Alright I swear this will be my last bitch about this.
VP called me today. Wanted to know how pumping is going, do I have a freezer stash? How much do I get? How long now does it take? Etc. And then basically tried to guilt trip me by saying "I guess I could redo the schedule if you like but it will mean affecting many people's work day"
Yes. Jesus. Maybe if you had just accommodated me the first time you wouldn't have to be screwing with everyone's day.
Alright I swear this will be my last bitch about this.
VP called me today. Wanted to know how pumping is going, do I have a freezer stash? How much do I get? How long now does it take? Etc. And then basically tried to guilt trip me by saying "I guess I could redo the schedule if you like but it will mean affecting many people's work day"
Yes. Jesus. Maybe if you had just accommodated me the first time you wouldn't have to be screwing with everyone's day.
How's your Friday? Lol
This is basically the guilt trip I got from my admin as well. So sorry this is such a hassle.
Friday is going okay so far. B woke up early because he hates to sleep. I have DS1's parade at 11 and then coming home to lay on the couch.
Bitch away Ray. That whole situation is ridiculous. You've given them ample time and many requests to adjust the schedule and they ignored you. Not your fault that they now have to do it at the 11th hour. And how many ounces, do you have a stash, etc.? None of their business!
Bitch away Ray. That whole situation is ridiculous. You've given them ample time and many requests to adjust the schedule and they ignored you. Not your fault that they now have to do it at the 11th hour. And how many ounces, do you have a stash, etc.? None of their business!
She also told me it was my choice to return to work early. And that she was concerned about me being able to "mentally,physically, emotionally handle the demands of being a new mom and working full time"
I wonder if they show the same concern for working dads?
DH is basically telling me not to rock the boat, it's a new job etc but I feel like this is exactly how women et bullied into FF. Not that there's anything. Wrong with it - just not my first choice currently.
Ray what the actually hell with that. If she said this to you in conversation please make sure you write it down and date it. That is totally out of line.
Does she want to pay your mortgage, or your grocery bill? Fuck that.
She also told me it was my choice to return to work early. And that she was concerned about me being able to "mentally,physically, emotionally handle the demands of being a new mom and working full time"
I wonder if they show the same concern for working dads?
DH is basically telling me not to rock the boat, it's a new job etc but I feel like this is exactly how women et bullied into FF. Not that there's anything. Wrong with it - just not my first choice currently.
Ray what the actually hell with that. If she said this to you in conversation please make sure you write it down and date it. That is totally out of line.
Does she want to pay your mortgage, or your grocery bill? Fuck that.
Will do - I emailed our union head re: our conversation.
I realize if I had a double pump it would cut pumping time in half and this would probably be way less of an issue but double pumps are $$$$ and all I have is a single.
Post by sarcaztic10 on Oct 28, 2016 9:32:53 GMT -5
Ray, that whole situation is ridiculous. Its none of their business to know how much BM you are able to pump!
melody330, H and I have had sex once... and since I was on pelvic rest after my accident that would make 1 time in 7 months. we may try tonight but it is so hard to find the time with 2 kids!
I am at work. I just live for the weekends these days. I dont want to work but the bills need paid.
Ray if your VP had done the job she was suppose to in the first place she wouldn't be changing it so late. She could have done it while making all the other changes....
She also told me it was my choice to return to work early. And that she was concerned about me being able to "mentally,physically, emotionally handle the demands of being a new mom and working full time"
I wonder if they show the same concern for working dads?
DH is basically telling me not to rock the boat, it's a new job etc but I feel like this is exactly how women et bullied into FF. Not that there's anything. Wrong with it - just not my first choice currently.
There is so much wrong with how you're being treated! I'm sorry. The fake concern is gross. They shouldn't be able to bully you into FF or staying out of work longer. Besides, the overwhelming majority of working moms in the US go back to work by 12 weeks. Not ideal (I did it with kid 1) but no one makes us feel like we can't handle it.
DH and I have had sex once since W has been born. Before that it was when W was conceived. LOL I would make more of an effort but I now shower every other night. I use to shower every morning. I also do all the wake ups at night.
Being an introvert, I haven't really been able to recharge. I'm pretty much catering to everyones needs but my own. The baby and animals need attention. DH needs a break after work. In laws are needy with wanting to see W once a week. Now we are getting into the holidays. Ugh this rant could go on and on. It boils down to I need to talk to DH. Telling him what a real break means.
She also told me it was my choice to return to work early. And that she was concerned about me being able to "mentally,physically, emotionally handle the demands of being a new mom and working full time"
I wonder if they show the same concern for working dads?
DH is basically telling me not to rock the boat, it's a new job etc but I feel like this is exactly how women et bullied into FF. Not that there's anything. Wrong with it - just not my first choice currently.
