marshmallow no secret tips unfortunately. He just started napping longer within the last few weeks. He used to wake after 45 minutes every time. The only thing I can think of is our white noise machine shuts off after 40 mins so I've been sneaking in and resetting it before it shuts off.
ellesea, birkmmm, how do you get your LO's to take such long naps? Any secret tips? Mine wakes up after 40ish minutes. She naps in her crib with blackout curtains, white noise, and pacifier. My 3 year old did this too until he magically started napping longer around maybe 18 months.
I think he's just a good napper ... I can take no credit cause I don't do anything special lol
So we did pretty good wake up wise with daylight savings. We went to bed normal time (7pm) and woke up at the new 5:45. Not bad since 5:45 is a normal wake up time for us. It's currently 6:30 here and me and the kids are up while H sleeps
We are up. DS sort of slept in. It's sort of hard to determine his "sleeping in" definition because I feel like his wakeup time varies so much. Sometimes we are up at 6 and sometimes he sleeps until 9 or 9:30.
Well it could be worse. Both kids went down about a half hour late. Not that we planned it that way, but by the time we got home from errands and got dinner that's how it happened. Cam woke up at the new 5:30 and nursed and went back to bed. Both boys woke up around 6:30, which worked out since we have to be up by 7 at the very latest for church.
Daylights savings kicked us. DD was up 3 times (worst night of the week) and up for the day at 5. Of course, I didn't go to bed until 1 because DH and I are working on our home so I am tired today!
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Apparently I was worried about DST for nothing. I completely forgot about it! Last night started out with three wake ups in as many hours. And I guess that wore DS out cause he slept in til the "new normal time". Which means he slept an hour longer then usual. I didn't even realize any of this until DH got up and was talking about the time change....Haha! Hopefully we'll just be on track now!
I know it's most likely a coincidence since DS isn't getting that much in the way of solids but since starting solids he has slept 6 hour chunks both nights which he hasn't done in ages and certainly not two nights in a row.
The first night of DST was awesome here. 8 hours before first wake up. This morning was way too early though. It's 7am and we're already at first nap... we were up for the day at 5. I wish she'd nap longer than 45 minutes. I need all the coffee after this pump.
DD is still regressing with night time sleep. She was consistently waking up 4/5ish, then STTN, and now she's waking up twice a night. We are not going backwards. I was not happy to see 1am this morning. I'm going to start night weaning but I'm not sure how to do it with multiple feedings. Do I focus on the first wake up first or do I tackle them both at the same time?
I believe you do the first wake up and then move onto the next when that was is gone. I could be wrong as I am going strictly off memory of what I've read. DD1 only had one wake up at 7 months when we did night weaning. DD2 will be totally different - she's never STTN and still has at 2 wake ups usually. At least this time around I am conditioned to the wake ups so I doubt I'll be night weaning any time soon
We're kind of a sleep disaster over here 😁 LO sttn almost every day from 6 weeks until 4ish months. Since then she hasn't a single time and is usually up multiple times a night. We haven't really CIO yet but we had her 6 months appt today and pedi is on board. I guess we'll see how it goes...
A has decided that she is a belly sleeper now. I know it's ok but it makes me nervous. At least she turns her head to the side - J used to sleep with his face pressed firmly into the mattress.
Gah. I am at a loss. All of a sudden DS is SOOOO hard to get back down when he wakes motn. And by "motn", I mean within an hour or two of going to bed. He's never been like this. We've tried letting him cry, but that just escalates and honestly makes me feel like I'm about to lose my mind. I've been trying for over an hour now to get him back down. He wakes crying within a couple of minutes if not as soon as I put him in his crib. I'm getting so, so, soooo frustrated. Sometimes he even starts crying louder when we go to him! I know he is capable of self soothing. I feel like he just wants to be held. I don't want to create a hold-me monster by picking him up, but I cannot stand to listen to him cry any more. Is this some sort of phase?? Is he getting smart enough to know that if he cries long enough that we'll come, and if he continues crying then we'll pick him up?? Am I in a horrible game of chicken with a five month old?!?! Is this maybe some sort of teething behavior that is disrupting his sleep and making him so needy and clingy at night?
MH is up there rocking him and he was just having bursts of scream crying. I think he's partially pissed H is not me... Once I pick him up and hold him/rock him he just cuddles in and passes out all sweetly.
