This is a poll. If on tapatalk, switch to webview to see it. I'm interested in what's normal at this point. I feel like a sleep failure. Or my lo is broken. We have sleep trained and are still not sleeping though the night. On a good night, we get one wake up. On a typical night, it's more like 3 times because we always seem to have sickness or teething. I'm interested in whether there are Los sttn even with sickness, etc... And what folks did to get to this point.
Post by SpinsOffResonance on Feb 13, 2015 12:06:02 GMT -5
The last 3 nights have been particularly bad. On a normal night DD nurses 2-3times. That's actually a huge improvement for us from where we were a month ago before sleep training.
DD1 nursed 3 times a night until 8 months old. Between 8-9months she dropped all those feedings on her own. At 10months she went back to 1-2 MOTN feedings. By 12months she dropped them again and was sleeping 12 hours. We never sleep trained or attempted to wean MOTN feedings.
Post by aimeefarrahfowler on Feb 13, 2015 12:09:11 GMT -5
I'd say he STTN about 75% of the time. If he does wake up it either at 11-12ish or 6:00, and if he does wake up he'll almost always go right back to sleep after his bottle.
We sleep trained a little bit but he did most of it on his own.
I can't vote via web view but we were sttn, so to speak, with 1-3 wake ups. We used a paci from day one.. So the initial struggle starting at 3-4 months was a 12-2am bottle and another at 5-6am (these are ranges) and then maybe an additional 1-2 wake ups for the paci.
That got ridiculous.
I stopped putting DS down after the 5-6am wake up and that seemed to normalize naps. Morning afternoon and early evening.
Then the motn feed we phased out with a paci because with the extra wake time during the day he could eat more (this was around 5-6 mos).
After that.. 1-3 paci wake ups per night. Once his teeth started to come in I quit the paci.
This has been disruptive and has involved some CIO but now he can self soothe. He does still wake at night sometimes but we don't go in before 6am. There is no reason to and he always goes back to sleep.
Current day:
630am rise 830-10am nap 12-1pm nap 3-345pm 630pm bedtime
This all fluctuates.. If he wakes later, he usually goes to bed later but I try to do a 630-730 bedtime since he only sleeps 11-12 at night at this age.
I use heathy sleep habits happy child as my guide..
about 3 weeks ago DS suddenly started doing 11.5 hours from 6pm-5.30am, ate and went back down to 7am. He did that for 5 days in a row and has now gone back to 1 wake up around 2am. Although he did do 11 hours Wednesday night.
Edit to say we did do some sleep training back in late November.
Post by Susan0utLoud on Feb 13, 2015 12:25:49 GMT -5
We have been lucky. DS sleeps 11-12 hours with nothing from us. Lately we've had a few wake ups due to teething, but overall, he sleeps from 8:30pm to 7am.
I voted for after sleep training she sleeps 11-12 hours and the randomly sleeps 11-12 but mostly wakes 1-2. Until we sleep trained she was up 3-4x a night, basically every sleep cycle. So that was a huge step. We are not consistently STTN and every 2-3 days she has a goofy night where she's up at least 1x if not more. Usually it's around 1-3am and she downs a 4oz bottle. I know at this point she shouldn't need that bottle MOTN, but even with the bottle she is only taking in 20 oz so I don't hesitate to feed it to her.
DS is usually in bed at from 8pm-11:30 up for a feed 12:00-2:00 rock back to sleep 2:30-4:30 up for a feed 4:30-6:30 up for the day
I'm still just going with his cues and needs. This has been his schedule for the past few months. We had a rotten night the other night and he was up every 45 mins! Between him and the dog I might lose my mind. Edit: he's 41 weeks today.
"Normal" for us is one wakeup to eat, but every time she's going through something, learning new things, teething, cold, we have 2 - 3 rough nights. A couple nights ago she was up 3 times but never ate, and her one feeding is usually sometime after 4 now, and quick, so I'm hopeful she'll be ready to drop it soon.
Our ped has said many times that by now babies should so 12 hours straight so I thought she was going to give me a hard time about it; she just said, still eating once a night huh? She likes her mama.
I can't vote even in web view but prior to the past couple weeks we were consistently getting 11-12 hours with 1-2 quick wake ups per night to feed. Then she got a cold & ear infections and everything has turned to shit. The doctor said her ears & lungs are clear but last night was our worst night in a long time so I don't know what the hell is going on. I'm back to dreading bedtime again though.
DS usually sleeps 11-12 hours but about once a week he won't. Usually it's because he's hungry or he pooped. We did a little sleep training but DS did it mostly on his own.
We've been doing the no-cry sleep solution style sleep training. DD just escalates into hysterical crying when left on her own, and doesn't wind down. So a more gradual supported approach worked better for our family.
DD tends to have shitty sleep the first several hours of the night, and is often up multiple times. We've now gotten into a good groove where she will sleep six hours straight later in the night (except when actively teething). Napping has been good for quite a while, thankfully, or I'd be a wreck/get nothing done ever.
