Post by singingsea on Sept 27, 2016 16:36:16 GMT -5
So thousands of years ago on the dump I posted this survey on my BMB. It was helpful to see how others were recovering/feeling. Thought this could be a safe place to get whatever you're feeling out.
How many weeks postpartum are you?
How has your recovery been physically?
Mentally?
How much sleep have you been getting?
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)?
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy?
Are you planning to return to work or staying home?
If working what are you doing for childcare?
How has your relationship with your significant other changed?
Physical recovery: Doing pretty well, I think. Bleeding is down to mostly spotting with the occasional period of light flow. Stitches itch a little, but seem to be healing fine. The two small tears that she didn't stitch are also itching, but at least they don't bug me when I pee now.
I have noticed that any time I have gas or if I haven't pooped in like, 12 hours or so, causes some significant discomfort and occasionally pain.
Mental recovery: still a little weepy sometimes, mostly when I'm tired and/or frustrated. The random instances of worry about K not doing well or something happening to her are getting less and less frequent, too. Probably because I'm starting to feel some confidence in myself as a parent. Though I still have moments of feeling like I have no clue what I'm doing.
Sleep: Actually a fair amount. K is doing well on an every 2.5 to 3 hour wake up schedule at night, and during the day has some longer naps (that I'm trying to break her of now before it gets too ingrained in her), so I usually get 2 or 3 chunks of 3 hours of sleep at night, a solid 3 to 4 hours in the morning, and usually a short afternoon or evening nap, particularly if H is working the next day and I'm alone on night shift with K.
Support: MIL is living with us and so far has not found a job, so she's here pretty much all the time. Initially I worried that she'd drive is crazy, but it actually has been really nice having her. She cooks, cleans, takes the dogs to the park, and takes at least one or two chunks of the day with K.
H is working 3 days a week for the foreseeable future, so we get 4 day weekends as a family. It's increased his stress level on days that he's working, but it's nice to have him home those extra days, so we're thinking it's worth it so far.
Feeding: K lost a lot of weight after we left the hospital, and we're still getting her back on track, so we're doing both breast and formula feeding. So far the biggest challenge seems to be supply. It's only in the last few days that I've actually started to feel like my breasts are full in between feedings, and it's rare that I have any let down on the side I'm not nursing her on when she's latched. I started to catch up with her demand late last week (she went from almost 2oz of formula after nursing to 1oz) and then bam, growth spurt and now I'm behind again. I'm starting to think we might never get to a point of exclusively breast feeding. I'm drinking plenty of water and eating enough, plus pumping and taking a supplement, but still not having a lot of luck. I did get a kick out of noticing yesterday that I finally have enough flow to actually squirt milk, and now I get to embarrass K when she's older by telling her all about the time I hit her in the eye with breast milk.
Work: Returning to work in 5 weeks.
Childcare: our plan to get K into H's program fell through when they had at least one kid with greater need come in and another kid who isn't ready to move up to the toddler class on schedule stay behind. So, for now, I have no plans. I work from home full time and my schedule until February has no trainings that I have to host live, so we can continue along like we are now, particularly if it takes MIL a while to find a job. My only real issue is making sure I have someone to watch her during the day when I travel, which I'll have to do in early February, and then looking at getting some childcare when she's older and more mobile so she's not interrupting me while I work.
Relationship stuff: H and I are simultaneously closer and further apart than ever. I feel like a lot of the time we're ships passing in the night but when we are together we're stronger and more affectionate than before.
I'm laughing a little at H because he tried to initiate sex the other day. I mean that in itself isn't funny, but when I explained that it was doing to be a while yet, he said he thought he'd been good by waiting this long.
Hardest part: the 2 hour feeding schedule, though that's getting better now that we're at 2.5 to 3 hours.
Best part: this adorable little human who never stops being amazing. I'm constantly in awe that H and I made her, and that she's really ours.
Post by jennybeans on Sept 27, 2016 18:07:25 GMT -5
How many weeks postpartum are you? 3.5 weeks
How has your recovery been physically? Great physically! I felt better much faster than the first time. I'm only a couple pounds up from pre-pregnancy weight even if my belly still needs a lot of work..
Mentally? Doing good.. I'm bored alone at home and I feel guilty that I'm already counting down my maternity leave and until E hits older milestones.