I kinda just needed to vent, but suggestions and advice are welcome.
tbirdlove I'm sorry you're having a tough time. My views on sleep and responding to children's needs seem to be in the minority on this board, and that's fine, but regardless of your approach to sleep, our babies will surely be psychologically incapable of manipulation for quite some time.
My camp says: your child has no idea they are in a safe crib in a safe home in a safe place with parents a few steps away. Their instincts (and babies only exist on instinct at first) tell them they need to be with Mom to be safe. How else can your baby sleep and know you are there but to be in physical contact with you as they sleep? Obviously you need to sleep, so if sleep training is in the cards for you I have zero judgment. In order to develop feelings of safety and security/secure attachments, attachment parenting is the way to go. Not saying AP solves every sleep problem, just may address the issues in your case. We are all also about to enter the world of object permanence so I can predict we will all have a lot harder time walking away from our babes in the near future and this may last to 18+ months until they're psychologically capable of understanding we are simply in the other room!!
Thanks for the support snoris. I think it's just extra frustrating because he's never done this before! I need to find a method somewhere between AP and CIO - I don't think either extreme is for us. I busted out my Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby book last night to troubleshoot, haha! I'm going to try the "easy fix" of an earlier bedtime tonight and see what that does. I think I'll also reread the section about different response/soothing methods. We did a modified Ferber method before when transitioning to the crib - responding initially after only 3 minutes and at that point just putting our hand on his chest to help calm him. It actually worked really well and I rarely had to go in there more than once or twice. But that is sooo not working now!! The hand on chest is like a joke to him - haha!! I feel like a big part of the mystery is what is suddenly causing him to even wake at these times in the first place, ya know? Trial and error, baby... That's the name of this game!!!
tbirdlove my motto with all things child rearing and sleep related is "this too shall pass". They go through so many phases and in general they do not last long. My ds1 started waking at 5am last week for no reason. The only thing I can think of is he's hearing lo wake to eat. That lasted about a week and now he is up sometime between 6-7 which is still early for him, but he's woken up by his brother and isn't tired enough to go back to sleep. There isn't much I can do about it until lo stops waking up at 5/6 to eat. Do what you're comfortable doing to help him go back to sleep. I too find that lo will escalate when I go to him when he's crying, of course if he's purple crying I do what I can to soothe him. But it's rare for him to cry like that so there is almost always a reason(wet, poopy, hungry, not tired). Have you recently gotten rid of a nap? It sounds like he's thinking bedtime is actually just a nap.
ellesea - his third nap has always been hit or miss. Sometimes he'd have that third one, but lately he's just having two naps. I have noticed he's been odd with his midday nap. Like he acts tired at the usual 2-2.5 hour mark, but when I go to get him down for a nap he just wants to lay in my arms looking around, play with his pacifier and kick his feet. Who knows! Yesterday his naps were pretty good, so I was hoping for a better night. We'll see what happens today/tonight.
tbirdlove we dealt with this for a couple weeks and then it passed. I think it was just a crappy phase. I always give DD 10 mins and intervene if she hasn't calmed down. I'm sorry! I hope it passes for you!
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Post by mrsw062610 on Nov 10, 2016 13:19:36 GMT -5
Ugh DS is sooo inconsistent with sleep right now. He usually makes it until at least 3am. Usually closer to 4am.
We have started putting him down earlier. With the time change he was ready (he was ready before that but easier for us to wait til later to put him down bc of DD), so we went with it. His bedtime now is 7:30pm. Problem is he is only ready for half of his bottle at 7:30. Then wakes up 30 min later to finish his bottle. I'm sure he will get used to it. Long week though.
Ugh DS is sooo inconsistent with sleep right now. He usually makes it until at least 3am. Usually closer to 4am.
We have started putting him down earlier. With the time change he was ready (he was ready before that but easier for us to wait til later to put him down bc of DD), so we went with it. His bedtime now is 7:30pm. Problem is he is only ready for half of his bottle at 7:30. Then wakes up 30 min later to finish his bottle. I'm sure he will get used to it. Long week though.
I suck at scheduling bottles around bedtime. Sometimes he eats at 6 but doesn't go to bed until 7:30. This schedule thing is hard.
Post by bexincanada on Nov 11, 2016 10:37:50 GMT -5
Is woke up at 4:45 this morning because of time change but after some snuggles, diaper change, and bottle we slept from 6 to 8. I almost cried when I saw 8am. I was expecting a 45 minute nap.
Poor ds is having some gas issues tonight. It hasn't been a horrible night but definitely worse than the last week of great nights. I feel bad that he is so uncomfortable.
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