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Oct 31, 2016 5:51:09 GMT -5 rachaeleigh said:

I've been thinking a lot about weaning and really don't know what we're supposed to do.
I'm looking forward to cutrying out pumping but plan to still nurse morning and night for awhile. I guess what I'm more curious about it cutting out the bottle.
We still mostly nurse/give a bottle before a nap, although she's gone down without one.
Do we just stop offering BM or milk for naps or do we try a sippy during that time?
Am I even making sense? Need more coffee

When I weaned from nursing for naps and bedtime I started offering first thing after naps and didn't offer a sippy as a replacement. If you can get them weaned from it without offering anything for a replacement it will be easier in the long run (think potty training and eventually night training). If you offer a replacement, you will have another transition when you decide to stop offering it.

[fuzzylogic]

Hello!

Has anyone noticed that in the process of nursing less, your hormones are going nuts? Like yesterday I was seriously worried about myself and I'm a little concerned that it's PPD, but I hate the idea of going on AD's (been on them before, gained a boatload of weight and going off of them was a NIGHTMARE) and my health insurance is pretty light on mental health care and therapy so...I'm just kind of aware of the situation? Trying to not get too stressed?

I haven't had the breakouts, at least. Just the sads. Lots and lots of sads.

If I'm home with her I'm still nursing every 2-3 hrs but she doesn't drink very long usually. We nurse when she wakes up in the morning, when we get home from DC (her longest sessions by far), then before bed and once or twice overnight. She drinks between 5-7oz at DC, but sometimes it's less. She loves her milk...

They told us we could send WCM and they would start giving her that. I plan to ease into it, not just full-on dairy, though.

[yummeecookee]

I haven't had too many emotional ups and downs fuzzylogic. I would just say a little bit of the "blues" that come along with watching your baby boy turn one-year-old!
These hormones act out in all sorts of different ways though so I'm sure what you're going through is not uncommon.

[schmella]

fuzzylogic, I've read that for some women, the hormonal crash after weaning can be terrible and trigger PPD/PPA.

I weaned from the pump at 6m and I was an emotional wreck for a few weeks but it eased up

[sunfrogger88]

Nov 1, 2016 7:27:50 GMT -5 schmella said:

fuzzylogic, I've read that for some women, the hormonal crash after weaning can be terrible and trigger PPD/PPA.

I weaned from the pump at 6m and I was an emotional wreck for a few weeks but it eased up

I was wondering about this too. I felt like I had the sads/more anxiety around when she started nursing less. Man, these hormones.

[littleowl913]

Oct 31, 2016 15:33:17 GMT -5 samelly said:

On the weaning topic, I gained like 15 pounds overnight when I stopped nursing my daughter. So can I just nurse my son forever? I mean I breastfeed for him but it is a bonus that I eat all day long and I'm thinner than I've ever been.

I wish that was an option.  I'm 8 pounds down my pre-baby weight without having to do anything but BF. I literally wouldn't know when I could exercise. I had a little meltdown at my cardiologist appt when I told her I'm struggling to find balance in my life and she said oh yes same here so I wake up at 5 am to exercise -- i don't sleep. Uhh that's not good advice. 

[sunfrogger88]

Nov 1, 2016 8:24:09 GMT -5 littleowl913 said:

Oct 31, 2016 15:33:17 GMT -5 samelly said:

On the weaning topic, I gained like 15 pounds overnight when I stopped nursing my daughter. So can I just nurse my son forever? I mean I breastfeed for him but it is a bonus that I eat all day long and I'm thinner than I've ever been.

I wish that was an option.  I'm 8 pounds down my pre-baby weight without having to do anything but BF. I literally wouldn't know when I could exercise. I had a little meltdown at my cardiologist appt when I told her I'm struggling to find balance in my life and she said oh yes same here so I wake up at 5 am to exercise -- i don't sleep. Uhh that's not good advice. 