A typical night might look something like this:
7pm - bath/get ready for bed/wind down with lullaby on/read 7.30pm - bedtime bottle and boob 8 pm - asleep in crib by or before 8 8-9.30pm - 1-2 wakeups, back to sleep with less than a minute of rubbing her back 11pm - bottle and boob (sometimes goes back to sleep beautifully, sometimes up & down for a couple hours) 2am - bottle and boob 8am - up for the day 10am-12pm - nap 2.30-4.30pm nap
I'm still a SAHM for another month and a half, so I've been okay with the 11 and 2 feedings...if she goes right back to sleep. My issue is when she won't stay asleep after that. Given that I'll be back to work in April, I would love to try to get down to just one MOTN feeding. I think once her current tooth pops through, I'll start working on that.
95% of the time, DD STTN and we didn't have to sleep train. Bedtime around 8:30, I wake her up at 7:15 during the week, wakes up on her own usually around 7:30-8:00 on weekends. We had a few bad nights 2 weeks ago but once we introduced a lovey, she's back to sttn.
She's a terrible napper at daycare. There are days where she only had a 1/2 hour nap. She's too nosy to nap. Took til she was about 6 months old for us to get any decent nap out of her on weekends.
I voted twice because 1. DD has never even came close to sleeping 11-12 hours straight. And 2. She wakes 2-3 times a night to nurse or be cuddled.
Feels like it will never end. Sometimes I get enough courage to let her cry but then after 10-15 min I break :-(. Her bad sleeping habits are my fault since I always go in and either feed her or rock her but right now it's just faster than dealing with it. I know I need to put my big girl panties on and figure it out though.
We have been lucky. DS sleeps 11-12 hours with nothing from us. Lately we've had a few wake ups due to teething, but overall, he sleeps from 8:30pm to 7am.
Ps: I couldn't vote, even in web view.
Same with our DD. She's has been a great sleeper from the beginning unless she's sick, teething or having a growth spurt. She will go to bed between 7-8pm and wakes up around 8am. Some days she wakes up around 7am, but will usually play quietly till closer to 8am.
We used to STTN, but at 6 months she decided she didn't want to. Then we were at 1 wakup, then2 then 3. We're back to 1 now. Getting 9-10 hours. Which is better than it was.
DD STTN unless sick or teething but some weeks she will get up once every few days to eat. I think this is due to a growth spurt so I am not too concerned about just feeding her. She goes right back down after the bottle too.
ETA: recently she hasn't finished her whole bottle before bed I always think I will be up with her but I haven't been. This has been 3 days this week that she hasn't finished her bottle and hasn't gotten up! She is so hard to figure out sometimes!
DD is a great sleeper unless shebisnteething or sick. She has one rough (wakes up once or twice) a week but for the most part STTN.
I'm sure it's not because your child is broken, every kid is so different and has different needs. If he is waking up a lot and sleep training isn't working then maybe it's because he really isn't ready to STTN.
I've gotten lucky this far with Chloe but she is my first and I'm sure if we have another, it's going to be tougher.
I put that my LO has never slept 11-12 hours at a time. This is because he sleeps 9-10 hours a night. Usually he sleeps through the night, though. I just cannot get him to sleep past 5:45am for the life of me (unless he's sick)! He's just an early bird, I think.
I'm also interested in seeing if anyone has any way to make my schedule/sleep habits better. He goes down at 6:30pm, wants to get up by 5:30 (after a few wake ups). Takes two 1-1.5 hour naps at daycare (usually at 10 And 2). Most days he gets up from his last nap between 3-4. We used to have his bedtime later, I'd love for him to sleep 7:30-7:30 but have never been able to move it later without causing more wake ups. We use light white noise, a humidifier, very dark room, pacifier and blanket. He goes to sleep from awake on his own easily but when he wakes up he wants to nurse or be patted. We have done Ferber intervals but once he's sleeping well, he always get sick. Intervals are turn out the window and once he feels better sleep gets better. But he's daycare kid and is sick 95% of the time. One cold leads right into another one. Any suggestions would be helpful. It seems like some of you with sleepers have a later bedtime. Im trying to see if there are patterns.
becole, DD has always going to bed on the later side, her bedtime use to be 9:00 but got moved to 8:30 based on her getting tired more often around then. She's also a daycare kid and it seems like 2 weeks after she's got over a cold, she has another one. I got much better sleep out of her once I mimicked daycare (she use to nap really well there), the sleeping area there isn't dark and it's in same room as play area. So we dimmed the lights and used a white noise machine. During her nighttime separation anxiety phase, we introduced a lovey and that has been working great.
Post by jennybeans on Feb 13, 2015 15:41:09 GMT -5
Bedtime is 7pm for us. He got much better at going to bed with sleep training and he dropped MOTN feeds on his own. I know when he is sick because he will suddenly start waking again randomly. We have been getting random 5:30 wake ups recently and I'm hoping he will eventually drop that. At the latest we are up for the day at 6:30.
ETA- we introduced a lovey a couple weeks ago and I love it! I don't know if it really helped with going to sleep but he is happier in the morning when he wakes up and when he's not sick he won't start screaming when I leave him in his crib awake. I've seen him on the camera a couple times wake slightly, hug his lovey, and go back to sleep so I call that a success!
Post by pinkstarbursts on Feb 13, 2015 16:33:01 GMT -5
I also feel like a sleep failure. Our LO wakes up constantly at night. Sometimes he needs comforting, and sometimes he will go back down. He nurses at least once. We didn't sleep train though, and don't intend to.
We've got a great sleeper. She's been STTN since 8 weeks, even when sick or teething (which has been a lot lately). Most mornings I have to wake her up to go to daycare. I sure hope the next kid is like this, lol.
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