Sleep Thread

[Kevinmac]

Nov 18, 2016 17:19:38 GMT -5 carolinaheart said:

Kevinmac Any amount of time in the crib will make me happy! I just want her to get used to it!

titania I was talking to my BFF about it today and I feel like if she thinks crying will get her picked up, she truly needs to be picked up! This world is big and new and sometimes scary to our babies. Crying is her only way of communicating to me that she's sad/lonely/scared and that's okay. If I am sad/lonely/scared, I ask my husband to hold and snuggle me, and he has never accused me of manipulating him.

Exactly-small victories! That's how I was when I needed C to stop sleeping in my arms. If he made it an hour in the rock n play I was happy!

[bighair12]

titania I need to google this dockatot. She is in bed with us now. We are all sleeping better now. It's worth it to not hate my husband.

[titania]

Nov 19, 2016 15:20:58 GMT -5 bighair12 said:

titania I need to google this dockatot. She is in bed with us now. We are all sleeping better now. It's worth it to not hate my husband.

It has been a sleep lifeline for us. It is definitely on the expensive side, but after like 2+ months of terrible sleep I went for it and I don't regret it. I was bringing her into bed but then I was so paranoid I still wasn't sleeping well. We have a king sized bed and it fits really well in between us.

[GOmamab15]

I have friends who swear by the doc a tot.
I don't talk about sleep, I just take what I can get. We have a mini crib in our room now. It's pretty, I like it.

Did you see this?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=0YOTHZjj6vA

[titania]

Nov 20, 2016 1:49:53 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

I have friends who swear by the doc a tot.
I don't talk about sleep, I just take what I can get. We have a mini crib in our room now. It's pretty, I like it.

Did you see this?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=0YOTHZjj6vA

I can totally see that happening to me.  I have no idea how I'm going to put her down in her crib once we have move the mattress down.  

[bgkc4]

Nov 20, 2016 1:49:53 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

I have friends who swear by the doc a tot.
I don't talk about sleep, I just take what I can get. We have a mini crib in our room now. It's pretty, I like it.

Did you see this?

m.youtube.com/watch?v=0YOTHZjj6vA

I am legit crying right now. This video is hilarious. I can't stop laughing. OMG. Why?!?!?!

[origamimommy]

carolinaheart, holy shit on a shingle! Mom shaming to the max. No bueno. You are doing a great job. If I have learned anything from my kids, it's that you need to do what is right FOR YOU. You are not hurting or abusing your child. And I will say, most kids fall into a normal sleep pattern by about 9-10 months. However, learning to stand, getting teeth, life changes, etc. will always make them sleep shittier than normal. It's okay. They are little and if you feel like she needs you, then you do you. If you want to CIO, then you do you. Fuck everyone giving you mom shame. Your baby is not manipulating you.

Even sleep training is called training because they need to learn how to do it. I am so angry for you right now! That is so not cool. You're an awesome mom! Pick up that fucking baby. One day she'll be 12 and want nothing to do with you, so screw that manipulation nonsense.

[origamimommy]

Also, my terrible 5-6x per night waker slept from 11-4. OMG!!! 5 whole hours! That has NEVER happened before. I feel like I am walking on the freaking clouds right now. Stay tuned for my extra awful night tonight for talking about sleep club.

[pbandj714]

Wooo! origamimommy, relish it!! That's awesome.

[GOmamab15]

We just didn't sleep last night. At all. At 5:50 I woke up DH and asked if he could cuddle with the baby so I could get 30 minutes before my alarm. He proceeded to make him scream and cry. Then GDH went back to bed-instantly snoring. Like as his head hits the pillow.

[ArgyleEnigma]

Okay. I want my baby to know that crying= someone will come. I don't know if that makes me crunchy or what but I didn't know it was a thing for people to not want that. My little brother was adopted at 5 months and was, I guess, reverse sleep trained. My parents actively tried to teach him to cry.

I do let him fuss a bit, but if he sounds unhappy I go in.

[carolinaheart]

Can I just say I'm so glad I have this board/group full of like-minded ladies? Literally everyone around me preaches the CIO, manipulation, blah blah blah. So it's good to come here and know that there's no reason to doubt myself.

[packerfan4life]

Nov 22, 2016 15:28:01 GMT -5 ArgyleEnigma said:

Okay. I want my baby to know that crying= someone will come. I don't know if that makes me crunchy or what but I didn't know it was a thing for people to not want that. My little brother was adopted at 5 months and was, I guess, reverse sleep trained. My parents actively tried to teach him to cry.

I do let him fuss a bit, but if he sounds unhappy I go in.

Yup. We adopted DD1 from birth so it wasn't quite the same but I want my kids to know that crying = mom/dad. Even at 2 while I want DD1 to be able to self soothe and know tantruming doesn't get her anything, if she's legitimately crying I still want her to know that we are always there for her

[bgkc4]

Nov 19, 2016 15:20:58 GMT -5 bighair12 said:

titania I need to google this dockatot. She is in bed with us now. We are all sleeping better now. It's worth it to not hate my husband.

PSA: The Dockatot and it's covers are currently on sale for 15% off (through 11/28). It's still pricey, but if you're considering it, you might want to take advantage of the sale. Promo Code: 15SALE 

[GOmamab15]

He's only sleeping 20-30minute increments tonight. This is going to be a long night!
What we get for having crappy naps today.

[bgkc4]

Nov 27, 2016 0:29:13 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

He's only sleeping 20-30minute increments tonight. This is going to be a long night!
What we get for having crappy naps today.

That sucks. I hope today you get at least an hour long nap.

[GOmamab15]

Nov 27, 2016 12:12:51 GMT -5 bgkc4 said:

Nov 27, 2016 0:29:13 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

He's only sleeping 20-30minute increments tonight. This is going to be a long night!
What we get for having crappy naps today.

That sucks. I hope today you get at least an hour long nap.

I made DH take him at 6:30 so I could sleep till 7:30. It was glorious. Even though DH was not happy about it. But DH has slept 10-12 hours nearly every day this week so....I don't fucking care!

[bgkc4]

Nov 27, 2016 12:16:47 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

Nov 27, 2016 12:12:51 GMT -5 bgkc4 said:

That sucks. I hope today you get at least an hour long nap.

I made DH take him at 6:30 so I could sleep till 7:30. It was glorious. Even though DH was not happy about it. But DH has slept 10-12 hours nearly every day this week so....I don't fucking care!

Yes! Sorry not sorry DH! You deserve a nap, even if it's just an your.

[ArgyleEnigma]

Nov 27, 2016 12:16:47 GMT -5 GOmamab15 said:

Nov 27, 2016 12:12:51 GMT -5 bgkc4 said:

That sucks. I hope today you get at least an hour long nap.

I made DH take him at 6:30 so I could sleep till 7:30. It was glorious. Even though DH was not happy about it. But DH has slept 10-12 hours nearly every day this week so....I don't fucking care!

Maybe lovingly tell dh he deserves a smack upside the head? My DH and split the nights, every night. I'm 7:30pm-1:30am, he goes 1:30am-7:30am, in practice usually longer. Your H has it effing good and anything less than groveling gratitude should get him moved to the garage.

[manybellsdown]

I must say I've missed you