How much sleep have you been getting? One 3-4 hour stretch and then anywhere from 1-3 hour increments after that. Total of about 7 hours each night with all the interruptions (bedtime is 9pm and we set morning wake up around 7:30/8)
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? My husband has been a huge help since he's taken in so much of our sons care while I'm nursing and taking care of E. He's also less scared of doing things with E than he was with our son. I struggled early on when my son was an infant with some resentment that my husband wasn't as involved as I was and had so much more freedom. He's doing so much with our toddler this time around & I feel much more like it's a partnership.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? Breastfeeding. We've been having weight issues and just got a tongue and lip tie revised that hopefully will help.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? Planning to return to work at 4 months (January)
If working what are you doing for childcare? Daycare. It's the same place my son goes and we loved his infant teachers who are still there.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? Not as much this time around. We are both more comfortable and settled into the newborn phase faster this time.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? I feel guilty that I am not enjoying the infant stage. I am counting down time until E is ~4 months old. I enjoyed everything so much more once my son could interact with us and was more predictable. The randomness of infancy does not do well with my type a control freak personality! I'm pretty sure I am ok with being done at 2 kids at this point.
The best? I love seeing my son with E and thinking about them growing up together. I can't wait until she starts interacting with him!
How has your recovery been physically? I'm doing pretty good. I still have some pain at my incision site and getting in and out of our high bed is still a little difficult, but I'm able to do most things.
Mentally? I'm past the hormone surge, thank goodness. I hate how much I cry the first week or so after giving birth.
How much sleep have you been getting? I usually get one or two good stretches of 2-3 hours, but the rest of the night is full of cluster feeding and not much sleep.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? My husband has been great. My mom wants to help, but she keeps offering to take my 3yo and I really want him to get used to the new normal.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? I'm breastfeeding. I have a bit of oversupply, but it's so much easier this time that it was with DS1.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? I'm going back to work after Christmas.
If working what are you doing for childcare? We will use the same in home daycare that DS goes to.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? He's actually helping a lot more than usual. It's been great so far.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? The hardest part this time around has been the transition for DS1. It's been pretty hard on him and he's been acting out quite a bit. Every day has been better, but it's still hard. I have had a lot of guilt.
The best? I just love them both so much. I was so worried before DS2 was born that I couldn't possibly love him as much as I do DS1. I was so wrong.
Post by LadyNymeria on Sept 27, 2016 18:40:12 GMT -5
How many weeks postpartum are you? 2 weeks today
How has your recovery been physically? Better than I ever expected. Still bleeding lightly but not much and occasional tail bone soreness, but no other pain remaining.
Mentally? Feeling good for the most part but tears can definitely be triggered like after the bad weight check earlier. But I think it's just my hormones settling plus wanting to do right by R. I'm thankful that I don't seem to be dealing with any PPA/PPD so far.
How much sleep have you been getting? More than the last month+ of my pregnancy. Generally a 3 hour and a couple 2 hour stretches. Still haven't figured out how to nap during the day. Got a 5 hour stretch last night, but that doesn't seem like a good thing after today's weigh in. I'll be setting an alarm for 3 or 4 hours tonight.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? My husband has been amazing! My parents and his parents are around if we need anything too, but MH has been taking such good care of me. He's back working, but whenever he's home he's always making sure I'm good.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? Breast feeding. I thought it was going well...guess not. Toughest part so far is trying to keep him awake long enough to eat enough. FX for some good weight gain between now and next Tuesday.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? I'll be going back to work the first full week of December.
If working what are you doing for childcare? My mom is taking one day, my MIL is taking two, and I'll be working from home for the other two at least through the Spring. Eventually we'll probably put him in part time daycare for the social aspect.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? So far it doesn't seem too different, although I absolutely love watching MH interact with R.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? Worrying about breast feeding and whether or not he's eating enough.
The best? The cuddles and overwhelming love I feel for R. And the smiles, even though I'm sure they're just gas or something right now.
Post by hurricanerek on Sept 27, 2016 19:07:01 GMT -5
Weeks postpartum: 12 days
Physically: I cannot believe how good I felt starting right after delivery. I hardly even had to take Motrin in the hospital. This is so so so different from recovery the last time when I could barely walk for a week. I had my postpartum visit today and I'm down 25 pounds which felt great! Now I just need to lose 25 more to reach my pre-pregnancy weight. All in good time though.