I think I'm also down from my pp weight. So I hear you here!! Hopefully we just keep that weight off

[samelly]

I'm bringing my little guy to daycare first the first time today. I'm going back to work on the 14th but I had to pay for the whole month so I'm going to send the kids a couple hours a day this week and maybe for half days next week. It will help them get used to it and also give me the opportunity to get a fee things done.

My little baby had never been away from me much and I think he is going to never nap at daycare.

[kensie5226]

I'm on the other end of the spectrum. BFing made me so hungry and I gained weight. Also, now that I'm not taking time away to pump at work I can use my lunches to go to the gym we have in the building. As my supply drops I finally feel like my appetite has decreased from ravenous to the point where I'm able to make some real changes.

[winogirl]

Oct 31, 2016 15:33:17 GMT -5 samelly said:

On the weaning topic, I gained like 15 pounds overnight when I stopped nursing my daughter. So can I just nurse my son forever? I mean I breastfeed for him but it is a bonus that I eat all day long and I'm thinner than I've ever been.

this is my worry - i'm already starting to gain some weight. but i'm hungry ALL THE TIME

[winogirl]

Nov 1, 2016 9:26:58 GMT -5 samelly said:

I'm bringing my little guy to daycare first the first time today. I'm going back to work on the 14th but I had to pay for the whole month so I'm going to send the kids a couple hours a day this week and maybe for half days next week. It will help them get used to it and also give me the opportunity to get a fee things done.

My little baby had never been away from me much and I think he is going to never nap at daycare.

i'm here too! We are turning in our paperwork this afternoon and F will start next week. I have no idea how he will nap with all the rest of the kids there....

[ldubhawksfan]

Nov 1, 2016 7:27:50 GMT -5 schmella said:

fuzzylogic, I've read that for some women, the hormonal crash after weaning can be terrible and trigger PPD/PPA.

I weaned from the pump at 6m and I was an emotional wreck for a few weeks but it eased up

I clearly haven't weaned, but last week when she dropped a bottle, which has impact my pumping schedule, I was super emotional. fuzzylogic, I hope it improves.

[fuzzylogic]

Thanks, ladies. I would go into more detail but I'm at work and there are students in the room (not mine) and I don't cry at work.

[yummeecookee]

I hope your kiddos like DC samelly and winogirl! Please keep us updated. I'm sure it'll be fun for them to play and do activities all day, as well as socialize w other babies.

[flyliceandcoffee]

i'm not sure i can help, but since K is one of the older kiddos in the bunch, here's what we're doing for weaning to whole milk. He nurses before bed and when he gets up in the morning and that's it. We're replacing out his bottles with a weighted straw cup one by one so when he used to get a bottle he now gets a cup instead, and that cup is given to him at meal/snack times. So at daycare he gets 3 bottles and 2 cups. His bottles are "smaller" than they were previously (3oz in each rather than the normal 5 that he used to get) and we put more in the straw cup. This way, he's slowly weaning off both the bottle and the constant filling of his little belly all day long to more liquid with his meals. We're currently mixing his bottles/cups with half formula half milk until we run out of formula in which case it's all milk all the way (which will probably be sometime this week).

as for naps at daycare...not gonna lie, the first few weeks might suck, but they'll adapt!

[sunfrogger88]

Nov 1, 2016 11:26:11 GMT -5 fuzzylogic said:

Thanks, ladies. I would go into more detail but I'm at work and there are students in the room (not mine) and I don't cry at work.

Hugs, momma. And I hope you feel better!!!

[sunfrogger88]

TTMA bottle weaning. As long as I'm pumping and she'll take it, I plan to keep giving her BM. How do I get her to stop taking it from the bottle? What are you using for milk? Just normal water/juice cups?

[younglove316]

Nov 1, 2016 21:14:05 GMT -5 sunfrogger88 said:

TTMA bottle weaning. As long as I'm pumping and she'll take it, I plan to keep giving her BM. How do I get her to stop taking it from the bottle? What are you using for milk? Just normal water/juice cups?