There is so much wrong with how you're being treated! I'm sorry. The fake concern is gross. They shouldn't be able to bully you into FF or staying out of work longer. Besides, the overwhelming majority of working moms in the US go back to work by 12 weeks. Not ideal (I did it with kid 1) but no one makes us feel like we can't handle it.
Thanks, Im very much feeling like if I wanted to breast feed I should have stayed off the full year, or I'm making life more difficult for my colleagues by breast feeding, or if I wanted to return to work I should be FF. Like I'll be "that teacher" and be at a disadvantage for transfers,promotions, etc in the future. It sucks. She kept saying "we want to support you....."
Any way whatever. Hopefully they figure it out.
I'm also giving up my prep periods and lunches to pump which technically I shouldn't/can't be forced to do but I guess that's my choice as well.
I am very much looking forward to him starting solids lol
DH and I have had sex once since W has been born. Before that it was when W was conceived. LOL I would make more of an effort but I now shower every other night. I use to shower every morning. I also do all the wake ups at night.
Being an introvert, I haven't really been able to recharge. I'm pretty much catering to everyones needs but my own. The baby and animals need attention. DH needs a break after work. In laws are needy with wanting to see W once a week. Now we are getting into the holidays. Ugh this rant could go on and on. It boils down to I need to talk to DH. Telling him what a real break means.
I hope the talk with YH goes well! We have had sex a few times but it's been for H's benefit. I have zero desire for all the reasons you e listed.
She also told me it was my choice to return to work early. And that she was concerned about me being able to "mentally,physically, emotionally handle the demands of being a new mom and working full time"
I wonder if they show the same concern for working dads?
DH is basically telling me not to rock the boat, it's a new job etc but I feel like this is exactly how women et bullied into FF. Not that there's anything. Wrong with it - just not my first choice currently.
There is so much wrong with how you're being treated! I'm sorry. The fake concern is gross. They shouldn't be able to bully you into FF or staying out of work longer. Besides, the overwhelming majority of working moms in the US go back to work by 12 weeks. Not ideal (I did it with kid 1) but no one makes us feel like we can't handle it.
If anything it's the opposite. In the US you are expected to be able to jump back into work with no problems.
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Does anyone who bottle feeds have a baby that is fighting to hold their own bottle now? He doesn't have the ability to hold it 100% on his own so he often gets pissed while eating lol.
Does anyone who bottle feeds have a baby that is fighting to hold their own bottle now? He doesn't have the ability to hold it 100% on his own so he often gets pissed while eating lol.
Yes! I'm feeding L right now and he's "holding" it. I can't wait until he can actually hold it himself!
Post by littlesthobo on Oct 28, 2016 12:25:38 GMT -5
Heaven forbid I eat something different than DS1. I made us both ham sandwiches and put mayo on his and mustard on mine. Cue tantrum about not getting mustard, even though he doesn't like it! Little does he know about the chip stash on top of the fridge... hee hee
Does anyone who bottle feeds have a baby that is fighting to hold their own bottle now? He doesn't have the ability to hold it 100% on his own so he often gets pissed while eating lol.
W keeps trying to pry my fingers or push them off the bottle! Sometimes he can hold it but not very long. Also he now pulls the bottle out of his mouth.
That's BS Ray. Definitely go through your union from now on. And if anything you are making it easier on your colleagues for the future when they are dealing with this issue. Stay strong. If you want to BF they shouldn't stop you.
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Married my rock - 04/29/2011 BFP - 06/04/2011; Super T born @ 37 weeks - 01/13/2012 Super T earned his angel wings after losing his battle with Stage IV high risk Neuroblastoma - 01/03/2014
BFP # 2 - Chemical Pregnancy confirmed 05/29/15 Diagnosed with PCOS After 1 cycle of Clomid and 2 cycles of Femara - BFP #3 - 11/10/2015 Sweet Baby Girl born 07/08/16
I also need to get this off my chest, so I'll throw a confession here.
H and I still haven't had sex. And I give zero fucks about it. I guess that's two confessions?
I feel terrible about my body, I'm beyond exhausted, and totally touched out by the end of the day.
So there's that.
Dh and I haven't since dd was conceived. I told him I'm ready, but he's in charge of the condoms. If he's not willing to go buy some, then I'm closed for business. ( guess who will end up buying.) He's getting the big V in January.
I also need to get this off my chest, so I'll throw a confession here.
H and I still haven't had sex. And I give zero fucks about it. I guess that's two confessions?
I feel terrible about my body, I'm beyond exhausted, and totally touched out by the end of the day.
So there's that.
Dh and I haven't since dd was conceived. I told him I'm ready, but he's in charge of the condoms. If he's not willing to go buy some, then I'm closed for business. ( guess who will end up buying.) He's getting the big V in January.
DH *will not* have a V for some reason. He asks why I don't just get my tubes tied (I feel like since I had the C-section I've contributed my fair of surgery to our family planning already lol) so I'm back on birth control and my face is breaking out like I'm in high school lol yay
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