Mentally: my awful hormone surge happened while DD2 was in the NICU so I cried a lot at the hospital. I still have lots of emotions but nothing severe enough to be considered PPD.
Sleep: She will wake up around 1am and 4am at night. During the day she wakes to eat every 2-3 hours as well. This is a dream compared to DD1.
Support: DH is pretty much self-sufficient with DD1 which is so amazing. My mom has offered to come out to help if I need it but I actually feel okay right now.
Feeding: I'm breastfeeding and it has been a breeze this time around. I'm also tandem nursing DD1 so she has been helping to bring in a healthy supply for DD2.
Plans: I will be SAH like I was before. We have a lot of working moms in this group! I wish teaching could pay enough to justify me returning to work but I really enjoy SAH.
Relationship: we are doing great actually! Stronger than ever because he has truly been everything I needed him to be the last two weeks.
Hardest part of parenthood: the adjustment for DD1 has been rough. I'm riddled with guilt about this. I've been carving out 1 on 1 time for her but she is still acting out and screaming a lot. I'm feeling like maybe our age gap for the next baby will need to be bigger.
Best: I love having two girls! I'm so thrilled that our team green turned pink again.
Post by annapunkalunka on Sept 27, 2016 19:31:05 GMT -5
How many weeks postpartum are you? 4.5
How has your recovery been physically? Not too bad. I had a general soreness/tiredness feeling like I was sitting on a bowling ball that seemed to linger, but it's better now. Still bleeding, which is annoying... I'm ready to be done with pads.
Mentally? I'm a mess. I'm so tired that I pretty much put my toddler in front of the TV to keep her happy. I have no desire to do any sort of activity with her... that leads to a lot of guilt. I feel disconnected from everyone like I'm just going through the motions every day. I keep hoping it'll get better, but if it's still like this at my 6 week appointment, I'll probably need meds... which I've never taken before, so I'm kinda 'meh' about that, too.
How much sleep have you been getting? I don't even know. I honestly woke up the other night with him in my arms and I have no idea when I got him from the RNP. That's scary. But between the RNP and sleeping in our bed, we're generally only getting 2 hour stretches. Most of the time I can deal with that as long as it's a quick diaper change, nurse, back to sleep session.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? DH has been really good at taking care of the toddler, which is a huge help for me, but he really doesn't do much with E... mainly bc he eats so much and that's all me.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? We're breast feeding and it's going well. He seems to struggle with my over active let down and gags, chokes, and spits up a lot. I'm just hoping it gets better soon as DD never had issues like this.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? I'll go back to work full time after 12 weeks, so after Thanksgiving.
If working what are you doing for childcare? He'll go to the same in home daycare as C. We love it there.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? I'm so disconnected right now about everything, so idk. Having C took a huge toll on our relationship, this time I knew what was coming, so I don't think it'll be as bad, especially bc we're already in "parent mode"
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? I hate feeling judged in every decision I make.
The best? So much love for them. You can't ever describe it.
Physical recovery: it was very tough in the beginning, I think because I have the toddler at home so I wasn't relaxing as much as the first time around. Still spotting too and I can't wait to not even need liners.
Mentally: typical tired an low on patience, but it has been a breeze this time comparatively. I think I might have bordered on PPD last time.
Sleep: we just started getting 3-4 hour stretch to start the night, so if I can fall asleep it helps. The rest is anywhere from 1-3 hours. But we are struggling with him wanting to be held.
Others to rely on: I have DH and he has been a big help with DS1, but that's it. My parents are in another state so they can only help when they visit.
Breastfeeding: it's been a slow long process. He had a lip/ tongue tie revision and we had to wean off the nipple shield. He initially lost a full pound but the ped was OK since we had an appt for the revision. And he gained back fairly quickly after that. Now we are struggling with potential allergies since he had blood in his poop. It sucks because he is nursing great now and I really want this to work but the diet restrictions are tough, especially with the holidays coming up!
Work: I'm returning to work in February, so 5 months.
Childcare: first 2 months my parents will stay with us and watch him then in April he will go to the center my DS1 goes to.