No help with the weaning because we FF but I put the WCM in a regular sippy cup for her with her meals.

[colinsfebmommy]

Nov 1, 2016 21:14:05 GMT -5 sunfrogger88 said:

TTMA bottle weaning. As long as I'm pumping and she'll take it, I plan to keep giving her BM. How do I get her to stop taking it from the bottle? What are you using for milk? Just normal water/juice cups?

We put milk in a regular sippy cup but still have a bottle in morning and at night. I am hoping to dump those soon. My daughter doesn't love milk though so pretty soon we have to change up bedtime routine. My 1st kid refused and still refuses milk so I am not surprised by this. Damn high maintenance kids lol 

[littleowl913]

WTF!?! I live in an apartment complex and behind our apartment we have a little garden that we plant veggies in. Couple of weeks ago DH cleaned it up and stacked the sticks and tomato wire cages up against the fence as he and my neighbors do every year. Well DH just got home and the sticks are all over the ground and the tomato thingies are gone! Who steals those things!?!

[sunfrogger88]

littleowl913 that's absurd!!!

[sunfrogger88]

I'm battling a migraine. So I'm pumping in a dark, cool office. Just 45 min until I can go get my baby and go home....

[littleredfish]

I'm still alive! We're on our way to the new house. Currently in hotel #5. Going pretty well. Everybody is traveling way better than I expected (kids and pets) but of course it's tiring. DH snapped at me about laundry today. I'll be happy not to do another family road trip for a long time. Still 5 more stops to go!

[fuzzylogic]

Okay, so here is what's going on with me:

I find myself exhibiting behaviors that remind me of when I battled depression before, especially not taking care of myself, not taking the time to be there for myself. When Evelyn won't sleep and H can't get her to calm down, I'll go in and take care of it. He'll tell me I need to sleep and I tell him "it doesn't matter." Of course it matters if I sleep. I'm a human, it's a requirement.

I don't feel complete if she's not with me. So I spend the entire day physically aching to hold her, to be in some sort of physical contact with her. I recognize that this is probably not healthy.

Feelings of anger/frustration/sadness are always bubbling under the surface. Part of this is how I feel about my administration at the school and the issues I've had with their leadership. Part of it is adjusting to a new group of unprepared freshmen.

I'm crazy forgetful. I'm pretty sure my students think I'm a flake but I honestly just don't have enough hours in the day. I'm getting grades in the book for the most part but every day a pile of things doesn't get done. And the pile keeps growing. I could probably stay up all night and not get everything done.

So I basically just feel like a failure at everything, like I should be managing better but I just want to curl up and cry most of the time. So that's been fun. Seeing the pump sessions become less and less productive has been a big hit emotionally for me. I hate that I have to give up providing for her in this incredibly special way. I had no idea I would feel so strongly about it, but I guess after nearly a year of doing anything, I would be weird if I didn't feel strongly about it!

So that's what's going on. It also didn't help that I got sick and missed part of a day of work. And the pile grows...

[yummeecookee]

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time fuzzylogic. Do you think you'll try to talk to anyone? Maybe a therapist?

[ldubhawksfan]

I'm so sorry fuzzy. I second the question of whether you have talked to a therapist or your dr. I think it's a big first step to realize how you aren't taking care of yourself and there may be a problem. ((Hugs))

[rachaeleigh]

(((Hugs))) fuzzylogic

[samelly]

First couple days of daycare happened. He went for just three hours each day. He cried a lot and didn't eat anything but did actually have a brief nap. I think it is a tough age for them to start as there is a lot of separation anxiety. Although there is probably not an easy age to start!

I used the time that the kids were in daycare to clean. It is more efficient to clean without kids at home for sure. I'm going to try to make some freezer meals today to make the early weeks back at work easier.

[samelly]

fuzzylogic big hugs. I'm sorry you are feeling this way.

[proceedwithcaution]

Hugs fuzzylogic