Well maybe he didn't want to deal with the fight today. Make it clear to him that no one but your mother is to come on Weds. Tell your nurses as well. He can use your surgery as the excuse. It's your decision.
Hopefully that's it. I didnt talk to him yet because we are both at work. I was just blindsided by a text from her(basically good luck Wednesday see you later that day) I will attempt to calmly address the situation with him this evening. I was tempted to text her back saying please check in before coming as I am having surgery and may not be up for visitors. But I should let him take care of it.
If she doesn't seem to want to listen, have YH tell her it's hospital policy. There's absolutely no reason for her to be there day 1.
mc13 you're giving me hope that my one baby might be easy. DD was not. Glad they're taking it easy on you so far!
I know they say dogs can sense it and act weird before labor, I wonder if it's true for kids too. DD was awful yesterday and today she was at first clinging to my neck then I had to carry her out of the children's museum in a full blown tantrum.
mc13 you're giving me hope that my one baby might be easy. DD was not. Glad they're taking it easy on you so far!
I know they say dogs can sense it and act weird before labor, I wonder if it's true for kids too. DD was awful yesterday and today she was at first clinging to my neck then I had to carry her out of the children's museum in a full blown tantrum.
Good luck! If someone told me they had babies like this when R was a baby, I would have called them a liar. Lol I honestly never believed anyone when they said they had easy babies, but I guess they do exist!
Omg the pressure is intense. Every time I get off the couch I feel like I have to poop. But no dice. The baby is still laying on nerves as I get pains down my legs when I stand up.
fem I have been thinking the same thing about my daughter...like she has been next level for the past few days either tantruming or super clingy...I think they pick up on more than I probably give her credit for.
R is currently in the habit of nursing for 5-10 min then passing out and I can't seem to keep him awake to nurse longer most sessions. I means he ends up looking to nurse again a half hour later.
He's eating so that's great, but it's making it tough to get into a nursing then pumping.
Rub the back of his neck and under his chin. That helps keep them awake. Also rubbing R's ears during nursing helps too. I saw one of the nurses at the hospital pump R's arm while helping me nurse and she said that's another trick.
Post by singingsea on Sept 19, 2016 12:33:32 GMT -5
Just got back from R's weight check up and this kid has gained 1 pound 3oz in a week! I don't think we'll be fitting in newborn clothes for very long. Yikes lol. Also got K's flu shot which was fun.
Well maybe he didn't want to deal with the fight today. Make it clear to him that no one but your mother is to come on Weds. Tell your nurses as well. He can use your surgery as the excuse. It's your decision.
Hopefully that's it. I didnt talk to him yet because we are both at work. I was just blindsided by a text from her(basically good luck Wednesday see you later that day) I will attempt to calmly address the situation with him this evening. I was tempted to text her back saying please check in before coming as I am having surgery and may not be up for visitors. But I should let him take care of it.
I don't know what your relationship is like with her, but I'd text her like I would my own sister along the lines of, "Hey, thank you! We are so excited to meet LO, but I'm a bit anxious about the surgery. (Don't know if you are or not but I would be) I'm not sure if I'll be up for guests on Wednesday, but we will definitely keep you posted and for sure see you Thursday if you're able!" Then some sort of close.
I usually handle all pr for DH and I, his family or mine. I feel like even though it's his family, it seems passive aggressive to go through him. I have a fantastic relationship with my in-laws though. Good luck!
Post by merryrissmas on Sept 19, 2016 12:48:10 GMT -5
Monday confession: I got halfway through fall/Halloween decorating my house yesterday and plan to finish it this week so I don't have to worry about it when I have a newborn. It's 97° today and will be 90-100 all week. I am trying to will it to be fall.
fem I have been thinking the same thing about my daughter...like she has been next level for the past few days either tantruming or super clingy...I think they pick up on more than I probably give her credit for.
Glad I'm not alone, so maybe there's actually a reason for her awful behavior. I think our daughters are about the same age too. Hopefully they don't get worse after the babies are here.
Monday confession: I got halfway through fall/Halloween decorating my house yesterday and plan to finish it this week so I don't have to worry about it when I have a newborn. It's 97° today and will be 90-100 all week. I am trying to will it to be fall.
R is currently in the habit of nursing for 5-10 min then passing out and I can't seem to keep him awake to nurse longer most sessions. I means he ends up looking to nurse again a half hour later.
He's eating so that's great, but it's making it tough to get into a nursing then pumping.
Rub the back of his neck and under his chin. That helps keep them awake. Also rubbing R's ears during nursing helps too. I saw one of the nurses at the hospital pump R's arm while helping me nurse and she said that's another trick.
Thanks for the tips!
I pumped after his last feeding and got 1 oz from each breast in 10 minutes so I'm wondering if he's just filling up in those 5-10 min too.
Rub the back of his neck and under his chin. That helps keep them awake. Also rubbing R's ears during nursing helps too. I saw one of the nurses at the hospital pump R's arm while helping me nurse and she said that's another trick.
Thanks for the tips!
I pumped after his last feeding and got 1 oz from each breast in 10 minutes so I'm wondering if he's just filling up in those 5-10 min too.
Could be. Careful pumping too much, you don't want an oversupply. Unless you're trying to build a stash or need to produce more.
DS1 and G would nurse for a few min and stop, then once they burped, they would want to go back for a few more min.
cbrandt1 I asked H about it and he didn't know she was planning it or that she texted me (she never texts or calls me). So I was going to text her but he said he'd talk to her. Honestly our relationship isn't bad per say but she's selfish and self centered as evidenced by the fact that she wouldn't even think to ask WHEN it's OK to visit. I'm now just annoyed that I let it stress me out so much. I still have stuff to do at work. I'm stressed about having to bring baby to my parents because our house still isn't ready. I'm stressed about how my son is going to handle me being gone 3+ days. And even though I've been there done that I'm nervous about the c section. I shouldn't have allowed her to get to me.
I understand! All will be ok, I know it's hard to think about right now. We've all stressed about adding another to the family and once the squishes arrive, it just works. Big hugs to you!! We are here if you need to vent.
I pumped after his last feeding and got 1 oz from each breast in 10 minutes so I'm wondering if he's just filling up in those 5-10 min too.
Could be. Careful pumping too much, you don't want an oversupply. Unless you're trying to build a stash or need to produce more.
DS1 and G would nurse for a few min and stop, then once they burped, they would want to go back for a few more min.
I'm only pumping once or twice a day. We had a couple times early on where he got too frustrated to work for his food and the LC at the peds office suggested a bottle to calm him a bit then feed him. Rather than using formula for that I'm trying to stash some BM.
That and it would be good to have some on hand for when I need MH to be able to feed him.
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