Relationship with DH: I feel like we never have time to talk, we have had a few tired fights but overall not bad. I know it will improve, been there done that with DS1
Harder at part: losing "me" time. I could use a break. Not having family nearby makes it tough.
The best: now that I have two, watching the love DS1 had for DS2. I was holding the baby and DS1 came over cuddled up with his head on my shoulder and held his hand. Heart melted!
How has your recovery been physically? My recovery this time has been 1,000 times better than with DD. Labor and delivery was much quicker and easier too so I'm sure that's why. I was back to normal feeling about a week after delivery, bleeding stopped last week, and I have about 5 pounds left to get below pre pregnancy weight.
Mentally? I'm mentally good too. These girls sleep pretty well so not being sleep deprived really has made a happier me.
How much sleep have you been getting? A decent amount. I go to bed at 9ish with the girls and they're not waking around midnight, 330 and 6/7am then I get up because DD1 gets up at 7am.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? My mom was here for a week then MIL was here for a week. Now it's just DH and I. Luckily DH has been working from home a ton so that helps to know he's here when I need help. We have a babysitter that comes one morning a week from 9-12pm to take our oldest and I go to a new moms meetup with the twins.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? So far all breastfeeding. I EP'ed with DD1 so I'm really happy to have made it past a month already.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? Staying home like I've been since DD1. Thankfully I'm done with grad school so I don't have to juggle that too.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? We are much better off this time too. Getting sleep and not stressing about pumping enough milk sure makes such a difference in how happy both of us are. We still fight occasionally in the middle of the night sometimes because I need so much help since there's two babies this time but we're good during the day.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? Making time for ourselves. I don't really even know what my hobbies are anymore. I don't have time for any. I'm sure that will change as time goes on. This is just 1 season of life.
The best? Seeing these girls grow! I can't wait to see them start to interact more. Once the babies can sit up I know DD1 will be even more obsessed with them. Lol
Post by watermelonseed on Sept 27, 2016 20:42:09 GMT -5
These were so good to read!
How many weeks postpartum are you? 6 weeks
How has your recovery been physically? Straight up horrible for the first 10 days or so. Now I feel better than ever and I'm 5 pounds from pre pregnancy weight.
Mentally? The first 3 weeks were a hormonal struggle. Now that I've got EPing down and let shit go I can confidently say very good.
How much sleep have you been getting? 3-4 hour stretches at night and a nap almost daily too. With the exception of the crib transition currently. I know we will be back on track so soon.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? Yes. My H & my mom are the top two. I'm lucky to have nearby family and a very strong support system from many.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? BFing was a straight up disaster. Now that I'm in my grove I actually weirdly enjoy EPing. I have mastered feeding P and EPing at the same time if I'm alone too. So. Much. Better.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? Hopefully I will have a new job soon. Returning in a few more weeks.
If working what are you doing for childcare? We have hired an in-house sitter through a personal connection. We only would need between 4.5-5 hours or less a day between H and my schedule.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? Better than ever. We certainly have our moments but use the motto "we are a team". He keeps me grounded like always.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? Sleep deprivation. And the feeling of judgment at times.
The best? The love I have for P.enny is better than I could of even imagined.
This is a great idea singingsea ! So helpful to see others' experiences.
How many weeks postpartum are you? 6 days
How has your recovery been physically? So much easier this time around...I'm much less sore, lighter bleeding, and seriously the last time my hemorrhoid was killer but this time I don't think I have one. I'm tired but it doesn't hit me like a ton of bricks like last time.
Mentally? Also, feeling much better then last time. I was just out of control last time with mood swings and anxiety. I am having slight anxiety this time and crying here or there...most of my irritation is directed at my H sadly. But he is great in just letting it roll off his back.
How much sleep have you been getting? It depends each night...I got 5 hours total last night which was great.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? Yes my H is home until tomorrow and then my mom will be here bc she lives in the area as needed. It's so helpful to have someone to help distract / entertain my toddler.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? Breastfeeding, I feel fortunate that it's been relatively easy so far.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? Staying at home
If working what are you doing for childcare?
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? My poor H bears the brunt of my irritation ... and if I recall it was similar with us post partum after my toddler's birth. He is great and really trying hard to help out and take care of things around the house but for some reason I just feel extra irritable towards him.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? Definitely feeling a split between both children when they are both in need. It breaks my heart to have put one of their needs second even just for a moment.
