Fri-YAY randoms and FFFC

[melody330]

Congrats prvc678

[ellebelle]

Sept 23, 2016 13:03:15 GMT -5 melody330 said:

housecarder that sounds terrifying. One of the reasons we didn't look into in home day cares was my fear of that happening. I know it's not typical, but I wouldn't be able to let it go. We love our DC center. I'm the only one of my working mom friends who uses a center and not an in home place.

+1. One of the moms of PGAL back in the day had a son who passed away at an in home daycare. I've never been able to get that out of my mind when deciding on day cares.

[rungirlrun]

Guys I think my baby is broken. He doesn't sleep at night. He doesn't sleep during the day. He only sleeps when I'm driving. Therefore, I don't sleep. I'm dying today.

[Ray]

Sept 23, 2016 16:52:18 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Guys I think my baby is broken. He doesn't sleep at night. He doesn't sleep during the day. He only sleeps when I'm driving. Therefore, I don't sleep. I'm dying today.

Sleepbabysleep........

[Ray]

MIL just spent waaaaaayyyyy too much money on stuff for us and the kids. We went in to buy our oldest a tie for hockey and we came out with a tie, water bottle, two sets of winter boots, a pair of shoes, a jolly jumper, and two $50 Pokemon card sets. She was going to buy us a diaper Genie but I told her thanks, but the refills are too$$$

THen we took her and her H out for dinner with the kids and she snuck over to the waitress and paid before I could.

I'm super grateful, but I always feel like a charity case or something when people give us money or stuff for the kids. (I realize this is ridiculous but whatever)

[rungirlrun]

Question for those of you who have faced infertility. I have a friend going through it, and she started IUI treatment. She's a close friend, but we live on separate sides of the country so I don't see her in person too often. What did people do for you when you were dealing with infertility that helped the most? I want her to know I'm supporting her but not sure how. It just sucks so much that couples have to go through this. Thanks.

[madamewaffles]

Sept 23, 2016 17:38:36 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Question for those of you who have faced infertility. I have a friend going through it, and she started IUI treatment. She's a close friend, but we live on separate sides of the country so I don't see her in person too often. What did people do for you when you were dealing with infertility that helped the most? I want her to know I'm supporting her but not sure how. It just sucks so much that couples have to go through this. Thanks.

For me it was just having someone to talk to when I needed to. My BFF told me she wasn't going to bring up IF, but that I can call, text, email, send smoke signals, etc no matter the day or time. I appreciated that she didn't try to offer a solution, just saying "that sucks, I'm sorry," when things didn't go well and celebrating good moments. You're a good friend for looking out for her and trying to be supportive. ❤️

[cavewmn]

I don't know why it's so hard for the in laws to understand we don't go out during the week unless it's to rifftrax.

We are older than they were having kids. Add my hypersomnia into the mix and I'm really a homebody.

[sarcaztic10]

rungirlrun I agree that someone to talk to was most important for me. IF is so stressful and there are so many emotions involved. The hope for a new cycle and then the disappointment when it didn't work out. It feels like you are living from cycle to cycle and Drs appt to Drs appt. Having a person to cry to or just share feeling with is so important because IF is very isolating.

[ellebelle]

Sept 23, 2016 18:53:33 GMT -5 madamewaffles said:

Sept 23, 2016 17:38:36 GMT -5 rungirlrun said:

Question for those of you who have faced infertility. I have a friend going through it, and she started IUI treatment. She's a close friend, but we live on separate sides of the country so I don't see her in person too often. What did people do for you when you were dealing with infertility that helped the most? I want her to know I'm supporting her but not sure how. It just sucks so much that couples have to go through this. Thanks.

For me it was just having someone to talk to when I needed to. My BFF told me she wasn't going to bring up IF, but that I can call, text, email, send smoke signals, etc no matter the day or time. I appreciated that she didn't try to offer a solution, just saying "that sucks, I'm sorry," when things didn't go well and celebrating good moments. You're a good friend for looking out for her and trying to be supportive. ❤️

This.  Just knowing I could vent without being judged or like I should "get over it" was so helpful.

[melody330]

It's Saturday but I'll put this here. I nursed DS1 until he was 25 months. I loved it.

I'm really hoping B weans around 12, and I'm going to encourage it. I need my body back in the worst way. I don't even feel bad that I won't have nursed them the same amount of time.

Maybe I'll feel differently when we get to 12 months, but the thought of nursing for another two years of my life makes me want to scream.

[rungirlrun]

I've also thought about how long I want to nurse E. I nursed my older one until 14 months. It was a great experience from about 4 months on, but I was ready to be done. I have a goal of 15 months for E. Mostly bc I have so much guilt that I neglect him in every other way more than I did with his big brother (nothing serious, just the curse of being the second child) that I feel the need to give him a little something extra. He needs to win somewhere!

[katelou]

I know it is best to nurse til 2, but I quit at 13/14 months last time, and after having a young toddler, I am like F no to that. I know all kids are different, but at 13-24 months my kid was super rough, crazy, demanding, and (as is normal) was a giant egomaniac who had no concept that I had feelings and thought she owned me. I can't even imagine sharing my boobs with her. I already felt beat up by her by then end of the day without her thinking she owned my nipples.

I quit day nursing at 12 months and wanted to do just bedtime nursing for a while, but it didn't really work for me, I dried up pretty quickly. no regrets though and I'm definitely daytime weaning again at 12 mo.

[ellebelle]

We nurse until 14 months too. Weaning was gradual and easy. I hope to do the same again this time. Extended BFing is not for me.

[icaughtfire]

housecarder, I understand your feels about the embryos. I don't blame you at all. I am grateful that your generosity is giving my friend the chance to have the family she dreams of, but I know it can still be hard to close that chapter on your end. ❤️

EBF: I've never even thought about how long I'll BF Ethan. My goal at this point is 6 months, I'm not sure how my supply will do once I go back to work. If I make it that far, I'll just take it day by day. If I make it to a year, awesome! I definitely don't forsee myself going much further past that.