offering him the paci in the car seat unless L is back there with him. L can reach over and put the paci back in his mouth. I have to yell at him every time to do it gently but he can do it.

[Ray]

Sept 16, 2016 13:05:54 GMT -5 comicSans said:

If it were acceptable to tie an elastic string to the pacifier and put it around my baby's head like a party hat, I would do it.

Have legit thought this also lol

[Ray]

We survived the car ride! The tournament is about 3.5 hrs away and Flint made it 3 before he woke up starving. Of course I didn't think to bring any pumped milk so he got formula. He didn't seem to mind it! So it's nice to have that in my back pocket.

[rungirlrun]

Sept 16, 2016 13:05:54 GMT -5 comicSans said:

If it were acceptable to tie an elastic string to the pacifier and put it around my baby's head like a party hat, I would do it.

And if it was acceptable to duct tape my toddler to his bed, I'd do that!  It kind of sucks being a good parent sometimes.

[cabbagecabbage]

My friend needs labor vibes. She is currently 41 weeks 2 days. She is 4 cm and 90% effaced and her midwife is shocked she's walking around. She had her membranes stripped this morning and now she waits to hit active labor. I feel for her. I can't even imagine how done she is.

In awesome news, Mal is napping in his crib. I put him down still awake (like 1% but he looked at me). He's been asleep an hour and a half. I'm sorry to brag when others are having so much trouble but I'm in shock. I did the dishes and laundry as fast as I could and then cuddled DD who asked why I never snuggle her anymore.

[comicSans]

Afternoons are the worst lately. I can usually get baby down for a nap while DD naps - lasts about 20 mins. Then for the next 2 hours he sleeps for 2 minutes at a time. I have to walk to get him to sleep, then he sleeps for a couple minutes, then his eyes pop open again. If I try to let him just be awake he gets mad and cries. It's so infuriating. Either be awake or go the f to sleep. I'm exhausted because I can't even just sit and hold him.

[rungirlrun]

Sept 16, 2016 11:34:44 GMT -5 melody330 said:

I'll confess I have a love hate relationship with the pacifier. I love it and it saved my sanity with B. I wish we did it sooner.

Confession part....I feel like it's a parenting fail. In no way,shape, or form have I ever judged parents for giving their kids pacifiers. Ever. But for some reason, I feel like my boobs have failed B and he needs comfort from something other than me and it kills a tiny part of me.

I 100% agree.  My boobs were magic to DS1 - they knocked him right out.  However, the magic wore off for this one.  The only way I can get him to nap unless it's a car nap is with a pacifier.  I feel like I'm taking the easy way out, and I feel so much guilt.  I'm still hoping I can just get rid of the pacifier at 3 months like I did with DS1, but I don't have a lot of confidence.

[cavewmn]

First period has started. Have a migraine from hell. Worse of all I can't remember if I took anything for it.

[ellebelle]

I wish my baby took a pacifier. They exist for a reason so don't feel bad about using it. We just get gagging over here with it. Sigh.

[melody330]

I've release it!

[tikoberry99]

I have thrush....blaaaah whst a pain in the ass...that is all.

[tikoberry99]

Sept 16, 2016 13:03:15 GMT -5 katelou said:

Sept 16, 2016 12:03:39 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Your boobs didn't fail!! I think it's a grass is always greener thing. I wish A would take a pacifier so bad!

I would pay money to get Baby R to take one... especially if it reduced the epic 35 minute scream fest s in the car

Omg M took the paci from week 3-5 then decided he hated it. I wish he would take it so I could give my nips a break

[katelou]

Sept 16, 2016 15:59:59 GMT -5 tikoberry99 said:

I have thrush....blaaaah whst a pain in the ass...that is all.

Oh man that sucks! I'm sorry:(

[Susan0utLoud]

Sept 16, 2016 14:21:56 GMT -5 cavewmn said:

First period has started. Have a migraine from hell. Worse of all I can't remember if I took anything for it.

I'm on my 2nd pp period and it's so bad. I really hope this isn't the new normal for me

Feel better soon!

[melody330]

We are at the ILs for dinner and I can't stand it. It's Friday afternoon and all I want to do is hide in my room with coffee while DH solo parents for an hour. Instead I'm sitting here listening to my ILs literally whine about how DS1 won't give them hugs and kisses. I don't make my kid hug and kiss people ever. He has to say hello and be polite, but he does not have to kiss you.