Post by youdontsay on Oct 25, 2016 22:20:29 GMT -5
bocaburger I'm doing horrible emotionally. I feel like a huge failure. I'm going from being a homeowner to living back with my parents (temporarily). I'm stressed and I'm anxious. I hardly see MH due to his work schedule and since my one friend found out I was moving, she's over every fucking day and doesn't help out. She just texts her boyfriend and I'm like running around like crazy.
I just want this to work out, whenever I get upset or anxious, I remember that I'm doing this for DD and so that she can have the life I did plus so much more. Connecticut is too expensive and MH was interviewing for jobs that started off half of what he is making now so we would've been screwed if we stayed up here.
I'm just crossing everything that one of these interviews that I have on Friday and Monday gets me a job.
ETA: thank you for asking, I obviously needed to get all of this off my chest!
Post by bocaburger on Oct 25, 2016 22:32:35 GMT -5
I'm sorry youdontsay, I can't imagine how stressful it must be to go through so many major life changes at once and coordinate a cross-country move with a newborn. You should be proud of yourself for making the best decisions for your daughter no matter how tough.
Post by dorkusmalorkus on Oct 25, 2016 23:03:34 GMT -5
Hugs, hannahbear! I'm so sorry that the pumping caused so much anxiety for you! It is certainly prone to doing that. I've not pumped a lot because of what you described; it can easily take over. Anyhow, I'm glad you're getting some good help with therapy + meds! As far as supplementing, we've always just done the Costco brand, but have babies who aren't prone to reflux or allergies or anything.
youdontsay Oof! I think I'd missed out on some of your upcoming transitions. That's a lot to deal with! Fingers crossed for your actual move & for your interviews!! It sounds like you're making a smart decision that'll be good for your family once you get settled.
Well G broke her STTN streak but they were each only up once so I really can't complain.
Random question: I've noticed that when I hold G in a standing position, she straightens her legs and tries to support herself. When I hold M that way, he doesn't try to support himself at all. He does kick really well when he's on his back and pushes off with his legs during tummy time, so I'm guessing this is normal behavior and maybe G is a bit advanced. I just want to make sure there's nothing wrong. Paging our resident expert in developmental milestones remylove1011
Well G broke her STTN streak but they were each only up once so I really can't complain.
Random question: I've noticed that when I hold G in a standing position, she straightens her legs and tries to support herself. When I hold M that way, he doesn't try to support himself at all. He does kick really well when he's on his back and pushes off with his legs during tummy time, so I'm guessing this is normal behavior and maybe G is a bit advanced. I just want to make sure there's nothing wrong. Paging our resident expert in developmental milestones remylove1011
Baby girl has more stength in her legs and also will do that but hates tummy time and doesn't hold her head as well as baby boy. So one is better at one way and the other the other way. I just assumed it was where their strength is and the other will get there!
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Post by remylove1011 on Oct 26, 2016 7:42:00 GMT -5
bocaburger we typically look for a baby to bear some weight in their legs at 3 months. Now there is always a range of what is normal so some do it earlier and some a bit later. It's just something to watch. It's going to be really hard not to constantly compare them!
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
Toddler slept in until 7:45! And I've given up so baby and I were already on the couch snuggling since 4. So much more sleep that way. Nice slow morning here, but it might snow! I'm not ready for cooped up inside weather.
Oh hannahbear - I feel you! It was situations like you describe that forced me to stop pumping. Baby's crying, can't pick her up, anxiety over how long it had been, anger that I never got enough, trying to plan pumping around everything else, etc. One day I looked at the pump and thought "I'd rather hang out with my baby."
::hugs:: Be gentle with yourself and good luck with the doctors! It's so good that you know and are getting the care you need.
Post by pbandjelly on Oct 26, 2016 10:18:06 GMT -5
I have these 3 for anyone who wants them. They are unused/unopened samples I was given. DS is on Neosure, so I don't need them. I will gladly mail them for free.
Post by coffeequeen14 on Oct 26, 2016 10:49:16 GMT -5
DD fell off her growth curve in a big way:( she went from 95th percentile to 28th. She is ebf but now gets bottles during the work day. I'm so stressed now.
DD fell off her growth curve in a big way:( she went from 95th percentile to 28th. She is ebf but now gets bottles during the work day. I'm so stressed now.
Was the doctor concerned about it? Did they suggest any changes?
