Update on my dad: he went home last night. He still kind of feels like crap. I really hope he can get cleared to go back on the transplant list soon. It's hard to watch a robust guy succumb to an illness. I talked to him last night with FaceTime and it just seems like he's lost all of his agency.
Post by packmomma on Sept 25, 2016 11:39:46 GMT -5
redandblue I'm sorry DS1 is causing you so much hurt. I'm glad you're involving a therapist. I am a huge believer in therapy and the help it can bring. Big hugs and good thoughts sent your way.
Post by packmomma on Sept 25, 2016 11:43:03 GMT -5
I woke up sick and H is being awesome and just letting me nurse W and rest. I just sent him to the grocery store with W for the first time by himself. Should be fun for them and a quiet house for me.
**trigger: loss mentioned (not mine). Not sure how to do spoiler on tapatalk
I woke up to a text that my best friend is in the hospital. She's had her second loss this year. She has a 2 yo and earlier this year she got pregnant, she was due about 2-3 weeks before me. She was really sick and then started bleeding around 6 weeks. Her doctor suspected a vanishing twin and then at 13 weeks, she lost the other baby. She sent me her positive pregnancy test this past Monday. Yesterday she told me she was having light spotting... I told her not to worry yet, a lot of women spot in early pregnancy (I did this time, I thought it was my period which is why I didn't test again until 7 weeks). She started having heavy bleeding overnight and this morning with clots. Her hcg & beta levels show pregnancy but there was nothing when they did u/s. She goes back in a couple of days to retest her levels. They are devastated. I am too and I wish I knew how to comfort her. I kept my distance for a couple of months after her first loss since I'm pregnant and it was obviously upsetting for her. Her sister just had her first baby 2 weeks ago. I wish I knew what to do or say to comfort her, but I know there is nothing I can do except be there if she needs me.
Post by tmclawchick on Sept 25, 2016 12:00:18 GMT -5
Laziest Sunday EVER. DH ran out for breakfast and we've been watching movies all morning. I ordered groceries online and just have to go pick them up tonight. So much win.
During the struggle to get M to sleep last night he kicked my nose. Today is slightly swollen and tender, it hurts to wear my glasses. Thankfully the bruising is very light.
M is having a blast opening and closing his bedroom door, it's pretty adorable.
Post by redandblue on Sept 25, 2016 13:02:48 GMT -5
@janetheconquerer it does bring some comfort knowing people have come out the other side. I do really believe he is in a 'finding himself ' phase for sure. We always have these back and forth conversations with him saying I just need to let him learn from his mistakes/decisions and I keep telling him 1) it is hard to sit by and watch him make choices he will definitely regret 2) that he needs to understand some of the consequences of his actions is a break down in relationships. It's challenging that's for sure. I think we are often presented with situations that challenge us, but that force us to grow. So I'm feeling growing pains right now.
shellyr it is counseling for just DH and I to start but may evolve into family counseling if DS1 will agree. packmomma I do hope this will help us. I know if nothing else I'm hoping it will help me.
Thanks for the support. It's definitely a challenge. But I do try to hold onto the good when it comes.
Me: 39 DH: 39 DS1 born Sept 1999 Married Nov 2010 TTC 2010 2011 BFP ended in ectopic RE Aug 2014. Unexplained infertility Sept 2014-Dec 2014 fermera/IUI/TI BFN's
August 16, 2015 baby Boy M is born and our hearts melt!
ampaints I told her about tcf when she got her bfp, I think she's been looking around at May 2017 & carrying a rainbow. I might direct her to the loss boards after she gets her blood draw Tuesday & has a few days to process
aydee, yes I've done a ton and that's only because I was sick of asking for it to be done. But H doesn't watch the kids, they are in day care full time. And he works about 4 hours a day. Soo, even though it's not a competition, he has the time to do it. He just finds other things to occupy his time.
It is what it is and all major things are done now. I will continue to just do it myself moving forward, this way it gets done
That is not cool. I'd be pissed too. I assumed he was working long days or dealing with the kids. I'm sorry he's not doing his part.
Post by th3stryck3r on Sept 25, 2016 16:00:08 GMT -5
Having a nice Sunday. Did spin this morning, and went for a walk with P. Did some tidying and then went to my studio to draw for a few hours. Headed home and going to take P to the park for an hour and then I'll start dinner. A friend is coming over for dinner and I'm making a winter squash curry over quinoa. Happy it's fall!
mommabakes, I bought a planner a few months ago, inspired by parenting. I write everything in mine, different colors for work and personal stuff - deadlines, bill due dates, birthdays, social plans. I have a running to do list on the side of the month. It's definitely helped me feel more on top of things.
shellyr, glad your dad is home. Hope he gets cleared asap to go back on the transplant list.
th3stryck3r- once again I want to come to your house for dinner.
redandblue, keeping your family in T&p amberlie,so many sympathies for your friend, peace to you both.
went to pie festival for lunch. and then to my parents to pick up our convertible car seat! I have things shipped there because deliveries to our house always get fucked up. I finally decided to get the evenflo symphony and for a second cheapy for the bus i will use the trade in to get the sonus on tuesday. So glad to have that decision out of the way. Too many choices stress me out.
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