The best? The tremendous love I feel for both my daughters. I never imagined I could feel it a second time and I do. I love watching how smart and funny my toddler has grown to be and I love being reminded of the sweetness of a new baby.
How has your recovery been physically? Awesome, especially compared to last time. Childbirth was SO much easier and everything else has been better since then. I still felt pretty sore but at one week I feel pretty normal. The worst part is pain at my stitches and the chills/sweats I had the first few days.
Mentally? None of the problems of my first birth. I had some hardcore baby blues and I was seriously doubting myself. I am really calm this time, no swings.
How much sleep have you been getting? 5 to 6.5 hours. I have a very sleepy newborn so I wake him every 3 hours to eat overnight. I did it for weeks with DD but I might relax sooner this time because he was at birth weight at 5 days. I really need my supply to regulate a bit first though, I don't want any engorgement or clogged ducts if I can avoid it.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? My husband has really stepped up with our 22 month old, even getting up with her in the morning which he'd never done before. He's home for another week and a half and then my mom comes for a week. We also have friends nearby that can help with playdates.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? breastfeeding solely. Easier than last time, but my breasts are at pornographic levels and I don't own any bras or nursing tops big enough to contain them. I think I need to buy something to help me survive till they return to something more normal.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? I'll return to work in February, but I'm teaching an online class for ten weeks starting October 3. I have been recording lectures when they nap.
If working what are you doing for childcare? I had to find a new day care because our old one closed just as I was going out on leave. They'll both be able to attend.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? It's gotten better because I can count on him to pitch in more now.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? Finding alone time.
The best? Watching them grow up into little people.
Post by singingsea on Sept 28, 2016 15:02:45 GMT -5
How many weeks postpartum are you? 3 weeks tomorrow.
How has your recovery been physically? Rougher than my last pregnancy. I was in quite a bit of pain but now I'm pretty much healed up and the bleeding has stopped for the most part. Just light spotting.
Mentally? I'm doing alright for the most part. I was definitely pretty weepy that first week thanks to hormones. Being a STM the sleep deprivation and other emotions didn't come as a surprise this time.
How much sleep have you been getting? Little dude goes about 2-3 hours in between feedings. I average about 5 to 7 hours of sleep a night.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? I can't say enough about how much H rocks and has stepped up and helps out. Even DS does what he can. My mom lives down the road too so she's my backup.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? Both. Right now I'm experiencing a lot of sharp pain in my left breast. It's like a stabbing sensation and honestly it's awful to nurse right now I should probably see my doc.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? Returning to work November 1st.
If working what are you doing for childcare? R will be going to the same sitter DS1 goes to.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? Honestly it really hasn't changed at all. We're falling into the newborn routine pretty quickly. He's an awesome dad. We just really really need a date night!
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? All the guilt. Being a STM and all the feels in regards to your oldest child. I didn't realize how intense these feelings would be. It took me by surprise and I really struggled for a while but it's getting better.
The best? Watching the boys together. DS1 adores his little brother. Even when he's feeling jealous he just loves him so much.
Post by serendipity731 on Sept 28, 2016 22:37:13 GMT -5
How many weeks postpartum are you? 9 days
How has your recovery been physically? Not bad, definitely better than last time. Bleeding is getting lighter already. I'm still dabbing instead of wiping after going to the bathroom though, but that's because I'm scared. The pp uterine cramps hurt like a bitch. In the hospital they said it's worse for st+m and they were right.
Mentally? Also not bad. I've actually been able to be more patient with DS1's toddler nonsense/tantrums Thani was when I was pregnant.
How much sleep have you been getting? I've been getting a couple 2-3 hr stretches at night and an hr or 2 at the end. Sometimes I get in a nap during the day.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? My husband has been amazing and pretty much handles everything with our toddler. I'm so lucky to have him home for 6 weeks. My mom lives nearby and we plan to take DS1 there about once a week and she'll come over here too. She's great about helping out with dishes, bathrooms and all that stuff. My stepmom has also offered to help in any way she can. I'll probably have her come over to help entertain DS1 after DH goes back to work.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy? Both. I was prepared for a low supply since I had to deal with it last time. When A acted hungry after nursing forever I started supplementing with formula. Sometimes we'll just give him a full bottle and I skip nursing. Not the best for my supply but sometimes I need a break. I plan to see an LC soon to confirm but I told myself that I'm not going to put myself on a grueling nurse/pump schedule again. Last time I had to nurse for 20 min on each side then pump for 10. That would give me about an hour until I had to do it all over again. Sometimes I feel bad/guilty about it.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home? I'm going back to work part time (20hrs/wk) in January after the holidays.
