jjh1119 her too. She was happy. I'm gonna be 33 soon so if we do a second I'd like to start come January but I don't know if I have it in me
So I've been keeping something in for a few weeks because it's secret, but I don't know you all IRL so here it goes. My friend is 38 and had the 10 week genetic screen. Came up for Down's Syndrome. She was devastated obviously. Her regular OB didn't do an growth ultrasound to confirm pregnancy even though she's over 35. (Jackass). This caused her to be too late for the placental test (dating was off), so she has to wait for an amniocentesis. Either way she will be 18 weeks before she knows for sure. She is having a hard time. It's hard for me to know how to help her. They're hoping the first test was a false positive but deep down she thinks it's accurate. She will be a great mom no matter the outcome but that is a lot to handle for anyone. It's been heavy on my mind.
jjh1119, I know what you mean about AF. Mine has always been super irregular and infrequent, and I'm hoping that it returns on its own in plenty of time for when we want to start trying for #2. I keep hoping it will just be miraculously more regular than pre-pregnancy. Not likely, but still.
tacocat I'm sorry about your friend. I wouldn't know what to do in your situation as well, except to just listen to her, offer her hugs and anything else. Remind her no matter what, she will be an amazing mother and she will love her child no matter what. There really is something special about a child with Down Syndrome. It is very hard, but rewarding to be a mother to any child.
kaimee27 I know it's totally crazy to want two children so close together, but I'm not waiting. I ain't gettin' any younger
jjh1119, I know what you mean. I don't think it's crazy at all! You know what's right for your family. DH and I are hoping to start trying when DD is around 9 months old since my cycle is so crazy and we're not sure how long it will take.
zengal that's the worst part, the not knowing. Plus her husband is being weird about it...I hope he can figure out a way to accept it. I worry about him more than anything
tacocat Hope LO gets better soon. lissydee Whoo hoo on the weight loss.
As for AF, I'm not looking forward to it coming back. OB was of the opinion that since I EP, it might "come back sooner". Since we have unexplained IF, I'm uncertain about the route for BC. It is possible that we get preg on our own, but honestly we haven't DTD and I'm not feeling it.
It could be PP body image issues, fatigue, smelling like pancake syrup, hair falling out, and constantly aware of my nips all contributing to an unsexy feeling 24/7.
tacocat I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Some of the new testing needs to be done at such an early time that not knowing when the window closed is painful.
tacocat I am so sorry to hear about your friend, what a tough situation. I can't believe the doctor didn't do other test early on with her age. Just remember to reassure her that no matter what she will do great as a mom. I'm sure she could use a little extra support and reassurance right now.
gldnbearz I'm on the pop (progestin only pill) and I can barely remember to take it even with an alarm...
Years back, I had to switch from BCP to the patch so I wouldn't forget to take it. Self inserted devices such as the BC ring or diaphragm were not for me.
Post by spiraltheory on Feb 13, 2015 11:31:39 GMT -5
I've had AF twice, once at 6.5 weeks PP and again at 10.5. It was really heavy both times. One more reason I'm mad that BF didn't work out. As for another baby, I'm so torn! I turned 39 in Dec, so I know it's really risky. Reading the post about genetic testing made my heart race.
I've had AF twice, once at 6.5 weeks PP and again at 10.5. It was really heavy both times. One more reason I'm mad that BF didn't work out. As for another baby, I'm so torn! I turned 39 in Dec, so I know it's really risky. Reading the post about genetic testing made my heart race.
@spinaltheory my sister had a baby at 44 and all was completely fine. It's really just the luck of the draw. (For lack of better terms)
Thanks everyone for the input. I think what is bothering her and probably me is the glaring realization that we are in control of nothing. A little hope and faith go a long way to accepting that.
gldnbearz I'm on the pop (progestin only pill) and I can barely remember to take it even with an alarm...
I got the pill and after day 3 just forgot to take it so looks like I'm just going to pray that EBF keeps us safe? (Terrible plan I know) However, we really aren't doing it much these days anyway. As many of you said it is hard to feel sexy right now.
Post by ashleymm197 on Feb 13, 2015 12:25:24 GMT -5
tacocat I hope your LO feels better soon! I'm sorry to hear about your friend, I can't imagine what she is going through. I think jjh1119 everyone else said it perfectly. I hope her husband finds a way to make peace with it as well from what you said.
tacocat DD was a false positive for Downs. It's very possible. Thinking of your friend.
I also support day drinking.
a woman after my own heart haha.
I'm going to get my hair cut on Tuesday at this new salon. my friend went there yesterday for the first time, and would tell me if it's worth it (her cousin already goes there and we were looking for a new place to get our hair done).
Her hair turned out amazing and she said they offer wine while you get your hair cut (and this isn't an overly expensive place, just really nice and I'd say about average in hosts for a hair salon).
gldnbearz I'm on the pop (progestin only pill) and I can barely remember to take it even with an alarm...
I'd be very careful then! progestin only pills NEED to be taken at the same time, every day, for them to be effective. Just as an FYI in case you find yourself ku on the pill!
gldnbearz I'm on the pop (progestin only pill) and I can barely remember to take it even with an alarm...
I'd be very careful then! progestin only pills NEED to be taken at the same time, every day, for them to be effective. Just as an FYI in case you find yourself ku on the pill!
My OB said "if you don't take this at the aame time every day, you will get pregnant. Don't cry to me because I told you." Hahaha
My dh has turned into a whiny effing baby. One hard day with LO and he's suddenly overworked. He can fuck right off. I'm glad he has to work this weekend.
Eta he NEVER does or has done MOTN duty. I don't tolerate lazy!!!
jjh1119 her too. She was happy. I'm gonna be 33 soon so if we do a second I'd like to start come January but I don't know if I have it in me
So I've been keeping something in for a few weeks because it's secret, but I don't know you all IRL so here it goes. My friend is 38 and had the 10 week genetic screen. Came up for Down's Syndrome. She was devastated obviously. Her regular OB didn't do an growth ultrasound to confirm pregnancy even though she's over 35. (Jackass). This caused her to be too late for the placental test (dating was off), so she has to wait for an amniocentesis. Either way she will be 18 weeks before she knows for sure. She is having a hard time. It's hard for me to know how to help her. They're hoping the first test was a false positive but deep down she thinks it's accurate. She will be a great mom no matter the outcome but that is a lot to handle for anyone. It's been heavy on my mind.
the genetic screen is accurate though. Genes don't lie.
I am sorry that she is struggling with the news. I wish her peace throughout the rest of her pregnancy and that she can still find joy in it.
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