A Post-Partum Sex Thread

[vivela]

To liven up the board... 
Tips? Complaints? Favorite lubricants? 

[vivela]

Inspired by the planets aligning earlier this week and actually ddt. I have been skittish, assuming it would really hurt like it did when we were about 12 weeks out. But DS is over five months now and while I was sore, it wasn't overly painful at all.

[txmommy14]

It's been fine but not great. Much less frequent than usual but it's happening at least.

[pbandj714]

I still have like zero desire, but at least it's not painful anymore. We're up to once/week now. DH has a hard time understanding that although I've lost all the weight and LOOK the same as before, I still am not 100% as far as sex goes. So he gets all sensitive that I'm not attracted to him, blah, blah. Ugh. TMI, but I'm still sooo dry. So lube is my BFF. My favorite right now is KY warming. Really looking forward to getting my IUD because the pull out method is lame.

[packerfan4life]

Hahaha. Between neither kid sleeping through the night, zero desire, and procrastination on deciding about birth control abstinence is working well here.

[athn64]

DH has the Cubs to thank for his current windfall. Lol.

[greysonsmom]

Not interested, no thank you

[vivela]

Nov 13, 2016 7:48:32 GMT -5 txmommy14 said:

It's been fine but not great. Much less frequent than usual but it's happening at least.

Considering that we never find the time, I have no idea how people with more than one kid manage it!

[GOmamab15]

Not happening. Not interested and no time.

[Kevinmac]

With work trips for DH, me being busy with cake/cookie orders at night and being tired in general it's not happening much here.

[pbandj714]

I'm going to cite this thread next time DH starts bitching.

[bighair12]

Well nonexistent here. I feel terrible about it. But we talked about it and we are both so damn tired. I know we need to but it will come. Brteeen dryness from breastfeeding and exhaustion it just sounds like a bad idea.

[origamimommy]

I published a blog on post partum sex hahahaha. Right now, I hate it. I have to have wine to even be ok with doing it. So it's like a Saturday thing right now. With my first, I was totally fine having sex, but with this one, I want nothing to do with anything near my vagina. Go away please.

[nymama917]

Nov 13, 2016 22:47:31 GMT -5 packerfan4life said:

Hahaha. Between neither kid sleeping through the night, zero desire, and procrastination on deciding about birth control abstinence is working well here.

Ditto for me!  My toddler is actually sleeping okay now, but the baby is unpredictable and in the same room as toddler so there is a fear one will wake the other.  Not to mention it has to happen in the living room because we all share a bedroom.....not so worth it with my desire at a 0 anyway.  MH has been totally understanding and not complaining but we're almost at the 5 month mark so I'm feeling totally guilty.

[carolinaheart]

Well, today we are 5 months PP and hopefully I will be cleared tomorrow. I feel so bad for DH and my drive has returned a tiny bit so fingers crossed!

[amiet79]

We've had sex like 6 times since DS2 was born. I'm usually too exhausted and I'm just not in the mood. Plus, it's super dry down there. I didn't have that problem after having the other two. I feel really unattractive and taking care of 3 kids all day really doesn't put me in a good mood by evening.

[sandandsea]

We have been busy so it's only happened once. DH is working 80 hour weeks still and I'm working ft too. It was good, and better than after ds1. But with BF I get very touched out and don't want anyone to touch me anymore! And we are exhausted all the time. So our confession is we would rather sleep. We are old.

[manybellsdown]

+1 to we would rather sleep

[Outofhiding]

Sex? What's that?

We've done it a few times but we are just so exhausted all the time, sleep wins nine times out of ten. I am also not on birth control and we don't want to have any more kids so that makes things interesting.

[titania]

This thread makes me feel better that I'm not alone. DH has been so great and I really do want to want to, but it's just not super comfortable and I would much rather sleep.

[frecklesnbrains]

pbandj714, my DH plays the "you must not be attracted to me" pity card all the time and it drives me CRAZY. I can't seem to reassure him enough. Really, it's just that my libido is non-existent. Don't take it personally. I just spend the whole time thinking about the baby and how much I want to be over so I can go to sleep and that's just not sexy.

[pbandj714]

Nov 15, 2016 15:22:33 GMT -5 frecklesnbrains said:

pbandj714, my DH plays the "you must not be attracted to me" pity card all the time and it drives me CRAZY. I can't seem to reassure him enough. Really, it's just that my libido is non-existent. Don't take it personally. I just spend the whole time thinking about the baby and how much I want to be over so I can go to sleep and that's just not sexy.

Yep, this exactly.

[carolinaheart]

Nov 14, 2016 15:03:39 GMT -5 carolinaheart said:

Well, today we are 5 months PP and hopefully I will be cleared tomorrow. I feel so bad for DH and my drive has returned a tiny bit so fingers crossed!

I am still not cleared. My feelings aren't *that* hurt but still. "/

[titania]

Nov 15, 2016 15:33:37 GMT -5 carolinaheart said:

Nov 14, 2016 15:03:39 GMT -5 carolinaheart said:

Well, today we are 5 months PP and hopefully I will be cleared tomorrow. I feel so bad for DH and my drive has returned a tiny bit so fingers crossed!

I am still not cleared. My feelings aren't *that* hurt but still. "/

I'm sorry

[manybellsdown]

Nov 15, 2016 15:33:37 GMT -5 carolinaheart said:

Nov 14, 2016 15:03:39 GMT -5 carolinaheart said:

Well, today we are 5 months PP and hopefully I will be cleared tomorrow. I feel so bad for DH and my drive has returned a tiny bit so fingers crossed!

I am still not cleared. My feelings aren't *that* hurt but still. "/

Ugh, I'm sorry

[vlinder]

This makes me feel better. We've done it exactly once PP. My drive is super low. I think it'll be a little easier once she's no longer sleeping in our room, and once I go back to work and am not as touched out by the end of the day.

[2dogs2kids]

Glad to hear I'm not the only one. It's happened like 2/3 times since I was cleared. I just have no desire and apparently DH received the memo because he does not even try any more.

It's sad but who has time energy or desire? The few times we have DTD it's been lame since we are room sharing and I spend half the time watching/listening/stopping to make sure we have no disturbed DS. It's a real turn on having a baby bedside said no one. EVER!