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
DD fell off her growth curve in a big way:( she went from 95th percentile to 28th. She is ebf but now gets bottles during the work day. I'm so stressed now.
Ugh, so sorry! Where are your older two kids on the curve? Is she in line with them?
Post by gratefulgirl on Oct 26, 2016 11:15:54 GMT -5
I need this kid to be able to sleep in her muslin sleep sacks. I am so tired of panicking over swaddles on the face (with all 3 kids) and Zipadee Zips. I solved the problem of her Zippy coming up on its own and now she is rubbing the fleece sleeve over her mouth and nose as a soothing mechanism. I need her to be old enough to grab a muslin swaddle and do that. Or Zipadee Zips to come in muslin.
DD fell off her growth curve in a big way:( she went from 95th percentile to 28th. She is ebf but now gets bottles during the work day. I'm so stressed now.
How long ago was she at 95th? Is it possible that she was just born big but evened out? How often is she eating?
This seems silly compared to what some people on the board are going through, but I survived a visit with my dad this morning. It always makes me anxious to see him, and I'm glad it went ok. He does like the girls though, so that's good at least.
DD fell off her growth curve in a big way:( she went from 95th percentile to 28th. She is ebf but now gets bottles during the work day. I'm so stressed now.
Was the same scale used for all the measurements? Digital scale or the old school kind? The MA at R's 2 month well check measured him as SEVEN oz under what he was measured three days before (manual vs digital scale) and I was so paranoid. Then he was put on a digital scale again several days later and it showed that the measurement at the well check was very off.
Post by shehulk723 on Oct 26, 2016 12:21:37 GMT -5
youdontsay I love Tennessee! There's some beautiful scenery. We used to take our travel trailer up there to go camping a lot in the winter. And there's some fun touristy things to do and we did some skiing as well.
hannahbear hugs! I'm so sorry you're going through all that and I'm sorry for your loss.
S1 told me he loves my squishy belly and said he will now call me squishy. "I love you squishy!" ::sob in the corner::
We pinch DD1's cheeks and belly and will say chubby, so now she does that to us. She'll lift up my shirt, grab my belly and say, "mommy's chubby!" :eek:
She was at 95 from birth through a month. She had been eating great, or so I thought. She nurses well when I'm with her and drinks from a bottle well with nanny.
She eats around 630, 8, 10, 1, 3, 5, 7, 9 but twice has dropped the 630 feed.
She sleeps next to me so I know she isn't waking up hungry in the night and somehow falling back asleep.
The doctor suggested since I'm an over producer to pump a bit before I feed her at 8 so she gets more hind milk. Both boys started at 25% but at 2 months were 50th. I remembered the 25% so wasn't too concerned about DD until I got home and realized not only were they 50th at two months but trending in the better direction.
The scale was the same one used before but the doctor weighed her herself vide the nurse. The scale was zeroed.
She had just finished a feed when we got there.
The doctor was pretty concerned but less concerned when I told her (mistakenly) the boys were at 25th at this point. We are supposed to go back in 2 Weeks for a weight check.
Someone tell me my boobs aren't broken and I'm not starving my baby.
Post by remylove1011 on Oct 26, 2016 13:47:35 GMT -5
coffeequeen14 first off ((Hugs)). You are not starving your baby. It sounds like she's eating regularly and good amounts. Did she grow a lot in length since her last appt? DD didn't gain much at this visit and went from 75th to 51st percentile. Doctor said it was ok because she'd grown an inch. Maybe that's the case for your little one? Not sure, just throwing it out there.
Me (30) MH (32) Dx: MFI (low all the things) M. 10/11. TTC Since 01/14 IUI#1-3(Letrozole + Trigger) = BFN Second Opinion. Changed RE's. IVF 09/15 Long Lupron 12R/9M/8F, Transferred 1=BFN. 4 frosties. FET #1 12/15 Transferred 1 (3 still on ice)
coffeequeen14 I know how easy it is to get caught up in the percentiles, weights, heights, but please don't stress out much! You are doing a great job and everything you said suggests that you are feeding her well and paying attention to her needs.
Post by spicysalmonroll on Oct 26, 2016 16:39:44 GMT -5
youdontsay wow good luck!!! We've been contemplating a move as well since new England is so expensive. I keep listing all the pros of staying here like education and culture but H is wanting more and more each day to leave. Hope you land a job!!
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