If working what are you doing for childcare? My mom will watch both boys at our house.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed? Not much has changed other than being reminded what an awesome partner I have and how lucky I am to have him. We can bicker or snap at each other once in awhile but we're quick to apologize. We make a good team.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood? At this stage, it's the sleep deprivation. The guilt I have that I'm not able to be there for DS1 since I'm under a baby a lot.
The best? Seeing these tiny humans that we created. I love when DS1 looks up at me and says "Mama" all cute and lovingly and gives me a hug.
Post by beckyrosen on Sept 29, 2016 12:46:13 GMT -5
How many weeks postpartum are you?
5 weeks
How has your recovery been physically?
Very good. It's been a very easy recovery especially compared to my last one 21 months ago.
Mentally?
Ummm, ok?
***Trigger Warning*** Remember how I mentioned back in July that I found a lump on my breast? It turned out to be cancer, which is why Abby was born 2 weeks early so I could start treatment sooner. I just had my 2nd chemo treatment yesterday. So I'm not sure if it's only the cancer stuff that's bringing me down, but I may also have a bit of PPD. Not debilitating, but it's there.
***** end of TW ******
How much sleep have you been getting?
Normal days, 6 ish hours. I get some days with 8 hours (if I get a nap) and last night I got 3 hours.
Do you have others you can rely on for support (husband, parents, friends etc)? DH some, he can be an ass when he's tired and the baby doesn't want to sleep. He gets baby duty till 12, and I take over after. But I took over at 1030 because he kept f-bombing when Abby pooped... he apologized already, but it super sucked last night.
My parents have been awesome, my mom has helped with either rides to/from drs appts or watching the girls when I need to go somewhere.
Are you breast feeding or formula feeding and what challenges have you encountered or has it been relatively easy?
Formula feeding because of what's up in the TW. So, not my choice to FF, but it's the best option for her. I just hate mixing it and making sure I have bottles, formula, and water with me. So much easier to whip out a boob.
Are you planning to return to work or staying home?
I'm home! I was already a SAHM, and right now it's important for me to be home. I can't imagine going back to work.
If working what are you doing for childcare?
When I need some it's normally my parents. Next month they will be out of town, so I am reaching out to some friends for help.
How has your relationship with your significant other changed?
We didn't have much time for eachother before, but we have even less now.
What's been the hardest part of parenthood?
Lack of sleep, nap times, getting baby on a schedule, managing jealousy between older child and baby.
The best?
The cuteness, the smiles, the hugs and kisses and I love you's from the older children, just looking at her face and being in love.
Post by LadyNymeria on Sept 29, 2016 12:56:49 GMT -5
beckyrosen I'm so sorry to hear that! You will be in my thoughts. I hope your treatment is going well and your doing ok considering what you're going through.
beckyrosen I'm so sorry to hear that! You will be in my thoughts. I hope your treatment is going well and your doing ok considering what you're going through.
Thabk you, I do feel I'm doing ok, considering. It's tough, but I do have a good support group and a good team of doctors. It could always be worse.
Post by hurricanerek on Sept 30, 2016 3:17:42 GMT -5
beckyrosen I'll be praying for you! I'm so sorry that you have this added weight to carry on top of caring for a newborn. Hopefully your treatment isn't dehabilitating.
Post by jennybeans on Sept 30, 2016 14:56:32 GMT -5
beckyrosen, I am so sorry to hear that. You have a lot going on between treatment and caring for a newborn. I am glad to hear you have a lot of support around you and send lots of good wishes your way.
beckyrosen you are in my thoughts. I'm glad you have a good support system and treatment available is So amazing these days! Hang in there.
theophania it wasn't diagnosed as PPD but my husband was treated for anxiety/depression a few months after DD1 was born. He does counseling and meds. It's amazing seeing the difference in him this time around with DD2. If you have any questions about it let me know! Hang in there, I know it's hard to watch and not be able to 'help'.
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